Girls middle name for a little boy??!

(34 Posts)
Emlyric Mon 06-May-13 08:02:52

So, our third little boy is due in 8 weeks and I have a middle-name dilema! I am very close to my mum and keen to use her name as a second middle name for one of our children - she is the most amazing lady - however, given we are blessed with boys it makes it a bit more tricky! Her name is Carol, which traditionally is a male name, and also has a dutch spelling Karel which is still used for boys over there - my husband is dutch so we have a tenous claim to use it 'legitimately' but I wanted to know thoughts! Am I condemning this wee one to a lifetime of friends sniggering at his passport?! Should we amend it to Karel or brazen it out with Carol?! xx

couldn't you use Carl? Obviously up to you but I wouldn't use a girl's name as a middle name for a boy.

raisah Mon 06-May-13 08:06:11

Use Karel or Charles as an alternative.
Lovely idea to name your son after your mum.

mirai Mon 06-May-13 08:06:12

Are you seriously asking whether you should give a boy the name Carol? Seriously?!

raisah Mon 06-May-13 08:08:22

Or Carl I forgot about that name as you dont hear of many new babies called Carl nowadays. Time for a change.

GeordieCherry Mon 06-May-13 08:08:38

Cathel is the Gaelic version, what about that?

Jenijena Mon 06-May-13 08:10:39

Could you use her surname (or maiden name)?

OhTinky Mon 06-May-13 08:12:19


BNmum Mon 06-May-13 08:19:13

Jenijena got there first but I was going to suggest using your mums maiden name

cheekbyjowl Mon 06-May-13 08:45:43

I think you can get away with karel. Its unusual enough that I wouldnt think of carol. But, you need a macho first name and strong surname ...i.e if your surname is lily and your chosen first name is Vivian...then perhaps re think it.

katkoala Mon 06-May-13 08:54:05

I would suggest Carl or uncles have the name Maria as a mn (my grandparents used the name Mary in some form for their 3 dd and twin sons)...we still take the pi$$ 55 years later!

HongkongDreamer Mon 06-May-13 09:02:11

What about carlos

EssieW Mon 06-May-13 09:09:45

I think using carol would be fine. I've heard it as male name before

Purplehulk Mon 06-May-13 09:45:51

I know a man with the mn Carroll. He uses it in his email addy so it has obviously never caused him embarrassment.

almapudden Mon 06-May-13 09:47:29

Carol is a boys' name. Pope John Paul II's real name was Carol; he was Polish.

It's just an alternative to Charles.

ClaraOswald Mon 06-May-13 09:50:20

I would go with the Dutch link and use Karel.

Bowlersarm Mon 06-May-13 09:50:46

Don't do it.

I have a boys name as my middle name (an old family surname which happens to be a boys name as well). I hate it, and just don't use it at all. I'm baffled as to why my parents thought i would like having it as part of my name.

ShipwreckedAndComatose Mon 06-May-13 09:54:36

Another vote for the surname are setting him up as bullying fodder

I would go with Karel. It's a handsome name and isn't a girl's name either.

KateBeckett Mon 06-May-13 10:12:01

Karel is fine smile reminds me of Karel Abram the moto gp rider!

JacqueslePeacock Mon 06-May-13 10:16:10

I know a man called Carol. Never considered it odd, really - it is a man's name in several languages.

lastnightidreamt Mon 06-May-13 10:18:20

I would go with Karel - lovely.

ryanboy Mon 06-May-13 10:18:29

Is using her maiden name a possibility?

KittenofDoom Mon 06-May-13 16:33:15

Even in English, Carol can also be a man's name. (eg film director Sir Carol Reed).

However I think you're on dodgy ground naming a boy Carol after a woman. Different if it was after your father or uncle, say.

I'd go for one of the indisputably masculine variants. Save Carol in case you have a girl some day.

YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad Mon 06-May-13 20:35:08

I don't think there's anything wrong with using Carol, I've heard it as a boys' name before.

rambososcar Mon 06-May-13 21:07:12

I had an Uncle Carol so I never think of it as anything other than a man's name but kids with a tendency to bully might not see it that way. I'd be wary of using it and would prefer to use a maiden surname or the name of my maternal grandfather or uncle instead.

Wouldntyouliketoknow Sun 12-May-13 13:43:07

I would use Karel. Or what about letting your mother choose a middle name, so even though it's not after her she is still 'part' of it?

Limelight Sun 12-May-13 13:49:23

I think it's fine but then I am named after my DGF - his middle name is my first name. And it's def a girl's name!

He was the youngest of lots and lots of boys, so the family story is that my great Grandparents had run out of boy's names by the time they got to him. grin

LynetteScavo Sun 12-May-13 13:53:05

Now I was all set to say don't be ridiculous you can't give a boy a girls name but Carols not so bad. Hillary, Lesley, Carol.....

bingeddybongo Sun 12-May-13 14:07:52

Just like Bowlersarm, I've got a boy's name as my middle name and it's done my head in my whole life. It's caused all my friends endless amusement though. Just so you know ;)

jkklpu Sun 12-May-13 22:01:34

What's your Mum's maiden name - have you thought of using that?

olivertheoctopus Sun 12-May-13 22:07:34

Karel works just fine. Link proven no probs if your DH is Dutch.

Likesshinythings Sun 12-May-13 22:10:14

There was a famous male Carol - Carol Reed, film director and uncle of Oliver Reed. He directed the film Oliver.

GibberTheMonkey Sun 12-May-13 23:25:36

Another vote for Karel smile

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