Jess for a boy?

(147 Posts)
OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 02:02:16

I really like Jess and Jesse, but are there any longer names that these two derive from?

Feel like I just don't know enough about this name!

DialMforMummy Sat 30-Mar-13 07:02:04

I know a guy called Jesse. I love this name.

Kt8791 Sat 30-Mar-13 07:03:19

My friends son is called Jesse and I really like it.

Imsosorryalan Sat 30-Mar-13 07:04:15

No, too girly. Sorry

Sunnysummer Sat 30-Mar-13 07:16:03

There's also Jessamy - a traditional longer name and also a character in a Georgette Heyer book (yes, I'm not cool at all wink).

seeker Sat 30-Mar-13 07:18:49

Jessamy is a girls's name. Please don't call a boy Jessamy.

I would say don't call a boy Jesse either- sorry. Really, really not fair.

Kt8791 Sat 30-Mar-13 07:29:54

I also thought jessamy was a girls name?

bigbluebump Sat 30-Mar-13 07:34:20

I know a Jesse. Don't think he's got a longer name, think its just Jesse.

NotTreadingGrapes Sat 30-Mar-13 07:44:53

He will get teased for all eternity. Please don't.

Cowboys in the old west might have been able to carry it off because they could shoot people who took the piss.

Little boys are advised perhaps not to.

Bearandcub Sat 30-Mar-13 07:50:45

Disagree with the nay-sayers, I think Jesse is a great name. And is pronounced Jess.

I also think the negative side they are referring to is dated and homophobic and spelt differently: you big Jessie.

seeker Sat 30-Mar-13 07:53:47

Jesse is pronounced Jessy.

Go and find an 11 year old boy. Ask him how he would react if a boy called Jesse joined his class.

Then call your child something else.

chimchar Sat 30-Mar-13 07:54:12

I love it.....knew a very good looking hunky one when I was a teen, so good associations in my mind!

lockets Sat 30-Mar-13 09:37:45

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NotTreadingGrapes Sat 30-Mar-13 09:40:36

The different spelling doesn't change the pronunciation. It's pronounced Jessy as others have said, and like it or not, the connotation is not dated.

Do what Seeker suggests and ask some teen boys (or girls) their opinion.

lockets Sat 30-Mar-13 09:41:28

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NotTreadingGrapes Sat 30-Mar-13 09:42:50

How old is he?

dadofnone Sat 30-Mar-13 09:45:04

DS'sfriend is called Jess. He is 17, 6ft2, drummer and top mountain biker.
Lovely lad. I would have picked that name for DS if I had thought of it.

lockets Sat 30-Mar-13 09:48:22

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seeker Sat 30-Mar-13 10:04:19

Good. They are lucky. Another child mightn't be. Why on earth run the risk? Just bizarre.

I hope that my 12 year old would be self controlled and polite enough not to tease a Jesse. But I know that many of his class mates wouldn't.

noblegiraffe Sat 30-Mar-13 10:07:44

Jess the cat in Postman Pat is a boy, but everyone thinks it's a girl.
I imagine being constantly mistaken for a girl might get annoying.

BettyandDon Sat 30-Mar-13 10:23:44

In Scotland, there is a phrase 'big Jesse' which means that a man is a wuss. So definitely don't use if at any point you could end up there.

purples Sat 30-Mar-13 10:50:10

My daughter is at school with a couple of girls called Jessica, in the playground it is shorten it to Jess for one and Jessie for the other; so i really wouldn't recommend it for a boy.
Hopefully you're not thinking of James as a middle name....

almostanotherday Sat 30-Mar-13 10:59:10

I don't think it matters what you actually name your DC if someone wants to take the piss out of a name they will find away no matter how carefully you chose the name.

KittenOfDoom Sat 30-Mar-13 12:13:42

Jesse (the boy's name) is frequently misspelt Jessie by ignorant people, because the two names are pronounced the same. It is a pity.

I don't see a huge problem about it being similar to a girl's name though - there have always been unisex names with or without spelling variations, eg Leslie/Lesley, Lee, Ashley etc

and with the current popularity of American-style surname names, the boundaries are increasingly blurred.

AuntieStella Sat 30-Mar-13 12:18:57

Jessamy is a traditional boys name, but has fallen into disuse (you only really see it in literature).

Jesse is widely used in US, but I don't think the phrase "you big jessie" is common slang there.

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 13:37:00

I'm not pregnant. I was just wondering if there was more to this name.

Very interesting about Jessamy, sounds male to my ear - and was the kind of answer I was looking for. Like lots of names they change gender over time. Going off to Google that one.

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 13:43:51

A quick Google has also produced-


As longer versions of Jess for a boy. I don't like any of them. Any thoughts? Knowledge of meanings?

BackforGood Sat 30-Mar-13 13:49:12

What Seeker said.

"You big Jesse" is an insult around hear ~ why would you do that to your child ?

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 13:53:16


For two reasons - I am from nowhere from where that insult is. And have never encountered it.

I am not pregnant, and am naming nothing.

BackforGood Sat 30-Mar-13 14:03:09

ok - confused by the fact you are asking the question on the babynames thread.....

You've asked for people's opinions. People are letting you know that in some areas it's a name calling word. Now you know that, which you didn't before. Would you still call your mythical child it, or would you assume they are always only going to mix with people who have never heard it used in that way ? Genuine question.

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 14:06:41

I asked about a baby name on a baby names thread for research purposes.

I'm glad I have people's opinions. I indeed have learned something new.

I would not call my 'mythical' child this name. Whilst I like it (on Postman Pat's cat, for example) it is too 'American' for my taste.

And in answer to, hypothetically, would I use a name that a minority of people have a different association with, when I like oceans away - yes I probably would still use it if I loved it.

KittenOfDoom Sat 30-Mar-13 15:47:04

Jesse is a Biblical name. Perhaps this is not as well-known as I thought it must be.

Jesse was the father of David. so is a significant person. Some cathedrals and churches have stained glass windows or other representations showing the "Tree of Jesse" which depicts the ancestry of Jesus through the line of King David.

pinkpip100 Sat 30-Mar-13 16:15:05

Jesse Jackson, Jesse Owens, Jesse Metcalfe, Jesse Carmichael...there are actually quite a few other famous Jesse's apart from Jesse James. Its also my ds2's middle name (and the name of his great grandad). I think its pretty cool, but I guess I'm biased. It seems that there are so many different names around now that its much more unusual for kids to be teased about having an 'unusual' one, so in my view there's no point stressing about whether it might mean something else somewhere else. If you like it, go for it.

I really like the name and agree that the person is bullied not the name. If they want to bully someone they will pick holes in anything.

Sometimes the baby names section here on mumsnet brings out the worst types of posters. No-where else (other than AIBU) do you hear such opinionated and nasty comments to posters.

seeker Sat 30-Mar-13 17:48:24

I don't think children are bullied because of their names. But I think that giving a child a name that means even the nicest of his peers will suppress a giggle is just unkind and unnecessary. My ds is, as nearly teenage boys go, a kind and empathetic soul, and he hated the fact that he had to work so hard not to giggle over a classmate called Minnie. He would feel the same about a Jesse. And most of his peers would not ever try.

lockets Sat 30-Mar-13 17:55:07

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PandaNot Sat 30-Mar-13 17:59:30

I know a wonderful 17 year old Jesse. No teasing about his name.

noddyholder Sat 30-Mar-13 17:59:58

My ds is Jesse I love it and he was the only one in his school although I think there are a few now but he is 18.

noddyholder Sat 30-Mar-13 18:01:15

Nio one has ever said anything negative to ds what a strange thing to say!

Bowlersarm Sat 30-Mar-13 18:12:47

Hmmm this is a tricky one because it should be perfectly acceptable to call your son a name you like, but this one may give him problems. It doesn't help that Jessica is so popular for girls and Jesse isn't very popular for boys. Is there another name you like as much?

Children do get teased about their name. They may get teased about other things but I think you're laying down a gauntlet (for him) as soon as he's born.

Jesse James was a macho individual but not sure children now would know he is is. I can't think of any other famous Jesses.

CandyCrushed Sat 30-Mar-13 18:17:43

I like it but I wouldn't use it as it is usually a girls name. I love the name Jan for a boy but didnt use it for the same reason..

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 18:23:17

noddyholder I am equally shocked. Jessie/Jesse to me is a unisex name. Should female Alex's expect the same teasing?

OkayHazel Sat 30-Mar-13 18:24:25

Bowlersarm I can't think of any other famous Jesses.

There are soooooooooo many:

SwedishEdith Sat 30-Mar-13 18:26:01

Jesse is my favourite boys name. I want one.

noddyholder Sat 30-Mar-13 18:30:37

Why does there have to be a famous one to validate it? hmm Mn is very conservative when it comes to names though as I have seen in the past never encountered in RL. People very concerned that if their dc becomes a judge he/she won't be taken seriously unless named after one of the royals

Bowlersarm Sat 30-Mar-13 18:42:53

Ooh i should have remembered Jesse Ryder given my user name as I do know who he is okay. And of course noddy famous people don't have to validate a name. It is just when it is also vying with a very popular girls name it would help

noddyholder Sat 30-Mar-13 18:45:36

It isn't vying with a girls name though. IME.

Bowlersarm Sat 30-Mar-13 18:49:53

That's non-arguable. It comes down to 'I think it does' and 'I think it doesn't'. OP needs to take a view on it

noddyholder Sat 30-Mar-13 18:51:03

Well I am arguing so it is arguable grin

Bowlersarm Sat 30-Mar-13 18:53:02

Oh fair enough noddy we can go on all night. For what it's worth I like it, and am glad your DS does

BikeRunSki Sat 30-Mar-13 18:55:51

Lockets, I went to Pimlico and knew a Jesse, wonder if it is the same one? Wonder if I knew your DH too? It was mid-late 80s. Jesse was in my sister's year.

noddyholder Sat 30-Mar-13 18:55:55

Well he is very popular with girls and boys and has never had any comment apart from girls seem to love it which is probably fun when you are 18

lockets Sat 30-Mar-13 19:00:22

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JollyYellowGiant Sat 30-Mar-13 19:00:53

Jesse is a junior doctor in Diagnosis Murder. It reminds me of that.

I did come on to point out that Postman Pat's cat is male but it's been said!

PipkinsPal Sat 30-Mar-13 19:02:45

My DP has a mate called Jesse who is of Gypsy/traveller origin.

BikeRunSki Sat 30-Mar-13 19:04:14

Lockets, i'll pm you.

morethanpotatoprints Sat 30-Mar-13 20:32:24

Jesse is a traditional gypsy name.
Also I'm really not trying to be arsey, not sure if anybody has said yet but jesse is what kids call other kids who are being a bit of a wimp. I know its not nice, but its the norm here.

One of my brothers has the middle name Jesse. We only ever tease him about it when we remember to. He is now 50.

KittenOfDoom Sat 30-Mar-13 21:56:01

Biblical names (among others) are traditionally popular with Gypsies.

OkayHazel Sun 31-Mar-13 00:23:58

Why is it negative to use a name popular with Travellers?

seeker Sun 31-Mar-13 07:35:07

Look, just ask the average child whether Jesse is a girls' or a boys' name. And of course kids will find something to tease about if they want to tease. But why hand them something on a plate? As I've said before, my dd likes to tell me I gave her a full house- red hair, freckles, glasses and posh. It's a good thing I didn't decide that Arthur was a good name for a girl as well.........!

ArabellaBeaumaris Sun 31-Mar-13 07:53:00

I never really get the concern that a child will be teased because of their name. Maybe it's because we live in very multicultural areas, so have a wide variety of names. Is satvant going to tease wunia or is wunia going to teases Jesse, doesn't seem obvious to me!

noddyholder Sun 31-Mar-13 09:44:38

Seeker you don,t sound posh

melliebobs Sun 31-Mar-13 09:50:10

Jesse was our boys name. And now I have a dd called nancy I'm gutted well now never be able to use it sad

A Jesse an nancy is tantamount to child abuse

seeker Sun 31-Mar-13 09:53:56

"Seeker you don,t sound posh"


noddyholder Sun 31-Mar-13 09:54:48

Love nancy was on my list for a girl along with dusty shoot me! smile

seeker Sun 31-Mar-13 09:57:27

Nancy for a boy, presumably? grin

KittenOfDoom Sun 31-Mar-13 11:36:20

Hazel I didn't see anyone say anything negative about travellers. Someone said that Jesse was a traditional Gypsy name, is all, and I said that it because it is Biblical. Just something I learned while doing our family tree. Gypsy names are fascinating!

OkayHazel Sun 31-Mar-13 17:08:19

Kitten I'm very glad about that! Just, as a few people had pointed out it's traveller links, I wondered if there was a problem.

Wishiwasanheiress Sun 31-Mar-13 17:09:26

Jesse is an American name. Sexy but don't u need a Texan accent to get away with it?

OkayHazel Sun 31-Mar-13 17:10:02


Jessie/Jesse isn't like Arthur though - it is a unisex name?

lockets Sun 31-Mar-13 17:10:55

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Bowlersarm Sun 31-Mar-13 17:11:09

Do you think you will use it Hazel ? Has this helped either way?

OkayHazel Sun 31-Mar-13 17:13:09

Bowlers I'm not actually pregnant, but I still like the name very much. Though I admit it's the nickname 'Jess' that I prefer to Jesse. Jesse might be too Texan for me.

Bowlersarm Sun 31-Mar-13 17:15:23

Ah! You have a while longer to come to a decision then smile

weeper Sun 31-Mar-13 19:55:45

I know an adult male Jess. I think it's a lovely name and not that 'girly' for some reason?

I think he did get teased a bit about it in school, as you might expect (most kids will get teased about something), but it's certainly not held him back!

AberdeenAngusina Sun 31-Mar-13 20:35:11

It wouldn't be a good name here (north Scotland) because a "big Jessie" is a boy who's scared of something.

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 01:01:06

1. Jesse is NOT an American name.
Jesse has enjoyed some popularity in the USA, perhaps more frequently than in the UK. Biblical names seem to be more consistently favoured in the USA and less subject to fashion (this is just my own impression).

2. Jesse is NOT a unisex name.
While Jessie is a girl's name (sometimes but not always a diminutive of Jessica), it is not the same name as Jesse.

MajaBiene Mon 01-Apr-13 01:11:35

"Big Jessie" isn't really a term in common usage, at least not where I am from! I doubt most children would be aware of it/know what it means.

I know an adult and a child Jesse - neither has been teased for the name.

PipkinsPal Mon 01-Apr-13 09:37:57

Thank you Kitten. Hazel - I wasn't being negative about the name of Jesse being of Gypsy/Traveller origin I was just stating a fact that he is the only person I know who is called Jesse.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 09:45:58

"While Jessie is a girl's name (sometimes but not always a diminutive of Jessica), it is not the same name as Jesse."

But it's pronounced the same. So to another child it amounts to the same name. I am just amazed that anyone would deliberately choose a name out of the millions of names available that might make their child's life more difficult. It might not, obviously. But it might. So why risk it?

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 09:50:23

Fgs risk it?

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 09:51:02

Noddy- will you stop saying cryptic things??

lockets Mon 01-Apr-13 11:11:44

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noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 11:35:06

My name is a dual sex name too have never thought of it until now! No one else has ever mentioned it either grin

I would avoid Jesse in Scotland because of big Jesse. But if you aren't in Scotland I can't see a problem.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 11:44:44

No. Because Frances/is is well known to be a unisex name. Jesse sounds like a name which is almost always a girl's name.

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 11:59:48

Oh right so if its well known its ok. Most people won't assume a girl if they see jesse I can assure.Ds is phsl at this suburban mothers worrying about what people call their kids. he has a point

Coconutty Mon 01-Apr-13 12:03:03

There's a 13YO Jesse in DS2's class, never been teased.

I like it.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:03:49


Most people will assume girl if they hear "Jessie"

Why are you being so rude, by the way?

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 12:05:34

Where have I been rude?

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 12:06:39

You are speaking for yourself not 'most people'. I am speaking from experience as my son has that name and we have never encountered any of these things

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:13:14

I am delighted that your son has never experienced any teasing.

If we're talking personally, I asked my own son about this and he said that a Jesse turning up in his class at school would definitely get teased. As he said, "It shouldn't happen but it would"

Bowlersarm Mon 01-Apr-13 12:16:10

Just thought of a Jesse in the public eye. Jesse Wood, son of Ronnie, and boyfriend of Fearne Cotton. That should help the cause of boy Jesse's shouldn't it?

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 12:17:17

Sounds like a great school Right I am off this thread is everything I hate about MN Happy easter

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 12:17:50

My brother used to babysit him bowler many moons ago I had forgotten him

Jesse is quite cool now for a boy even here in the UK - Breaking Bad anyone?

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:20:45

"Sounds like a great school Right I am off this thread is everything I hate about MN Happy easter"

What a deeply, deeply stupid post.

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 12:22:11

The posh lady is calling me stupid Help!

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:23:29

I didn't say you were stupid. I said that was a stupid post. Very different things.

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 12:26:57

Anyone with a decent education and/or some experience of the world will know that Jesse is a man's name.

Is Jessie all that common as a girl's name in recent times? Surely they're nearly all Jessicas. I only know one person whose name is Jessie, she is middle-aged and was named after her grandmother. I know plenty of Jessicas, all younger than me and all called Jessica or Jess. Not Jessie.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:29:32

"Anyone with a decent education and/or some experience of the world will know that Jesse is a man's name. "

I agree. Unfortunately, that rules out most 7 year olds.

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 12:33:02

I really think that considering the views of 7 years olds when you name your child is a very strange concept and luckily most people don't subscribe to their opinions on many things. I certainly don't think the prejudices of others should be a factor in naming a child. Imagine if we brought that into other areas of life hmm

Moominsarehippos Mon 01-Apr-13 12:35:08

Inner city you'd be fine I guess. We have all sorts of names and no-one bats an eye at them. However, where I grew up, a boy called Jess/Jesse would have the holy crap beaten out of him on a daily basis. The common insult of 'ya big jessy' wouldn't help.

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 12:40:37

Well said, noddyholder flowers

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Mon 01-Apr-13 12:43:50

My first thought was jess the cat...

But actually i quite like it, i asked my 13 and 10yr old boys and they didnt see the issue. But they know people with all sorts of names.

Our dd has a name that a boys name and we know an older boy with her name, spelt differently but pronounced the same. Again not an issue.

I have noticed on mnet that there is a tendency to think the worsr if children when it comes to teasing/bullying and that given the slightest opportunity and children will tease/pick on each other for no reason. When infact i dont find that to be the case in rl. If anything children are far more accepting than adults.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:45:29

"I really think that considering the views of 7 years olds when you name your child is a very strange concept and luckily most people don't subscribe to their opinions on many things"

<shrugs> well,if you're not bothered about possibly making your child's school days harder than they need to be, go for it. Personally, I would rather not put my own desire to use a name over the potential unhappiness of my child. Because being teased can make children unhappy indeed. But each to their own.

MyNewCatIsFab Mon 01-Apr-13 12:50:22

And sometimes all the planning in the world by the parents can go out the window.......... I know a middle-aged man called Jess. Been known by that all his life by his pals and it's not even his first name but an abbreviation of his surname.

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 12:51:57

If a child wants to tease another child, they will find something. It's something about the child that makes others want to tease them, and that something is not always obvious.

I do not think that a name automatically leads to teasing, and other posters with experience of the name under discussion bear this out.

I love Jessica for a girl, and if I was reading out a list of names, and there was a Jesse, I would assume it was a girl, who just preferred that spelling/nickname.

Also, 'ya big jessie' is very common slang round here for being a wuss, as other posters have pointed out.

Having an odd name myself (and growing up in a predominately White British area, surrounded by Sarahs, Michelles and Emmas), and a name that can easily be confused for a boy's name, I would certainly take into account teasing possibility at school.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 12:57:02

"I do not think that a name automatically leads to teasing, and other posters with experience of the name under discussion bear this out."

No. Not automatically. And yes, kids will find something to tease about. But why hand them something on a plate? When it's something so easy not to hand them on a plate? It's just baffling that anyone would choose their desire for a name over a moment's potential unhappiness for their child. Baffling. Even if they were just teased once in their whole life for their name and you could have prevented it why wouldn't you prevent it?

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 13:09:18

Because you can't prevent it. If kids want to tease another kid, they will. They will find something. The name would not be the reason why they tease. They are like wild animals, they sense weakness.

Bowlersarm Mon 01-Apr-13 13:19:41

It's a grey area though seeker, the teasing thing. Noddy's DS has never been teased therefore for noddy's son it was a great choice in a name as they (parents and DS) love it. I have a DS called William, and if you take note of MN you would NEVER call a DS William for fear he'll be teased and called 'Willy'. It is such a non problem it's laughable.

I do get what you are saying in that it may give an automatic reason for a bit of teasing, but life may go by without any teasing at all (or at least because of the name)

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 13:20:48

So,in repeat, why hand them a reason on a plate? Just to satisfy parental ego?

Don't agree about the wild animals thing, by the way.

seeker Mon 01-Apr-13 13:22:28

bowlersarm- but you didn't actually call him Willy, did you?

As I said, it may never happen- but why put the opportunity there?

Bowlersarm Mon 01-Apr-13 13:22:48

Because they love the name. Did you not call your children names you loved?

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 13:26:50

I have red hair and was never bullied but a lot of people with red hair are. An old school friends life was made hell by it. It was obvious from my friends and my own family that having red hair would be a very distinct possibility. Maybe anyone with a chance of anything which could encourage bullying should think twice about having children So all fat thin ginger etc

Bowlersarm Mon 01-Apr-13 13:26:59

No we didn't call him Willy but it was a strong possibility he could get called it. In fact he did when he was about 14 (didn't help he had a friend called Richard so they were called Willy and Dick for a couple of weeks!) he laughed about it, shrugged it off and it fizzled out as most teasing does if you don't react. It was a non problem

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 13:28:55

You miss my point, seeker. A name is not the reason children tease. It may be a handle they use, but almost any name can be subverted for the purpose of teasing.

If kids want to tease another kid, they will. Sad fact is that some children seem to have a metaphorical "kick me" sign on their backs, they will be teased by the crueller ones, but it won't be because of their names.

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 13:30:26

One of the boys in ds class was bullied in early years he was called Michael and tbh I could never see any reason for some of the others not to like him he was very average nice boy.

CandyCrushed Mon 01-Apr-13 13:30:41

I originally posted that I thought it was too girly a name but having mulled it over (quiet weekend!) I have decided that I love it as a boys names and that it doesn't sound girly at all.

I would go with the Jesse spelling tough.

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 13:35:38

I have put a picture of poor jesse on my profile page smile lovely boy!

Roshbegosh Mon 01-Apr-13 13:36:29

No don't, like a boy named Sue

BackforGood Mon 01-Apr-13 13:40:49

Some excellent pposts on here by Seeker, who is being very patient.

Ultimately we are all free to call our children what we want.

Generally (and I now know this OP is an exception) people who are thinking about a name, but not 100% sure come on here to guage honest opinions about what other people think of it. There would be no point in anyone asking if no-one said what they actually think, now would there ?

Lots of people have pointed out, in this case that the name suggested is a name used all over the country to mean 'wuss' / 'wimp' /insert whatever the slang around your way is. It's great, Noddy that your ds has never been teased about his name, and good antedotal opinion for the OP, just as another poster saying they have asked their dc about the name, and they've posted what their dc said, just as others have said if they hear the name Jess / Jessie / Jesse then personally, they would assume it's a girl.
Now, if none of that bothers the OP, then they will still go ahead and use the name. If they think "Why make my dc's life harder than it need be" then they will change it.
Surely, on a 'names' thread, if it's your child's name, then the best thing to do is post your experience and leae the thread - you know with any name someone is asking about some will love it and others hate it, so why sit and read all the posts saying that it's not a great name ? confused

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 13:44:37

Thanks for the advice

usualsuspect Mon 01-Apr-13 13:51:35

Its a great name for a boy.

I love it.

But then I'm not a typical suburban mother wink

usualsuspect Mon 01-Apr-13 13:56:30

There were so many different names at my childrens school, the name Jesse for a boy wouldn't raise an eyebrow.

Bu TBF my children's school was not full of boys called Oliver, William and Thomas.

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 13:59:55

I am really surprised it is even being discussed

ProphetOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 14:13:49

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Moominsarehippos Mon 01-Apr-13 14:16:56

I was teased - well bullied - at school (primary, so about 7 or 8) because of my name. It was turned it something with sexual connotations by older kids, which of course was picked up by classmated with glee. I was the youngest in the class and didn't have a clue. My grandmother filled me in with the details and I felt mortified and humiliated. Imagine being called 'cunt' at school because your mum decided on 'a nice name'.

It didn't last all that long, but it took me years to 'get over' it. Can you really imagine dreading people asking you your name? Even as an adult, in anticipation of 'so do people call you...' and having to laugh it off with 'only once and only if they want a black eye'?

My other sister gets 'well, that's a stupid name?' to hers. People can be bloody awful with regards to names.

KittenOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 15:44:30

The name that springs to mind is Frances (Fanny).

Moominsarehippos Mon 01-Apr-13 16:21:04

Faaaaar more vulgar than fanny.

Regina? I'm intrigued now! Fanjolina?

Moominsarehippos Mon 01-Apr-13 16:27:44

Either would be an improvement! My parents were both brits, native engish speakers... They should've known better.

Are you pussy galore?? grin

Roshbegosh Mon 01-Apr-13 17:21:59

Glaikit, are you one of those school yard bullies? Mind your business, you don't need to know if Moomins is reluctant to say it. I think you are being insensitive.

lockets Mon 01-Apr-13 17:43:18

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Moominsarehippos Mon 01-Apr-13 17:44:22

No worries. I now am veeery good at karate and kick boxing (no links there) and could give her a really nasty chinese burn!

ProphetOfDoom Mon 01-Apr-13 17:50:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Coconutty Mon 01-Apr-13 18:27:34

Well I still really like it.

How is Jude so popular (yuk) and yet people are saying that Jesse is a girls name?

survivingwinter Mon 01-Apr-13 18:33:20

I think it's a very cool name for a male.

Funnily enough I don't like Jess or Jessica for girls, maybe because I intrinsically think it sounds more like a male name.

Anyway, I am just so bored of hearing the same few names used for boys over and over again at the moment I see no problem in standing out from the crowd a little bit!

Jeez! Wind yer neck on Rosh! I take offence to you calling me a bully.

Moomins, I apologise if I came across as insensitive, I was just genuinely intrigued. And I still am if I'm honest because I cannot fathom what you might be called giving the clues you posted. But I shall have to continue to live not knowing.

I can't believe I may have to start avoiding baby names now as well as AIBU sheesh! grin

OkayHazel Mon 01-Apr-13 19:41:18

I cannot believe how bitchy this thread got!

noddyholder Mon 01-Apr-13 21:54:45

Thank you lockets he is a lovely gentle sweet boy and cool too! His name just suits him and I am soooo glad I chose it even if some think I was selfish

SomethingOnce Tue 02-Apr-13 08:42:15
SwedishEdith Wed 03-Apr-13 01:18:08

Justine has a Jesse doesn't she? Still my favourite boys name and this thread make me want to have one all the more.

MidnightMasquerader Wed 03-Apr-13 04:37:43

I really like it as a boys name - I worked with a male one once, very suave, cool type. He pronounced (or at least preferred) it Jess.

At the end of the day, plenty of people do choose it for their boys. Maybe they're all making a dreadful mistake and condemning their sons to bullying purgatory... hmm.

Or, y'know... not.

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