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What shall I tell him?

He is a very loyal and sensitive child. He chooses present himself fro his friends' birthdays and helps me wrap them. He spent ages making a lovely card to his best friend. All the children in the nursery exchanged cards yesterday and he got none. He did not complain to us, and we could only work out what happened later. He feels completely unloved, and did not want to go back to nursery. (Although I heard him singing Happy Birthday to his best friend and himself in his bedroom.) He was not happy going to nursery this morning.

Shall I just tell him that some people are not very good at showing their feelings? I bought him a card myself, but I know he wants to be appreciated by his own friends.

<gets comfy>

<sits next to Boob>

Passes cuppa to silent

I thought Valentine's Day was Feb 14th.

Erm, well he might still get one. Valentines day is on Tuesday.

Shhhush! Moray. You'll spoil it!

Tis a bit early is'nt it?

Just write him out a card and post it to him.

My kids never give or recieve cards, i thought only amarican kids give cards (never seen much of it happen in uk).

I'm sure he will get over it.

<duct tapes mouth>

I had a moments panic just then, when I thought my internal calender was running a week out! Why are they a) doing it a week early and B) not, making sure each child gets at least one card, if they have to do valentine cards at all?

Same as oldmum42

Had to check the calendar.

Oh good oldmum42 - I'm not the only one who had a panicky look at my watch because I had no idea what the date was.

Whaaat? Would be having words with nursery about why on earth they're doing this? Just bizarre. And, as everyone else said - wrong date anyway. Weird.

Why are children at nursery exchanging cards? Isn't it all a bit silly?

I really do not know why did it yesterday, that is why I could not imagine why he was so fractious and tearful. I think the public humilation has already happened. He will get a card from me.

oldmum42 I completely agree. I thought the nursery nurses would make sure they all get one. I suppose he could not have been the only child not ot get a card.

The nursery are doing a shit job. There is no need to do Valentines with 4 yr olds. IF they must, they should have made sure everybody got one.

Surely there's time yet. If not then you make a little fuss of him instead.

Let's add that we do not really celebrate Valentine's day at all at home, so it all came a bit of a surprise.

I would be looking for a new nursery sharpish - not only are they involved in some rather questionable behaviour, they dont seem to be able to read a calendar!

I take it this is a wind-up?

Phone up the mother of the best friend. Explain what's happened. Get her to sort out a card for him from his friend.

Why all the drawing up of chairs? Is this an MN 'thing' that I've missed?

Obviously accounting for the fact it's not even Valentines yet... But I agree that a nursery shouldn't be celebrating it really, why would they? It's for couples isn't it? My DD is 4 and doesn't know what it is.

We had an American friend (who has now gone back to the US) she always used to buy her DCs valentine's cards, helium balloons etc. I was a bit but my Dcs were v.jealous so now every year I have to make them cards and they make them for me
By the way, OldMum42, are you 42? does that make you an oldmum? I am 42 on Friday, will that make me an oldmum too?

Sadly this really happened. I wish it was a wind-up... Sad to see such a sweet little boy being down.

Good idea, I'll call best friend's mom, and ask her to help. I'll also mention it today to the nursery nurses.

Thanks a lot.

You nearly had me going....