WhenAChildIsBored - are you there?

[PennyLess]

I read your thread at the end of last week and so wanted to reach out to you. How are you getting on? Have you tried any new strategies?
My ds2 will be 4 in April and he is absolutely terrible at the moment. He too is bright, but I don't think as bright as yours (not reading). But I really really don't know how to deal with him and am at the end of my tether. He will not do a thing that he's asked, whether it's getting dressed, going for a pee, sitting up at the table, coming "over here" so I can put his shoes on. He attacks his older sister and esp brother really viciously, and is rude and abusive to everyone - called me a horrid old wildebeast today. Constantly tells me he hates me and spits at me (as in gobs) and other people.
I have this awful fear that if I deal with this wrong it is going to do a huge amount of damage ie he will always be a terrible child. I'm afraid I shout rather a lot but really because I'm desperate. I have to get the older two to school in the mornings so don't have time to play games. He doesn't respond to threats or bribery, and has no interest in turning things into a game.
I dread being with him. Normally he goes to a nursery school 5 mornings but his term has just ended. And guess what, we're in Scotland so he doesn't start school until '07.

[PennyLess]

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