Surely all 5yo's are like this? (silly GP comment - I hope!)(29 Posts)
My DS is very active, quite hyped up a lot of the time, running around and generally acting crazy. We saw our GP this morning (about something completely unrelated) and DS was pulling faces at his sister, mucking about with the curtain etc. The GP said "and he's 5?" I said yes and the GP seemed very surprised and asked "why is he acting like a 2yo?!" I was a bit taken aback and he continued "usually by the time they go to school they calm down a bit - but he hasn't". I asked if he thought I should be concerned and he didn't really answer me.
Surely loads of 5yo boys are like this, aren't they?! I thought it was perfectly normal and it unnerved me somewhat to hear a comment like that. He's not crazy all the time, he does really well at school and is able to sit down and concentrate when his teacher asks.
Nowt to do with age, some kids are louder and more physically active than others and will possibly be all their life! We are all different after all.
I wouldn't worry op.
sounds totally normal.
I took my 8 month ds to the drop in centre with my 7 yr old nephew and 8 yr old step son and they behaved like that. They had been sat waiting for over an hr, were bored and hungry and had had enough.
Some kids are just very spirited and don't do sitting still. Yes they take a bit if extra attention to discipline but it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them development wise.
He wasn't running around pulling the curtains - he was sitting on a seat the entire time and as he was sitting next to the curtain he just pulled it around him.
Anyway, thanks to those of you who understood what I was asking, your asnwers were very reassuring! It had crossed my mind to ask his teacher if he's ever like it at school - that's a very good point, lego. She's always said he's well-behaved, which I took to mean that he wasn't like it but I could specifically ask her.
Rude GP in my opinion.
My DC (4 and 7) have moments of pure unbridled energy and silliness. They're children.
If your DS's class teacher is happy, I'd go with her vastly wider range of experience and knowledge.
Maybe the GP was hinting that he was getting frustrated with your sons behaviour too which is why he brought it up. Tbh I'd be mortified if my DS wouldn't sit down quetly for 5 minutes while I spoke to the GP and instead was hyper, ran around, and pulling curtains, especially if I had to tell him repeatedly and he ignored me.
But everyone's different and your parenting style is obviously very relaxed. I'm sure the school would bring it up to you if there were any major behavioural issues.
No skin off my nose. I had a look as it assumed you were concerned/ the doc was concerned about ADHD, and I've been there and got the t shirt. But then after heading off down the ADHD route, you drip fed shyness after apparently not having discussed his behaviour with the doc.
Mn is for wasting time, isn't it? I was just trying to clarify whether or not you were concerned that your child had ADHD. Apparently you aren't concerned. That's all good. Bit it seemed like you were, in the op. Obviously that was a complete misreading on my part, for which I will be orf and castigate myself thoroughly.
<or I might just put the kettle on and wander back to sn>
A 5 year old should be able to sit still for 5 minutes during a GP consultation, so I imagine the GP was sounding you out to see if he is also like that at school or if it's just with you. Or it could have been a way of drawing your attention to his behaviour in the hopes you'd get him to stop it. Or maybe the GP was just a bit grumpy this morning.
I actually dont think that's very normal for 5 years, running round pulling the curtains etc so I kind of get why the gp would be suprised. whether its a medical thing or disapline issue etc I wouldn't have a clue, but don't think most dc do this?? unless it was a one off, but then you would know its a one off and not that normal for your dc.
I am a GP. IME you can tell exactly nothing about a child's normal behaviour in the 10 minutes in the consulting room, particularly when they are not the patient/have waited any length of time/are tired and/or ill/it's Tuesday/Full Moon or any other number of variables.
Your DS sounds to me quite normal - whatever that is. Re more like a 2 year old - my 2 year old still shows strong psychopathic traits - I can only hope he outgrows them before he starts school.
I have 4 insane boys - the eldest is 9, academically v bright and usually lovely, but still has his overactive, mad 5 minutes. Several times a day.
All of mine are not what you would call 'biddable' - I blame their father's genes btw because my parenting is of course faultless ...
Tbh it's hard to tell from your posts- does he have ADHD? Is he just a very lively boy? Your parenting is not quite strict enough?
I would expect a 5yo to be able to sit down calmly for few minutes at the doctors. I know my DS could at that age and he was rather a challenging/hyperactive child. 3yo DD can as well, no problem.
Sorry that would be *Triple P*
I would recommend that you visit your nearest children's centre and ask about a tripple P parenting course.
It is supposed to be a really good course
Sorry for the hijack Gold, oh and for what its worth my GP lacks understanding and always wears his judgy pants too
Then it's fine. And you were content. So the thread was for....?
I was merely asking if other people also feel that this was normal behaviour and felt that the GP's reaction was strange. The conversation about shyness didn't explain it at all - he mentioned this to me but he went on to say that he still thought that DS was unusual. Sorry if you felt my thread was a waste of your time
My 5yr old generally is very well behaved but randomly 'gets one on him' and behaves like a total nutcase. Whilst I'm strict about appropriate behavior in public places, he is always decidedly less responsive when he's in that kind of mood - normal I would
Then it's fine. And you were content. So the thread was for....? Checking up that the doc was right about ds's behaviour and development?
Apols, you had missed the bit about the gp discussing typical 5yo behaviour with you - the op said he didn't really answer you. Obviously the subsequent discussion about being shy etc explained it adequately.
Yes, ds is perfectly normal.
No one is having a go. There are plenty of folk who do let their kids rampage around the clinic. And if the kid hasn't been told it's inappropriate, how are they supposed to know?
Yes, 5yos can be crazy.
Yes, sometimes they need telling twice.
Of course I told him to stop mucking about but he does take several times and increasingly 'angry mummy' voice before he takes me seriously. The GP did say that children often behave like that when they are shy and this did seem to ring a few bells.
The Op didn't say her DS was hyper or running about like crazy at the doctors. Probably saves that for home.
All he did at the doctors was faff with a curtain and pull some faces at his sibling. How is that out of the ordinary behaviour for a 5 year old? If he was swinging from the curtains like Tarzan, shrieking and ignoring his mother then yes, there's a problem.
I also think if you'd told him to behave and he continued messing, the GP was wondering if he was unable to listen or follow instructions. If you hadn't, then maybe it was more a comment about parenting?
My four year old is the same and I dispair of her behaviour at times but have no idea where to get help from!
She will run round and round the doctors waiting room and I cannot get her to sit down without physically holding on to her at which makes her upset, at which point everybody thinks I'm hurting her!
She has me in tears sometimes with her silly behaviour but all the "experts" say is that she is intelligent and high spirited.....
(But, yes, maybe it is time that you told him? He understands that school requires a certain level of behaviour, why not another professional setting?)
If you had asked him to sit down/ given him a book/ toy/ snack and he ignored you and continued to act like a loon, then the gp may have been slightly concerned that he was unable to listen and follow instructions/ behave appropriately for the context etc, and may have had some developmental questions buzzing in his head.
Had you asked him to stop messing about in the gp's consulting room?
My ds (who does have ADHD) sits still-ish at the docs.
I guess it depends on your own instructions to him though - ie if you felt that his behaviour was entirely appropriate, and you see nothing wrong with it in a clinical consultation, then ds wouldn't either (and you wouldn't have explained to him how we behave in doctor's surgeries etc) so it isn't really a red flag. If you had explained to ds that we sit nicely, and wait our turn, and you have to be quiet and let mummy talk to the doctor about x, y and z, and you mustn't mess about, and he was unable to comply with those instructions for five minutes, then I would say that was more of a concern.
Generally speaking though, if five yos have the situation explained, they can sit still with a book or play on the floor with a car quietly whilst a consultation takes place with a parent or younger siblings. and I assume he could, as he manages it at school.
So I guess he didn't know what the expectations were in that environment. No biggie.
No, not all 5 yr olds are like that. Some are. Yours is.
I agree with FloraInomad. By your own admission your son is "hyper" and running round and acting crazy a lot of the time. Maybe it's time he was told that a GP's surgery isn't the place to be doing it.
And rather than immediately slagging off the Gp's lack of knowledge, I'd venture it's a leedle bit more than those of us with no medical training.....
that sounds fine. my ds is very nearly 5 and is often totally bananas. It's why we love him. Other times he sits so beautifully that a GP once asked me if I am a teacher because he was so well behaved. It's hit and miss. I think it's sweet that he wanted to make his sister laugh. Your GP sounds like a grumpy old bastard.
Sounds very normal to me & how rude of the gp. Ignore!
My friend, who is a GP, said that before she had kids she was completely clueless about stuff like this. I wouldn't assume you gp is an expert on child development.
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