Honest views on Ralf....

(75 Posts)
legallyblond Thu 29-Aug-13 16:06:24

I'm pregnant with twins who are arriving in 10 days.... if its two boys (we don't know the sexes), first boy will be Hugo, and for the second we had decided on Ralf.

To be pronounced as it is spelt (ie not Rafe)...

I am wavering. I love the name, but....

1. Will we have a constant mispronunciation issue (we thought less chance of the "Rafe" mistake with Ralf, as opposed to Ralph)? How would you pronounce "Ralf" if you saw it?

2. I love it, but is it a "dog's name"?!? Will there be constant "I had a dog named Ralph" etc... Not sure why I think this!

Argh!

sonlypuppyfat Thu 29-Aug-13 16:14:00

Sorry don't like it, it is like a dogs name. and I saw a comedy once about a man being sick and he said I've been shouting Ralph into the toilet ugh

SunnyIntervals Thu 29-Aug-13 16:16:12

No to Ralf - don't like the spelling

I would go with Ralph as it is the classic spelling and pronounce Ralf. I know a good looking Ralph and no one has ever gone on about the alleged associations.

squoosh Thu 29-Aug-13 16:31:05

It's a bit . . . . . . . . . . captain of the local darts team.

rocketupbum Thu 29-Aug-13 16:37:13

I have a ralf (spelt and pronounced as that). No one has ever mispronounced it! We do live up north so maybe that's why.
Most people say its a very cool name and we love it obviously!
I think it goes well with Hugo.

EarthMither Thu 29-Aug-13 16:46:00

Sorry OP, but being of (ahem) a certain age, to me the name Ralph will be forever associated with a male member

FriskyMare Thu 29-Aug-13 16:52:04

I quite like it, Ralf Little is quite cool.

FriskyMare Thu 29-Aug-13 16:52:37

Erk! Too many "quites"

BNmum Thu 29-Aug-13 17:06:49

I like it although I prefer the Ralph spelling. I also prefer Hugh to Hugo but that's probably because Hugo seems to be getting very popular.

Fifi2406 Thu 29-Aug-13 17:06:58

I think Ralph is a better spelling than Ralf I think people will be more likely to spell it Ralph and you and your dc will forever be correcting them but I do love the name and goes with Hugo

ChunkyPickle Thu 29-Aug-13 17:07:25

I like it (ponders it for DS2...).. the spelling is the spelling for the muppets I think, but I also think that any name you pick will have associations so that's not a good reason to discount a name you like.

squoosh Thu 29-Aug-13 17:10:16

I think the Muppet was called Rolf although funnily enough he popped into my mind too when I saw the thread title.

Primadonnagirl Thu 29-Aug-13 17:16:10

Yeah I immediately thought of calling Ralf on the big white telephone ie being sick into the loo...sorry but it's quite a common phrase here...you might not live here of course!

LauraChant Thu 29-Aug-13 17:18:12

It made me think of being sick too. Sorry sad

LauraChant Thu 29-Aug-13 17:18:51

I really like Hugo though!

Umlauf Thu 29-Aug-13 17:23:02

I like it spelt Ralph. I never knew Ralph could be pronounced Rafe until we read Lord of the Flies at school and I came home very righteously complaining my teacher couldn't pronounce Ralph properly.

I do know a dog called Ralph though...!

DS2 is Ralph, it suits him and we haven't had any negative comments to our faces anyway in fact the opposite, but what a nice name it is. There are connotations to many names that are popular, but I don't think of them. A person defines their name, not the other way IYSWIM. I like that it's old-fashioned.

ITCouldBeWorse Thu 29-Aug-13 17:23:29

Today, I think I'd avoid anything that sounds like Rolf!
How about Guy to go with Hugh?

ITCouldBeWorse Thu 29-Aug-13 17:23:54

Sorry Hugo - Also nice

ps. There will always be someone with the same name as a dog as people give their dogs human names - see George, Bertie, Toby, Charlie, Harry, Jack, Finn....all names of my friends dogs for example?

Iwantacat Thu 29-Aug-13 17:30:08

Love it, I know a little Ralf. Go for it.

PukousMucous Thu 29-Aug-13 17:37:20

Judy Blume was my first though too!

bingeddybongo Thu 29-Aug-13 18:14:26

My first thought wasn't Judy Blume, though it came a close second - my instant reaction was Ralf Wiggum! But once I get his voice out of my head, I think it's a very cute name grin

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 29-Aug-13 19:52:45

I'm sorry, I don't like it. It dos make me think of "puke". I like Hugo

What about:

Raphael
Rufus
Theo
Leo

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 29-Aug-13 19:53:45

Max
Marcus

Victor? grin

JosiePosiePuddingAndPie Thu 29-Aug-13 19:56:45

Ralfing = being sick therefore no!

pinguwings Thu 29-Aug-13 20:02:17

I love it!

I know a six year old Ralph and it fits him perfectly.

legallyblond Thu 29-Aug-13 20:44:40

Long chats with DH... We still love Ralf but are now erring towards Ralph spelling as most people will assume that. I have never come across the vomiting thing until v recently, and if we went on stuff like that, surely no one would ever choose John or William (Willy - I know two Willies and they seem cool with it!)....

Buildingamystery Thu 29-Aug-13 20:46:07

To me it will always be the penis in Forever. Sorry.

Ruprekt Thu 29-Aug-13 20:49:45

No to Ralf....tis reminding me of Rolf Harris!

Hugo and Theo

Hugo and Max

Hugo and Finlay

Hugo and Miles

What are your girls names? smilesmilesmile

Meggymoodle Thu 29-Aug-13 21:03:39

love Hugo, not Ralph so much but it's OK but do think I prefer the Rafe pronunciation, just to be awkward.

Hugo and Giles
Hugo and Philip (known as Pip)

PeanutPatty Thu 29-Aug-13 21:07:14

Hugo = YAY
Ralph = NAY

So many other lovely names you could have:

Henry
George
Theo
Finn/Finlay
Reuben
Asher
Isaac

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 29-Aug-13 22:03:11

Francis

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 29-Aug-13 22:03:53

Ooh yes, Philip is great and underused

legallyblond Thu 29-Aug-13 22:12:36

Thanks all - we've decided we do really like Ralph. We think its cool and, as DH has said, he might want to use "Rafe" pron at some point... I like lots if the names you've suggested, but Ralph is liked by both of us...

I had an Great Uncle Ralph & he was known as Raffy. Which I really like

JimbosJetSet Thu 29-Aug-13 22:19:46

I would read 'Forever' by Judy Blume first... (Classic book to take you back to your teenage years even if it doesn't sway your opinion of the name!)

sleepingbeautiful Thu 29-Aug-13 22:23:19

Ralf is actually the original British spelling, not Ralph, which is a later affectation.

I like the name. I wouldn't be confused. Growing up, my close friend's brother was a Ralf and never was called anything weird or teased about his name at school.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Thu 29-Aug-13 22:24:30

I read this as Rolf and of course my reaction was no no no. But Ralf is not much better

Judy Blume... Sorry OP

FourGates Thu 29-Aug-13 22:38:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

thamesk8 Thu 29-Aug-13 22:41:09

I think you're best with Hugo and Ralph. Seems more "proper" ad finished. Especially with brother Hugo!

Iwantacat Thu 29-Aug-13 23:12:56

Perfect.

kiwik Fri 30-Aug-13 00:58:18

I like Hugo, but not Ralf.
Prefer Rufus - Hugo and Rufus sound good together.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 30-Aug-13 08:03:22

OP has decided

Layl77 Fri 30-Aug-13 08:11:16

I like Ralph spelling Hugo & Ralph look and sound lovely

pongping Fri 30-Aug-13 08:45:29

It's a lovely name OP. As an aside - we were on a waiting to ttc thread back in 2010 (I have nc'd a bazillion times but recognise your nn). Twins! Congratulations smile.

legallyblond Fri 30-Aug-13 08:51:50

Thanks pongping! I had a DD in Oct 2010.... So will have my hands full in 10 days....!

Sorry about the mcs (I assume nc'd is miscarried?!). My best friend just had her first after 6 unexplained mcs... She cut out gluten which seemed to help. Good luck x x

pongping Fri 30-Aug-13 08:56:03

Ah no - it means namechanged, sorry. I have two boys now - one born in November 2010 and one in March this year smile.

Have you chosen girls names too?

legallyblond Fri 30-Aug-13 09:03:33

Oh good!!!!

Yes - possible girls named are Valentina and Zara.

pongping Fri 30-Aug-13 09:49:24

Lovely - we know an Italian Valentine with the nn Vale (pronounced Va-lay).

Writerwannabe83 Fri 30-Aug-13 09:52:17

I like Ralf - but I do prefer Raif.

It reminds me of sexy Ben Affleck in Pearl Harbour!! Yummy!!!

madoldbird Fri 30-Aug-13 09:58:20

What about Rafferty? Goes really well with Hugo, and can be shortened to Raff, which gives a very similar sound.

Lovely names OP. Ignore the negative comments, I've never read Judy Blume, nor have my friends (I think that is the previous generation). 13 months on and we have only had comments liking our Ralph's name. As someone sensible further up the thread said, there could be funny jokes, negative connotations and funny people connected to most names, but most of us don't think of them.

squoosh Fri 30-Aug-13 11:00:38

'there could be funny jokes, negative connotations and funny people connected to most names, but most of us don't think of them.'

I'd change that to 'most of us don't mention them'. I'm not referring to Ralph in particular here but to names in general. I'd certainly never mention my negative thoughts about a child's name to the parents, that would be beyond rude. But I'd think them.

LeoandBoosmum Fri 30-Aug-13 19:19:37

I like Ralph, not Ralf smile We almost called our Westie that... (not being funny!) smile

Another one who associates it with the penis of the male lead in Forever!
But looks like you have already made up your mind smile

Teamjavert Fri 30-Aug-13 19:38:27

Awful. Unattractive,and there's the vomiting association.

LickleLemon Fri 30-Aug-13 19:46:53

I really like it. I have seen 2 babies called Ralph (spelt ph) this year (1 up north and 1 down south mind) so wonder if its making a comeback.

I see Ralf - as Ralf and not Rafe. I would not even think Rafe.

I knew a very nice Hugo and Ralph at university who were good friends, I think the names go well together for brothers. I have never heard of any links to willies or vomit or known any dogs called Ralph... I did know one pronounced as Raif but I would always assume it was said as it looks unless corrected.

SilveryMoon Fri 30-Aug-13 20:57:13

I like Ralf. Either spelling too Ralf/Ralph but think I prefer Ralf actually

DalmationDots Fri 30-Aug-13 23:05:22

Judy Blume's book came to me too, sorry!

legallyblond Fri 30-Aug-13 23:33:35

I do genuinely appreciate the feedback! Judy Blume really does mean nothing to me... I do remember the name of the author, but don't recall ever reading any of her books, or certainly they didn't make any more if an impact than any of the other four books a week I would have got out of the library.... Am I too young / old? I'm 31....

And since posting here and on an earlier post, I have asked lots of RL people about Ralphing = vomiting, and no one (literally no one!) has heard of it... Again, generational, or perhaps regional (I'm from Westcountry, went to uni in London and Paris...)?

ShowOfHands Fri 30-Aug-13 23:42:46

You're the perfect age for Ralph to be associated with the Judy Blume book. I'm a year older than you and it was banned at my school. Of course people then passed around illicit copies.

None of that matters though. Ralph is a great name and I'd imagine the majority won't think of JB. Even if they do. they'll soon just associate Ralph with your little ds.

Good luck with the twins!

RoadToTuapeka Sat 31-Aug-13 04:42:01

I don't like it, I think of Ralf off the Simpsons, and also Ralf meaning 'barf' in some slang, and have a mental image of someone ineffectual, unfortunately

BobbyGentry Sat 31-Aug-13 05:14:25

I like Ralph (pronounced Raiph) smile

BikeRunSki Sat 31-Aug-13 07:00:26

Ralf and Hughie are both part of slang terms for vomiting!

Confitdecanard Sat 31-Aug-13 21:40:48

I'm two years older than you and can still remember the page numbers of the rude bits in the Judy Blume book! However, I think Ralph is a great name and goes really well with Hugo.

loveblackcats Sat 31-Aug-13 22:47:45
Writerwannabe83 Sat 31-Aug-13 23:14:19

I remember Judy Blume and read a few of her books but I don't remember a naughty one associated with the name Ralph though. I feel like I missed out on something grin

Mrsindecision Sun 01-Sep-13 06:48:14

I really like the name Hugo, but am not keen on Ralf. I feel that Ralf will think that he drew the short straw when it came to being named - sorry!

Are there any other names that you are considering?

Good luck with your twins smile

evamummy Sun 01-Sep-13 07:13:45

I like Ralf - classic, cool and not overused. Also love Valentina!

magicstars Sun 01-Sep-13 07:24:11

Ralph & hugo are lovely names. Not so keen on the spelling Ralf though.

Redlocks30 Sun 01-Sep-13 22:53:30

I always think of Judy Blume when I hear this name! I wouldn't ever go for an unusual spelling either. Over the last year or so, I have taught an Aimee, a Michal, a Lukas, a Josef, a Pollie and a Yasmeen-they can be hard to get your head round and when Christmas comes and they are writing each other cards-they always plump for the more usual spelling. I much prefer the more traditional spellings.

clairemum22 Mon 02-Sep-13 20:59:49

Yes, I immediately thought of judy Blume and Ralph the penis. Sorry,,

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