Amanda or Vanessa?

(38 Posts)
Supersesame Thu 05-Sep-13 20:45:36

I'm back with a new set! Thought Harriet was our name but once I paired it with our surname it sounds dreadful.
Both of these sound ok with surname.
I'm trying to avoid any of the current trendy names as we did with our DS. I'm so pleased we took a risk with his name so I don't mind taking a risk again!

hawkmcqueen Thu 05-Sep-13 21:00:39

Ooh, interesting! I really like Vanessa, classic and have only ever met one.

Not as keen on Amanda. Just can't picture a baby Amanda for whatever reason!

Supersesame Thu 05-Sep-13 21:02:05

I know me too. Lots of thirty something Amandas but can't picture naming my baby it!

Do you like Mandy? If not, I'd go for Vanessa, but don't know how you'd shorten it - Nessie?

NadiaWadia Thu 05-Sep-13 21:02:57

I know Amanda was very popular in the 60s/70s but it is still a very pretty name, so why not? You could start the revival!

Vanessa is OK, but not as nice.

Cassieyellow Thu 05-Sep-13 21:50:54

Like Vanessa. Nessa may be nick name but nothing else.

stretch Thu 05-Sep-13 21:54:03

Vanessa. Friend was Van throughout teens (cool name), then Nessa when adult. Amanda is nice, but not keen on Mandy.

AgadorSpartacus Thu 05-Sep-13 21:59:37

I like Amanda not Mandy shock never Mandy.

And Amanda means 'worthy of love'. Which I agree with cos I am

mathanxiety Thu 05-Sep-13 22:20:58

Vanessa, Vanessa, Vanessa.

Choose Vanessa.

WinkyWinkola Thu 05-Sep-13 22:23:57

Vanessa. Elegant and timeless.

Amanda is really not a nice name. Sorry to all Amandas!

CatAmongThePigeons Thu 05-Sep-13 22:28:28

I don't like either, sorry! blush One of them is my name and I hated the bullying rhymes and it is soooo clunky to say.

Saffyz Thu 05-Sep-13 22:50:22

I like both smile Slightly prefer Vanessa.

DanicaJones Fri 06-Sep-13 00:43:22

I like Vanessa. Not sure about Amanda as it's my name and I neither love it nor hate it. I think you don't need to wait a hundred years for it to be ok to revive a name. If you like a name from the 70s or 80s then go for it.

DanicaJones Fri 06-Sep-13 00:45:32

Cat I'm curious about the bullying rhymes. I'm an Amanda and I can't think of any, so are you a Vanessa?

bananamummy Fri 06-Sep-13 06:46:57

I love both - classic, feminine and not trendy at the moment.

I slightly prefer Amanda - so pretty and she'll be the only one with her name in her age group!

Vanessa also nice but feels more 'now'.

Bonsoir Fri 06-Sep-13 06:48:01


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dreamingofsun Fri 06-Sep-13 08:47:40

don't like either. both names are from our era, and having had a parent who did this to me i would not wish an 'old person's' name on any child. oh to be a susan, or karen and whatever else was popular when i was born.

CruCru Fri 06-Sep-13 09:40:10

I think Vanessa is lovely. Amanda reminds me of that woman who presented the Word.

Bonsoir Fri 06-Sep-13 10:22:32

All the Amandas I have ever known have been silly and immature. Whereas the Vanessas have been intellectual.

EnjoyEverySandwich Fri 06-Sep-13 11:09:08

Both lovely names. I've known a few of each - one Amanda went by Mandy, but the others were always just Amanda with no shortening. And none of my Vanessas were shortened. I must admit that I think Vanessa is a difficult name to carry off if you are not beautiful though! but that might just be me blush

bananamummy Fri 06-Sep-13 11:39:26

There is no such thing as an 'old person's name'. All the middle aged Vanessas, Sarahs, Amandas etc were all children too one day!

We sometimes forget why we name our children - they are not fashion accessories that need trendy/fashionable names, they are people who need names to identify them! A Vanessa or Amanda will much more likely be remembered for her name than yet another little Ellie, Evie or Poppy.

Also, a little Amanda will grow up to have a 'cool' name whereas all her contemporaries will have typical, middle aged, 'old' names that so many of you seem to worry about!

Supersesame Fri 06-Sep-13 13:13:39

I tend to agree. I would not like my child's age to be identifiable by her name, which it could be with the Evies and Lilys of today.
Opinion is very divided on these two names. I'm veering towards Vanessa. Only have DH to convince now.

Littlecherublegs Fri 06-Sep-13 13:23:22

I prefer Vanessa.

Amanda is ok though will inevitably get shortened to Mandy which I dont like. (though saying that, now I think about it, I know 2 Amanda's who only ever get called Amanda!)

Gowaygoway Fri 06-Sep-13 13:29:01

I'm a Vanessa and I like it. Most friends call me Nessa or Ness and I don't mind them either. 2 of my best friends are Amandas. One is only known as Amanda and the other is known by nickname Millie. I'd love to meet a baby Vanessa!

sleepywombat Fri 06-Sep-13 13:37:50

Vanessa is OK, but I do think of Ness from Gavin & Stacey.

What about Miranda?

UriGeller Fri 06-Sep-13 13:43:57

Neither. Both are just bleh names. Feltz and Holden.

MummyBeerest Fri 06-Sep-13 14:24:24

Vanessa is an all-time favourite of mine. Would have used it for DD if our surname didn't start with D.

dreamingofsun Fri 06-Sep-13 15:31:50

supersesame - maybe thats what my mum had in mind. i'm a good 25 years younger than anyone else i have ever met with my name. i still hate it and would love a name of my age group.

Zoe999 Fri 06-Sep-13 15:34:47

Vanessa and Amanda ! Wow. I dont likw them but admire u for not following trends. I considered jillian and melanie and lindsay and eventually went with another name from same era (although less popular in its peak)

UriGeller Fri 06-Sep-13 15:55:32

Yeah but it sort of IS a trend isn't it?. Post irony or über coolyness or anti-trendy names.

In 5 years time there'll be loads of little Amandas and Melanies around ...and 300 different ways of spelling them

looki Fri 06-Sep-13 16:53:00

Nobody can really say if in five years there will be loads of little Amandas and Melanies around. If it was said five years ago, the person who said it would have been wrong!

I'm not a fan of either. I know three Vanessa's. One was beautiful, two were overweight. I associate the name as being in a similar vein to Caroline.

I only know of one Amanda but remember growing up I called one of my dolls Amanda (30+ years ago). Its not a name I can associate with anything or anyone or anytime. This might be a good thing or it could be because it sounds 'meh' to my ears.

If I had to choose, I'd go with Vanessa.

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline Fri 06-Sep-13 16:54:55

Neither. Sorry.

everlong Fri 06-Sep-13 16:59:04

Vanessa Shanessa Jenkins.

Sorry none. Amanda is ok a bit dated and Vanessa is just not good.

TallulahBetty Fri 06-Sep-13 17:51:51

Vanessa. Amanda is "meh" to me and I can't stand Mandy.

LittlePandaBear Fri 06-Sep-13 17:59:48

I'm an Amanda - never liked my name as a child but I didn't share it with anyone I knew until I went to uni. My older sister has a more interesting name so it seemed as if I had sloppy seconds!

I don't mind it now, don't love it or hate it. It's just me! And I was a baby Amanda once so it can suit a baby!

I was only called Mandy for a brief spell at school but it never continued into adulthood.

Not sure if any of that helps or not!

Gingerandproud Fri 06-Sep-13 18:01:07

I'm a Vanessa as well and like my name. I only met another one a few years ago. My friends call be Van, ness or nessa, im not fussed which one!

I do not think it is old fashioned and I do not think it dates, it was never a faddy name.

Which ever you choose im sure your DD will grow into their name and make it their own x

MichaelBubleBath Sat 07-Sep-13 02:03:27

Amanda. Worthy of love is beautiful.
Manda as nn.

Vanessa - I won't lie to you - reminds me of Nessa. Tidy. wink

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