I'm currently a full time dad and have a gorgeous 3 year old girl who's in general pretty well behaved (for a 3 year old). There's various things that I guess I could worry about but generally don't. Tantrums and grumps are regular but under control. There's just one thing that's bothering me.
Every time either her mum or me are away from her she becomes distressed when we come back. She hides her face and cries / moans. Her mum works full time and this happens almost every day when she gets home. The same is true for me when I'm out for the day or if her grandparents look after her for a few hours.
I would put this down as simply a phase that she'll get over but there is a complication in that we are going to be separating soon and we'll both be working full time. I'm really worried that if we don't get this issue sorted before the changes happen, it could escalate and really affect her.
is she unhappy while being with the person looking after her? if no, I wouldn't worry too much
there's probably some level of separation anxiety going on and the crying is her way of punishing you (not a conscious decision, mind you!)
children do this when starting nursery/school, she's perfectly happy all day long, but by seeing you she's reminded that you left her earlier and then she suddenly feels sorry for herself. (weird, huh?)
also she could just be exhausted at the end of the day
Thanks all for the responses. She's not upset when being looked after by just one of us, it is literally from the point when the other one gets back. I did think that it was some kind of punishment for leaving her, which is why I'm so scared of it happening more often. We're doing everything we can to make the transition as smooth as possible, but ultimately the changes will happen and are fundamentally pretty big. None the less, I do feel a bit happier that none of you have expressed any major concerns! Thanks