GIVE ME STRENGTH.....

[Donbean]

Because im at the end of a VERY short tether today.
Ds has been a little B**R all dayand now he is screaming his fecking head off down stairs with dh.

I just feel like walking out

[Dahlia]

I had a day like that recently, and sympathise completely. My dd2 absolutely does my head in sometimes, and I feel like my head will explode if she screams one more time. But then the next day she is lovely. Its just her age (2y 2m). How old is your ds?

[Donbean]

HA! 2yrs 2months as well! yes it is thier age, i know this but ITS JUST SO HARD some days im desperate for bed time, are you the same?
How do you cope with it?

[Dahlia]

Oh god yes. This afternoon I picked her up from the childminder at 3pm and she hadn't had a sleep there, so came home and put her to bed. Then dd1 came home from school and the two of us were happily eating chocolate in the kitchen and raving about how great it was when dd2 was asleep!
I cope in different ways - going outside for a fag always helps as an immediate solution. And making sure I get some "me" time every day - even if its going to Tesco, just getting out of the house on my own works wonders, and having that to look forward to makes so much difference. Of course, she isn't like that all the time, but she can be extremely whiney and whingey for no real reason which is just so frustrating. However, when she is a little bit older, I can use my famous "water jug" treatment. Haven't got time to give details now - you might hate the idea anyway, some people on here did when I posted about it a couple of years ago, but alot thought it was brilliant. (If you are interested, you can probably find it somewhere!)

[Donbean]

NEED waterjug info as a matter of urgency...pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaassssssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.........

[Dahlia]

Oh ok then - can't remember what age I used it on dd1, but she was maybe 2 and a half ish - she was at the 'tantrum for no reason' stage and she was a nightmare - couldn't reason with her, control her, she would hurl heavy things down the stairs, turn into damien omen screaming in a deep voice etc etc, it was truly awful - my mum suggested the water jug as she used it on my brother when he was little!! You take child outside, tell them once, firmly that if they don't behave you are going to tip cold water on them. They will not believe you and will carry on screaming or whatever. So you calmly and deliberately pour cold water over their head. Then you calmly and deliberately explain that that is what will happen when they misbehave. You tell them that you are the mummy and you are in charge. You explain that they cannot behave like that. Then you put them in dry clothes, and give them a cuddle. It sounds horrendous I know, but it totally worked for me. It is non aggressive, and straight to the point. It puts you firmly in charge. It makes them stop in their tracks in complete shock. And all you need to do next time they start having a paddy is calmly show them the jug and ask if they want it again. Trust me when I say I didn't enjoy doing it! I had to turn away so she wouldn't see me crying! But it was a very effective shock treatment. And far better than yelling, or ignoring, or time out, or naughty stairs or any of the million other things I tried first. But perhaps he is too young? Anyway, that's it in a nutshell, and believe me, it helped a few people on here!!!

[Donbean]

hmm,cold water you say, trouble is that ds would be continuously wet and cold because he fits as many naughty moments into his day as he possibly can.
Today he has been an absolute out and out little monster Damion,demon horror from the pits of hell itself.
How i have not killed him i do not know.
I feel like i have a huge stone in my stomach, i feel stressed and anxious, guilty and murderous on the edge of tears.
Dh is home and normally takes over from me but ds is so clingy at the moment.
He has just wacked dh around the face full force, so dh has gone bazerk and bannished him to the naughty step shouting at him.
DS is now inconsolable, sobbing and red faced crying for me over and over.
Dh has said not to go near him or comfort him but my heart is bieng ripped out at the crying and sobbing.

[Dahlia]

Donbean, I have just tried to CAT you but can't. If you want to CAT me, please do!

[kelli22]

i agree in theory with the water jug idea and can see how it works although im not sure if i would use it myself, but i do know when my dd (who is 6 btw) misbehaves if i take something from her room i.e. her stereo i only have to do it once in a blue moon because just threatening to do it works (most of the time) the best way to get good behaviour is to be consistent and always warn them what you will do if they dont stop it and then carry it out.

my dd has her off days but most of the time she is very well behaved

[Donbean]

Hi Dahlia, ive emailed you x

[carolann23]

hello my daughter is nearly 2 and her tantrum's are realy getting out of control kickin n screaming when she dont get what she wants,shes hitting other kids also and when i check her for it she laugh's at me!! i dont fell as if she is old enough or understands time out and stuff, is there anything else i can try? Please Help!!!

[sniff]

mine youngest is 23 months and has taken to hitting every one swithching things on and off taking the others toys hitting the dog and throwing things at the tv
my others didnt do this but I just ignore him untill it becomes to much and then dump him in his cot I have tried to tell him off but he laughs at me and then the other two want to know why he is not being told of properly

you can try distraction technique with a toy etc ignoring them till they do something nice or getting down to there level to say No most babies at this age understand that word

hope this help I know exactly how you feel x