Thoughts on Foster as a boy's name

(84 Posts)
Amiasmummy Mon 13-Jan-14 20:29:14

I know it's not going to be everyone's cup of tea and to be honest, when my OH first suggested it I wasn't a fan. I thought people would think he was named after the beer. BUT it's really grown on me and now out of the few names we have agreed on it has become my favourite. (The beer thing obviously no longer bothers me). What are people's thoughts on the name? (Without being plain rude please) grin

saintmerryweather Mon 13-Jan-14 20:35:13

Its fine as a surname

Lozza70 Mon 13-Jan-14 20:47:21

I know some people with Foster as a first name. Seems very normal to me but might be an Irish thing. Generally of an older generation though.

I don't like it, makes me think of foster care.

Farahilda Mon 13-Jan-14 20:56:21

Definitely lager.

Would make a good sibset with Stella.

StrawberryMojito Mon 13-Jan-14 20:58:57

I don't like it. No particular reason, I just don't think it sounds good. Fine as a surname though.

Theonlyoneiknow Mon 13-Jan-14 21:11:01

What about Forbes?

In that surnamey name way it reminds me of Cooper, or Carter, both of which i prefer - I know a Carter, and he is lovely.

However, it's your choice and wouldn't make me hmm if that is what you are asking

Maddison7Harrison22 Mon 13-Jan-14 23:48:08

People are always going to have different opinions. I s.get told that Maddison is a boys name but I love it for my little girl. Forget what other people think. It's not as bad as some of the names I have heard around my way. (Not going to mention any just in case haha)

toobreathless Tue 14-Jan-14 00:59:56

I just can't see past the beer,

Harris
Harrison
Fletcher
Cooper
Carter
Taylor
Peyton
Paxton
Pierce
Porter
Evan
Justin
Rohan
Roman
Clark
Reuben
Brennan
Tate
Hudson

Any good??

Spaghettinetti Tue 14-Jan-14 09:54:33

As long as your surname's not 'Wheeler'... Seriously, you could end up giving your son the name of an engineering company or something...I'd do a google search before putting it on the birth certificate! :-)

ButEmilylovedhim Tue 14-Jan-14 09:56:06

Makes me think of foster care too.

HavantGuard Tue 14-Jan-14 09:57:38

Child

Writerwannabe83 Tue 14-Jan-14 10:14:39

I know 3 people who called their dogs after beers and all it screamed was Chav grin

Obviously I know your son isn't a dog and would never think of a child as a Chav but that link would always be at the back of my mind...

I think those who are making references to Foster Care and Foster children also have a point.

However, as everyone says on MN, it's your child and your choice - if you really like it then go for it smile

MrsPatMustard Tue 14-Jan-14 14:36:56

My great-uncle was called Foster, so it's always had positive associations for me. I think it's a lovely name.

Wishfulmakeupping Tue 14-Jan-14 14:38:23

Carter and Porter are literally a million times better

ToffeeJungle Tue 14-Jan-14 14:43:03

I like a lot of the surnamey type names but not Foster Im afraid.

Much prefer the likes of Jackson, Wilson, Harrison, Cooper, Parker, Ellis and Cole.

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:03:54

Sorry, for me it is larger too.

But should say I don't really like surnamey names.

squoosh Tue 14-Jan-14 15:33:34

Will it make him your foster-son?

hawkmcqueen Wed 15-Jan-14 07:07:31

I really like surname first names when it has a family connection, I.e. mothers maiden name. I know a family with this surname so it is familiar and I wouldn't bat an eyelid. However I think it's a bit random if there's no family connection BUT overall I do like it!

Hoolit Wed 15-Jan-14 07:15:09

It was nearly my ds name as is a family name. I like it but used it as a middle name as I didn't want him known as Foss. Ds is 13 now and said he wouldn't have minded it had we used it although he didn't like his dads other choice !

Rollermum Wed 15-Jan-14 07:28:21

I generally like surname names but my first thought was foster care too, sorry. If you love it though, it doesn't matter a name quickly becomes normal to those who know the baby IYSWIM.

Amiasmummy Tue 28-Jan-14 21:31:48

Oops! Didn't mean to boycott my own post blush I completely forgot about it. Thank you for all the feedback. Despite some of the negativity, I still like Foster as a name. We also have Vinnie, Joel (my choice) and Aston (OHs choice) on the short list, although we're still leaning towards Foster (cute nn: fozzy). Other names I like are Arlo, Harrison, Logan, Braeden. OH likes Leon, Aaron, Darrell, Liam. (Neither of us liked the other ones choices) We still have 6 weeks till D-day so plenty of time to keep looking and see what feels right when we meet him smile

RabbitPies Wed 29-Jan-14 09:09:13

Hate it and I generally love surname type names,but no,just no. Not with the beer and foster care associations,and it has an unpleasant sound.

Joel is a wonderful name.

Amiasmummy Wed 29-Jan-14 16:20:48

An unpleasant sound?? I'm not even sure what that means tbh... I do love Joel on paper, but the more I say it out loud I seem to go off it sad

notso Wed 29-Jan-14 16:39:23

I was going to say I wasn't keen on it because it is a word. I heard it loads as a word at college and can't think of it as anything else.
BUT
I read your second post and think the nn Fozzy is really cute!
I am not keen on Vinnie, Joel or Aston at all, I think Foster is better than those.

I do like Arlo, Leon, Aaran and Liam though.

starfishmummy Wed 29-Jan-14 16:46:33

Foster was traditionally used in my Mum's family after a lady with that surname married into it in the 1800's. However it was used as a middle name for the boys only

QOD Wed 29-Jan-14 16:51:35

I like it, who cares what anyone thinks though if YOU like it

Summerwood1 Wed 29-Jan-14 16:52:17

No, it sound like he's in foster care,sorry!!

Summerwood1 Wed 29-Jan-14 16:52:37

Fraser?

NadiaWadia Wed 29-Jan-14 18:12:40

Foster care, exactly. Then there's the beer. Fine as a surname only.

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 10:57:07

Thank you notso and QOD grin
I still like the name Foster regardless of negative comments. I'm surprised to see so many saying 'it sounds like he's in foster care'. Growing up I was very close to 2 families who fostered and the children were never referred to as 'foster' - they had their own names?! Lol. Plus when I think of foster care I think of just that - care/caring. So not a negative connotation for me, although in all honesty I didn't think of foster care at all when OH first suggested the name. As for the lager. It DID bother me at first but I very quickly got past that when thinking of Foster as a name in its own right. It was a name long before the lager came along (and no, not just a surname).
It's not set in stone, but still very much in the running despite you nay sayers wink

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 11:07:36

Oh, and thank you Summerwood for your name suggestion. Although I neither like nor dislike Fraser

notso Thu 30-Jan-14 11:15:13

As long as your surname isn't Care or Austrailianforbeer those connections won't matter anyway grin
If you love it use it!

GiniCooper Thu 30-Jan-14 11:18:56

Ya, fozzy is cute. hmm

Foster wouldn't register as a name for me.
Fester out of the Addams family does.

If I saw the name Foster Smith written down I would assume the parents drank a lot of cheap Lager.

UriGeller Thu 30-Jan-14 11:25:45

If those are your alternatives then I think you'd better go with Foster.

Hopefully he'll become a doctor.

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 12:05:42

And go to Gloucester, right Uri? (Because all doctors go by their first names) lol
To be fair you can pick holes in any name if you try hard enough, and MNers will certainly do that. What's wrong with a simple 'not to my taste' if you dislike a name, and perhaps offering other ideas. I'll never understand why people feel the need to be so blunt (rude) just because they're hiding behind a keyboard. 99% of people aren't so openly rude in RL I'm sure.

Oldandcobwebby Thu 30-Jan-14 12:12:12

I'm amazed how negative this thread is! I don't know any Fosters IRL, but I like the idea of it.

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 12:22:27

Thank you cobwebby grin it's like people dismissing the (perfectly lovely) name Felix just because it's a brand of cat food. Or Hunter, because they're welly boots... I don't think you can ever 'win' on MN anyway. People either think a name is too posh/common/chavvy/unusual, or have negative connotations for various (often vague) reasons.

notso Thu 30-Jan-14 12:27:59

Don't get sucked in to it Amiiasmummy my DC names have been described as chav, posh, try hard, hipster, easily dated, cutesy, boring, terrible on here.
Only one stands any hope apparently of being a high court judge, Prime Minister or news reader, their CV's will be binned as they don't have proper names.
Almost everyone in RL says "oh what lovely names your DC have"!
In fact the only bad comments I have had are about the only one who has an acceptable high court judge name!

notso Thu 30-Jan-14 12:29:13

Sorry I added an extra i in your name then!

GiniCooper Thu 30-Jan-14 12:36:21

If you ask for an opinion that's what you're going to get.
I don't find the replies on here rude TBH but then I don't have fuzzy (or fozzy) feelings about the name. You've invested emotion into it.

We are the outsiders who will have a different view, not the hormonal, 'why can't you all agree with me and think it's the most fabulous unique name ever' view.

Needadvice5 Thu 30-Jan-14 12:38:26

I immediately thought of Dr Foster went to Gloucester...

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 13:06:32

Thanks notso. I'm not phased by it tbh. I kind of expected a mixed review and posted more to see if the negativity bothers me/ changes my mind rather than anything else. My thought being that if I can deal with MN negativity then any RL negativity won't be an issue either wink

I hold my hands up. I DID ask for people's opinions, and the majority of the responses (negative or not) I don't find rude at all. However a couple of comments I feel are a bit 'snorty', but then again nowhere near as rude as comments I've seen on other threads - so I probably shouldn't complain grin

PenguinsDontEatKale Thu 30-Jan-14 14:24:12

Personally I am not keen. For me, I don't associate it with a first name, so the 'real word' associations of fostering or Fosters the beer would be strongest in my mind.

I am also not, at a personal taste level, that keen on 'surname as first name' as a trend, so I was never a likely candidate to love it.

I don't think that there's anything inherently 'wrong' with it though. Objectively it is no different from Harrison or whatever. I like loads of names on your other shortlist though smile

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 16:13:30

Thanks penguin for your input. Your post is the perfect example of how to disagree with someone's opinion in the politest possible way smile

PenguinsDontEatKale Thu 30-Jan-14 16:43:24

The thing is, 99.9% of baby naming is just personal taste isn't it? I don't expect people to like the same cake/music/films/holidays as me, so why should they like the same names? If someone asks my opinion I will say, but only in the same vein as if they asked if I liked a new band or something.

Ok, so there are some names that are just wrong. If you said "my surname is Bond, can I name my son James?" or "I think Adolf is due a revival" or "My daughter is called Paula, can I call my son Paul?" I would be a bit more forthright grin. But other than that, I really don't see that it's black and white.

Although Foster still wouldn't be my choice, I have to admit Fozzy is growing on me as a cute childhood nickname. Just don't go on to have a daughter called Stella wink

williaminajetfighter Thu 30-Jan-14 16:48:05

I like but it does make me think of bananas foster -mmmmm

Writerwannabe83 Thu 30-Jan-14 16:57:28

as soon as I saw the thread title I immediately thought of the beer - as will most other people. My second thought process was one involving my sisters ex-partner who was really chavvy and called his pet dog after a beer.

Weirdly enough, three of your other 'possible' names were also on mine and DH's list for our son smile - including the one we have finally opted for (baby due in 7 weeks). smile

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 16:58:38

Haha!! Penguin, I do solemnly swear never to call my future-maybe-daughter Stella grin
Williamina, I'd never heard of banana foster (sheltered life). Just googled and it looks and sounds delicious!

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 17:03:59

Writer, we're due really close together! My due date is 7 weeks from today, although I'm being induced at 39 weeks. We're not definite on the name yet. I'm incredibly jealous that you and your oh have decided already. I find boys names a lot harder than girls names confused

Writerwannabe83 Thu 30-Jan-14 17:09:46

I'm having an ELCS at 39+3. EDD is officially the 28th March but he's coming on the 24th smile

We initially had lots of girls names planned (I was convinced it was going to be a girl) so when we found out at 16 weeks it was a boy me and DH were stumped!!! We really, really struggled.

Initially we really liked Liam and then for a very long time we were very keen on Harrison. However, about 3 weeks ago my husband suggested Arran (pronounced A-run, to rhyme with barren) and now we are pretty much settled on that. So between finding out the sex and actually deciding upon the name it still took us 14 weeks smile

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 17:23:52

My EDD is 20th March, but being induced on 13th. Mainly to preserve my sanity as dd was sadly stillborn in 2010 so I've been a bag of nerves with this pregnancy confused

I love the names Liam and Harrison but a v. close friend has a Liam and I have a cousin called Harry. I love Arran, but oh was intent on the Aaron spelling with I'm not overly keen on as people would pronounce it air-on. We found out the sex at 21 weeks, so have had a good 12 weeks of disagreeing on names grin

Wishing you all the best with your CS thanks

Locketjuice Thu 30-Jan-14 17:25:58

I would think his parents loved beer and thought it was funny sorry!

Writerwannabe83 Thu 30-Jan-14 17:32:29

Thankfully DH was adamant not have the spelling Aaron as he doesn't like the air-on pronunciation, neither do I - so I completely understand your reluctance. We had to rule out Liam as my sister has got a little boy called William and we thought it was just too similar.

I'm very sorry to hear about your daughter, how awful. The very best of luck with your induction, I hope everything turns out as it should and that your nerves don't taint the experience too much thanks

chipsandpeas Thu 30-Jan-14 17:32:49

im another one who would associate it with the lager

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 17:52:23

Thank you writer. I have been watched very closely since 20 weeks which has helped to reassure me. And although I'm nervous I've still cherished every moment of this pregnancy. Hoping the next 6 weeks go quickly! smile And darn those friends and family with awesome boys names. There are a fair few that I like but can't use for those reasons.

Lots of lager lovers on this thread! wink

PenguinsDontEatKale Thu 30-Jan-14 18:00:05

Sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Is Amia the name of your daughter? It is a really beautiful name. x

lljkk Thu 30-Jan-14 18:01:16

I went to school with a Forest nn = Frosty.
I share MN conservatives tastes, so of your alternatives, I like best Liam & Joel.
Good luck. Forget what other people think, I would NEVER ask people online for advice on names but it's a guilty pleasure to reply to these threads.

lljkk Thu 30-Jan-14 18:02:41

ps: late Xpost...my step-sis's husband has same name as DS1. It never even crossed my mind to think that was a conflict. Lots of names get repeated in families, it's doesn't have to be a problem.

AvonCallingBarksdale Thu 30-Jan-14 18:03:35

Foster (child)
Foster (son)
Foster (care)
and don't forget the beer!
Not massively keen.
I like Joel.

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 18:13:14

Thank you penguin thanks Yes, Amia is my daughter's name. It means 'beloved' and just seemed right.

Amiasmummy Thu 30-Jan-14 18:16:51

lljkk, that's a valid point but we're using a family name as a middle name so would really rather not use family names (or similar to) for first name.

Babytalkobsession Sat 01-Feb-14 09:25:11

I like it and didn't think of any of the associations mentioned here. The beer is Fosters not Foster btw...totally different imo. Love the nn too.

Go for it if you love it.

Amiasmummy Sat 01-Feb-14 11:10:20

Thanks babytalk, it's reassuring to know that not everyone is beer obsessed grin

koltonsmomm Wed 05-Feb-14 13:56:24

We had our second son in October and we named him Foster and call him Fozzy! My husband picked it and I loved it right away. When we told our friends and family pretty much everyone loved his name! It is a pretty unique name and names grow on everyone! I say go for it!

koltonsmomm Wed 05-Feb-14 13:56:39

x

koltonsmomm Wed 05-Feb-14 13:59:53

Another name we loved just in case you may like it too is Callahan.

Amiasmummy Wed 05-Feb-14 20:01:35

That's fab Koltonsmomm!! I still think it's a lovely name, and it will likely end up being 'the one' grin We've not found another name we prefer. I love the fact that it's not commonly used! OH is very smug, as it was his suggestion. Lol.

Callahan is quite a cool name, but not grabbing me... possibly one too many syllables to go with the rest of the name. Foster (Fozzy) still wins wink

BobaFetaCheese Thu 06-Feb-14 18:11:00

I didn't like it at first (first thought was the doctor, forgot about the beer) but the nickname Fozzy is amazing!!
You should call him Foster Edward so he can be Fozzie Bear, although not sure the class of 2020 will know who he is?

I like Arran & Joel too, thought prefer William to Liam.

I find boys names hard, both of ours were nameless for days/weeks as we couldn't agree....and ds2 is on his third first name at 6 months!

Amiasmummy Thu 06-Feb-14 19:19:13

I love the nn Fozzy Bear grin may have to invest in a little bow tie and bowler hat lol. He would be Foster Richard though (family name) - hopefully the nn Fozzy Dick won't catch on!?

BobaFetaCheese Thu 06-Feb-14 22:28:31

I doubt Dick for Richard will be in the conciousness of most of his peers, as Richard is such an uncommon name now it'll probably be Fozzy Richie/Rik, it's no Fozzy Bear but it's still nice grin

I have a godawful, very bully-able (new word!) middle name (which is really popular on MN) and it wasn't discovered by my school chums until 6th form (someone read a file), so if he's not a fan of it or makes the Dick connection, he may not mention it?

Amiasmummy Fri 07-Feb-14 10:47:45

In all honesty, we're not likely to refer to him by his full name on a regular basis - so I don't think it would be an issue grin

I'm intrigued to know what your middle name is now! Lol

ZingSweetApple Fri 07-Feb-14 11:05:17

No

Beer or Foster care - just why? there are so many wonderful names out there.

I never get these weird ones

Umlauf Fri 07-Feb-14 11:17:29

I'm not keen either, I hadn't thought of the beer but did think of foster care, but mainly because I'm not too sure on the aesthetics of it. I do think it is more difficult to find prettier sounding boys' names though. I think it's the harsher consonants of the s and t together, whereas Arron/Arran, Liam, Joel are all softer sounds.

I really like Forrest though, someone previously mentioned that name, lovely!

Amiasmummy Fri 07-Feb-14 11:52:39

I quite like Forrest! OH isn't keen though hmm

Vicki070712 Fri 07-Feb-14 14:53:27

I love Foster, had it on my list people did mention the beer thing too as we already had a wee boy called Miller which some people did ask if he was named after the beer but he's not, just like surname 1st names. We ended up calling our other baby Cooper. Other names we considered were,
Fletcher
Tate
Leighton
Harris

Amiasmummy Fri 07-Feb-14 19:38:34

I'm glad I'm not the only one who loves the name smile And I'm glad you didn't let other people's opinions deter you from naming your son Miller - what a great name! As is Cooper.

I don't necessarily gravitate towards surnamey names. I'm not sure that I could actually categorise the style of names that I like - I just like what I like (mn approved or not) lol

colditz Fri 07-Feb-14 19:43:41

Don't, it's horrid.

Amiasmummy Fri 07-Feb-14 20:32:53

That's your opinion, not fact.

ZingSweetApple Fri 07-Feb-14 20:44:17

Amia

you did ask for opinions though - did you not? hmm

Amiasmummy Fri 07-Feb-14 21:00:15

Guilty as charged. Although, being relatively new to nn, I didn't realise the full extent of the manners shortage at the time I started this thread blush There are nicer ways to disagree with someone's preference than 'Don't. It's horrid'

I've previously said that I'm still open to name suggestions, which would be more helpful than flippant (and sometimes hurtful) comments.

ZingSweetApple Fri 07-Feb-14 21:37:52

ok, but I think it's still better that total strangers are honest with you than your family and friends are being polite, but possibly thinking the same.

if someone thinks it's horrid it's a valid opinion and not rude because it wasn't unpropmted!
you do need to realize you will get what you asked for!wink

colditz Sat 08-Feb-14 09:46:22

I wasn't being flippant, it's horrid. A large proportion of people who meet your son will feel sorry for him because of a choice you made. is that what you were aiming for?

You asked for opinions. Maybe you need to suffix that with "but not opinions I don't agree with"

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