I am currently enduring the visitors from hell. We live abroad, and my DH's brother, wife and child are visiting. Now I know all visitors get on your nerves after a while, but DH and I are seriously worried about the way they treat their child and just don't know how to tackle it.
Dear niece (DN) was an unplanned baby when they had both assumed they would never have children, but weren't prepared to go down the IVF route. Delighted you might think, with their little miracle. But it seems they resent everything they have had to give up for her, and expect her to behave like a model child at all times. They are constantly on her case, do this, do that, don't do that etc, or else it's 'go away and play' ie, don't bother me. DN is just 5 BTW. She is turning into a very naughty child, very wilful and sly and consequently gets more and more shouting and threats. It seems to be classic behaviour of any attention, however bad, is better than no attention.
DH and I are really feeling like we must do or say something, they are a very unhappy little family and the are heading for serious rebellion from DN when she hits the hormones. They are truly vile to her and talk about how naughty she is in front of her,which is self-fulfilling prophesy in my book.
Sorry to waffle but I'd be really grateful for any tips on how to help this poor child before it's too late. Any books I could tactfully send them? DH is not close enough to his brother to have a man-to-man chat, and SIL is not the sort of woman who listens to anyone's opinions other than her own.
HELP!!
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Niece with nightmare parents
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cq · 28/10/2003 09:14
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