Would it be weird to name your ds a version of your name

(40 Posts)
FattyMcChubster Wed 19-Jun-13 22:55:16

That's it basically.
I know a lot of men name their ds after themselves but why if you gave your son the masculine version of your name? Is that odd?

Like, simone-Simon

That might not be my best example but don't want to out myself! blushgrin

FattyMcChubster Wed 19-Jun-13 22:55:44

What not why
Stupid fat fingers

LoriGrimes Wed 19-Jun-13 23:32:01

I know a little Nigella named after her dad. Unfortunately he left a few months after she was born.

LoriGrimes Wed 19-Jun-13 23:34:12

Ignore what I just said. It's not what you meant is it?

savoirfaire Wed 19-Jun-13 23:37:03

I was very nearly called the female version of my dad's name. Fortunately at the last minute my mum saw sense, put her foot down and I got something else. As a teenager I had a massive falling out with my dad and we have never, really, recovered our relationship. For that reason, I would never do this. I would utterly hate having 'my dad's name' and would have been very aware of it and I'm sure very uncomfortable when we were going through that phase particularly (and let's face it, difficult relationships between parents/children during teenager-dom are hardly rare!).

FattyMcChubster Wed 19-Jun-13 23:40:48

Sav, would it have been different of it had been your mums name?

savoirfaire Wed 19-Jun-13 23:42:09

Well in my case it might have, because I got on well with my mum. I know many girls who had mega fall outs (short, or longer term) with their mums too. Teenage girls are just as likely to have volatile relationships with either parent IME.

I did this by mistake blush. I am generally known by a diminutive rather than my 'proper' name, it was only when DS was a month old that it occurred to me his name is the masculine version of my proper name. It does suit him though and was too late to change it by then!

BabyStone Wed 19-Jun-13 23:48:21

How about changing it slightly like Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith has done with their 2 children. They have Willow after Will and Jaden after Jada. I quite like the idea for myself but seeing as I have a unisex name and named after a male relative, it wouldn't really work! sad

MrsFrederickWentworth Thu 20-Jun-13 00:03:30

Why not?

Frederica/ Freddy
Thomasina, Tamsin / Thomas
Josephine/ Joseph
Joanna, Jane, Jenny/ John
jaquetta, jacqueline/ jack, James
Louisa/ Louis, Lewis
Nicole, Nicola/ Nicholas
Augusta/ Auguste, Augustus
Clementina, Clemency/Clement

I think it is a lovely idea.

FattyMcChubster Thu 20-Jun-13 00:17:00

Ooh mrs f you've got it!
I've just never heard of mum-son names, it's normally dad-child names isn't it?

MardyBra Thu 20-Jun-13 00:39:33

Yes. But I don't like Dad-child names either. I'd rather just think of something original rather than going for a mini-me.

I find the Will/Willow/Jada/Jaden thing a bit disturbing for some reason.

I know it's a personal preference, but fwiw you will find some people who are a bit freaked.

DebsMorgan Thu 20-Jun-13 01:02:36

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SpecialAgentTattooedQueen Thu 20-Jun-13 01:02:41

My mum has the female version of my grandfather's name, and all my aunts have Mary as one of their middle names and my uncles have Patrick as one of theirs... confused

FattyMcChubster Thu 20-Jun-13 01:12:27

Hmm. We do have a 'family' name which every bugger seems to have and even in my closest family try all have names starting with the same letter apart from me!
It alwys sounds odd when outsiders start asking questions...hmmgrin

I do however love this boys name.

IsThisAGoodIdea Thu 20-Jun-13 01:20:50

I'd love to name my DD a lengthened version of my name but am worried people would find it narcissistic. Such a lovely name though.

Imagine Julie calling her daughter Juliette. For example. Not my name but would you find it weird?

curlyclaz13 Thu 20-Jun-13 01:29:01

slightly different but we have chosen a name with the same meaning as OH for a middle name. still feels like naming after but not exactly. Also we would have ended up with omg as initials if we used exactly the same name !

WhiteBirdBlueSky Thu 20-Jun-13 01:36:34

I think it's a bit of an odd thing to do.

nooka Thu 20-Jun-13 02:34:25

I think it is a bit self indulgent, but I'd think the same the other way around (e.g. I thought it was naff that Nigel Lawson called his daughter Nigella) and think that parents who call their children the exact same name as them are both self indulgent and unimaginative!

However I think it depends on how closely the names are related as there are quite a few names (esp. girls names) that are derived from other names but were you wouldn't immediately think that the child was called after a parent. Like a father called James with a daughter Jacqueline sounds very different to a Paul/Paula type combo.

HappyAsASandboy Thu 20-Jun-13 02:40:01

Our children have one of our names each as a middle name. DS has DH's middle name as his middle name, and DD has my first name as her middle name.

Sometimes I wonder if it is a bit odd, but we have nice names and they make nice names for the children grin

I think it used to be a lot more common for children to take older generations names (mums, dads, aunties, uncles) and I quite like the sense of family.

mathanxiety Thu 20-Jun-13 05:14:49

I wouldn't consider Julie - Juliette weird at all, or any names on MrsFrederickWentworth's list or similar.

However, if a name was one you would hardly ever hear used for a boy or girl and if it stood out as a near copy of a father or mother's name then I would wonder if they couldn't have been a bit more original.

mathanxiety Thu 20-Jun-13 05:16:21

Family names are still very common in my family -- it helps that it's a huge family, with previous generations having 10+ children so there are many names to choose from.

ghislaine Thu 20-Jun-13 07:46:23

I have done this, although not on purpose and it's not very obvious. (More like Rupert/Roberta than Simon/Simone.) No-one has ever commented on it.

milkymocha Thu 20-Jun-13 09:03:44

I have the female version of my dads name and live it smile although we both have the same nickname that gets confusing for DP.

FattyMcChubster Thu 20-Jun-13 16:30:14

Thing is, I love the name and had to have it pointed out that it's the masculine version of my own name shockblush
<dim emoticon>
So it's not that I would use it as in naming after myself, only that I love it and it just happens to be similar? But that's a pretty long story to get into!

dufflefluffle Thu 20-Jun-13 16:32:20


I don't think it's be too weird

WomanvsFood Thu 20-Jun-13 16:57:09

I have done this, though kind of unwittingly. We chose Christopher for our DS, but have shortened to Kit. My name is Kate, and the similarity didn't occur to either of us until after we were dead set on the name and so we went for it anyway.

Some people probably find it a bit odd, but I really like it - feels like DS and I are a proper little team.

Maryz Thu 20-Jun-13 17:11:03

I also find the Will Smith thing a bit odd, because of the pairing of Dad/daughter and Mum/son.

What are they going to do if they have another child? Call it Wida or Jall, or something else entirely?

miffybun73 Thu 20-Jun-13 17:49:39

I think that it's a bit strange, but plenty of people do it.

I went to school with a girl named after her she was called Nala, and her Dad was called Alan.

MrsFrederickWentworth Thu 20-Jun-13 22:39:05

If you like it, go ahead. I think it is nice, not narcissistic.

But maybe I would say that because we have family names for boys on both DH's and my side, and I was called after my mother, with the old fashioned variant of her name. I always just thought how much my father loved my mother.

Now guessing frantically which name it is.

To add uselessly to the list
Dorothea , theodora/Theodore, as above

Ooh I am having fun

Alexandra/ Alexander,Alistair.

Bertha,.Roberta/ Robert
Add Seamus and iago and Jago and Jake and Jemima to the James list.

IsThisAGoodIdea Fri 21-Jun-13 01:40:43

Would people find Anna/Annabel weird?

PinkPepper Fri 21-Jun-13 02:01:06

Not for me - but then I have a unisex name. I personally wouldn't though but wouldn't let dp either smile

MooseBeTimeForSpring Fri 21-Jun-13 03:18:25

My mother was Joan Alice. I'm Joanne Allison.

MooseBeTimeForSpring Fri 21-Jun-13 03:19:08

I never asked if it was purposeful or accidental. I was DD2.

TeaCuresEverything Sat 22-Jun-13 11:48:07

ha ha I don't know if my ds would have suited being called Victor.

NigellaEllaElla Sat 22-Jun-13 12:03:57

This would definitely make me a bit hmm

If I knew someone who had done this I would definitely be hoiking up my judgey pants. I know it would be wrong of me to do so. I'm just giving my honest opinion.

NigellaEllaElla Sat 22-Jun-13 12:06:40

I should add that something like Jemima and James I think is fine. The ones I would have a problem with are the obviously samey ones - Christina and Christopher; Henry and Henrietta; Alexander and Alexandra.

diddl Sat 22-Jun-13 12:17:08

Odd to me.

But then we've never named after GPs, parents either.

Although my son has the same middle name as his dad & his dad iyswim.

And my daughter has the same middle name as my maternal GM.

I know a Stephanie who called her son Steven.

Didn't strike me as narcissistic, more-could you really not think of something original?

ShabbyButNotChic Sun 23-Jun-13 20:37:08

My auntie did this accidentally, she is called christine (chrissie for short) and had twins one christmas eve, so they were called (after many mary and joseph jokes) christopher and holly. She didnt make the connection until someone referred to the baby as chris! Blame the baby brain....she made many attempts to start other nicknames kit/topher etc but no, chris stuck. The worst bit, when he got to school alllll his friends called him chrissy....yes, she felt dim.

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