We got the name wrong....

(36 Posts)
TwinkleSparkleBling Thu 18-Apr-13 23:16:20

DD2 is called Freya. It's become really popular, I never really liked it (dh's influence) and it doesn't suit her.

I prefer Miranda (Mimi) and she probably looks like a Megan in all honesty.

Any suggestions for a suitable nn?

Chinateacup Thu 18-Apr-13 23:17:41


What is her middle name? Use that instead or variation from it?

MummyBurrows Thu 18-Apr-13 23:26:40

Have u regisitered her yet? If not then u still have time to talk to ur DH and change it smile xx FWIW I much prefer Megan and Freya is becoming annoyingly increasingly common/popular now!

Yika Thu 18-Apr-13 23:27:06

If you like Mimi, just call her it. To me it sounds almost like a term of endearment, like calling her cutie pie, and wouldn't necessarily have to relate to the real given name. (though I do know someone whose name is Mimi). I know plenty of people whose nickname, that they are always known by, bears no resemblance to their given name.

mumsywoo78 Thu 18-Apr-13 23:45:01

how old is she?

doyouwantfrieswiththat Thu 18-Apr-13 23:48:23


TwinkleSparkleBling Thu 18-Apr-13 23:58:58

She's 10 mths. Everyone knows her as Freya so it doesn't feel right to officially change it.

I think it's come to a head as we recently went on holiday and encountered 5 Freyas. I always wanted names that weren't popular so this really upset me.

Her middle name is v unusual my choice and I do love it so would feel happy calling her that.

How would I do that, or any of the other suggestions, though as she and everyone else recognise her as Freya?

Startail Fri 19-Apr-13 00:14:53

Freya is nice and I only know one and she's about 8 years older than yours.

DD2's name became very popular overnight and I agree it is very irritating when there are 5 of them at the same after school activity.

However, every DC is an individual, my name is very common, but I'm a bit eccentric and everyone tends to know exactly which Star they mean. I'm not sure if this is a blessing or a curse.

Certainly I'm not certain about very unusual names, I'm forever having to shh DD from talking about her BF in public because it's very likely someone will know exactly who she means.

Startail Fri 19-Apr-13 00:18:08

Not that she would be saying anything unkind, they really are best mates. It's just her name and those of her siblings are really memorable and their village IS gossip central.

mumsywoo78 Fri 19-Apr-13 00:22:04

my ds is 6mnths & iv never felt happy with his name even though it was my choice &iv suffered severe anxiety over it. things are getting easier though & i couldnt change his name now. u need to talk to your dh about this although im guessing he's probably happy with freya and wont want to call her by anything else. btw megan is a much more popular name than freya i know lots of megans.

KittenOfDoom Fri 19-Apr-13 01:04:07

If she's only 10 months then I think it's not too late to change what you call her.

It's just her name and those of her siblings are really memorable

Not Biggles, Posy and Tuppence again? grin

WafflyVersatile Fri 19-Apr-13 01:13:45

You're allowed a year to change their name with the registrars. After that you have to do it by deed poll.

My friend kept chopping and changing the order of her DC's names.

Longdistance Fri 19-Apr-13 01:19:21

I've got a friend who's name is her middle name. She refuses to use her first name.
Her first name is used on official documents, and with her work (as she can't change it), buy everyone calls her by her middle name, and even though her I'd, and official documents at work have her first name, they call her by her middle name, so do het friends, and family.
No one uses her first name at all.

Startail Fri 19-Apr-13 02:00:38

I'm absolutely not saying, it's possibly she lurks on here and some of here customers almost certainly MN

thegreylady Fri 19-Apr-13 08:50:43

I have three names so x y z then surname. I have always been known as z which happens to be my least favourite of the three. If you start using the mn now it will soon become "her" name.

Bowlersarm Fri 19-Apr-13 08:54:35

Insert Miranda or Mimi as another middle name, and simply start calling her Mimi and introduce her to everyone as that now. Any forms you need to fill out put her full name and insert 'known as Mimi'

TheRealFellatio Fri 19-Apr-13 09:01:56

If you like Mimi then you probably like Fifi. why don't you start calling her Fifi - if you do, then soon enough everyone else will as well.

BTW Freya is much nicer than Miranda, and if it's veing too popular that concerns you then you won't be any happier with Megan.

TheRealFellatio Fri 19-Apr-13 09:02:37

Or if you love her middle name the definitely use that.

KittenOfDoom Fri 19-Apr-13 10:40:14

Personally I loathe both Freya and Megan, and I like Miranda, but it isn't up to us.

DizziDoll Fri 19-Apr-13 10:46:17

A friend of mine started usung her DS's middle name after about 9 months. It took a little while to get used to it but now I have to think hard what his first namebis again. So it is possible and not too late.

Peregrin Fri 19-Apr-13 11:13:36

One of my friends started using his middle name (professionally as well as socially) age 35... people took a while to adjust but by now it works well.

Also, both my parents have nicknames that have nothing to do with their given names (I mean, shortened versions of other proper names, not "Floofy") and people call my grandmother Mimi even though it does not derive from her given name either.

Just some encouragement!

Sarah0378 Fri 19-Apr-13 11:16:58

I don't like the name Freya. It's not too late to change her name at 10 months. If you love the middle name then go with that and change the order on the birth certificate else she will always have to use a name that is not her first name on official forms and that could be annoying for her as an adult. Friends and family will get used to it quickly enough.

Snowflakepie Fri 19-Apr-13 13:07:48

If you want to change the order then do it now, rather than leave it even longer. I thought maybe Fifi if you like Mimi. Or Rae. In the future it may well end up getting shortened to Fray if you don't set a nn yourself, kids seem to do that naturally. I don't know any here so still think it is unusual.

everlong Fri 19-Apr-13 16:48:32

Not much you can do in all honesty is there apart from changing it all together?

Fwiw I prefer Freya to Miranda. Fifi at a pinch would do.

fussychica Fri 19-Apr-13 16:56:23

Freya is lovely and prefer to Miranda but if you are changing do it soon.

PearlyWhites Fri 19-Apr-13 16:58:54

If you did decide her name you can before 12 months

LeChatRouge Fri 19-Apr-13 17:03:33

I changed from my middle made up name to my first name one day when I was about 8. From that day on, that was my name. I had to correct a few people, but they soon got used to me not replying unless they said the right one.

I like the name Freya, but if you all agree, change it. She's got another 90 odd years to go, might as well be something you like!

flipchart Fri 19-Apr-13 17:06:30

I liked the name but 2 of my friends called their dogs Freya.
So everytime I hear Freya I think of a rottweiler or a Pug!

HazardLamps Fri 19-Apr-13 17:08:29

There's nothing to stop you changing your daughter's name at this stage if you want to, either legally or practically. I changed my child's name at about 6 months old.

Miranda is a lovely name but should never be shortened. grin

HazardLamps Fri 19-Apr-13 17:09:13

I meant shock not :D there!

Yika Fri 19-Apr-13 20:00:30

If you like her middle name, why not call her both for a while, like a double barrelled name, and then gradually phase out the Freya part.

I called my daughter a deliberately plain, classic, not very trendy name. Hey presto, of course it shot up the charts in the year of her birth and now there are millions with the same name. At her nursery, therefore, I suggested they call her first name + middle name together to distinguish her from the others. It caught on within a couple of days. It would be easy enough to phase out the first name I think.

Just an idea.
I actually like Freya, Miranda, Mimi AND Megan, FWIW smile

TwinkleSparkleBling Fri 19-Apr-13 22:15:58

Thank you for all your replies. And for not telling me I'm being daft.

DH and I had a good chat about it a few weeks ago. He hadn't realised how strongly I felt about it and said he would agree to changing if it was that important to me.

It is the popularity that is really bothering me. Maybe we were just unlucky that we bumped into so many Freya's thanks Center Parcs and it just brought it all to a head. Locally I haven't heard the name and when we registered her we were told there had only been 1 other in 3 years and that was the register's daughter! I felt quite happy then, so maybe I am over reacting.

You're right, I do like Fifi and thought about using this, but then worried it sounded like a poodle's name (to continue the dog theme!). I may yet try this again.

I REALLY like the idea of using her 1st and middle name together and then phasing out the Freya part.

I think I will do this and work on DH for DC3 in the hope of another girl who WILL be Miranda grin

TwinkleSparkleBling Fri 19-Apr-13 22:18:13

Oh and I must have been going on about this too much as DD1 (2.4) turned to me today and said " Mimi me want to be call Mimi now" . Well it would be a shame not to indulge her. A whole new thread wink

saycheeeeeese Fri 19-Apr-13 22:26:24

What about adding a d and make it Freyda?

Thirstysomething Fri 19-Apr-13 22:33:58

My sis-in-law is Mimi because when she started talking, she asked for everything by saying Me Me! Hijack this?! Xx

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