No pointing! Worried mum seeking advice

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Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 21:50:29

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upstart68 Fri 07-Dec-12 21:57:34

Don't worry about it. Mine wouldn't point or wave - I think she was just being awkward. She's doing very well now (6 years later).

upstart68 Fri 07-Dec-12 22:00:24

I think talking is a good sign and sounds like he's doing well with that.

LynetteScavo Fri 07-Dec-12 22:14:13

DS1 pointed lots and and had a very decent vocab and good eye contact.

I had no idea that by the time he reached school age I should have concerns. grin

Your DS sounds like he is doing very well.

What would he do if he saw some out of reach biscuits and wanted one?

Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 22:16:15

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Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 22:17:52

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EverybodysSnowyEyed Fri 07-Dec-12 22:18:58

My DD pointed from a very young age - we found it hilarious. Mainly because DS never pointed and it was such a novelty! He started to from about the age of 3 but before then he always used his words.

i did used to test him - so put something tempting just out of reach but he would find words to make himself understood

and thinking about it, he is a very awkward character too!!

Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 22:19:56

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Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 22:20:17

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Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 22:20:53

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LynetteScavo Fri 07-Dec-12 22:29:27

Oh, bless him, he sounds adorable!

I don't think you should have any concerns. smile

EverybodysSnowyEyed Fri 07-Dec-12 22:31:38

there were loads of things DS didn't do which would get people sucking their teeth! He has always been awkward though - very much of the 'why are you asking me to count 10, can't you do it yourself' sort!

Welovecouscous Fri 07-Dec-12 22:41:05

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kaz1119 Fri 07-Dec-12 23:54:28

If he is not pointing and not talking a lot (i noticed half of his words are body parts), how is he comnunicating with you (e.g telling you he wants a toy or a drink)?

Does he appear to understand what you say?

I have a child with autism and with hindsight, the not communucating/not pointing by 17/18 months was a big red flag.

If you worry about asd, then it is worth googling for the Mchat.

Welovecouscous Sat 08-Dec-12 07:54:38

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kaz1119 Sat 08-Dec-12 08:06:07

Have you tried to put favorite toys out of reach so he has to communicate somehow to get them? Do youthink he understands? Can he follow simple instructions (e.g. "get you teddy") What about choices ("apple or banana?") - can he make those?

Have you looked at the MChat? You seem
to be worried - i would go with my gut feeling and maybe have s chat with the HV or GP

Welovecouscous Sat 08-Dec-12 08:12:00

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kaz1119 Sat 08-Dec-12 08:15:56

I think by 17 months they would be usually expected to point?

Do the mchat, see it it flags up anything and have a word with the HV. Might be nothing but hopefully it will put your mind
to rest.

DeWe Sat 08-Dec-12 08:17:31

I think its the communicating things non-verbaly with others that is what the pointing is about.*

Does he want to share things with you? So if you've opened his box of eggs, does he press them and look at you to see if you're enjoying it too? Or does he bring things over to show you, not when he wants you to help him?

* disclaimer: I don't know a lot here, so I may be barking up the wrong tree here.

Welovecouscous Sat 08-Dec-12 08:17:52

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Goldmandra Sat 08-Dec-12 08:18:27

When you are around other children of his age do you feel that he is different from them? Your own instincts are usually a very good indicator of whether something is wrong.

I don't remember whether my girls pointed at this age because they were diagnosed much later on. I do know, though, that they didn't look when I pointed and often still don't.

There are lots of things that child do or don't do which could point to Autism and, in isolation, most children do one or two of them. What matters is the bigger picture. If you feel that in general he is developing well, similarly to his peers, you shouldn't worry.

If you have your own little niggles and this comment has added to them you should take a look at M-CHAT.

If you feel at any point that your DS should be assessed you will probably have to push to make it happen. Don't be fobbed off with waiting and seeing. Early intervention is key to good outcomes.

Welovecouscous Sat 08-Dec-12 08:26:57

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