I took DS1 (3.3) for his first session at nursery school this morning. I had led him to expect that I would be leaving him for part of the session, because I didn't want to set the precedent of him thinking I would stay the whole 2.5 hours - he was calm about me going, didn't cry and wasn't distressed when I came back. I left for just over an hour and came back for the last 45-ish minutes/story time/songs etc. He clearly doesn't mind being left there, so that's one hurdle!
Worryingly though, he is noticeably one of the more disobedient kids and doesn't get the idea that he's got to sit down, stop playing, tidy up, etc when told to. He had to be physically restrained a couple of times just so the teacher could get on with talking to the group. He shouts and interrupts constantly and is quite rude and argumentative (eg when the little group were sitting on their mats being read a story by the teacher, Kerry kept lunging and grabbing and shouting "I'm going to read it, not you, why are YOU reading it, I want to turn the pages"....that sort of thing) When the bell rang and he was told "it's tidy up time" Kerry sat on the floor and said "no, I don't want to". In short it was an exhausting and rather bruising experience. I don't know whether we should be worried or not or how we are going to address the issues. He also kept constantly putting his hands down his pants and rubbing his bottom, which is a bit off-putting and none of the other children seemed to be doing it. Since being home he has been quite stubborn and difficult and says his teacher is horrid. But he also said he wanted "horrid scary music" on while he has his lunch, and he refused to walk on the way home. So maybe he just isn't feeling well. I don't know. He can be quite strong-willed at home - we all can - but I'm used ot handling him and he does as he is told for me!! He's extremely bright and his language is more like a 5yo. Usually I'm proud of this, but when he's shouting and being rude it makes it worse somehow!! I found it quite embarassing having to watch other adults try to control him and stop him snatching, wandering about etc, while I was stuck outside the "circle" with his baby brother, and couldn't really do anything. I'm especially upset because I know what a charming, appealing, adorable, exciting little boy he can be when he is properly handled. Any feedback from anyone would be gratefully read. I've been so worried about this week and it's all going horrible wrong
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DS1's first day at nursery...it's all going wrong!!!!
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Meanoldmummy · 17/01/2006 12:58
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