Barnaby, Rupert, James, Benjamin?

(49 Posts)
yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 08:32:21

Needs to go with Annabel. Dh thinks Rupert is too posh but we live in sw London so think we can get away with it! I like names with more than one syllable so think James would end up being Jamie. I love Hugo but our surname ends in 'ow'.

formicadinosaur Tue 30-Jul-13 08:38:49

Go with Hugo. I think it's quite cute that your last names ends with ow.

littlepeas Tue 30-Jul-13 08:45:17

I really like Barnaby, but not keen on Barney, which is inevitable. Rupert is great, but is very posh - I know 3 adults and 1 child, all extremely privileged! James is a good classic name. However, if you like Hugo you should go for it! It's lovely and goes very well with Annabel.

Onyabike Tue 30-Jul-13 08:46:27

I agree with pp, don't get too bogged down with your surname if you love a name. I love James and Ben (not so keen on full name Benjamin though!) both were top favourites for us when we had our DC (all DDs!). I also really like Hugo and quite like Rupert. Not so sure about Barnaby but don't dislike it.

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 08:56:29

Thanks for feedback. We love Hugo but as our surname is also two syllables ending in 'ow' it is just a bit too matchy. We liked Harry too but there are two 'r' in surname too so a bit of a mouthful!

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 08:56:47

And what about Caspar?

ghosteditor Tue 30-Jul-13 09:00:07

I know babies with all of those names grin


Onyabike Tue 30-Jul-13 09:02:12

To me, Caspar isn't such a strong name. I think you would need to be quite charismatic to carry it off. I don't dislike it though.

SolomanDaisy Tue 30-Jul-13 09:04:03

I really like Barnaby, but wouldn't use it because of Barnaby Rudge.

Tommy Tue 30-Jul-13 09:06:15

I don't like Rupert but love the other ones although Barnaby always makes me want to start singing "Barnaby the Bear's my name, never call me Jack or la la" (a children's programme in the 70's - feeling old grin)

JamieandtheMagicTorch Tue 30-Jul-13 09:25:18

Barnaby and Rupert aren't to my taste- they are a bit "posh"

James is OK - safe
Benjamin is OK - I prefer Benedict

What about:


JamieandtheMagicTorch Tue 30-Jul-13 09:27:54

or what about

Hugh/Huw (I like the latter spelling)

PanicMode Tue 30-Jul-13 10:06:05

I love Rupert but DH said no. I have a cousin called Barnaby - love it. Benjamin - meh, and it will get shortened to Ben or Benjie which I really don't like. I love James - it's DS3's middle name. We both loved Hugo but we have a double barrelled surname (DH already had one, we didn't DB our own names in my defence!), and it just didn't work as one of names sounds similar ish.....

I'd pick Rupert of all of those...

James or Benjamin, I'm afraid Rupert and Barnaby both make me think of the bears.

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 10:28:37

Benedict has been vetoed by dh as being too catholic. I don't like Christian as it makes me think of someone at school. Patrick is a bit irish and could be pat or paddy either lf which I like.

Marcus is quite nice actually. I hadnt thought of that.

I don't actually know Barnaby rudge. I am not so bothered about associations with tv characters etc - I know lots of Charlie's and it doesn't make me think, ah Charlie and Lola! Same with George and Peppa pig!

Bowlersarm Tue 30-Jul-13 10:31:32

I love Rupert. Not keen on Barnaby. Prefer Jamie to James.

Have you considered Rufus?

BonaDea Tue 30-Jul-13 10:35:35

Go for Rupert. Classic name but not very common / popular any more. I live sw too and don't know of any other little Ruperts.

In a similar vein I love Sebastian too. DH vetoed it this time round but I might need to push it through if we have another boy!'

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 10:35:55

Rufus is sweet but is the name of one of my best friends ds and we see them a lot.

iseenodust Tue 30-Jul-13 10:40:27

Barnaby is great. The other three can take or leave.

EuphemiaLennox Tue 30-Jul-13 10:48:21

Rupert is lovely.

Hugh/Huw is v lovely as well.

James is nice in a classic type way, been just over done. Jem as a nickname is lovely though.

How about Christopher nn Kit?

Or Crispin?

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 11:18:30

Dh has vetoed Rupert for being too posh so think crispin would be out too! I like Kit but not Christopher. I quite like Arthur too but think 'old man' names are a bit overdone at the moment.

shoobidoo Tue 30-Jul-13 11:31:03

How about


All solid classic names that aren't too overused.

almapudden Tue 30-Jul-13 11:36:47

I like Barnaby, Rupert and James. Really dislike Jamie and Benjamin.

Go for Rupert! There aren't many Ruperts around these days and it's a lovely namem

PanicMode Tue 30-Jul-13 11:55:07

You sound as though you had similar discussions to us - we had Sebastian, Monty, Benedict, Magnus, Marcus, Kit, Jeremy, Julian type names on our shortlists....

We have a Rufus and a Rory (both of which I love, but I regret the two Rs) and another two children, one of which is a name which has been mentioned in a shortened version here....

Friends have an Annabel and Henry, another Annabel and Max....

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 12:06:02

Suggested Marcus to dh but he said it reminds him of eldorado! Tristan is too French and Magnus is too Swedish. Want something very English. Henry is lovely but again it has been taken by a good friend. Max was the name of one of my old boyfriends who wasn't a great love so don't mind on that basis but he was a bit of a prat!

Dh has said he can 'live' with barnaby but favours Henry and doesn't see why we can't use it just because my friends ds is Henry but she is a proper friend not just a fellow playgroup mum so really don't want to use it.

I love Rupert but he thinks it is aspirational. We are a professional couple though so don't think it would be odd for 'people like us' to have a child called Rupert! Would be weirder if we had a Kai or Jayden!

weblette Tue 30-Jul-13 12:19:24

I have a James and a Benjamin, their little brother is Toby

Lionchair23 Tue 30-Jul-13 12:48:56

Love James and Jamie

Chocolateteabag Tue 30-Jul-13 20:54:16

Rupert is top of my list - but I am a Jilly Cooper fan

I'm married to a Tristan - not met another up here in the wilds of the North. It's always seen as posh, but really French IYKWIM

Also love Lysander and Siegfried (JC again and James Herriot)

yummymumtobe Tue 30-Jul-13 21:18:22

I love jilly too and also suggested Lysander but it was vetoed and is also v similar to the name of my dads boat!

Ah, Rupert Campbell black, a king among men!

Canidae Tue 30-Jul-13 21:27:19

I would want to shorten baby Rupert to Roo, like Kanga and Roo from Winnie the Pooh!

SolomanDaisy Tue 30-Jul-13 21:52:32

Barnaby rudge is a Dickens novel and he doesn't have a happy end! I am probably a bit superstitious about names of ill fated characters!

SolomanDaisy Tue 30-Jul-13 21:52:35

Barnaby rudge is a Dickens novel and he doesn't have a happy end! I am probably a bit superstitious about names of ill fated characters!

justhayley Tue 30-Jul-13 23:42:21

I like them all. really helpful Be nice to hear James used as a first name though. Not 100% on Rupert out of all of them.
How about about
Robin, Noah, Josh/ua, Oliver

Mollie272 Wed 31-Jul-13 00:40:13

I really like Rupert - it's on my list if I ever have a DS. I also like Edward (nn Ted), Hugh, Alexander (nn Xander), Angus, Fergus & Theo

sleepingbeautiful Wed 31-Jul-13 04:28:28

I have a very normal un-posh relative called Rupert, so I don't find it posh. Just a nice, under-used name, probably due to the bear in a yellow scarf!
Barnaby is ok, but don't like nn Barney.
Love James and Ben, but not if you really want something less used.
Hugo, meh. I know a few and they have Hyacinth Bucket type parents...
For the Kit suggestion earlier with poster not liking Christopher - this came up on another thread and someone suggested Kester nn Kit...
Also: Austin, Julius, Julian, Giles, Marcus.

Southeastdweller Wed 31-Jul-13 07:18:05

James and Benjamin are OK but a bit boring and very common. Barnaby is nice - classic and a name that won't ever be overused but my favourite is Rupert for the same reasons as Barnaby, plus I like the nicknames for it - Roo, Rupey, Rupsey (I've read Rupert Everett's two books). I think it's good to have a name that's a bit unusual - like mine - as long as you don't stand out too much, so no problem in your bit of London. Don't know what your DH is on about saying it's 'aspirational'.

Littlecherublegs Wed 31-Jul-13 17:16:27

Rupert and Barnaby are a bit 'posh' for me.
Benjamin is ok though much prefer Benedict (though know you have ruled this out).
Like James but would never risk it as a first name as Im sure it would end up as Jim / Jimmy which I dislike! Like Jamie though.

How about:

roseandpercy Tue 25-Nov-14 09:24:28

I have a Barnaby Rupert George
Jasper Hugo Charles
and Baxter Stanley Harry.

roseandpercy Tue 25-Nov-14 09:25:42

I have a Barnaby Rupert George
Jasper Hugo Charles
and Baxter Stanley Harry.

EmilyGilmore Tue 25-Nov-14 09:47:36

I think Annabel and Rupert sound like sloaney ponies from the 80s. But I sense that's what you're looking for... I do think it's a very obviously "we're really posh" sort of name. I can see why your DH is uncomfortable with that. I would feel a bit self-conscious about it too. James is lovely.

florascotia Tue 25-Nov-14 10:15:05

I rather prefer Barnabas to Barnaby. I like Rupert and James. 'Rupert plus Annabel' is perhaps a little bit aspirational, but your children are not likely to spend their adult working lives as a pair, and won't be in the same class at school, so how much does that really matter? And in London, there is a such a wonderful variety of names that many people probably won't even notice.

As alternatives, have you considered Roland/Rowland (often nn Roly)? Edmund? Edwin? Humphrey? Gregory? Swithin? Wystan?

This Old English list (17th cent, Norfolk) might perhaps be of interest:

Just a afterthought: earlier poster suggested Kester as a 'long' name for Kit. But Kit and Kester are both short forms of Christopher.

CitronVert Tue 25-Nov-14 10:19:42

I like Rupert and know a very nice down to earth 10 year old one so it doesn't seem too posh to me.

If always think Toby has a similar feel to Hugo. I also love Dominic which I think goes well with Annabel.

Sophronia Tue 25-Nov-14 17:25:04

James or Benjamin.

stuckonnames Wed 26-Nov-14 05:54:48

You mention Henry earlier which I think fits your bill and goes well with Annabel - but I know your friend has used it. Could you talk to her and see what she thinks? She might be flattered!

ScrambledEggAndToast Wed 26-Nov-14 06:44:51

James is lovely, it balances out the three syllable's of your DDs name.

FrogsGoWaaa Wed 26-Nov-14 15:49:02

I love Rupert and it was on our long list but I can't quite get past the bear! It does sound good with Annabel though. I know two sets of siblings called Henry and Annabel and it is a great combination. I agree with stuckonnames. Could you ask your friend? It's not like it's a really unusual name which I think does make a difference.

Of your shortlist, I'd go with James for a safer option; if you can persuade DH, go with Rupert!

ViviPru Thu 27-Nov-14 21:54:00

I think its interesting that people think Rupert is an obvious 'we're posh' name. Its my 1st choice for imminent pfb. Its classic and inoffensive and underused. And little baby boy Roo? Die of cuteness.

I guess we might be considered posh by some standards so we'll get away with it. I'm hope the vast majority are put off by the supposed poshness of it. Means it'll avoid ubiquitousness.

fishfingerSarnies Thu 27-Nov-14 22:15:11

Barnaby and Rupert are great James and Benjamin are pretty boring.

Leeds2 Thu 27-Nov-14 22:43:47

I prefer James from the names you list.

Personally think Rupert is dreadful. And I am a professional.

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