Please help. The background is that I've been working away during the week for the past six months. This comes to an end in 3 weeks time, the 9th Feb. Dh has been coping admirably but understandably, it's affected the children, ds, who's 8 (and not dh's, he's from my first marriage) and, less so, dd, who is 2.
Over Christmas, when I was here for nearly 3 whole weeks without working, ds started waking up at night, which he's never really done before. He doesn't just come for a cuddle, I could live with that and it would be understandable, he shouts and screams at the top of his voice, wakes dd up and calls us names. He sits on the floor and refuses to move if we're downstairs or, last night, he stood outside his room and shouted so loudly he woke dd up. Dh is knackered and pissed off and so am I after the past few nights. (I've been at home because I've been off sick) I've asked ds if there's anything bothering him and he says not, I've asked if anything's wrong at school and he says not, I've asked if there's anything he's not telling me and he says not. He likes his school (although the last 6 months have been odd as he's gone to after school club for the first time but he does like it there), he has plenty of friends, sees his father every other weekend, loves his sister and gets plenty of positive attention from me when I'm here and dh when he's here and in charge.
Just typing this has made me realise it's almost certainly about my being away isn't it? So maybe it'll change once I come back (although there may be a perm job and it will mean relocating about 150 miles if I take it, maybe he's worried about this, we have told him it's a possibility, is this what we've done wrong? Probably.)
We have tried a star chart and it's not working after 2 weeks - I was briefly hopeful but its effects were short lived. ONE night he managed not to wake us when I bribed him with a comic but then he's reverted to waking again. We've threatened taking things away, it doesn't work. Sometimes, at first, he seems half asleep and then I can sometimes get him to go straight back to bed without properly waking but more often he wakes and screams at us. We're at our wits end and dh asked me to post. What can we do? In the middle of the night he is so HORRIBLE, calling us idiots and worse, it is unbearable. We have tried cuddles and gentle encouragement back to bed, we've tried getting cross, what else? Has anyone else experienced this and what did you do? Aplogies for length of post. TIA for all and any words of wisdom or advice.
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Please help, extremely worried about disturbed (? not sure) 8 yo who isn't sleeping well, but don't think this is just a sleep problem
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WideWebWitch · 20/01/2006 09:31
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