Hi - I am hoping for some pragmatic advice :)
On Christmas eve my 6 year ol son errupted into a violent tantrum we have never seen before. The trigger was he wanted to leave the park earlier than planned. This tantrum included thumping me so hard I got bruises and telling us he hated us. I had to hold him down in the back of the car so we could drive home. This has happened every few days with no consistent triggers. Themes seem to be about him being in control and threatning to hit us or to smash up our house if we dont do what he says. We have not been able to do a time outs due to his violence in his room. Any threat of punishment adds fuel to the fire. Talking about it after can retrigger a tantrum. We have taken away his favourite toy for a day. However no treat or punishment combination has any impact when he is in full flow. He is very rude and says he wishes he had not been born and he we are rubbish parents. He repeatedly says we dont want him. We have ended up restraininig him on the floor to stop us and our house being damaged. We continue to tell him we love him and also correct him when he says things that are not true such as we hit him. To be honest it ruined our Christmas. Whilst inevitably there is some disruption to routine over christmas we tried to keep things as relaxed and low key as possible.
My 6 year old boy is usually well behaved, he does well at school and makes good relationships with other children and adults.
(he is an only child). My husband is a full time dad and last July we moved to be in the next road to a lovely school. I work full time but am at all the key events at school. We have enough money. We have a mix of treats, projects and free time and plenty of attention. He has a good healthy diet and small amoutns of TV and computer time. He has watched more TV and movies over the xmas break especially in the snowy weather.
Any suggestions to either stop him in full flow and stop it happening again? Advice much appreciated.
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Hennie07 · 05/01/2011 20:43
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