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First night without a nappy ... can you help???

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twiglett · 10/12/2003 20:28

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zebra · 10/12/2003 20:46

I hope you have a waterproof cover on the mattress!

I'd leave his door open, in case he wakes up and tries to get to the loo in time.

They say waking and "lifting" them on the loo is bad because then they don't learn to go through the night. Has he ever actually had a dry overnight nappy, before?

If he is successful, I'd give him a chocolate biscuit for breakfast!

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marialuisa · 10/12/2003 20:47

We found ut that DD didn't need a nappy at night by accident about 12 months ago. DH simply forgot to put it on and she went through and was dry despite her huge milk intake.

So, how long does he normally sleep for? If he's jumping around at the mo, could you put him on the loo when he fianlly looks as if he's settling and keep yyour fingers crossed? DD has occasionally woken and told us she needs a wee but usually sleeps through despite consuming vast quantities of milk. She does p**s like a horse when she first wakes up though.

Sorry, not much help. Suppose I'd just risk it.

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twiglett · 10/12/2003 21:50

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Cam · 11/12/2003 12:23

I think I'm a lone voice here but I really don't think most very young children should be expected to go through the night. I lifted both my girls and they were not adversely affected in any way. I just think their bladders are too little when they are very young. Eventually they will get out by themselves but you wouldn't want a 2 or 3 year old wandering around half-asleep at night. Lifting before we went to bed was the answer for us (and have never had a wet bed).

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Twinkie · 11/12/2003 12:28

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twiglett · 11/12/2003 12:39

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pupuce · 11/12/2003 12:49

Sorry for your misery twiglett - your post did make me laugh though

I can't help I am afraid both of mine were dry day and night simultaneously (at similar ages) and never had accidents at night - it wasn't down to me "doing" anything.... they were just dry. I can't even give you a tip!
Very occasionally DS has woken up in the night and gone to the toilet but in almost 2 years that could have been 3 or 4 times?
BTW they both drinks loads of water before they go to bed and DD sometimes doesn't even do a wee until 9AM (she is up at 7:30) - they wee normally during the day. The have a glass of water next to their bed which is sometimes empty in the morning.

I read once that it is actually making it harder on their bladder not to let them drink before they go to bed and therefore they are likelier to have accidents.... can NOT remember where I read this.

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pupuce · 11/12/2003 12:53

Cam - I think it DOES vary from child to child...DD was dry JUST before she was 2 (and she has NEVER had ana ccident day or night - bless her) - DS was 27 months and he has had a few day accidents because he plays and goes too late! Nights have never been a problem.
EVERY child is different. Clearly my daughter has a good bladder and I have no clue as to why she was dry this early and didn't think it was possible to be honest. I have met one mum who had a dry baby day/night at an even younger age.

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Cam · 11/12/2003 12:55

Agree with non-restriction of drinks. Obviously couldn't recommend giving them a pint of fizzy something at bedtime (I don't give fizzy at any time) but normal milk or water etc is fine. I lifted mine at about 11 pm every night.

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Cam · 11/12/2003 12:57

Pupuce, my dd2 was dry in day at 18 months (her decision) and dry at night by 2 (probably earlier but I kept putting the nappies on at night). Agree that there is a whole range of ages for all these developmental milestones.

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judetheobscure · 11/12/2003 13:29

My children were much later being dry at night. (Dd - 5 1/2; ds1 6 1/4; ds2 4). There's no way any of them could have done it before then - I had tried several times with dd and ds1. Restricting drinks didn't work at all - in fact they were better when they had had a drink before bed. Lifting them at 11pm ish helped with ds1 but didn't make a difference with dd and wasn't needed with ds2. I would say it took about 2 weeks each time for them to have a go at being dry and to decide whether the succes rate was good enough to continue. Nobody starts worrying about wet beds or intervening in any way until they're 7 years old. Pampers care mats and similar were no good for mine - they just get crumpled up; much better are the fabric ones you can get from eg. JoJoMamanBebe and probably lots of other places now. They cost about £15 each but are well worth it.

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