Should I (dad) join the brave new world?

(51 Posts)
Dadmaq Sat 30-Mar-13 19:02:29

Hi Mums, sorry to crash mums net but Dad here.
I need some guidance.
Already dad to a 3 year old with a name constantly in the top 10.
Next one is due in 2 weeks for the blue team and wifey and I can't agree on a name. I am mr safe. Safe names bring now expectation, judgment, or ridicule.

Mrs unsafe wants something that isn't 'boring' and says I need to get with the times. Something that is different but not so zaney

Anyway, long short, she wants Hugo. A name I haven't been able to fully commit to . I constantly hear myself in the situation of the supermarket or (hopefully) on the football sidelines shouting his name and everyone turning to look at me with "you called your kid Hugo? Phaah!"

Being welsh I wanted Huw, my son has a welsh middle name so I wanted to continue with the theme. Huw James. Mrs would like Hugo James. So I suppose a nn would be Huw. So both winners right? But to me what's the point in calling him Hugo if we are going to constantly call him Huw?

Should I step into the light and into the brave new world? Is Hugo a bit of a whacky name or am I just mr boring?

TreeLuLa Sat 30-Mar-13 19:04:25

Hugo is lovely, so is Huw.

Congratulations on another DS

flowerygirl Sat 30-Mar-13 19:04:48

Not wacky at all! Thought you were going to say the name you picked was Banana Hammock or something!

Meringue33 Sat 30-Mar-13 19:07:37

Both names are great. Hugo is not wacky at all.

Floweryhat Sat 30-Mar-13 19:08:18

Hugo is adorable and fairly mainstream to be honest.

AnAirOfHope Sat 30-Mar-13 19:09:37

Both names are good but i personally dont have a preferance as they are so close.

Yama Sat 30-Mar-13 19:12:40

Hugo is a great name. Honestly.

Huw a terrific nn. You both get what you want. Win win.

TheFallenNinja Sat 30-Mar-13 19:14:01

Did you not agree a veto system?

I prefer Huw but Hugo is a good solid real name too. Congratulations smile

MoelFammau Sat 30-Mar-13 19:15:24

Fellow Welshie here!

Well, I remember when I first heard the name Hugo used in real life - it was in Hyde Park one summer and this braying arse of a woman was screaming it across a rose garden at some poor toddler with bushy hair. I made a mental note that Hugo was a name for posh folk.

HOWEVER. There has now been a mainstream film called 'Hugo', I've met other, more normal Hugos and it's fine.

But being Welsh I LOVE Huw. Outside of Wales, Huw will look a pretty brave choice though and Hugo will be far more common. So, your 'safe' option might actually end up being the interesting one.

Weird, huh?

DessieLou Sat 30-Mar-13 19:33:42

I agree with MoelFammau. To me Hugo is boring & Huw is the different cool name. So Huw gets my vote! grin

They're both fine.

Round here it's Hugh, and that's the old fashioned boring one. Hugo is the cool version.

ChasedByBees Sat 30-Mar-13 19:45:24

I love Huw but DD has a very welsh name. Hugo is a good name too. Not helpful. smile

Artichook Sat 30-Mar-13 19:48:35

Neither name would raise an eyebrow round here (London), both totally normal. There are probably more little Hugos than Huws but I know quite a few adult Huws.

delilah88 Sat 30-Mar-13 19:55:46

Hugo is a bit posh to me, like Hector. Huw is amazing though! Stand your ground. She is probably dazzled by all the naming websites / pregnant gossip into choosing a poncey name. Huw is way, way, way nicer.

MoelFammau Sat 30-Mar-13 20:05:28

Aw, I know a lovely Glasgow toddler called Hector. As grounded as they come. It suits him so much.

Toptack Sat 30-Mar-13 20:10:11

I love the name Huw - would use it myself if my first boyfriend hadn't been called it! Hugo has always sounded a bit pseudo-posh to me, even though it is trendy.

ScrambledSmegs Sat 30-Mar-13 20:10:14

Hugo Weaving was the baddie in the Matrix, and some big elf thing in LOTR <helpful>

I prefer Huw personally. In fact, as you're welsh... I wanted Hywel as middle name for potential DS. That's not safe, and sounds pretty awesome wink

delilah88 Sat 30-Mar-13 20:16:00

Moel Ok, I rescind my comment and instead say Hector is posh only with a southern accent wink

survivingwinter Sat 30-Mar-13 20:20:20

Love Hugo and also really like Huey. Not so keen on the spelling of Huw but like the name itself.

I don't think of Hugo as a 'posh' name although my DH vetoed it from my list on those grounds!!

MoelFammau Sat 30-Mar-13 20:35:57

Southern accents are the problem, I agree. Because Hugo in Cumbria would be pronounced Yoo-gor, which is a million miles away from 'Hewwwgeaux'.


CheshireDing Sat 30-Mar-13 20:41:00

I love Hugo, it would have been pfb middle name had she been a boy.

Huw is nice but just makes me think of a news reader.

Do they both go with your Welsh surname equally?

sandberry Sat 30-Mar-13 20:45:23

Hugo is trendy, I've met seven newborns called it in the past few months (N London), it is one of those names where I now want to say "oh another one" when people announce it. I don't think it is poncy anymore, so need to worry about stares

Huw is far more unusual without being wacky, I'd go for Huw.

DontmindifIdo Sat 30-Mar-13 20:57:39

OK, how about this way of looking at it: Hugo - I only know that spelling, but outside of Wales, if someone said Huw to me, i'd assumed it was spelt Hugh. As someone who has an Irish spelling of a name that is far more commonly known with a different spelling, I'm very anti picking a name where it's highly likely they will spend a large percentage of their life either on the phone to a call centre correcting the spelling, or explaining they didn't get that important e-mail because it's been sent to the wrong address (with the other spelling), or arguing with an airline because someone in his office has booked the flights for him with the wrong spelling etc (drives me insane, I do know why my mum picked the spelling she did because I'm named after her Irish cousin, but really annoying)

If it's Hugo to be known as Huw, then at least for all formal things, he's going to be Hugo. Plus he'll have a lifetime of saying "no, it's not short for Hugo, it's just Huw".

So sorry, I'd let your DW win this one. It's not that different name that you would be calling your DS a name you don't like. Oh, and both aren't "out there" names, they are rather mainstream.

Hugo to me is posh - encounter in Waitrose - man pushing trolly with two kids sitting/standing in it - one boy about 4 and the other a girl aged about 2.

The guy was a total tosspot - kept blocking the aisles with the trolly while boy bashed lumps out of girl.

I can still hear his ineffectual voice saying "Hugo, Hugo, say sorry to Poppy and give her a kiss" Made me want to say, "man up for Christ sake and get Hugo out the trolly and give him a proper telling off"

So, between the father being a emasculated tosspot and Hugo being a wee shite, I can't hear that name (or Poppy) being said without thinking that the Dad needed to grow a pair for allowing his offspring to be so named.

Apologies to everyone I have just offended grin

So.....Huw for me everytime!!!

PoppyWearer Sat 30-Mar-13 21:35:21

I'm a non-Welshie and live in a naice posh area just outside London. Personally I'd go for Huw not Hugo, I think that Huw Stephens and Huw Edwards mean lots of folks know the name and could pronounce it correctly.

Huw would be weird IMHO without the Welsh connection, but as you have that, go for it!

PoppyWearer Sat 30-Mar-13 21:36:11

<ahem> re "Poppy". although that is not my real name

KittenOfDoom Sat 30-Mar-13 22:03:55

Hugo is fine and you can call him Huw if you wish.

Mum's happy
You're happy
Your son (and it'll be HIS name, remember) gets a choice


MortifiedAdams Sat 30-Mar-13 22:09:42

I love Huw and have recently suggested it to DH who is trying to veto.

Do not like Hugo.

sittinginthesun Sat 30-Mar-13 22:22:13

Love Hugo, (I do shop at Waitrose though wink), and it would have been in my list, but our surname starts with H, so it sounded weird.

I do think that Huw would be great if you are welsh.

Is your wife welsh too?

Potterer Sat 30-Mar-13 22:36:32

Love them both and it is surely win win.

My friend's son is called Lucas but also gets called Luc (Luke) and I actually thought he was called Luc until I heard him called Lucas.

I'm in Yorkshire and Huw or Hugh would be fine here, no snobby. I wouldn't think oooh I bet he's a bit posh grin I think it is nice to have welsh names if you are welsh, even if it is just a middle name.

Honestly when they start school and you hear all the names other parents have called their children, you will wonder what you were worried about. I think you need to look at the crazy names mentioned on this BBC news page Countries that regulate names

Also feel sorry for Talula Does The Hula From Hawaii, yes her REAL name. Of course she changed it.

olivertheoctopus Sat 30-Mar-13 23:41:50

Yep, Hugo is great and Huw makes a good nickname and compromise.

Startail Sat 30-Mar-13 23:53:22

I'm sure my class mate spelt it Hugh not Huw, but I'm guessing the latter is the proper Welsh spelling (mine was a very English bit of Wales).

Hugo is snooty South East and being a Yorkshire lass brought up in Wales I can't agree to that wink

acrabadabra Sun 31-Mar-13 00:25:17

If you decide on Huw just remember if you or ds ever move to Scotland there's a chance he'll inherit the nn Shug. I realised it's a different spelling but all Hugh's are Shug or Shuggie up here.

Think Hugo's close enough that it might happen for him too.

Just fyi, you need all the facts for consideration.

Never met a Shug I didn't like thought smile

OkayHazel Sun 31-Mar-13 00:31:51

Prefer Huw spelled Hugh - it just looks wrong to me the other way.

Ham69 Sun 31-Mar-13 00:44:56

Love Hugo and Huw. Not sure what the issue is here. Surely you can put Hugo on the BC and call him Hugo/ Hugh/ Huw?

zippey Sun 31-Mar-13 02:28:16

I agree, Hugo is awful, sounds too posh. Try and put your foot down about this. Remember he still has to go to school when older, and he might be made fun of. I can imagine stuff like "you go Hugo" etc.

Huw is much better, its different and cool. As an alternative, have you thought about the name "Zippey"?

Ham69 Sun 31-Mar-13 02:34:31

Oh my goodness, just image how scarred he will be if someone in the playground says, "You go Hugo". Shocking.

zippey Sun 31-Mar-13 02:47:41

I like Hugo Weaving the actor though - think the baddie in The Matrix or the goodie in V for Vendetta.

Thisisanoutrage Sun 31-Mar-13 08:41:30

If DD had been a boy then she would have been Hugh Alexander. With the nickname Huey as a baby. Hugh as an adult. I originally liked Hugo but thought it might be a bit faddy and that I might get bored of it over time.

I couldn't really imagine shouting 'Hugo' across morrisons either. Not here in the depths of Yorkshire grin

seeker Sun 31-Mar-13 08:45:34

I love Hugo, but could never use it because my accent is embarrassingly posh (I am not allowed to shout anything from the touch line) and I make it into about 8 syllables. But I do actually like Huw or Hugh better- could you call him Hugo for a "Sunday name" and use Huw for everyday?

catinboots Sun 31-Mar-13 08:50:37

We have a 3 year old Hugo.

He gets called Hugs, Huggsy, or Baby Hugs grin

We get so many compliments on his name now despite the hmm faces when he was born

KittenOfDoom Sun 31-Mar-13 11:31:36

I don't see this as any different from calling a Joseph, Joe - or a Joshua, Josh - or an Alexander, Alex ...... add your own example ....

ZolaBuddleia Sun 31-Mar-13 19:24:44

I'd go Huw, but then I don't live in Wales, where it might be commonplace and boring. Not keen on Hugo at all, sorry, just too posh. For me it's in the same bracket as Monty and Hilary.

Dadmaq Wed 03-Apr-13 21:36:16

Thanks everyone. Feeling in going to cave and let my wife have her Hugo.

Hugo James

DaveMccave Fri 05-Apr-13 01:17:38

Hugo is not out there. My dp wants to use it and I love it but I've seen an influx of baby Hugos recently so it's put me off as although its not quite there yet, I think it's gaining numbers fast! But if popular is your thing you'll be fine. (And in all honesty I silently sigh when I see yet another over popular name announcement. So boring! Don't assume people aren't judging because its popular)

thermalsinapril Fri 05-Apr-13 19:53:55

Prefer Huw. Hugo is a bit posh/wet for me.

thegreylady Fri 05-Apr-13 20:06:38

We had a pony called Hugo so I prefer Huw for a person smile
Both names are lovely though and James works very well as mn for both.

ZZZenagain Fri 05-Apr-13 20:11:24

prefer Huw to Hugo

Frikadellen Fri 05-Apr-13 20:23:24

I prefeer Huw personally

I do NOT think of Hugo as anything unusual and dont think any will turn around looking odly at you for Hugo.. It is fairly mainstream in my opinion.

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