Ds refusing to try desmomelts. Any ideas?

(14 Posts)
IwishIwasmoreorganised Thu 22-Nov-12 22:36:18

DS1 is 7.1 and has never been dry at night. He was clean and dry during the day at 2.4.

He's starting to become bothered by his wet pull-ups most mornings and so we saw the GP a month ago. He prescribed desmopressin tablets. Ds tried but couldn't swallow the tablets so we started dissolving them in a bit of water (only about 5mls). I called the GP surgery to explain this and ask if it was ok to do,that and if not would they consider prescribing desmomelts. I heard nothing back so presumed that it was ok. DS has been dry at night for about 50% of the time.

Return visit to Gp's yesterday as we were instructed didn't go so well. The GP seemed a bit cross about me having been dissolving the tablets. I explained that I had rung to ask for advice but he shrugged this off and has now prescribed desmomelts.

DS1 is refusing to even try them, but can't explain why.

I took one last night (I did read the information carefully) just to check about taste, texture etc so that I could reassure him tonight but he was having none of it.

I'd love for him to try this medication so that he can stay with friends or at Beavers without worrying, but I'm at a loss with how to convince him to try.

Ay advice or suggestions would be gratefully received.

notnowbernard Thu 22-Nov-12 22:38:21

So he'll swallow a tablet but not the dissolvable ?

I would sit him down at a relaxed time & have a chat about his concerns. Was he a he gp appt? The GPs disapproval may have filtered through in a confused way to him

(Ds has taken desmopressin tablets from about the same age)

notnowbernard Thu 22-Nov-12 22:41:58

Dd used melts and she put it under her tongue

IwishIwasmoreorganised Fri 23-Nov-12 08:28:44

No, he couldn't manage to swallow the tablet whole so we were dissolving it in water which he drank down but the GP says that this may have made it less effective. It was that that the GP seemed a bit cross about.

DS was at the Drs appointment and seemed up for taking the melts when the GP described them, but now it's come to taking them he's just point blank refusing.

I'm keeping really calm, and explaining things to him. Trying to be reassuring but we're getting nowhere and I'm getting frustrated. DH has threatened him with missing an event tomorrow that he's really looking forward to unless he tries tonight. Unfortunately DH is away all weekend so it's up to me to carry this through. I so hope he'll give it a go tonight.

DeWe Fri 23-Nov-12 08:51:34

Add squash (strong about 50/50) I did that initially for movocol (and then reduced back strength once taking fine)

IwishIwasmoreorganised Fri 23-Nov-12 21:07:11

I can't DeWe. These desmomelts are supposed to melt away under the tongue.

No luck again tonight even though he was pretty positive about it this morning.

I showed him what happened to one of the melts with just one drop of water to try to convince him that it wasn't like a tablet but even that couldn't convince him.

It looks like he will be missing the event tomorrow that he's been looking forward to sad

I wouldn't force him or stop him doing something unless it entails being out overnight. Be sneaky, ask a friends mum to ask him for a sleepover and shrug, say oh well it's a shame you can't go until you get this wetting thing sorted isn't it and then carry on with whatever you are doing. Wait for him to ask for the melts. Like most things, once men think what they are being asked to do is their idea they do it without question.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Fri 23-Nov-12 21:50:18

I've already decided just to eave the melts. I'll offer every evening and leave it at that. Setting up an offer of an overnight stay isn't a bad plan. I'll have to mull that one over for a while I think!

I feel dreadful about tomorrow's event tbh. I know he'll have a whale of a time if he goes, but we are pretty strict about sticking to sanctions once they've been said. I'm worried that if we go back on this that he and more importantly our very strong willed ds2 won't take us seriously for a very long time!

2kidsintow Sun 25-Nov-12 22:12:02

I'd leave the melts for a while. They are pretty clear about not drinking ANYTHING once you've taken one for the next 8 hours and even put a warning in about accidentally swallowing water if swimming. They worry me slightly, to be fair, as they also say that you shouldn't take them at all if they have broken into more than 2 pieces (and they are tricky to get out of the wrapper, I find too).

My DD takes them when she remembers and although they help, they haven't solved the problem entirely. And she's nearly 12 now and has been taking them for a while.

Instead, she has mats, is involved with stripping her mat and bedding when she has an accident, gets praised for a dry night (but never told off for being wet - only reminded about what she should be doing if she forgot any of it) and we are just waiting for her bladder to mature.

2kidsintow Sun 25-Nov-12 22:12:45

BTW DD's melts say to put under the tongue too.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Sun 25-Nov-12 22:18:40

I'm offering the melts every night but he's saying no.

That's it, nothing else is said.

I have got an appt with the GP on Friday to discuss if there's any other options that we could look at. From what I can see, the other way of tackling nocturnal enuresis is with alarms, but I think we'd need seeing in a specialist clinic to get one of those, unfortunately we're not in a position at the moment just to buy one privately.

It's so frustrating! In one breath he's saying how he wants to be able to stay dry at night, but then he's flatly refusing to even try what might be able to help him to achieve that and he can't explain why!

A friwnds little boy was 7 when he had to have an alarm and now he is dry - just ask for a referral and it really shouldn't take too long. His first sleepover at our house was his treat for being dry!

I wouldn't even talk about it until then - not worth making it a big thing really - will eventually be sorted out and it's really not worth you both getting stressed and anxious.

Don't mention the tablets every night either - he obviously has a problem with them and probably dreads every night when you mention them.

lollipop5834 Mon 30-Sep-13 11:21:28

My daughter is 11 and still wet. Is your 12 (must be 13 now) yr old any better? I keep waiting and hoping but she is getting so old, i get very worried. My son is 8 and also still wets the bed!

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