Who else is struggling with boys' names?! Come and vent!

(61 Posts)
nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 20:18:31

This seems to be a very common subject on this forum, so are you also finding boys' names bloody hard?!

Girls' names seem to be so much easier - I have two already and would happily name a third! But first boy and I'm clueless!

These names have made it on to the list but for one reason or another haven't made me feel like they're "The One", except Oscar which I think is just way too popular for me.

Reuben
Caleb
Oscar
Jasper
Theo
Henry
Leon
Robert
Sebastian
Felix
Tristan
Rowan/Rohan
Dominic
Nathan/Nathaniel/Nate
Alexander
Fabian

Anyway, rant away! I know I'm not alone...

RoseHoney Wed 04-Jun-14 20:24:13

Me!!
Pregnant with DC3 aswell, don't know the gender. First 2 are boys.
I am all out of boys names!! I have a short list of 2 that I like but don't love! confused

When I had DD, I could think of loads of boys names but when I had DS I could only think of one and it was perfect. My DSs name is Franklin smile

devoncreamtea Wed 04-Jun-14 20:28:17

I'm with you!! I like lots of boys names, but find they are not quite 'right' for some reason. It took me 6 weeks after birth to name my 1st Son: Rafe

I love it but now find I am struggling to find another name I feel so strongly about. Some people find girls names very difficult, but I never struggled too much.

For me I think it's finding the balance between a soft enough sound for a little boy and a grown up enough name for a man...

I like classic names like William/Tom - but know so many of them myself (grown up ones) that it feels odd to call my Son by that name somehow.

I'm sure we'll get there, it is part of the 'fun'....!!

From your list above, I like Oscar, Theo, Rowan and Alexander.

I have Alexander on my list too, but not sure for myself although like the hypothetical name....(minefield!)

devoncreamtea Wed 04-Jun-14 20:28:48

Franklin is great!

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 20:29:46

Hello RoseHoney! It's so hard, isn't it! How did you find naming your boys? Was it just as hard?

What is it about boys' names?! I'm finding they're either solid, timeless but a bit boring, or more unusual, possibly cooler, but a bit 'out there', a bit 'marmitey'.

ThinkIveBeenHacked Wed 04-Jun-14 20:31:19

We love Travis, Leo and Rex but I wish I had more to add to the list (as it is we have to scrap Rex sad )

I find out boy or girl next week so im going to hit these boards hard if its boy.

rootypig Wed 04-Jun-14 20:32:59

Walter! or Reuben, or Nate.

Not ever ever ever Jasper. Or Oscar. Loathe them. Hope that helps you get over the popularity sorrow grin

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 20:33:43

Everythingsdozy It only takes one perfect one grin I'm still on the lookout... I know I need to slacken my criteria in some way.

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 20:35:33

Thanks rootypig - is it a pet name thing?

rootypig Wed 04-Jun-14 20:36:45

I don't follow your question! sorry grin

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 20:39:50

Why you don't like Jasper or Oscar - is it because you think they're pet names?

Apparently about 1 in 5 parents regret their childrens names! It's so important to get it right! Out of the four I gave my kids (first and middle names for two DC) I regret one name and only a little bit. More of a "if I had her now it would be different" than a regret and it's a middle name so not terribly important!!

devoncreamtea Wed 04-Jun-14 20:41:23

1 in 5! wow.

CPtart Wed 04-Jun-14 20:45:41

Adam
Luke
Evan
Marcus
Ben(jamin)
James
William
Alexander
Love Dominic
Edward
Toby
Isaac
Zachary

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 20:46:00

You're so right Everythingsdozy. My dds are 3 and 18 months (so there's still time for regret) but I love their names and feel I always will, partly because they are fairly unusual (although dd2's name has grown quite popular - I still haven't met another yet). This has made me realise that I must choose a fairly underused name for this little boy/man-to-be.

Yes definitely! Especially because if it does become popular you can be a trend setter! "Well DS had it first!!"

RiverTam Wed 04-Jun-14 20:52:48

I like Rowan and Robert from your list - Robert is good, old-school but not had a comeback, has it? And lots of shorts to choose from including the excellent Bob (or Kate, of course). When's he's being naughty you choose fix him with a steely eye and say, 'Well, Bob' <emphasis on the last B>.

rootypig Wed 04-Jun-14 21:03:19

Oh I see! no I just don't like them <helpful>

I think it's the sounds, and maybe a vague association with Oscar the grouch. The fact every other kid is called Oscar doesn't help. I know there's a cuteness factor that other people see, but I don't. Others on your list are lovely though!

dancinggerald Wed 04-Jun-14 21:08:03

Exactly the same problem here! Have one ds, 2 dd's, expecting no 4. Could name several more girls but boys' names are so hard. Your taste seems similar to mine.

My top pick would be Rowan but dh thinks it's a girls' name.

Other that dh doesn't like:

Dominic
Ivan
Laurence (Laurie)

Also like Theodore but its common nn rhymes with ds's name.

dd1 wants Henry

dh likes Pip. He also likes Bill, but I hate it.

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 21:16:59

I like Rowan a lot, too. It ticks a lot of boxes for me.

How many weeks do you have left, dancingemerald? Or rather, how many weeks do you have left to convince dh? wink

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 21:18:12

dancinggerald that was meant to be... (ahem).

I liked the name Oscar when we were thinking of names but immediately my mum said it's a type of fish! And not a particularly beautiful fish either! (We are big fish keepers in our family!!)
I love Rohan

Pandora452 Wed 04-Jun-14 21:26:19

If I saw it written down, I would presume Rowan X was female.

I like Reuben as mentioned earlier

strawberryjam Wed 04-Jun-14 21:37:10

I am struggling too, so far on our list we have

Charlie
Freddie
Oscar
Otis
Henry
Ben
Noah
Zachary

rootypig Wed 04-Jun-14 21:50:53

Reuben is a particularly delicious sort of sandwich grin

I still love the name though! possibly more

nasara Wed 04-Jun-14 22:19:51

strawberryjam, it looks like a good list - do you have a favourite?

Topsyloulou Wed 04-Jun-14 22:40:56

We're struggling with a boys name too. Had a girls name picked about a week after we found out I was pregnant & we just knew would be having a boy as a result! Our shortlist is currently

Theodore
Wilfred
Rex
Nathaniel
Zachariah
Alexander
Elijah
Sidney
Tobias
Callum
Finian
Seth
Rufus

Have gone off Theo a bit lately as it seems to be getting quite popular. Current favourite is Rufus.

Other names I like but can't use as we have a 3 syllable surname beginning with B are Bertie, Benedict, Bartholomew, James - family name, William & Fred - people I work with / for.

Taking my baby name book & a highlighter on holiday with me next weekend & hopefully we can find something we love.

strawberryjam Thu 05-Jun-14 06:18:51

I love Otis and Freddie, H likes them but doesn't love them

SquirrelledAway Thu 05-Jun-14 07:04:15

I find it hard to like Otis, to me it's the name of a lift company. I've always wondered if they have an office in a Reading.

friendface Thu 05-Jun-14 09:21:56

I am also struggling with DC3! With my older two DSs being teens (well, one pre-teen) I am feeling a bit out of the loop when it comes to trends. The older two are called Cai and Adam and so far our list contains Dougie and Gus - I dispair!

There are some fab names being suggested - Ivan and Nate are awesome

rachel234 Thu 05-Jun-14 14:04:01

Yes, it is an important choice that you want to get right. We had these on our shortlist for ds:

Dominic
Quentin
Sebastian
Thomas
Lucas

Nessalina Thu 05-Jun-14 15:47:26

I feel your pain. I've got a million girls names, but we're having a boy!
Me & DH sat down last night and compared shortlists, with neither of us being particularly passionate about one name or another, and it actually made it easier in a way! If one of us had our hearts set on a name we LOVED, and the other wasn't keen, then it wouldn't have been pretty grin!
We've got our list down to 10, with two that we particularly like the sound of (Theodore & Isaac). My long list looks a lot like yours actually!
Others that were on my list that aren't on yours and you may like:
Gregory
Benedict
Nicholas
Benjamin
Elliott
Jeremiah

miffybun73 Fri 06-Jun-14 23:50:41

The only boys names that I really love are Daniel (Dan) and Joseph (Joe)

rootypig Fri 06-Jun-14 23:58:10

miffy I have a cousin named Joseph Daniel nn Joe or Josie Dan smile

funnyface31 Fri 06-Jun-14 23:59:10

My DS is Roan and I love it! smile

nasara Sun 08-Jun-14 23:06:27

Has anyone been successful and found a name?

Today, I have considered and probably scrubbed from the list - Raphael, Rafe, Gilbert, Jude. Nothing seems to work for me grrrrr.

princessdave Mon 09-Jun-14 11:45:04

I have a (male) friend called Rohan, his wife is Rowan. I was sad they didn't name their son Ronan grin. TBF they picked Loki which really suits him.

Also have a well researched, thought out list of girls names (surname Smith so wanted names that are very rarely used so pored over 2012 and 2011 stats) to go with DD (Elodie) but if this baby is a boy then we are sort of agreed on something as neither of us love any boys names or feel like any are "the one". There just seem to be less boys names to choose from and all the good ones have been used on my cousins/friends/cats already (thomas, robert, george, benjamin, william, lucas, toby, oscar, max, ted, isaac, elliot, daniel, luke)

In fact the only one I really like is Percy but everyone looked hmm so that was that!

pilates Mon 09-Jun-14 11:57:14

Nathan - nn Nate

Really like the name Jared.

I agree girls names much easier. Good luck.

spence24 Mon 09-Jun-14 19:36:47

I just had a good chuckle at Rohan/Rowan. I feel their pain, mine and OH's names rhyme and we get no end of ridicule from our friends. Already getting people asking us to rhyme the baby's name too, which would be cruel!

Casey123 Mon 09-Jun-14 19:55:31

I'm the opposite to all of you ladies! I find girls names impossible. We have twins, Zachary and Jacob. They were named Vinnie and Ronnie for about 2 days before we decided they were a little too unusual, and went for some common names! I hate to admit it, but I still sometimes wish I had gone for Vinnie and Ronnie, I loveeee more unusual names, but the look on our families faces made us question it! But then again, at least they are sturdy, normal names that can't get too messed about with.

We've just had a brand new Theo and a new Charlie in the family. Surprisingly, they both have grown on me.

Thinkivebeenhacked, I love love love love your three names!

nasara Mon 09-Jun-14 21:51:54

princessdave I've considered Percy too - I think it has the workings of a great name!

pilates I've also considered Jared too - maybe I should be recreating a long short list...

casey123 I think I may regret not using a more unusual name. I think back to friends who have used rather marmitey names for boy and I recall feeling a bit puzzled by their names choices but now I totally get it.

I think I'm just on a quest for the right marmitey name for us and this little one... But then is a good solid, timeless name is the right choice?

Bah, this is hard!

princessdave Tue 10-Jun-14 09:00:16

nasara I did see a thread on here a while back and the OPs DS was already called Percy and people were downright mean about the name... even though she wasn't asking for opinions on Percy, she wanted suggestions for a brother! I really like it, cute for a baby, kinda cool for a teen. Maybe not so great for a grown up chap mind you but then it comes into its own again when they get to more a more advanced age. Grandad Percy sounds awesome.

DH said a Percy would get bullied but someone told me about "...& the Lightening Thief" being the latest hip movie (or book? I forget) franchise thing and names are so varied these days that I wonder if kids even pick on others based on their names? I tend to think children don't pay a great deal of attention to names in that sense as there are just so many different ones around these days..... confused

Casey123 Wed 11-Jun-14 20:24:51

Nasara, maybe you could look back to olddy names. Thats where I got lots of inspiration from, half of them havn't had a come back yet so are marmity and unusual enough, but most of them arn't too made up like some of the completely modern names today, so should be sturdy enough.

Good luck baby name chooossing everyone!

ThinkIveBeenHacked Wed 11-Jun-14 20:45:10

Any closer OP? What are your dss called?

Ive found out im expecting a boy today and dh and I likenames at the opppsite ends of the spectrum!

nasara Wed 11-Jun-14 22:32:10

Casey123, I've trawled through the ONS spreadsheet looking into the 1000s but haven't come up with anything as well as googling popularity charts from the 1800s and early 1900s.

I woke up thinking of 'Marlow' this morning but can't ultimately it is a last name/place name and that goes against my stupid rules!

So, no closer ThinkIveBeenHacked sad I've got two little girls (Cora and Eliza - hello to anyone who knows me!).

shatteredmum1 Wed 11-Jun-14 22:53:21

Cosmo is fantastic!

fedupofrainydays Wed 11-Jun-14 23:10:59

Cosmo just reminds me of cosmopolitan magazine!!
I think Percy is cute too but can see why people take the piss.

MyrtleDove Thu 12-Jun-14 00:13:12

I haven't seen this mentioned but apologies if it has been - what about Robin? Old-fashioned but not made a comeback yet, but I think it's lovely. It's also not too fussy and works for an adult as well as a little boy.

fedupofrainydays Thu 12-Jun-14 06:57:37

My husband is called robin and he hates it - being named after a bird!

singaporeswing Thu 12-Jun-14 07:40:54

As soon as I saw your DDs names, Dexter jumped into my head.

Cora, Eliza and Dexter has quite a nice flow, it's unusual and has a quirky nn.

princessdave Thu 12-Jun-14 08:38:33

fedupofrainydays my DH Robin is named after Robin Ellis, the Poldark actor! I always buy christmas cards with robins on though and he doesn't find it remotely amusing.... grin

fedupofrainydays Thu 12-Jun-14 20:10:18

Ha ha - I should do that too!!

neverenoughwine Thu 12-Jun-14 21:16:07

Reuben
Jasper
Henry
Sebastien

Or ??

Gabriel
Seth
Nate
Jude
Jedd

nasara Thu 12-Jun-14 21:19:47

We have discussed Robin, and we quite like it, but I'm friends with a Robyn (female) so it feels a bit too unisex for me.

I do quite like the name Dexter, but as we're quite big fans of the tv show, it would be a bit weird to give our son the same name.

Thanks so much for the suggestions though - I really need all the suggestions I can get!

KateTheHuman Thu 12-Jun-14 21:22:07

I'm totally struggling with boys names! At the moment we have Dylan. That's it. Need to do so much more researching to do. I've said since I was a teenager that I wanted a girl called Lily so haven't ever thought about boys names. There's not many I like. Boys! Haha.

KateTheHuman Thu 12-Jun-14 21:23:11

*Need to do so much more research. I should have read that before posting haha

OP I like all your boys' names except for Henry,Robert and Dominic

ImBrian Sun 15-Jun-14 22:36:22

I'm pregnant with my first boy after 4 girls. The only one of their names I slightly regret is because it's very popular and there were 4 in her class!

So far we both like Sebastian, I like Noah and Oscar as well but dp not so keen.

nasara Mon 16-Jun-14 20:05:34

ImBrian, I love Sebastian and Oscar - just beware that Oscar has surged in popularity I think it is in the top 10 for last year and possibly this year. Even so, in 2012 it was in the top 20, same with Noah I think.

I think we've finally decided on a name - Leon grin

Springing Mon 16-Jun-14 20:15:10

How about Lev? It's the Russian version of Leo, I love it but it was vetoed by my dh.

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