American seeking to honor child's British side.

(51 Posts)
Kendall1 Wed 06-Nov-13 01:04:01

Hi ladies I was just wondering if you would be able to help me. I'm an American living in America pregnant with a half British baby. My ex boyfriend was born and raised in Bradford.

I would love to honor that British side. My ex passed away at the end of August. Back when he was alive we talked about giving our child a name to honor that side. I found out today I'm expecting a little boy and I'm a bit lost. I don't remember many common names in England except for a few that wouldn't be perceived well where I live. If it was a girl she would of been Amelia Ruby/Ruby Amelia.

I was wondering if anyone could help me??

Thank you!
-Kendall

TheOldestCat Wed 06-Nov-13 01:12:59

So sorry about your ex. Very sad. How are you doing?

In terms of names, will this help? baby names in blighty

so sorry to hear that your baby's dad passed away. Why not go with a name you love yourself, and maybe have dad's name or something similar as a middle name? Did he mention any names he liked? Not sure that British and American names will be that different - but have much older children so a bit out of touch. Hopefully this will bump for other people too. Hope you're ok x

Have you been in contact with exes family? They might be able to share some family name ideas?

Very sorry for your grief and loss.
Good luck with being a mommy/mummy.

Royal names like Charles, William, George, Henry, John, Edward, Alexander, James are a safe bet smile,

Rosencrantz Wed 06-Nov-13 01:34:20

Could you use your ex's name as the middle name? Would be lovely to honour his memory this way.

Kendall1 Wed 06-Nov-13 02:58:34

Thanks for the responses and concerns. I'm holding up well as long as I can focus in the baby. Using the dad's name doesn't work as it's my cousins names exactly.
Thank you ladies for the suggestions and the link! I'll definitely look. I don't remember many of what he recommended but I do know Alfie, Riley and Billy were suggested. None go over well. Riley would be fine if the baby was a girl but it's hardly used on boys here. Americans have this trend of giving boy names (Dylan, Logan, Riley, Emerson, ect) to girls. I love the name Spencer which I don't think is considered "British" but I get told how it's girly. It's really a southern trend I think and I do live in Dallas, Texas.

Thanks again! I do appreciate the responses! smile

Poppyinafield Wed 06-Nov-13 03:06:29

How about Bradford As middle name and something more regular american for a first name. I do like Alfie though as in the Michael Caine film of the same name.

Sittingbull Wed 06-Nov-13 03:47:01

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ScornedWoman Wed 06-Nov-13 08:15:59

I, too, would use Bradford.

ImThinkingBoutMyDoorbell Wed 06-Nov-13 08:23:23

Use Bradford, then you get Brad for short and there's nothing sissy about Brad. That ought to keep all sides happy?

lljkk Wed 06-Nov-13 08:29:40

yank in Britain here.
Comes to mind...
Bradley (as suggested)
Kieron, Henry, Ben, George, Oliver, Alfie, Charlie, William, Theo, Joshua, Harrison, Tyler, Bailey, Cameron

ErrolTheDragon Wed 06-Nov-13 08:43:29

Naming children after British place-names is more of an American habit TBH - Bradford would work as a name better than most though (a lot of the ones on SittingBull's list would look quite odd this side of the pond

George might be the obvious boy's name this year, whether it goes down well in Texas presumably depends on your politics.

MimiSunshine Wed 06-Nov-13 09:57:02

I second Bradford either as a middle or first name.
Although it's not a picture postcard English village
Or go with a name you love and use his last name as a middle name. That way you keep his family name going

senua Wed 06-Nov-13 10:15:28

I agree with trucksand dinosaurs. They are established names that transcend fashion. Ditto old bible names (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Joshua, David, Joseph, etc)

Bradford's most famous living son is a David (Hockney). Or you could have Fred (Delius) or John (J.B.Pristley) - all solid British names.

Best wishes.

Bowlersarm Wed 06-Nov-13 10:21:03

OP suggest names you like, and we could give you our British opinion?

I know one man of about 40 who is called Spencer. No one else at all.

SoupDragon Wed 06-Nov-13 10:24:13

Dad's surname as a middle name?

With the new prince, you can't get more British than George smile

squoosh Wed 06-Nov-13 10:56:32

I'm so sorry for your loss, it must be so tough.

I would definitely give your ex's surname as a middle name rather than looking for a quintessentially 'English' name, I think that's the strongest way of honouring his memory. Or give the baby the same first name?

allyfe Wed 06-Nov-13 12:53:02

What about George? Since it is the name of a certain recently born prince. Or Henry, Harry, William.

Using the family name as a middle name is a Scottish tradition, so whilst not English, it does fall under British traditions?

I will also say that I tend to think of Riley as an American name, not an English one.

Thants Wed 06-Nov-13 13:29:25

Percy
Guy
Hugh
Alfred
Frank
Adrian
Alan
Albert
Benedict
Arthur

Artandco Wed 06-Nov-13 13:34:19

Can you somehow use dads name or surname changed a little?

Ie if his name was Benjamin jones you could look at benedict/ jonas etc

SweetCarolinePomPomPom Wed 06-Nov-13 13:39:53

Riley is not English at all, it would be Irish if anything. Plus it's a modern/recent name so it hardly represents quintessential Britishness.

PedantMarina Wed 06-Nov-13 13:40:41

If we hadn't named DS after his dad, I would have loved to have named either a boy or a girl Pelham Granville (the P.G. in P.G.Wodehouse). A quintissential English writer (and one who spent rather a lot of time in America, incidentally).

BikeRunSki Wed 06-Nov-13 13:46:21

George Alexander after the new Prince ?

Modestandatinybitsexy Wed 06-Nov-13 16:24:13

Albion - it's the ancient name for Britain and I think it's a pretty badass guys name. Albie for short smile

Biscuitsneeded Wed 06-Nov-13 19:04:59

Is there a British writer, or painter, or musician that you admire, whose name you could use? (David Hockney is from Bradford - David??)

Nataleejah Fri 08-Nov-13 07:36:30

Bradford (Brad) is really nice

Spaghettinetti Fri 08-Nov-13 08:47:23

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

In terms of traditional British given names, I don't think you can go far wrong with one of these;

George
David
Andrew
James
Henry
William/Billy
Alfred (Alfie/Fred)
Charles/Charlie
Edward (Eddie)
John/Jonathan
Thomas
Matthew
Christopher
Luke
Richard
Robert
Peter
Lee
Sam
Jack- very popular here.

And the slightly more weird...
Nigel
Stanley- always reminds me of Yorkshire!
Bernard - a bit French, but popular in the early 20th.
Robin- as in Robin Hood :-) You can't get much more British than that!

And there's a whole host of lovely Scottish, Welsh and Irish names - e.g. Evan, Ewan, Hamish... Allistair....

Names like Taylor and Tyler aren't traditionally British as given names and are a bit trendy, in my view... And sound American ;-) but that's perhaps just me.

All the best, I'm sure you'll find the perfect name to suit baby! :-)

Frikadellen Fri 08-Nov-13 17:26:27

London

lottiegarbanzo Fri 08-Nov-13 18:52:47

Tell us names you like and we'll tell you which sounds British.

comemulledwinewithmoi Fri 08-Nov-13 18:54:52

How about Bradford?

mrswarbouys Sat 09-Nov-13 08:52:56

Very sorry for your loss OP. How about Ridley?

RTjoke Sat 09-Nov-13 08:59:50

Arthur or Alfred are old English names.
Albion is a good suggestion.
Hugh and William seem quintessentially English to me.

Could you ask your late DP's whether there are any family names?

Brad (Bradford) sounds v American to my ears.

NotYoMomma Sat 09-Nov-13 11:29:48

there is a Very British Spencer on 'Made in Chealsa' the tv show

and lets not forget it is the Family surname of Princess Diana

Spencer would be a good choice here imo grin

HoneyandRum Sun 10-Nov-13 07:23:53

Hello OP my husband is American and our children were born in the USA so we had to figure out some names that would work in both cultures. As your son's father was British he will have dual nationality and can live in the UK or Europe in the future unless laws change, so I'd find a name that would work on both sides of the Atlantic.

I don't see Albie working well in the US as much as I love it. Spencer and many other boy's names (such as Kendall!) have become feminine in the US. I would stick to a solid masculine name that is used in both countries with a direct link to his father (hometown etc) as the middle name.

A name I hear a lot more in the UK than the US is James. Nicknames in the UK are Jamie and Jim. I think Jimmy on little boys is due for a big comeback so I would consider that as an option.

AnguaResurgam Sun 10-Nov-13 07:31:20

For quintessentially English (not British) I would go for Bertie - as in Bertram Wooster - or just Bert if you don't want silly ass connotations.

PiratePanda Sun 10-Nov-13 07:38:40

Bradford's great actually, or the Dad's surname unless it's completely impossible. And George or Alexander this year of all years going to be a big British honour :-)

HoneyandRum Sun 10-Nov-13 07:41:04

Bert and Bertie will not work well in the US unless you don't mind your son being ridiculed.

I would go with a strong, masculine, classic name especially because this little boy will not have his biological dad around. So sorry to hear of your bereavement OP I hope you have support and love where you are.

AnguaResurgam Sun 10-Nov-13 07:44:30

Why would a Bert be ridiculed? (Genuine question)

HoneyandRum Sun 10-Nov-13 08:18:35

It's just a name that does not work well in the USA. I think all our connotations such as Royalty and the tongue-in-cheek cheeky chappie (Bert from Mary Poppins) fall dead in the US. They have none of those cultural references which are all very British. So a child is left in a very modern US culture with virtually no visual history around him compared to the UK (ancient buildings, winding streets) in suburban Dallas, Texas with what Americans would consider a dorky old fashioned name.

HoneyandRum Sun 10-Nov-13 08:25:25

I did know of a fashion-forward trendy American family in Seattle that called their youngest child of four Clive.

FrightNightcirCurse Sun 10-Nov-13 08:33:23
jonicomelately Sun 10-Nov-13 08:34:03

Remember that your child won't just be half british. They'll be half Yorkshire! Yorkshire is the largest county in the UK with a very proud tradition. I say that as a Lancastrian, A yorkshireman's deadly enemy grin. Have a look online at Yorkshire. There are some incredible places to visit, not least York and the Yorkshire Dales. If you ever have the opportunity you and your DC should make a visit to the County. Yorkshire has some great football teams, including Bradford City and rugby teams such as Bradford Bulls. It may be nice to go online and order a few things for the baby (they will probably have baby clothes in the teams colours).

Good luck with the baby and what a wonderful thing you are doing to honour their heritage.

lljkk Sun 10-Nov-13 08:59:12

Bert & Ernie, Sesame St., methinks.
I know several small Jimmys.

thegreylady Sun 10-Nov-13 12:15:33

George
Henry
James
Charles
Paul
Edward

I'm so sorry for your loss. What. Devastating situation. I hope your little new brings you much comfort and peace.

Another American expat here, so I know what you mean when you say "British names"

I think it's not as easy as you would first think to find a name that Americans would recognize as "British" that really is a name that Brits would use. Some that come to mind are Simon, Alfie, Martin, Dominic, Oliver, Oscar, Alistair, Archie, Hugh, Jude. George may seem particularly British at the moment, but in the States it's pretty common too.

We've got a Tristan, which is Cornish, but becoming more common in America.

Good luck with your choice and the remainder of your pregnancy

Sorry about all the typos! blush stupid iPad!

mathanxiety Sat 16-Nov-13 20:54:27

Sebastian is pretty unusual in the US and Oliver is another you hear much more in the UK. Both would be fine in the US. Names like Hugh, Duncan, Fergus, Alastair, Lewis and Harvey are more unusual in the UK but perhaps still recognisably British and not unfeasible in Texas.

I would avoid Sesame Street names and names from teen dramas (like Spencer - a female character - from Pretty Little Liars). Same with Alfie (too like 'Alf') and Felix or Oscar ('Odd Couple').

Good luck with the baby. I think using the BF's name for a middle name would be a nice idea, or his father's name if you wanted to go further back through the generations. This might be a good idea if the grandparents will play a part in their grandson's life, which they may well be very keen to do.

womma Sun 17-Nov-13 14:29:58

I agree with joni, it's great to honour your child's Britishness, but the Yorkshire connection is almost a different thing.

Having grown up just outside Bradford and knowing that area well, you have a rich seam of history and heritage to mine there. Please do call on us West Yorkshirites for anything, and I think what you are hoping to do honour your partner and keep him in your child's life is a wonderful thing. I wish you the best of luck.

MrsNormanBates Tue 19-Nov-13 09:29:31

I think Bradford as a middle name is a great choice.

bubbler109 Tue 19-Nov-13 21:41:34

Long time lurker who has registered as I heard a name today I wondered might suit. Yorkshire connotations which I thought was apt.... Hallam.

I really liked it even if no-one else does!

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