Only just 5 and being 'silly' at school

[mumofthreebeauties]

My DT has always had a more immature outlook than his twin brother. Today DD came home and said DT1 had been holding the door open for his classmates and was waving his gloves in peoples faces as they walked in! The teacher had to tell him off and get someone to swap with him.

My question is whether I tackle this at hoome as well. I don't like them telling tales on him. His teacher hasn't said anything.

He does seem prone to silliness.

[3PRINCESSES]

How old is he MO3B? (maybe mention it if he's in the 6th form?)

[mumofthreebeauties]

Thank you

It's the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth!!!

m23b

[mumofthreebeauties]

3princesses

he was 5 in August and has just gone in to Yr1 at school. He's in a mixed reception/yr 1 class.

m23b

[3PRINCESSES]

Sorry. The clue was in the title, wasn't it? He's just a baby... I think you should let him be as long as he's happy. Has he just started at school this time?

[3PRINCESSES]

Cross-post! Did the teacher mention it as being a problem at any of the parents evenings last year? I always get stressed about my DDs giving reports about 'bad' behaviour in school. Last week DD1 came running out and announced immediately (with great glee) that DD2 had got told off in assembly. Expected DD2 to come out with a very long face but she was absolutely fine, and when delicately probed about the matter later claimed she hadn't been told off at all, but that her form teacher had just said her name, in amongst a few others, in that quiet sort of warning way. From the way dd1 had put it I'd imagined a full dressing-down in front of the whole school!

Which is all a rather long-winded way of saying, could DD be slightly over-stating the incident for effect?

[mumofthreebeauties]

His teacher in reception was great and during his first term he would fidget, poke other children whilst having story time.

We tackled it fromhome and at school. She knew he liked mobilo and wouldn't let him play with it in free choosing if he hadn't behaved properly.

He has improved a lot and even has now had two head teachers awards for his work.

he is a very involved little boy and if he and his friends are play fighting, he'll be the one that get really involved and goes that little bit too far!!

m23b

[3PRINCESSES]

He sounds like a real sweetie. Maybe the only tackling you need to do at home is to remind him how well he did last year, and say you're looking forward to seeing him do just as well this term.

[mumofthreebeauties]

Now the teacher wants to see me after school today.

we took himin this morning (DD had her class assembly so DH and me were both there)and for 5 minutes he was wondering around not really knowing what to do.

They just left him as I watched to see if the teacher or assistant helped him. Neither did.

What to do??

[3PRINCESSES]

I think this afternoon you should, as pleasantly as possible, make the point that all children are at different stages when they start school and that your ds may need a little more support and guidance than some others. Perhaps you could say how very pleased and grateful you were for all their work with him last year, and how much it made a difference, but say quite firmly that he still needs a lot of encouragement now he is in Y1. The summer holidays are only 6 weeks-- they can't expect him to have suddenly become a mature and sensible pseudo-adult can they? It sounds to me a little like they are coming down on him too hard when he does do something 'silly' (why couldn't she just have very quietly told him not to wave his gloves around, instead of making him come away from the door?) and maybe not doing enough to channel him in the right direction when he is being good.

Poor you-- it's horrible having to have a meeting like this, and very easy to get upset. It sounds like you are being really reasonable and understand the type of behaviour that they may be experiencing, but you just need to know that you are both approaching how to tackle it from the same angle (if that makes any sense) In other words, you want to know that they are being sympathetic and supportive and not judgmental.

Hope it all goes well!

[bonkerz]

I know how hard this must be for you. My ds was 5 on 26th July and is also in yr1 at school and has been in school full time since sept 2004. He has been put in a class with older children as his reading and writing skills are very good BUT his lack of emotional and social skills are highlighted even more because he is with older children. We have had a few incidents now where he has had tantrums and lashed out at dinnerladies who try to restrain him and no matter what i do or say he still does it! He has had all TV, and treats taken away and KNOWS he is being naughty BUT i cant help thinking ats an age thing and that the dinnerladies are expecting too much from him! He is the youngest in the class by over 12 weeks! Its got to the point now where i dread taking him to school and am embarrassed to pick him up just in case he has been bad! Teacher isnt helpful and says he is brilliant in class and just outside is a nightmare!!