Leo, Toby or Stephen?

(52 Posts)
indigenoustothesofa Sat 01-Mar-14 01:29:46

Ds is 3 weeks old, and we gave him one of the names in the thread title; however, I am now freaking out about it a bit and wondering if we have made a mistake. I don't know if I actually feel bad about the name or if this is how all my having-a-newborn-baby anxiety is manifesting, but it is really starting to bother me. The other names are shortlisted ones that I would most likely use if we decided to change it. Could you please let me know what you think of each of the names, and which you like most/least? I'm not going to base my decision entirely on the MN verdict, obviously, but it would really help.

Thanks smile

DaleyBump Sat 01-Mar-14 01:40:12

I have a Tobias - nn Toby. Love it smile

crimsonwitch Sat 01-Mar-14 01:46:11

I have a Leo and he couldn't be anything else. It wasn't my favourite name at the time, but when he was born it just fit. I like the other names too, but I'm massively biased on Leo. grin

Chloerose75 Sat 01-Mar-14 01:47:29

My favourite is Toby but I think they are all fine

indigenoustothesofa Sat 01-Mar-14 02:30:44

Thanks for the responses so far! Keep them coming, please. This is now bothering me to the point that, having woken up at about half 1 to feed ds, I now can't stop thinking about it and it's keeping me awake (despite being completely shattered). Arrrghh confused

BurdenedWithGloriousPurpose Sat 01-Mar-14 02:34:56

Toby is my favourite from that list.

AdoraBell Sat 01-Mar-14 02:42:04

I'm biased towards Stephen for personal reasons. I love the name Toby though.

Toby and Leo are great. Stephen a bit dated but ok.

catsofa Sat 01-Mar-14 02:52:17

Did you only give him one of the names? Could you bung the others in as middle names in case you or he prefer one of the others later?

I think they're all great names, you won't have gone far wrong whichever one you've picked!

CalmTheFarm Sat 01-Mar-14 03:18:51

Toby is a great name, Leo is ok and Stephen seems very 70s/80s

squoosh Sat 01-Mar-14 04:09:14

I don't really like Stephen, grew up with loads of them so it seems very plain and dated to me.

Toby is nice although I think I prefer Leo best as it seems the more grown up name of the two.

Thiscarisreversing Sat 01-Mar-14 06:26:29

Tobias or Toby. Lovely. Well behaved nice child. Good grades.

Leo. Bit naughty at school with lower grades. Loveable rogue. Great snappy name.

Stephen. Retro 60's 70's name. Not quite cool though. Ross or gus are cooler.

DrankSangriaInThePark Sat 01-Mar-14 06:45:08

Stephen is classy and due a comeback. Will be the only one in his class.

Leo will be Leo A, B, or C as there are loads.

Toby is probably what Jake Brockman would really have been called. ie, he's a teenager with professional parents living in North London.

I really hope it's Stephen.

CPtart Sat 01-Mar-14 06:47:47


Bowlersarm Sat 01-Mar-14 06:53:20


tammytoby Sat 01-Mar-14 06:54:45

Another vote for Stephen. Classic and not overused these days.

Both Toby and Leo are much trendy and will sound 'dated' like Stephen when our kids are adults.

BikeRunSki Sat 01-Mar-14 06:58:06

Stephen, definitely due a comeback!
Good sturdy name. There are small Tobys and Leos all over the place.

Sparklysilversequins Sat 01-Mar-14 07:00:46

Leo is my favourite - don't agree that it's dated at all. It's an ancient name. I think it's just become more accessible. When I was growing up it was a "posh" name.

Tobias - love it.

Stephen - I like it but not as much as the others.

Bowlersarm Sat 01-Mar-14 07:01:32

I don't agree with tammy. I know/know of Toby's from children to sixties and all ages in between. It means it won't date.

wigglesrock Sat 01-Mar-14 07:13:28

I like them all, I really like Leo, although where I am, it's an older man's name - I know quite a lot of 70 year olds called Leo.

S is my husband's name so I quite like it smile , it's never shortened - no nickname, I know a 4 year old Stephen & it's really nice when you hear his mum call it.

I like Toby as well, probably not as much as the other two but probably because I don't hear it very often.

atthestrokeoftwelve Sat 01-Mar-14 07:14:25

I think they are all good names. You can't go wrong with any of them.

SelectAUserName Sat 01-Mar-14 07:19:29

I like all of them. Toby and Leo probably just edge ahead of Stephen as I'm not such a fan of "Steve" as a nickname.

TamerB Sat 01-Mar-14 07:22:46

I like Stephen and really think it is due for a comeback. You can't really go wrong with any of them.

Shockers Sat 01-Mar-14 07:28:46

I work in a primary school; we have no boys called Toby, Tobias or Leo, but we do have a Steven ( not Stephen).
There is one Toby that I know of in DS's year at high school.

TamerB Sat 01-Mar-14 07:33:48

I bet OP has called her baby Stephen- just a hunch because it is unusual at the moment. I really like it and I like Stephanie too.

NadiaWadia Sat 01-Mar-14 07:39:18

I really like Stephen, it's classic. Leo is fine, but maybe it should be short for something else.

Not particularly fond of Toby I knew a few dogs called this seems a little bit silly somehow to me. Makes me think of that bald bloke Toby Young who wrote 'How to Lose Friends and Alienate People'.
Sorry - probably not helpful!

bishbashboosh Sat 01-Mar-14 07:41:37

Leo definitely

tumbletumble Sat 01-Mar-14 07:42:21


SanityClause Sat 01-Mar-14 07:46:06

I know a Leo who is a smug little git (he's about 12) so that would put me off that name. I'm sure not all Leos are like that, though.

I do like Toby. I think Tobias is better. It sounds very Dickensian.

Stephen is a bit meh.

kimlo Sat 01-Mar-14 08:13:39

I like stephen best then Toby

I dont like leo

Shroomboom Sat 01-Mar-14 08:19:59

I prefer Toby, then Leo. Really couldn't name a child Stephen but that's probably because it's my dad's name grin

ButEmilylovedhim Sat 01-Mar-14 08:28:05

I like Stephen most of those three, but they're all nice.

SingingGerbil Sat 01-Mar-14 08:31:06

If I ever had another DS, he would be called Toby.

curiousgeorgie Sat 01-Mar-14 08:31:40

Love Toby!

HyvaPaiva Sat 01-Mar-14 08:35:56


Toby and Leo are softer sounds, a bit too 'cutesy' for my liking. For me, anyway, names like those sound fine on a toddler but not so much for an adult.

TamerB Sat 01-Mar-14 08:41:59

It seems that you can relax OP, whichever you chose is perfectly acceptable to the majority!

Coconutty Sat 01-Mar-14 08:44:14

Leo is nice and Stephen but I really dislike Toby, no idea why it's so popular.

indigenoustothesofa Sat 01-Mar-14 09:26:13

Thanks everyone smile TamerB - you're right, we did name him Stephen! However, despite the responses here being largely pro-Stephen, and still liking it myself, I still feel uneasy with it as a name for our baby... have just discussed this with DH and we have agreed to a 'trial run' of Leo, and I already feel like a weight's been lifted so suspect we will switch. Will be a bit embarrassing having to tell everyone we've changed our minds - ah well!

Thanks again for the replies, they've really helped me get my head around things.

Both Tobias and Leo nice but not STEVE!

NadiaWadia Sat 01-Mar-14 09:37:36

That's a shame, Stephen was great, but Leo is nice enough.

pilates Sat 01-Mar-14 09:52:32

Toby and agree with CTF, Stephen is very 70's.

Trooperslane Sat 01-Mar-14 10:03:39

Love Leo

Caff2 Sat 01-Mar-14 11:31:49

I love Leo too, as I have one, but to be honest, it took me a while to get used to it, somehow.

scarletforya Sat 01-Mar-14 11:38:12

Leo is nice.

Stephen is a classic.

I don't like Toby, it's in the same family as Rupert, Jeremy etc

Mireio Mon 03-Mar-14 00:19:25

I definitely prefer Stephen. It's really underused right now, and it's a handsome classic.

CointreauVersial Mon 03-Mar-14 00:27:22


crimsonwitch Mon 03-Mar-14 01:21:01

My Leo (6) is the only one in his class with that name. It is gaining on popularity but that doesn't bother me. I don't agree that it will sound dated when he is older, I think it fits any age group.

mammmamia Mon 03-Mar-14 01:34:14

Leo def

TickleMyTitsTillFriday Mon 03-Mar-14 02:35:37

Leo without a doubt!

BlackberryandNettle Mon 03-Mar-14 21:41:39

Well they are all nice, Stephen is the odd one out I suppose as know loads in the 30-40 age range. Stephen/ Stevie/ Steve is a great name though and kind of cool as not many babies around with it. Love Leo and Toby - Toby is on our list and Leo was on mine but DH not keen, really not sure why!!

CoffeeChocolateWine Mon 03-Mar-14 21:48:45

Leo is my favourite, followed closely by Toby and Stephen quite a distant third.

I don't dislike the name Stephen, but I really dislike Steve.

HoneyandRum Mon 03-Mar-14 22:49:45

Leo was my fav and then read your update OP - Leo just has a dynamism especially as it can't be shortened.

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