Need a "won't be one of seven in his class" boy name!

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Me again... still don't know what we're having but I realised that I hadn't given much thought to what if it's a boy... and now that everyone I know thinks I'm having a boy, I realised I'd probably better get a move on grin all the names I love for a boy, I'm worried (not too worried - not enough to put me off a name completely, I don't think) that he'll be one of six or seven in his class. Here are the names I like a lot (some have particular reasons for choosing them)

Dylan - I want Welsh in there somewhere but this is one of the only Welsh first names I like (grew up in a very very Welsh village where all the boys had Welsh names and they've put me off them!). Also love Dylan Thomas, which is what attracted us to the name in the first place. But seems like every classroom has four Dylans in it right now.

Tobias nn Toby - I really like it but not sure it's 'right' for us, OH loves it but there was a character in a children's film and he keeps saying the name in a Scottish accent and it drives me insane grin plus with Divergent coming out next year, it's going to become popular.

Rory - OH likes it, I think it's cute, just can't find a middle name (and Rory The Tiger/Rory The Racing Car puts me off)

Oscar - I love this one, but OH has a distant friend with a son called this and apparently it's reason enough not to use it, but last night he said he does really like it.

Alexander - I think it's a bit more 'classic' than my other choices. I'm just not keen on the nickname Alex, I much prefer Xand or Xander (a la Alexander Armstrong wink ) which I'm worried people think is too 'trendy' or whatever. OH really likes it too.

Tristan - OH really likes this, it's a nod to his and his family's passion for medieval history. I like it but hated the character in Stardust and also knew a very annoying boy with this name but different spelling.

Christopher - OH likes it. I don't.

Archie - Would be short for Archer. We're both quite keen on this one.

Joseph - Would probably be known as Joe. Again, just worried he'll be one of many in his classroom.

Basically I'm after opinions on whether the boys would be one of many with all these names, and any others similar to my choices (so not Clement or Horatio) that might be better?

Names I like but we can't use -
Monty - it's the name of my car hmm
Alfie - Friend's sister is due month before me and they're calling their little boy Alfie.

TobyLerone Sat 04-Jan-14 10:08:16

I have a Joseph (Joe). It's an excellent name. There have always been a couple in his schools (he's 14 now) and he's one of two Joes in his rugby team, but he's not bothered. It's not the most popular name, but he'll probably never be the only one anyone knows.

It's such a great name, though. It suits boys/men at all ages. It's popular for a reason.

Tristan is on our list for DC3 (due tomorrow) if it's a boy. I love Rory. Always have. It's a possibility for us. But I think it's probably getting up there with Joseph in the popularity stakes.
Ditto Alexander, which is also lovely.

Not so keen on Oscar. I think it's dating very quickly and also it's a dog's name.

And Toby is fab grin

SavoyCabbage Sat 04-Jan-14 10:08:40

Seems to me that you both like Alexander and the only reason that you aren't having it is in case other people think Xander is over the top. Which is madness. You both like it. It's not overly popular (like Oscar) and it's a fine name.

People are going to be judging you constantly anyway. Whether he wears a hat or on the way home from the hospital. What pram you have. What you feed him. What school you choose, whT hat you wear at his wedding.

Wibblytummy Sat 04-Jan-14 10:09:03

A lovely list of names. If it's any help we've got a Tristan, I've never come across another at any of his groups/classes, no one ever mentions the stardust character when they hear it and it's a lovely nod to my DH welsh roots as well smile

FilthyFeet Sat 04-Jan-14 10:12:39

If your priority is not having a 'common' name then you should look to the classics, imho:


Or if your DH likes Tristan, how about Tristram? (which I personally think is a bit try-hard, but at least there won't be dozens of them).

brokenhearted55a Sat 04-Jan-14 10:43:10

Love all the classics suggested by filthyfeet.

or you could pick something unusual:


RightInTheKisser Sat 04-Jan-14 11:12:32

I am a teacher and I have been teaching for 10 years. I have never taught more than two children with the same name in a class.

Go with the name you like. I have never taught a Joseph for instance but have taught a couple of Tristans.

elvesavleftdabildin Sat 04-Jan-14 11:21:15

Etc - now that is unusual. shock

I know of a few Rorys. Dont know any Dylans, Tristans or Tobys.

Archie, Alfie, Josephs are ten a penny round my way (NE)

Id go for Tristan Alexander

blackandwhiteandredallover Sat 04-Jan-14 11:25:33

If you want something Welsh how about:


all fab names!

NigellasDealer Sat 04-Jan-14 11:25:35

Alexander is a great, classic name, and Xander is not too 'out there' - later he can choose to be Alex/Alec/Xander

Griff (Griffin) - this was on our boys list along wih Travis. Had a DD though.

TheNightIsDark Sat 04-Jan-14 11:28:42

I have a Jack. He's one of one in his class grin

I like your list except Tristan. It sounds really weak (no offence to any Tristan owners!)

OhCaptainDarling Sat 04-Jan-14 11:29:35

My god you are me OP..blush Due to have a boy in 2 wks and I'm having the same problem. And we like the same names too.

Alexander, I agree about Alex. For us Xander or Ander as a nn.

Tristan too, I like but DH can't make up his made if it's wet or not.

We have discounted John nn Johnny as we already to a few older members of our family called John. Would that work for you?

cheminotte Sat 04-Jan-14 11:35:36

If you like Alexander go with that. I know a few Xanders. But be aware you cannot stop him being called Alex later on. So if you'd really hate that then go with a name where you like all possible nicknames too.

ShadowFall Sat 04-Jan-14 11:39:17

If you're worried about name popularity, it might be an idea to dig out the most recently published set of offical babyname stats to see where your suggested names rank.

Obviously there's regional variations in naming, and names sometimes get more popular very quickly, so no guarantees, but kids with lower ranking names are less likely to be one of 7 in a class.

We're in Wales which is why we're worried Dylan is likely to be really popular as that's our favourite at the minute. Alexander is a close second at the moment, and I'm not fussed on what others call him really, I don't mind Alex that much - he'd probably be Xander to us but Alex to everyone else which is fine by me grin

Little boy in my family called Jack so can't go for Jack otherwise it'd probably be top of the boys list.

blackandwhite Thanks for the suggestions smile
OH hates Gethin
Huw is the name of my lecturer grin
Rhys is very likely going to be the middle name as it's a family name
Geraint is OH's Dad's name
I'm not keen on Tomos

At the moment our top 3 is looking like

Dylan Rhys
Alexander Rhys
Toby Rhys

Thanks for all the advice!

TheArticFunky Sat 04-Jan-14 13:16:39

You never can tell what will be popular in your sons cohort.

There are two little boys in ds's nursery class with the same very unusual name that I had never heard of before.

The name Jack was number 1 for years and years and yet we have never come across a single one.

TheNightIsDark Sat 04-Jan-14 13:17:02

Alexander is good. I have an Alexandra who currently answers to Lex although I love Alex for a girl so I'm working on her grin

She's only called Alexandra at home. People will always use their own nicknames if you tell them the child's full name. If you say "this is Xander" then they will more and likely refer to him as Xander.

Coconutty Sat 04-Jan-14 13:20:24

I know loads of Toby's and would avoid if you don't want an overused name.

Tristan is too wet imo. Along the lines of Timmy.

DoTheStrand Sat 04-Jan-14 13:28:37

I love Dylan though it is v popular (and we are nowhere near Wales). Tristan is my favourite of all your suggestions and I've never actually met one.

My DS2 is Cassian - we've had nothing but positive reactions to it though no one had ever heard it before (and we hadn't met another until I took him to a new dentist who me with a big grin and said 'I've got a Cassian! Never met another before.')

EvilTwins Sat 04-Jan-14 13:30:32

My friend has an Archie whose full name is Archer. At the time she thought she was being original, but now knows of 2 other Archers the same age.

DoTheStrand Sat 04-Jan-14 13:32:22

Oh and as i think someone else said look locally, don't go by the national lists - unusual names do seem to occur in clusters (either chance or people overhearing round town...)

GimmeDaBoobehz Sat 04-Jan-14 13:45:42

I like all these names except Tristan. It just sounds too Americanised to me and seems a little too try hard - but that's only my personal opinion.

I know an Alexander who is called Alex and it's classic but not overly popular. It wont be spelt incorrectly and there is a number of nicknames that are available, as well as the full name.

I like Rory but whenever I think of Rory I think of an Irish name not that it's a problem of course. It's a lovely name and I would consider using it myself with DC2.

Archie is a nice name but my partners dog is called Archie so would seem weird for me personally but I think it's cute. But cute names sometimes don't carry when they are grown up.

My sisters dog is called Toby so wouldn't be in our list but it is a nice name.

Dylan is nice but I imagine would be very popular in Wales.

Joseph is simple and OK although wouldn't be on my list personally.

Oscar reminds me of the cat in the adverts but it's a nice name and is my cousins name.

Christopher is pretty generic and you can't go wrong with it.

As far as name suggestions perhaps a few of these might be useful as you seem to like similar names to us:

Charlie (Charles)

I am sure there must be others just a couple of suggestions that you may like.

ISpyPlumPie Sat 04-Jan-14 13:52:22

I'd agree that just because a name is popular it doesn't automatically mean you'll come across loads of them. DS1's name is now top 5, but so far he's been the only one in his class. There were however two boys with the same name that is somewhere in the 110's (only know this as it happened to be next to Ds2's name in the list, I'm not some strange baby name rankings obsessive grin)

I like all the names on your shortlist of three. Toby was a serious contender for DS2. I couldn't use Alexander due to nightmare ex though - such a waste of a perfectly good name!

absentmindeddooooodles Sat 04-Jan-14 13:57:04

Love alexander. I considered it for ds. Others we liked were:


We ended up calling him jude smile

WidowWadman Sat 04-Jan-14 14:00:48

If my youngest had been a boy we'd have called her Leander.

TheNightIsDark Sat 04-Jan-14 14:01:05

I love Loki. It would've suited DS1 to a t. I wasn't brave enough though. And we would had to have called DS2 Thor and I can't say the 'th' sound reliably blush

ilovesmurfs Sat 04-Jan-14 14:06:04

i have a dylan, he is 9 and the only one in his class.

i have an oscar who is 11 and the onky one in his yr group but it has got more popular in the under fives but according to ons statistics it fell down the list last year so is becoming less popular.

i also have a theo who has always been the only one (14) but it is more popular now.

bizarely ds4 is rudi, not a popular name at all but when he started reception thete was another rudi! however he and the other rudi love that thete is someone else with their name.

so ime you can choose an unusual name and still end up with another in your class.

alfie, archie, tom, finn/finlay are popular names where we are.

if you look at the ons statistucs there is a bit where they give you the most popular names according to region.

Thanks again for all the comments smile

Other names that I absolutely adore but OH isn't keen on are Noah, Theo and Finlay. I love the name Ellis but a horrendous ex put paid to that idea sad

I'm not too worried about there being others in the class with the name to be honest... I think it's just that I'm so used to never having met anyone with my name (I'm a Madison, named before it became hideously popular grin ) that I can't quite get my head around it grin

BikeRunSki Sat 04-Jan-14 14:16:43


ilovesmurfs Sat 04-Jan-14 14:20:31

noah and toby are names of a few little ones ie under threes here.

just choose a name you like.

i wouldnt choose a top ten name and when wr chose oscar and theo they werent even in the top 100 names, they are now tho.

our dd has a name that is only givem to about 30 babies a year, its not even in the top 500 names but i met someone recently who said their grandaughter had the same name.

DaleyBump Sat 04-Jan-14 14:34:25

I have a Tobias (nn Toby). Never even heard of another. I think it's a beautiful name smile

Footle Sat 04-Jan-14 14:39:40

My hobby is looking at initials. If your surname starts with S, don't call him Alexander Rhys. No small Tobies around here (NW UK) but it's my favourite of your list. I'm old though. If you're in Welsh-speaking Wales, are you happy with the Welsh pronunciation ?

Worriedthistimearound Sat 04-Jan-14 15:59:15

My Alexander is Alex but I also know one known as Lex which is cool.

flatmum Sat 04-Jan-14 16:09:57

I also have a 9y old Dylan - only one in his school, but we're in the SE. I think it is a really lovely name (obviously) - He gets called Dyl, Dilly, Dils, Dips etc all of which suit him too (never be under any illusions that the name wont be nicknamed or shortened by his friends - it will!).

I think if you like Dylan go for it - is it really still that popular in Wales?

flatmum Sat 04-Jan-14 16:11:09

oh and round here the popular names with multiples in classes are:


Footle Sat 04-Jan-14 16:20:16

Oops, I meant Welsh pron of Dylan.

flatmum - I'm worried it will be really popular with the 100th anniversary of Dylan Thomas's birth this year, and every name thread I read, everyone seems to say "avoid Dylan, it's overused".

footle I'm not sure what pronounciation we'll be using - his family are Welsh and mine are English so it's a bit of a Gavin and Stacey situation blush needs to be something they'd all be able to pronounce, and I don't want to be correcting everyone that it's duh-lan, not dillon all the time.

Surname is 'W' if that makes any decisions easier grin

Turvytopsy Sat 04-Jan-14 16:45:02

It really depends on area op. I have an Oscar and a Dylan and although admittedly neither are babies anymore we have never had another of either in any class they have been in. I still love both names and they have suited my boys through all stages of their lives so far.

Good luck with the new arrival smile

CookiecutterShark Sat 04-Jan-14 16:56:36

Every other baby I meet is called Oliver... but then so is mine. I couldn't imagine him being anything else. Oliver wasn't even a name I particularly liked originally, but I thought I was having a girl and was going to call her Holly. Holly became olly and that is who he is. My boy's name for dd was Alex and for ds we didn't even consider it.

I think Tristan is lovely btw

NoComet Sat 04-Jan-14 16:59:32

I know one Dylan (an always think of the stoned rabbit in the magic roundabout)

Secondary DDs know an Oscar and a Toby (no idea if this is a NN), but certainly not common.

Only Tristan I can think of is in James Herriot Books.

One of my NCT group had an Alexander, but again I don't know any others.

Don't know or like Rory

Loads of Archie's round here and Joshua's (so Joe if not Joseph)

My Christopher wasn't a nightmare just very boring.

Creamycoolerwithcream Sat 04-Jan-14 17:07:49

I know a couple of baby Noahs.

lookout Sat 04-Jan-14 17:08:18

What about Evan? Or Owen?

Don't like Evan. Brother was called Owain (he died when I was younger, Rhys was his middle name and that's why middle name will probably be Rhys) and Owen feels too close.

JellyMould Sat 04-Jan-14 17:12:12

It seems like you like Celtic names, so maybe

ilovesmurfs Sat 04-Jan-14 17:21:36

star my dylan is actually named after the rabbit! When I was pregnant ds2 insisted I was haivng a rabbit and not a baby, so we named him dylan after the rabbit and ds2 got his rabbit brother sort of!

Thanks for the suggestions. I quite like James. Not keen on Callum, Hamish or Sruan and Douglas is a no-go, it's the name of one of my best friends and his head would never fit through the door grin

How about Declan or Patrick...


TalkativeJim Sat 04-Jan-14 17:40:47

Talfryn (Tal)
Tegwyn (Teg)
Gwilym (Wil or Gwil)

All go with Rhys?

My DCs are 9 and 7 and there has never been more than two of any name in either of their classes. The only boy's names there have been two of in his class are James, Thomas and Oliver. At nursery there were two Matthews.

I don't like Tristan either, it does seem a weak name. Joe is lovely, Archie is OK, I'm not keen on Tobias You need to like all variations, both my DCs have gone with a different variation of their names than those we started out with since starting school, so if you don't like Alex, I'd avoid Alexander.

lljkk Sat 04-Jan-14 18:47:38

Rhys as first name would be good, that is uncommon ime.
I'm a bit confused about what OP wants, now! Most of her faves are quite common ime.

Haha lljkk I'm not sure what I want grin this baby is doomed to be Baby No-Name even when it's born, whether it's a boy or a girl!

We know a Rhys who's a 'character' which is why it's confined to second name.
Very Welsh names are difficult because I went to school with a bunch of boys with most of those names who weren't nice guys.

I think Dylan is still firmly at the top of the list (part of the reason I started this thread was to see if anything could make me hate it, and so far no, which I think is a good sign!). Alexander second. Joseph is really growing on me smile

We now have the spanner in the works of OH wanting 'Ernest' as a second middle name. I'm very hmm about Ernest but if I'm allowed a family name in there so his he.

Flopsygrowsup Sat 04-Jan-14 19:53:29

Lots of Dylan's amongst my welsh friends. I like Teifion (Teif) also like Jonathan (Jon, Jonny, Jonty, Jonno)

PinkGlove Sat 04-Jan-14 20:17:05

What a lovely list of names! I have a 3 year old Joseph and FWIW he's the only one I know - besides my mums dad who I never met as he died before I was born.

I like Rory, Tobias/Toby, Oscar and Alexander.

Other suggestions



I quite like Ernest, esp Ernie as a nickname, but it's a family name with happy associations for me.

stinkypants Sat 04-Jan-14 21:15:31

Dylan is a lovely name. I know 3 of these from teaching.Love name Tristan, nn Tris, not wet but gentle and kind sounding and I know an adult one who is just that. Toby nice but loads. Alexander Ok but too long so will never use whole thing. Joseph lovely, have taught loads. Not keen on archie- bit pretentious? Christopher again too long!
Favourite is Tris x

purplebaubles Sat 04-Jan-14 21:19:09

Dylan's are always 'characters' - as are boys called Rhys

Personally I would stick with Alexander. Much classier.

Loads of Archies.

gallicgirl Sat 04-Jan-14 21:19:38

I'd guarantee there's no Kenneths in his class.

Flippancy aside though, how abouth Evan or Ethan?

Lancelottie Sat 04-Jan-14 21:25:36

We spent ages thinking of the perfect names.

As teenagers, ours are known as Beardie and Ginge.

Oh dear.

flatmum Sat 04-Jan-14 21:53:01

I named mine after Bob Dylan for my late father who was a big fan. It was outside the top 1000 at the time. I was pissed off when it apparently rocketed up the charts. He is 9 now and I have met one other (who is 4). It really suits him and I till love it. He is a sweet boy, very friendly, I wouldn't describe him as a character aka naughty, but I'm biased I guess. Hopefully the fad has passed now?

Sometime I wonder why we obsess over name popularity when there are 1000s of people out there who are quite happy to call there children Thomas or Harry, they don't love them any less and they aren't any less special in their family.

Utterly Sat 04-Jan-14 22:10:22

With boys' names, they are usually popular for a reason. You can't predict what will be popular where you live and it seems to vary by region. Go with what you like.

fedup21 Sat 04-Jan-14 23:43:24

Love lots of those names and DS's name is there, too smile You have great taste smile

I am not keen on Tobias, but love love love Toby-though DH wouldn't let me use it with any of our DC--said it was a dog's name!

Tristan is lovely (DH said it was gay)

Alexander-nice but probably no matter what you want him to be called, he will be called Alex-so if you really hate that, don't go for it.

I like Rory-and the racing car was Roary, wasn't it-completely different! DH said this was a bit posh??!

Oscar is nice but very popular.

I like Christopher but don't like Chris-too boring and it is ultimately what he'd be called as an adult.

I love Archie but ruled it out because of Archie the inventor in Balamory (is that still even on!?)

Joseph is a gorgeous name but at the moment in DD's YR class, there is a Joe, Joey, JayJay, Joseph B. Joseph M., Joseph T and Josephine! That puts me off-which is a shame.

The only one I dont like is Dylan. That's used as a bit of an insult around here (I don't know why?) and that's really put me off the name!

I don't know if it will help but I also liked Oliver, Dominic, Leo and Patrick smile

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