My dd is 4 and sometimes plays with a 3 yo boy who lives nearby. There have been many times when I have heard him ask her if he can see or touch her fanny. I reckon he talks about this at least once each time they play together. That seems like a lot to me.
Yesterday the boy's father found the boy touching dd "down there." He shouted at them and told them both off. (I disagree with him shouting at kids like that, but that's another thread ...) DD was very upset about the whole incident, more upset than I have seen her in a long time. There are a lot of factors that might have contributed to her bad feelings - the boy touching her, the father shouting at her, feeling unjustly accused of doing something wrong, feeling responsible for the the boy being shut in his room as a punishment.
I guess I have two questions. Is that amount of interest in sexual behaviour "normal" for a 3yo? I am wondering if it's possible that he has been sexually abused in some way. Also, what do you think I could do in response to what happened yesterday?
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Sexual behaviour in 3-4 year olds, what is normal?
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Sparks · 13/08/2003 12:00
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