Calling all parents of 2 1/2 year olds! Is yours like this?

[emkana]

Never does as she's told. I tell her to do something - she says no every time. Eternal shrieks of "but I want to"

I could go on.
Dd1 was never like that, I'm not used to this, also I'm 31 weeks pregnant and it's driving me craaaaaaaazy...

[tortoise]

DD1 is 2.11.Very rarly does as shes told.I get go away and mine dont like you anymore!Screams at me,then sits her self on the stairs.DS1 and DS2 were nothing like her.

[milward]

mine as well - my dd3 will be 3 in May. shouts, hits, spits at dd2 - rips up her things. It's so tough for me sometimes. Last easter holiday was bootcamp for me as I was preg with ds4 & running after dd3 plus looking after dd1 & dd2.

[Socci]

Indeed. My dd (2.3) has so many tantrums at the moment and it is very wearing. However, our life isn't like other peoples and she doesn't have free run of the house so I feel a bit sorry for her. But, she is very headstrong!

[frogs]

Oh yes. Dd2 is 2.4 and has a special arch look that says, "I can hear what you're asking me to do, but I'm going to ignore you". Insanely anoying. She also says 'No', and even 'Nonononononono', come to that. And throws herself on the floor screeching.

And no, my older two were not like it either.

[cece]

mine;

hits

throws self on floor

shouts go away

replies no to most requests....

and no dd was not like this either

[emkana]

Oh thanks waswondering - it's such a wonderful but also weird thought that there are "strangers" out there who are thinking of you...
I'm not too bad, trying not to dwell on things, but getting sooooooooooo tired!

[canadianmum]

I have 3y4m old twin boys (non-identical). One of them has never been behaviourally difficult, the other was a nightmare and the worst was the age of 2.5! We went on holiday when they were exactly 2.5 and it was really difficult, he was defiant about EVERYTHING and every transition was a huge challenge (i.e. leaving the playground or swimming pool, getting into bed, getting into a car etc...)

We are 10 months on now and he can still be difficult sometimes but his behaviour has improved dramatically :).

My advice - be extra positive when your dd does something good, pick your battles carefully but stand very firm on things that matter.

HTH :)

[Blackduck]

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[emkana]

I went to a friend's house yesterday - ended up napping on her sofa after lunch while she entertained me dd's!

[cuppy]

Hi Emkana,

my dd is 2.4 yrs and I have had the most horrendous day with her. She is just hitting EVERYONE. She shouts and screams and kicks me and tries to bite....I look after two young children in the day and she is hurting them too.

She has just gone to bed and I am almost crying because I am so tired of telling her no all the time. I dont want her to be like this, I dont want her to be violent and I'm so worried she's going to turn out that way.

[JiminyCricket]

dd1 2.6
won't stay still to get clothes on
screams when i brush her hair (have to pretty much hold her down) (v gentle)
cries in distraught fashion if we say no or slightly raise our voice
some days the crying/tantrums never seem to end, other days she's really calm, that's waht is so frustrating. Think it must be really hard being a toddler.

[wangle99]

My DS 2.5 is exactly the same, I get 'not want it' to everything sigh. That is when he's actually listening to what I'm asking him to do most of the time he blantantly ignores me!

[hovely]

exactly the same. ds IS 2.3
response to everything is 'no'

tonight:
Me; "What book shall we read, DS? Shall we read 'Night-time?'
DS; "NO! NO! NO!"
Me: "Then what book do you want?"
DS: "I want 'Night-time'"

and throughout the day;
Me: "Would you like a banana?"
DS: "NO! NO! NO!"
me: "What would you like?"
DS: "I WANT A BANANA! WAAAH!"

[hovely]

[lact8]

I'm so glad to find this thread, have been thinking of starting one in this vein all day. DS2 is 2.2 and a complete nightmare!! Has pushed me to the limit all day.

Today he had huge tantrun before breakfast because I wouldn't let him take DVDs in and out of the player, not wanting to acually watch them (withering duh mum look from him),just maul with DVD player.

He shouts for his big brother continually at full volume, then has dicky fit if DS1 tries to play anything with him.

DD (15 wks)has been kicked, pushed really fast in her rocker, big gouge out of the side of her nose, poked in the eye and on and on (just today!)

He hit a friends daughter around the head with her boot.

Escaped from the park.

And I watch him like a hawk as I know what he's like!

I find it so frustrating because we end up not doing things because of his tantrums and I feel sad for him. Everything at the moment is his way or not at all.

Thanks for the thread Emkana, I'm feeling so much better for having a moan about that.

[cece]

DS has just got up again after having a real paddy in his bedroom. He has thrown his duvet, pillow and mattress (cot bed size) on the floor and shouted. This bed is yucky!

He is 2.5 years

[jambuttie]

mine mine mine deffo

dt1 a nightmare right little rogue monster, and now his twin tries to follow suit but it aint happening for him thankfully

[eastendgirl]

My ds is fairly compliant lately, merely because he knows on which side his bread is buttered. For example: whenever we come back from an outing I ask him to put his coat on the hook in the hall. He used to just chuck it on the floor, now he obliges because I carefully word my command "Please put your coat on the hook and then you can listen to a tape (or watch some telly, or have lunch or play with water or anything else he really likes doing)" and he will do as told because I will ignore him and he won't get to listen to a tape or whatever if he does not collaborate. Lots of praise seems to work too,lots of playing and ignoring.I am sure it will all go pear shaped again in a few weeks.