7 yr old swearing - just started today - how can I nip it in the bud?

[essbee]

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[Milliways]

Ask him if he can explain the real meaning of all these words. The embarrasment sometimes stops them, & being "allowed" to use them for a proper conversation.

Whenever mine found out a new word, they were allowed to tell us so we could make sure everyone new what they meant & why not to be used. Teach them other really "intelligent" words to use. (Mine loved Halitosis!)

[essbee]

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[Milliways]

It's great fun if someone picks on them & they call them "an overbearing Juvenile Oaf"

[essbee]

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[Milliways]

DS likes: Obnoxious & flatulance (& halitosis!)as they sound impressive. It's also fun using a Thesaurus (try smell!).

If your DS knows that if you catch him using a word he will have to restate the sentance using it's proper meaning (& seeing how silly that sounds as well as being sooooo embarrasing for him) he will soon stop

[happymerryberries]

faecal matter for shit is always a good one

Exsanguination for bloody

[essbee]

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[coralswhisper]

Hello All,

You have to understand as a parent that children in this day and age will learn swear words from an incredibly young age, their learn these from all different surroundings but mostly from kindergarten or school.

Just say this to the child it worked for me...


" WOW, thats a new word, where did you hear that?"

" I know you know these words and thats absolutly fine, however Mummy would prefer it if you didn't use them. Although it's fine for you to know them"

"When you say that you have a dirty mouth and you don't look very nice, how about we just know these words but never use them as it's better to have aclean mouth than a dirty one"


The important thing is to never laugh or give any good attention for swearing. Everytime a swear word is used it should be dealt with straight away and not just on the odd occasion.

By telling them it is ok for them to know them but not speak them is giving them a little control. This will stop them using it as a 'getting back at you' tactic, since you have said it is OK to know them. They will realise/think it's not that much of a big deal and the swearing to start to stop since you are not give this massive reaction to it.


The other thing is not to swear yourself as this can sometimes be the main reason for them starting. However if you do let one slip always acknowledge it yourself and tell yourself off for doing it in front of the child. Many times the child will join in and say "Mummy you have got a dirty mouth" and then start to feel proud hat they are sort of helping mummy out to.

Sorry it's long winded, hope you got the point I am trying to make.

Regards

[Caththerese1973]

I wouldn't get too stressed about it. The more stressed you get, the more he will try it out.
Today I said "shit" in front of my dd (2.6)and she surprised me by saying "don't say shit mummy!" and then: 'what did you say shit about?" (lol).
I can't help letting the occasional 'shit' escape, but have explained to her that it's not a good word and should be avoided. Now SHE is getting moralistic on ME!

[coralswhisper]

It's good when they start telling you it's bad because it shows you, that they listened to you in the first place about it being a naughty word.

CW

[Milliways]

New word for you Essbee....

Rigamortis! (I think you brain is suffering from... etc)