DS who was 4 in May has had problems on and off for about a year with controlling his temper when he's angry and has been lashing out. Some of you know just how big he is and so will understnad how this can get a bit out of control (4 y o head 7 y o size body). I've been trying to help him learn different coping strategies, and he's really getting to grips with shouting instead of hitting. I've also recently (last 2 weeks) taken him off E Numbers, chocolate and Eggs after testing him with a homeopath friend. He's also taking a multi-vitamin and acidophilous suppliment.
He's been sleeping really well lately, but the last couple of days have been a nightmare with him emotionally. If he doesn't get his own way he screams and starts hysterical crying and yesterday I was really ashamed of how I dealt with it because I ended up screaming back at him and sending him to his room in a very bullyish way because I thought I might smack him if he didn't go. But the rest of the time he is so loving and is constantly telling me how much he loves me.
I work part time and have just recently slightly shifted my hours and now have to drop him and DD off at lunchtime on a Wed and the last few weeks have been awful. They're fine til we get there (and both love it there and have been going since they were babies) then they get really clingy and he keeps saying he wants to come with me and doesn't want to stay etc etc. It's getting so I dread going on a Wed with them and I'm coming away in tears every time. I used to be able to spend half a day a week just with him, but because of my change in hours it's not regular anymore and I have to snatch time at the weekends or when DD (who is 2) is asleep but he does get about 20 mins every day just to himself at bed time.
He starts school in January and I guess I'm worried that his behaviour will get him a 'reputation' really early on. I'm also worried that it's something I've done/not done that has made it worse. Have I caused this by the food restrictions?? (he's started complaining of tummy ache a lot and is not eating as well as usual either). Do I need to give him some regular with me time on a set day?? Is it normal or should I be more worried than I already am??
As a background issue DH is really miserable at the moment as work is really sh*y, and he brings his misery home, resulting in him not really giving me or the kids much attention and being stroppy, confrontational and withdrawing emotionally.
Please help I'm feeling really low today, we had a lovely morning building with boxes and gluing and stuff, then went to the park for an hour (with minor strop as he wanted me to fasten his shoes) and everything was fine until we got to Nursery (which he was looking forward to going to so he could show off what he had made)and then he just changed when we got there and started a major sulk because he couldn't come with me to work, and DD was wailing top note too. So have come to work wondering if it is all worth it
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Bad couple of days - normal 4 y o behaviour?? (sorry a bit long)
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WedgiesMum · 15/10/2003 15:17
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