This is so annoying!!

(28 Posts)
JustDanni Thu 27-Mar-14 05:57:43

Every name the OH and myself like is awful or sounds ridiculous to my parents.
Some people just shouldn't ask if they intend on being negative about it.
We love Colton (Cole)
and Clayton (Clay)

but apparently they are pretentious and "camp"

oh piss off, mother!!

meditrina Thu 27-Mar-14 06:00:34

If you don't want people's opinions, do not solicit them.

If you only want opinions which chime with yours, then you'll probably need to pay for a compliant panel.

JustDanni Thu 27-Mar-14 06:01:34

its a little disheartening when the critics are your own parents.
shoot me for expecting a little support from them at least.

AuntieStella Thu 27-Mar-14 06:05:11

I think parents are much more likely to be honest than friends.

If you don't want to be disagreed with, don't ask the question.

Or at least not until you have named the baby, for then it would be boorish to make adverse comments.

JimbosJetSet Thu 27-Mar-14 06:11:15

If you don't want honest opinions, don't share your name choices until the baby has arrived and has been named.

thegreatgatsby101 Thu 27-Mar-14 06:24:38

I understand what the OP means.
I always think it's a bit awkward for someone if they express a real dislike for a name and then you use that name.
A girl at work did this to me. She said she hated the name I loved and that I absolutely couldn't call a baby that as it would be child cruelty blah blah. She really went off one on.

I did call my DC that name and now she says how cute it is. Yea right!

We have a name for dc2 if it is a girl and no-one will know til she arrives. Its a bit marmite, so we dont want to be put off, and I know no-one will criticise it to our faces when she arrives.

MildDrPepperAddiction Thu 27-Mar-14 06:58:06

Don't tell them. You pick the name and announce it when the baby's here.

Nishky Thu 27-Mar-14 06:58:39

It's not actually marmite is it - you do realise you have to come back and tell us when your baby is born !!

lanbro Thu 27-Mar-14 06:59:51

We told no one our names until they were born, much harder for anyone to say anything negative then!

Onesleeptillwembley Thu 27-Mar-14 07:22:38

Don't tell them then. But to be fair to them those 'names' are bloody awful.

Only1scoop Thu 27-Mar-14 07:26:04

Yes don't tell them if you don't like their reaction....<although I fear my reaction would be the same....in Rl I'd hide it as wouldn't wish to offend> grin

really1234 Thu 27-Mar-14 07:26:25

Don't tell them then. But to be fair to them those 'names' are bloody awful.

This.

To be fair if you are going to pick a name that some people won't like, then expect people not to like it. They can be more honest before the baby is born and you have named it. They are thinking of the baby being blessed/stuck with the name before it is a fait accompli.

Orangeisthenewbanana Thu 27-Mar-14 07:32:00

Agree with all above. Don't tell people in advance if you're not willing to just shrug off any negative feedback.

Not particularly keen on either of those names either I'm afraid though.

Haha Nish if that was to me I dont mind you lot knowing - Olive.

phoolani Thu 27-Mar-14 09:21:22

I love Clayton! And Clay even more. We got down to the last two choices for my ds's name before telling family what they were. and certain members of my family were outraged because they were both 'so gay'. And refused to call ds another other than 'him' or 'the little guy' for the first year of his life. Idiots. Who cares?

spideysenses Thu 27-Mar-14 11:37:10

I would choose your own names and everyone else can go to hell wink for what it's worth my mil hates all three of our childrens names especially the most recent addition, fortunately pretty much every one else loves the choices grin

bassingtonffrench Thu 27-Mar-14 11:39:37

agree don't tell them.

Cole is nice, Clay less so.

To be fair I don't like the names my in-laws gave their children and they spelt them wrong, and my parents could have done better too.

generation gap and all that.

Bowlersarm Thu 27-Mar-14 11:44:34

You shouldn't tell them. To be fair to them, if they don't like the names you are considering I think it's totally understandable they will try to change your mind.

If my DC told me those were the names they liked, I'd gently try and put them off too tbh. They aren't to my taste at all.

However, it is your baby. They had their baby naming time when they had you. It's your turn now.

JustDanni Sat 29-Mar-14 07:57:34

Thanks for the feedback.
I don't want to shut her out as she is my mother but I just wish she would stop nagging at me to tell her the names.
Anything I suggest is "gay"
From Adam to freaking Zues (just examples lol)
It's not just those names. it is ANYTHING

If her opinion doesn't kill me her nagging might.

Tea1Sugar Sat 29-Mar-14 08:08:18

Fwiw I'm with your mum on it's one. Those names are pretty dire.

alita7 Sat 29-Mar-14 11:04:10

op I do sympathise, I'm sure my mother will be the same. years ago when I was about 15 we were discussing name's hypothetically and at the time I wanted 2 girls, lily and Elizabeth. she wanted to call Elizabeth libby which I loved but my boyfriend at the time liked lily so I couldn't of used libby as well. so I said she would be Ella for short... my mum told me she would call her libby anyway (quite seriously)

and I'm sure she won't like some of our short list now, and she won't get why I can't use Elizabeth despite obvious reasons due to my dps daughter's names being too similar.

alita7 Sat 29-Mar-14 11:04:35

however I personally don't like the names you do :p

I've chosen not to share any name ideas with anyone for fear of this...I have a big family and someone is bound to make me feel crap about it then I feel they will have spoiled the name for me!
I also like the idea of surprise at the end of it all....phoning people to say its a boy/girl, weight, time of birth and name.
FWIW I love the names you mention, they are both on my list for a boy too...but I never expect to get approval on MN for them as with most of my name choices, they are not the standard MN approved names!

As long as you love the name you pick, that's all that matters!

Nishky Sat 29-Mar-14 15:10:45

mynameisken only just seen your reply-Olive is a lovely name

SimplySara Sat 29-Mar-14 16:00:58

Sharing your names with your mother or mother-in-law are the cardinal sins of baby naming. Just dont do it. No matter how old you are or how independent, there will always be that little voice in you nagging that mother knows best. Kindly thank her for her opinions so far but from now on you won't be sharing any names as you would like to surprise the family.

HectorVector Sat 29-Mar-14 16:05:13

Is Colton even a name? If it is it's awful. Don't like Clayton either to be honest.

Look your mum will be more honest with you than your friends, if you don't want her honest opinion, don't tell her.

On another note... What about Carson? Or Carlton? I think they're names at least.

BananaHammocks Sat 29-Mar-14 17:53:37

Wayne Rooney has a Klay. Just saying.

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