Do you really think that you just know when you see your baby?

(43 Posts)
AmIGoingMad Tue 18-Jun-13 14:11:36

Just that really. You might have seen a few threads from me recently wondering about Elodie or Sophie/Sophia and I'm just wondering if, in your experience, you 'just knew' which name to go for in seeing your little one?
We had set name in mind for DS so just went with that but am finding it more difficult this time around.

BlueStarsAtNight Tue 18-Jun-13 14:21:05

I guess some people must as a lot of people seem to say it! We had a definite name before having DS as we're very indecisive and knew we'd take ages otherwise. I think certain names make me think of certain features like hair colour for example, but on the whole I don't go in for "knowing when you see them" - I think babies grow to look like whatever name you give them.

YoniMatopoeia Tue 18-Jun-13 14:23:00

I didn't.

We had a choice of two names.

We asked the midwife to choose

alteredimages Tue 18-Jun-13 14:24:27

With DD we took this approach but didn't find picking a name any easier once she'd arrived! We also found that all the possibilities we'd picked out didn't suit her and picked a completely different name in the end. The name we eventually chose was one we'd hated during the pregnancy but it just suits her. smile

Bythebeach Tue 18-Jun-13 14:28:28

No. DS1 was named at birth but DS2 &3 took 2 weeks and 5 weeks to decide!

MightBeMad Tue 18-Jun-13 14:33:03

No here too! Had a name in mind before dc1 arrived but were very undecided when she was born and afterwards. Never been quite sure stil tbh!

We didn't. It took a week before we decided. He was just 'the baby' til then.

WhatHo Tue 18-Jun-13 14:36:37

If I had waited until birth to name my DDs, they'd be called 'Winston' and 'Churchill' grin

We used our chosen names for both and both have grown into them like Blue says. DH and I are very tall so we didn't chose delicate fairylike names - I think that would have been a deal-breaker for our big, chubby babies.

shushmonster Tue 18-Jun-13 14:47:47

You will definitely know if it's the wrong name. Ds1 did not suit his chosen name at all. Wrong colour hair for it ! I know it's sounds silly. Don't be in any rush tp pick baby names you have weeks before you have to decide. I 'tried out' several names on DD1 before deciding on something I would never have considered during pregnancy.

Elquota Tue 18-Jun-13 16:45:25

Another no here!

sparkle12mar08 Tue 18-Jun-13 18:29:34

We had decided a name before ds2 was born. We were both totally agreed and we both loved it. Yet I took one look at him the second he was born, and it was just there in my head: "Well you're certainly not an X!" Swiftly followed by "What the hell are we going to call you then?!"

So we talked and talked and talked some more and three weeks later eventually settled on my next choice.

MyNameIsSuz Tue 18-Jun-13 18:35:27

I had hoped so, we went in with a shortlist of six but he didn't look like any of them! In fact he looked so much like one of my brothers that the only name I could think of was that brother's name, which was out of the question. Four days later we gave him a name not on our original list at all and it definitely suits him, though I think several others would have suited him too.

bodiddly Tue 18-Jun-13 18:45:57

God no, it took 3 weeks!

ImaHexGirl Tue 18-Jun-13 18:53:32

We had two names and as soon as we saw DS we knew which name he was. He has lived up to that name ever since but maybe that's the way we perceive it. If we'd chosen the other name then maybe we'd have had the same view. Everyone who has ever met him though has said that he couldn't be anything but his name although that could be for the wrong reasons!

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Tue 18-Jun-13 18:58:26

We had two names lined up for DD before she was born and she has neither of those names. We went with a name we had discussed and liked but wasn't actually on the short list because it seemed to suit her best.

It took us weeks to name DS so he was just 'baby' for quite a while, we couldn't decide on a name we liked. We had girls' names lined up but nothing for a boy. Good job you can't give a baby a complex by not naming him. In the end we stuck a dozen names into a hat and pulled one out!

Sarahplane Tue 18-Jun-13 19:03:28

with dd we had 2 first names in mind and two middle names but picked once she was born. she ended up with both the first names, one as first and one as middle because they really suited her.

with ds we had more trouble choosing a name. I startedcchanging my mind after he was born and then we ended up deciding on the one we had picked when I was pregnant. I think he was about ten days old before I made up my mind.

LondonBus Tue 18-Jun-13 19:07:57

With DS I just knew.

With DD I wasn't sure (we didn't have a name picked already) I'm still not convinced we gave her the best name for her.

I think babies grow into their names, after all I have never met an adult and thought that their name didn't suit them.

I wanted dd to have a strong name that would suit a girl and an adult woman. if I had given her a name which suited her as a newborn she would have been called squishybum or jigglepops.

NotSoNervous Tue 18-Jun-13 19:19:21

I didn't, it took me quite a while to get use to DD having a name and not just being baby or bump

AmIGoingMad Tue 18-Jun-13 19:45:52

These are all very interesting. Thank you!

LeoTheLateBloomer Tue 18-Jun-13 19:48:48

We did. Sort of. We went in with three boys names and three girls names. We had a girl and tried each name on her. She 'responded' to one of them so we agreed that that would be her name. Then after about 5 minutes of looking at her we both agreed that it was totally wrong and changed it. As soon as we changed it we knew it was right.

Ham69 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:07:09

No way! Both of mine just looked like a 'baby' and it took me a long time to call them a name without feeling silly! Took about a week to name DS but I only had one name in mind for DD and just went with it. I don't think either of them suited their names particularly but they have both grown into them now!

No, we didn't know their names when my two were born, what we did see was that the theoretical names just didn't suit the actual human being when they are there in front of you.

I'd be wary of going with hair colour or something when you are naming them. No2 son's name means Dark or swarthy - he was dark skinned and had dark hair......then the bleeder went blond! grin

He has darkened again as he has gotten older but still....

tammytoby Tue 18-Jun-13 21:50:13

We chose our kids' names as soon as we found out the gender at the 20 week scan!

A name is just a collection of letters and I agree with previous posters that a child/person grows into any name.

farmersdaughter Tue 18-Jun-13 22:11:54

DH and I had agree on DD name before she was born, when she arrived I wanted to call her Charlotte, DH put his foot down and said we should call her what we agree. I'm glad he did, mainly as I was so blooming tried when the MW asked what her name was I said Anna... It's not Anna, not even close. I couldn't think straight and kept crying. blushgrin

If in doubt, have a feed and sleep and come back to it several hrs later


AmIGoingMad Tue 18-Jun-13 22:28:18

That's good advice! Probably best to either know for definite in advance, or if not not to make decision while still delirious from gas and air!grin

justhayley Tue 18-Jun-13 22:35:30

Nope. Took us 3 1/2 weeks to name our DS. He just didn't suit any of the names we had on our shortlist. He did however look like a certain name but it wasn't one we were keen on lol

Dillytante Tue 18-Jun-13 22:38:12

Nope. DD2 wasn't named for a week & it was v stressful. In my hormone addled state I thought I might actually have to divorce DH for wanting to call her Isabella (no idea why I was so against it - sleep deprived & irrational.)

The problem was between DD2 being such a terrible sleeper & DH looking after DD1, & them both getting sickness bugs, we barely saw each other to speak coherently in the first week.

We compromised on a name by day 7 & it is lovely smile

cece Tue 18-Jun-13 22:39:58

DD we had a shortlist of 3 names we both liked. She got the one which was the bottom of the list - she didn't suit the other two.

DS1 - rather threw us as he was a boy. We hadn't really got an agreed boys name so he got a compromise name that didn't really suit him but does now. Chosen after the birth though, not before.

DS2 - we had one boys name we could agree on prior to birth. It did not suit him at all (and still doesn't) so he got a name suggested by mw when he was 5 days old.

Dillytante Tue 18-Jun-13 22:40:39

I wanted dd to have a strong name that would suit a girl and an adult woman. if I had given her a name which suited her as a newborn she would have been called squishybum or jigglepops.

Lol at this MrsBugsyWugsy grin

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Tue 18-Jun-13 23:06:14

Yes, both times we went into the delivery room with a shortlist of 2 or 3 names, and DC just looked like one of them. Both were named before I'd showered!

Stixswhichtwizzle Wed 19-Jun-13 20:19:09

I didn't. We just went with the name we'd discussed most recently!

notadoctor Wed 19-Jun-13 23:26:52

Ha! I've just been on your other thread and suggesting waiting to meet her and then spotted this! For us, we had 2-3 names in mind and the front runner kept changing but as soon as we saw our DD we both knew - in our case, one of the names was much more girly/ pretty than the others and as soon as we saw our DDs lovely, grumpy, impish little face we knew the more tomboy name would suit her better.

wilkos Wed 19-Jun-13 23:46:53

DD took weeks of negotiation on loads of name combinations btw me and exDH (knew from 30 weeks she was a girl, exDH in shock as he already had DSS and presumed he could only do boys because fundamentally he is an idiot )

DS was a total surprise, convinced I was having a girl. Sonographer pointed out he had a willy and I instantly thought "his name is Tom" very odd as I was in shock with finding out he was a boy anyway and it wasn't a name that had ever entered my head till that moment grin anyway that was that and that's what he is.

It's not an original name by any means but he honestly couldn't have been anything else!

tittytittyhanghang Thu 20-Jun-13 00:03:20

I had both ds named by the time i was 6 months pregnant so bump was constantly referred to as that name. By the time they were born it would have seemed weird to rename them something else, like renaming a 6 month old baby.

lovepigeon Thu 20-Jun-13 00:14:43

Yes we had a choice of two names for our DD and when she arrived she definitely suited one more than the other. She just did not look like what had previously been our first choice and I think she suits the other choice much more. I felt I couldn't really name my baby until I had seen her.

TeamEdward Thu 20-Jun-13 00:28:34

We had a set of boys names and girls names ready for our first child. He was a boy and was named straight away.
With DS2, we had three names ready. I really liked one in particular, but gave birth to a huge bruiser of a baby and the name just did not suit! He got the "rugby forward"'s name, plus the other two as middle names.

sleepingbeautiful Thu 20-Jun-13 03:09:47

I'm 50/50. We have twins with unknown gender til birth and just had short lists of names. For DS we totally knew which of the names off our boy list he was straight away, and still know it was the right pick 11 months later. For DD we were none the wiser on meeting her, and I'm still a bit meh about her name. Wish I'd have argued harder for one that I liked and DH didn't, because now I can really see her wearing that name.

AmIGoingMad Thu 20-Jun-13 08:23:00

It's so interesting to read the different experiences with this!

It really seems to be more of a 50/50 split now whereas the first posts all seemed to say no!

JessieEssex Thu 20-Jun-13 13:17:44

We 'knew' with both our DDs - DD1 was either Imogen or Connie, and as soon as she was born, DH and I looked at each other and said 'Imogen' at the same time. It was spooky! With DD2 I loved the name Penelope but DH wasn't sure. When she was born and the midwife asked if we had a name, DH said 'Penelope'. It was obvious!

rockybalboa Thu 20-Jun-13 20:48:17

No. I don't think either of my DS's looked like their names particularly but they have def grown into them. We were pretty certain what each was going to be called though. Not the case with this one which is likely to be nameless for a while unless something clicks in our heads soon!

Mama1980 Thu 20-Jun-13 20:50:00

Yes with my ds1 I just knew instantly, and he totally suits his name. Ds2 was named by dd so I didn't get to pick (she's 15 by the way and has great taste!) I do love the name though.

miffybun73 Thu 20-Jun-13 21:14:37

My two had definite names from the 20 week scan onwards smile

Can't imagine seeing a newborn baby and thinking that they didn't suit a name.

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