8 month old not interested in reaching for toys

(16 Posts)
Ouchdownthere Sun 24-Jun-12 21:15:59

My 8 month old DS is not really interested in reaching for and playing with toys. Is this normal?

He has always had strong legs and is more interested in bashing the floor and any toys with his feet whilst he sticks his fingers and thumb in his mouth. He very rarely reaches for anything and doesn't show more than a passing interest in physical toys. He rolls really easily and would be crawling if he realised that he needs to do something with his hands as well as his legs. He seems very alert and doesn't sit still, always looking around, and described as a real wriggler.

I just wonder if I should be in any way concerned or if there is anything I could try to get him more interested in using his hands rather than his feet.

ccgirr Sun 24-Jun-12 21:52:23

Don't worry is the main thing to do. They all do things at different times but they all get there in the end. He'll like toys soon enough smile

lovingthecoast Sun 24-Jun-12 22:03:55

Actually, ccgirr, they dont all get there in the end. I know your post is trying to help but a normally developing 8mth old should usually be reaching out for toys and things.
Ouchdownthere, I too and worried about my 8mth old for the same reason. My 8.5mth old also has poor eye contact and hardly notices me though which all add to my worries. All these things together point to a developmental problem I'm sure but if the lack of reaching out is your only worry then perhaps it is nothing too concerning or perhaps he has an issue with his vision? My DS has been checked for visual problems do that may be your next step. Good luck.

Ouchdownthere Sun 24-Jun-12 22:50:21

Thank you both for your valuable replies.

It is so hard to know when to worry and when to not. DS had a worrying scan at 20 weeks and whilst all is deemed to be 'normal' with his brain I am a bit hot on checking his milestones.

I don't want to rush to the Dr or HV with every minor thing, as we have had our fair share of visits for one so small already. I know he only has me to rely on for fighting his corner though and would hate to think I have ignored something.

lovingthecoast hope everything is ok with your DS.

bishboschone Mon 25-Jun-12 21:27:04

I would second getting his eyes tested . My ds was prem and was seen by the paed at 6 months actual . She said 6 month old babies should be reaching out for toys ( he wasnt) and if there was no improvement in a few months then he would be referred for an MRI. Anyways., I asked for a feferal to an ophthalmologist who we saw a few weeks ago . He said ds had delayed visual maturation and is longsighted. So everything close up was very blurry for the first few months and although a bit better is still blurry. He now has glasses and his co ordination is so much better . Take him into an opticians and ask if they will look at him or get gp to refer but there was quite a long wait . hope that helps .

laura4jasmine Mon 25-Jun-12 21:42:01

My dd2 was never very interested in reaching out for anything much. She lay on her back for months and months (never rolled, hated tummy time). When she finally learned to sit up at about 10mths she still couldn't be bothered trying to reach toys, she'd rather sit and watch was was going on around her. She didn't walk till 22mths but is now a fun filled 2.10yo who is right on track with everything. I have a ds who has issues, so I won't tell you there can't be something wrong, but I think your LO is still young and I hope things progress. If you're still worried can you talk to your HV? Good luck.

Ouchdownthere Fri 13-Jul-12 11:52:49

Thanks bish and laura for your replies, must remember to check threads I start more . I mentioned to HV and she isn't worried unless he is not sitting at 9 months.

I swing between worry and nah he'll do it in his own time, it can be quite hard seeing his peers racing ahead and him seemingly stuck at the ability of a 4 month old but that's my problem not his.

bishboschone Fri 13-Jul-12 12:10:50

Sounds like a sensible health visitor . They are all doom and gloom round here . Did you say he wasn't sitting? I made , I mean encouraged my ds to sit so I can help you if you want .smile

Ouchdownthere Fri 13-Jul-12 12:30:30

bish would be amazing if you could help.

Still not sitting, am trying to sit him up as much as possible but he just pushes himself back into lying position / cries / pretty much does anything rather than sit.....

Ouchdownthere Sat 28-Jul-12 01:46:34

DS has been referred as is considered to have gross motor, fine motor, and speech delay. Hopefully we can get some help in progressing his development.

Mothers instinct is a powerful thing.

Ouchdownthere Sat 28-Jul-12 01:48:33

Oh and has been referred to audiology and ophthalmology too. Referrals coming out of our ears in this house.

bishboschone Sat 28-Jul-12 09:43:27

Sorry I missed your last message .. I don't think not sitting at ten months is considered delayed . My paed is very relaxed about the whole thing. I have done opthalmology and audiology so I can tell you what to expect if you are worried .

bishboschone Sat 28-Jul-12 09:47:18

Ps .. How I got ds to
Sit was I sat behind him with my legs in a v shape and he rested on me. Gradually day by day I moved backwards so he had to use his
Muscles more . I used one of those v pillows against the corner of my sofa too and sort of wedged him . He hated it too but I never gave in . He sat from about 8 months so you are still within the timeline . Please pm me if you want to . Iwas told by a paed that if ds wasn't reaching out for toys by 6 months he would need a MRI and as an aside she mentioned his eyes . I'm so glad I pursued it as he wears glasses now and is so much better .

Thazmp Wed 01-May-13 19:00:34

Can you update how you DS is now? I am having similar things with mine: he has very strong legs and bashes them on the floor all day long if I let him, but he hates sitting and tommy time... Rolled over from tommy to back few times, but never from back to tommy.. And while in tommy time, he is not interested in reaching anything! He also have a worrying scan at 20 weeks, but it turned out to be fine...
So it seems we have a lot of in common!

Sas1330 Tue 17-Jun-14 01:51:59

I know this is an old thread, but how did your son make out? My 5 month old also isn't interested in reaching out

melissa3590 Sun 28-Dec-14 17:14:42

I have the same problem, my lo is 6 months next week and will not hold toys, she bashes toys when on her play mat.
she has an mri in february as she was having seizures so we will find out of there is any more to it.

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