Oscar as a girl's name....?

(69 Posts)
Snoopies Wed 15-May-13 00:51:13

We have just had a gorgeous baby girl and we have called her Oscar. Are we making a bad decision (our parents think so)?? The name derives from Os-Cara so we hoped we could get away with it.

Decoy Wed 15-May-13 00:53:46

If you've already chosen the name, do you really want people's honest opinions? Are you thinking of changing the name if you get negative feedback?

NatashaBee Wed 15-May-13 00:54:14

I have never heard of it as a female name. Cara would be a nice nn for it though.

Clary Wed 15-May-13 00:54:28

Yes I think that is not your best ever plan.

Oscar is really a boy's name, I have never heard it used for a girl. It's not Alex, or Billy, or Taylor or Jordan.

Sorry to be blunt but could you change it? How about Cara? Or Olga if you like the O?

Shesparkles Wed 15-May-13 00:55:02

Sorry I'm with your parents, your daughter is going to have a lifetime of explanations

Clary Wed 15-May-13 00:55:36

x post natasha.

Sorry OP if you are set on it then of course go ahead. I was a bit forthright there. But if you want my actual opinion, well see my first post.

saffronwblue Wed 15-May-13 00:58:23

I too think this is not a great idea. For her whole life the first conversation she will have with anyone will be explaining her unusual name. She also will get misdirected mail, confusion at job interviews, meetings etc etc. If she happens to be quite masculine looking it may well be a source of teasing. How about Tosca? Or Oscara? Lottie? Oksana?
Congratulations by the way!

Oscar for a brand new baby girl?


Hero of mine but still


Very recent and therefore WTF??

Yeah, a pretty bad decision all round. Hope you're quirkiness was worth it.

Daughteroughter Wed 15-May-13 01:03:54

Dog's name as far as I'm concerned think its odd even for little boy

lovedimsum Wed 15-May-13 01:03:54

Yes I agree.... People will assume she is male. I always think about what a name will look like on a CV. I think Cara is a pretty alternative.

KittenofDoom Wed 15-May-13 01:43:27

This is a wind-up, surely?

When I got confirmed a friend of mine had Oscar as her middle name. I had Jude. Both boys' names. They are names, they're not life sentences. If you've already done it, then great, enjoy your choice and your baby girl. smile

I quiet like it!

cafecito Wed 15-May-13 01:55:54

I think grouch and pistorius might be the first things I think of..

I'm afraid I'm with your parents on this one.

munchkinmaster Wed 15-May-13 02:40:38

I'm sorry but it's a boys name. Of course she is your daughter and you can theoretically do as you choose but given there are 1000s of girls names out there why would you give her a boys name and then complain when others don't like it.

lisaro Wed 15-May-13 02:45:01

Awful, why would you do that?

NapaCab Wed 15-May-13 02:53:25

Well, it may have been known for eccentric aristocratic families to name a daughter Andrew or Wilbur after some illustrious male forbear due to inheritance stipulations in a will(!), but in this case, unless you have an illustrious forebear called Oscar, it seems unnecessary.

ChasedByBees Wed 15-May-13 02:58:20

I'm sorry I'm with your parents too.

Wibblypiglikesbananas Wed 15-May-13 03:01:19

It's unusual but then as a Brit in the US, I've met baby girls called Smith and Parker so here, I doubt it'd raise any eyebrows.

TanteRose Wed 15-May-13 03:07:03

if it derives from Oscara, then call her that

mathanxiety Wed 15-May-13 03:15:59

Oscara is too close to mascara and Oscar really is a boy's name.

GiraffesAndButterflies Wed 15-May-13 03:28:24

Agree with pps... She is in for a lifetime of 'Dear Mr...', people mishearing, etc. I've met a couple of people in similar situations and they were both completely weary of it. Sorry OP. sad

sleepingbeautiful Wed 15-May-13 04:48:58

It often gets snickers as a boy's name. I really wouldn't want to be saddled with it as a girl.

Ps is this a wind up? I'm struggling to believe someone would really do this...

JojoMags Wed 15-May-13 08:19:52

I actually like boys names for girls - thinking Tommy, Robbie, Frankie, Henri, Hari, and I see where you are coming from with Oscar. Looked at one way it has a touch of rakish glamour. The trouble is it is sooo common just now for boys and if she can't pull off extreme glamour/quirkiness as she grows up (and lets face it - not many can) 'Oscar'will be a burden. I would use it as a mn and pick something else.

evamummy Wed 15-May-13 09:32:39

According to the 1990 United States Census, Oscar ranked as the 151st most popular male first name, the 4,120th most popular female first name and the 13,443rd most popular last name. (Just googled this).

Seems more and more boys names are being used for girls - I know a female Elliot, a female Georgie and a female Jamie. Not sure I personally would choose such names, but if you love Oscar that much and have already named her, I'm sure people will quickly associate it with your lovely daughter! Congratulations!

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Wed 15-May-13 09:36:32

I'm with your parents. Life's hard enough for goodness sake.

xigris Wed 15-May-13 09:42:04

I like the name Oscar but I do think you're setting her up for a lot of confusion in life. I once knew an American lady called Shaun (not Shauna) and while she quite like her unusual-for-a-female name, she was always assumed to male until people met her iyswim

expatinscotland Wed 15-May-13 09:44:53

Yes, you're making a mistake. It's fine to be stupid and ridiculous in your own life, but when you visit that on a child, it's not on.

tilbatilba Wed 15-May-13 09:46:02

with your parents here

ShowOfHands Wed 15-May-13 09:48:45

My niece has a popular name which is almost exclusively used for boys. People do a double take every single time.

I shouldn't imagine people will judge her for it. She'll be bigger and better than her name, as all children are. People will think things about you though. Depends whether you care.

Snoopies Wed 15-May-13 10:20:59


It appears we're not alone making a decision like this!

ComtesseDeSpair Wed 15-May-13 10:29:46

I'll go against the grain and say I quite like it. I think the trend in the US for girls to be given masculine or traditionally male names (I know of American girls called Felix, Ryan, Shane, Sloane, Parker and Elliot) will catch on further in the UK, anyway.

I have a name which is unisex but apparently far more commonly used for boys (Leigh). Sure, sometimes people are surprised that I'm a woman if my name has preceded me. Occasionally people will say in a laugh-y wake, "Oh, we didn't realise you were a woman!" and we'll all have a chuckle. After that, everyone knows I'm girl-Leigh, and it ceases to be note-worthy. Mostly people don't even comment. To be honest, there aren't that many situations in my life where initial assumptions made about my sex from my name matter much. I mean, if I turn up for a job interview and the panel is expecting a bloke they might be a bit thrown but it's easily corrected (and always interesting to ponder whether I'd have got the interview if my name was Leah or Leanne). I've yet to be at the centre of a terrible, earth-shattering hoo-ha because somebody has mistaken me for a man and the situation absolutely cannot be remedied.

FingersCrossedLegsNot Wed 15-May-13 11:35:19

You must be joking.....why do you hate your dd?

kiwigirl42 Wed 15-May-13 11:44:42

no. no no no no no. awful. bet she is adorable though. give her an adorable name to match

harleyd Wed 15-May-13 11:48:00

this cant be real?

SoupDragon Wed 15-May-13 11:50:48

It appears we're not alone making a decision like this!

The line for girls is on 1. One.

It's a stupid name for a girl.

polkadotsrock Wed 15-May-13 11:53:36

Em, I would want to poke my parents in the eye if they did this to me. But if you like it and have already done it then what we think is largely irrelevant. Congrats though

5madthings Wed 15-May-13 11:54:04

Well i love the name oscar, i have a child called oscar myself...he is a boy tho, not sure about using it for a girl.

FoxyRevenger Wed 15-May-13 11:56:04

Well Oscar's a nice name. For a boy. It's as if you named her Steve or something.

Another vote against.

My DS1 has an ambidextrous name (Jocelyn, known as Joss) and occasionally people think he is a girl (the library), or that they have misheard and he is a Josh. There are a few (not many I agree) male Josses out there (think Joss Acland), but can't think of a single girl Oscar. It is a bit odd.

EuroShaggleton Wed 15-May-13 11:57:11

I'm with your parents. I like it as a boy's name. Why not call her Oscara, if that is what you really mean?

BeanoNoir Wed 15-May-13 11:57:36

Stevie is a nice girl's name though. I quite like your choice.

saffronwblue Wed 15-May-13 12:01:29

My mother's name is Noel (Christmas baby) and it has caused her many tedious problems because people assume she is male. Recently she was kept waiting for hours at a doctor's because he glanced into the waiting room, expecting to see a man so did not call her in...

Do you really want her name to become your DD's defining characteristic?

ItsYonliMe Wed 15-May-13 12:04:48

I think OP is taking the piss to be honest. No posting history and a link which shows that Oscar is not a girl's name.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Wed 15-May-13 12:07:21

As bad as that chicken of the sea bimbo calling her baby girl Max.

MrsApplepants Wed 15-May-13 12:07:41

I love Oscar, but for a boy. It really isn't a girls name. Sorry but I think you've made a mistake

kipplin Wed 15-May-13 13:02:07

People will get 'used' to it eventually, but I have to admit that I would assume she was a boy if you introduced her at a baby group. You're going to have to dress her in pink ;-)

Really like cara though... And congratulations on your new baby!

IAteTheCake Wed 15-May-13 13:34:47

Coming from a family with unusual names... I wouldn't personally go for this option. It will be a lifetime of explanations and misunderstandings... sorry OP...

TheSecondComing Wed 15-May-13 13:38:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

randgirl Wed 15-May-13 13:41:48

No i dont think so, not with the Oscar Pistorius saga going on right now.... If you like Oscara why not go with Kiara.. or along those lines.

CalamityKate Wed 15-May-13 13:47:19

On the off chance that this is real - it's all very well being attention seeking and proud of being "different" but it isn't you who is going to take most of the flak is it?

You might well revel in being wacky and alternative but chances are your daughter will hate it.

Seriously, there are NO girls names you like?? hmm

I have a DS called Oscar ... but it is very much a boys name.

The other thing to consider is that it is currently a ridiculously popular boys name, so if you have chosen the name to be unusual you are mistaken.

KittenofDoom Wed 15-May-13 14:08:29

It's a piss-take <hides thread>

iheartmycat Wed 15-May-13 14:12:39

Well why not go the whole hog and change your own name to John......see the kind of looks and comments your daughter will have to put up with for years!!!

If the name comes from oscara, why not call her oscara?

pooka Wed 15-May-13 14:33:50


pooka Wed 15-May-13 14:35:13

Your parents are talking sense.

Oscar - well, if you like it so much, change your own name to it and see how you feel dealing with other peoples reactions. Why lumber your girl with a future of confusion or ridicule?

amothersplaceisinthewrong Wed 15-May-13 14:35:22


notnagging Wed 15-May-13 16:20:03

I've got a boys name. People lays assume I'm going to be a boy. I am constantly told its a boys name.hmm

Snoopies Wed 15-May-13 16:26:13

Panic over....we've agreed to flip her names round and call her Cecily Oscar.

munchkinmaster Wed 15-May-13 17:29:56

Good call!

Ooh, Cecily is lovely!

sleepingbeautiful Wed 15-May-13 19:48:44

Much better. That way if she wants to be wacky when she's older, her choice smile

LynetteScavo Wed 15-May-13 20:02:43

In 1925 there were 8 girls named Dick. hmm And there hasn't been a boy named sue in the US since '96. - Apparently there are boys called, Sophie, Amelia, Jessica etc. What's that about?

Cecily is very nice. smile

LynetteScavo Wed 15-May-13 20:06:53

Weirdly, there are only girls named Apple, no boys. confused

everlong Wed 15-May-13 20:29:57

Thank christ for that OP.

Cecily is beautiful. I love it. I also love Oscar as it's my 13 year old SONS name.

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 15-May-13 21:27:30

Good call OP!

saffronwblue Thu 16-May-13 05:40:53

Well done. Cecily is beautiful. Print this thread out to show her when she is older!

Caladria Sat 18-May-13 22:22:34

There is sort of a precedent for calling a girl Oscar: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rose_of_Versailles

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