I had PND with DS1, although the extent of it only became apparent later. But it started right from birth.
I was fine after DS2 was born, I was managing really well with both of them (18m gap) - was on top of housework, enjoying BFing, cooking lots of lovely dinners for me and DH. (Although I was always relieved when DH got home in the evening and I could unload them for a while).
But this past week I've totally crashed. I feel really, I don't know, emotionless. Just numb. Really tired, exhausted in fact, and like I'm trapped. I've been vile to DS1, really short-tempered with him, intolerant, shouting at him - I feel like a terrible mum. I was feeding DS2 today and DS1 was literally sobbing in the doorway because I wouldn't go to him, and I just stared at him - I couldn't even be bothered to talk to him. I felt nothing for him - like when he was a baby. (God, I hate myself for saying that). And now I'm worried that he's going to start developing these memories of me looking after DS2 and leaving him to himself. I don't want to be that mother. It's his birthday next week, and I feel like for most of his 2 years I haven't even loved him properly.
I haven't cooked an evening meal since Friday. DH asks what's for dinner and I tell him I don't know and can't he have a sandwich. I'm on top of the laundry, but the place needs hoovering and there's stuff piling up that needs sorting out. I haven't cleaned the bathroom for over a week.
I feel like it's all unravelling. For the first time I felt like I was a good mum and doing a good job with the house etc, but now it's all a wreck.
DS2 is 5.5 months. I feel like he's too old for it to be PND, and actually it's just a sign that I'm lazy and crap.
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ImpYCelyn · 03/10/2012 20:54
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