DH says he hates all girls names ending in -a

(90 Posts)
CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 10:27:35

Apart from Sarah. Which ends in an "h".

Damn, our tastes do not converge. I started a thread a while ago - Claudia Vivienne or Cecilia Maud - and he thinks both are poncy.

So I suggested Louisa - but he only likes Louise. He also suggested Jane and Alice (Alice is okay).

How can this be a sensible stance? Most girls names end in -a, including mine.

Sorry for posting here - the baby names topic is covered in football spam. I'll move the thread when all the spam is gone.

CheddarGorgeous Sun 03-Mar-13 10:32:44

Louise is lovely.

I always think names ending in -ette are lovely and feminine without being too flowery.

Juliette
Claudette
Georgette
Harriet

I agree with him (on your current choices)

I don't not like the names per se, but unless they are after someone they sound so try-hard. However I'm not a fan of Louisa or Louise!

Just my opinion of course!

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 10:46:56

I love Harriet but we have a Henry already so that might be a bit odd. I suppose with names like Louise, I just feel they are missing an -a. Same with Helen.

Notquite Sun 03-Mar-13 10:49:27

Could you get away with Eleanor?

outtolunchagain Sun 03-Mar-13 10:50:08

What about Eleanor , not an overt 'a' but still a soft sound at the end.

outtolunchagain Sun 03-Mar-13 10:50:47

Notquite , great minds and all that!

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 10:50:53

Eleanor is a nice name. I would shorten it to Nell.

SecretNutellaFix Sun 03-Mar-13 10:51:16

Cecily is a nice variant if he loathed names ending in A.

Natalie
Marianne
Rachel
Ruth
Juliet
Sophie
Verity
Phoebe
Annabel
Chloe
Suzanne
Elisabeth

CheddarGorgeous Sun 03-Mar-13 10:53:15

Henry and...

Cicely?
Charlotte?
Claudine?
Florence?

So basically he likes plain, simple, no-frills names and, by the sound of things, more timeless/modern names rather than the grandparent chic that's quite in at the moment, while you like quite feminine names. That doesn't mean you can't find some middle ground (Alice is a good start).

What about something like

Sophie
Rose
Grace
Evelyn
Eleanor
Isabel
Catherine?

Or, at least, what Does he think of those sorts of names?

I think yours might be a case where each of you going through a baby names book and making a list of all the names that you might be prepared to vaguely consider, then comparing lists, might be a good idea. You may fibd you end up with four or five names in common.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 10:55:46

I like Elizabeth a lot, shortened to Lizzie.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 10:57:01

That is a good idea Tolliver.

Cailleach Sun 03-Mar-13 11:01:52

Muiread (Murr-aid) is my Irish granny's name: when she came to England in the 1940's she went by Maud, as no-one knew how to pronounce Muiread over here.

It means "pearl" in Gaelic.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 11:15:47

Cailleach - both are lovely but I don't think he'll go for anything Gallic. He said Claudia was Italian (it's bloody Roman - weeps).

Last night I suggested Hilda (there is an -a but it is required for the name to be a name) and he said it was too unusual.

tallulah Sun 03-Mar-13 11:27:40

I went to write out some party invitations for DD and realised that of the 21 girls in her class, only 4 have a name that doesn't end in -a, so he might have a point grin

Dandy902 Sun 03-Mar-13 11:28:34

How about names that end with bel/belle??

Annabelle
Mirabel
Isabel/Isobel
Arrabelle
Clarabelle
Mabel
Rosabel
Christabel
Belle

Or ending in n/ne

Alison
Eden
Teagan
Adeline
Lillian
Kirsten
Avalene
Jasmine
Caitlyn
Evelyn
Yvonne
Erin
Madeline
Imogen
Nadine
Josephine
Celine
Seren
Ellen
Christine/Kristine

Anything ending in Lin/Lyn or Ann/Anne

Or ending in Y/IE or Eeee sound

Sophie
Emily
Zoe
Lucy
Mollie
Betty
Dorothy
Nancy
Marjorie

Or ending in with T sound

Scarlett
Charlotte
Colette
Violet
Bridget
Odette
Millicent
Celeste
Kate
Garnet
Margaret

And some others:

Grace
Brooke
Mildred
Blanche
Ruth
Myrtle
Esther
Faith
Paige
Amber

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 11:31:08

That is a huge list dandy grin

Dh was the same I wanted to call DD2 either Helena or Anna he gave me this hmm was really annoying . her name ends with an H so he thought that was better how ?

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 11:32:24

Oh please dont call your baby Hilda

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 11:37:35

What about Hannah? It would mean we had two kids whose names begin with H, that's the thing.

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 11:39:45

I have a Hannah so im biased smile I am not sure why dh liked Hannah and not Anna though they sound exactly the same,. same letter names can flow better when you shout at them grin

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 11:44:23

Good point mrsjay.

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 11:47:46

I know a few children who have same letter first names I dont think it sounds odd,

MammaTJ Sun 03-Mar-13 11:57:10

My DD1 is called Gemma, my DD2 is called Tia. Her middle name is Louise though, which means Battle maiden. grin

skratta Sun 03-Mar-13 11:59:47

Susannah?

Dawndonna Sun 03-Mar-13 12:07:12

Personally I can't believe you are considering Maud or Hilda, poor, poor child.
Having said that, I'm older (54) so they definitely mean old granny names to me.
How about:
Isabelle.
Rhiannon.
Nicole.
Lily.
Ruth.
Cecille.

AllThreeWays Sun 03-Mar-13 12:08:11

What about Eloise?

Meggymoodle Sun 03-Mar-13 12:11:37

We have a Henry too and a Megan, which I think goes nicely together (obviously).

Honor is a nice name too and Phyllis (although I have had to be content with calling DD's doll Phyllis as i wasn't allowed to call DD it!).

Still18atheart Sun 03-Mar-13 12:12:52

Catherine
Katie
Molly
Rosie
Nicole
Kimberley
Chloe
Grace
Caroline
Lilly
Lauren

AThingInYourLife Sun 03-Mar-13 12:17:48

Julia (I know it ends in -a, but he can't prefer Julie, surely?)

Katherine

Sally (nn for Sarah)

scarletforya Sun 03-Mar-13 12:39:09

Don't use Hilda, Maud or Mildred, they're dreadful. they're not granny chic, they're just hickey and ugly. Mildred reminds me of Mildew. Mairead is not good either, it's too middle aged for a little baby, it sound nice to non Irish ears but here it's the equivalent of calling your baby Pauline or Sandra.

I love Claudia and Vivienne from your selection though. Both very feminine.

mrsjay Sun 03-Mar-13 12:42:07

Iback think Julie is 'back' yet IYSWIM

Startail Sun 03-Mar-13 12:42:44

I agree with your DH about extra a's that just make perfectly complete names flowery.

I prefer Isabel, Julie, Louise etc and Alice to Alison, Laura to Lauren. Generally, why make it longer to fit on forms.

The one exception being Helena, because Helen is so dull.
It's a Mum name, like Claire, Rachel, Susan, Caroline and Jane. It's not time for it yet.

milk Sun 03-Mar-13 13:14:24

Henry and Emily smile

FadingAwayToAHippo Sun 03-Mar-13 13:38:02

I have an Elizabeth shortened to Lizzie but the great thing is all the variants,

Eliza
Liza
Beth
Betsy
Libby
Lizzie
Liz
Betty
Elsie

I'm sure there are more, and it goes great with Henry, very regal sounding!

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 15:12:24

I love Thomas the Tank Engine!

That's the only thing about Elizabeth, people will think we're obsessed with the Tudors.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 15:13:44

Which I am, a bit.

Waswondering Sun 03-Mar-13 15:17:23

Elise, Heather, Daisy, Phoebe, Margaret, Katherine, Joy .....

I have one of the names scarlet mentioned and it is definitely an old lady name. I am 25. I have never met anyone even close to my age with it despite it being a very common name (amongst the over 50's) so I suppose if you want to make sure your child will be the only one in the school with her name you could look at the most popular girls names from 40-50 years ago and give her one of those grin

Sounds like your DH has similar taste in name to mine. Our boys have very traditional names (old women always say "oh that's a good strong name" whatever that means), they're also really common names as DH said they had to be in the top 100. We only managed to agree on one girls name and that was Emily (never used it as we had boys).

TomDudgeon Sun 03-Mar-13 16:11:07

I don't get the not liking names that end in a bit being ok with a silent h

Is he better with names that can't be a name in short
Like your example of Hilda (which is horrible)
Mia Jessica Vera etc

Or is it all 'a' sounding names (except Sarah)

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 16:51:49

I think he doesn't like names that can be extended with an -a. So he likes Louise but not Louisa. Whereas I find it much harder to say Louise - it feels as though it needs an -a and is incomplete.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 16:52:38

Also, he just thinks Claudia is poncy. I had made the point that there is no Claudie.

emsyj Sun 03-Mar-13 17:00:47

Claudia was on our list. We have ended up with a Ruth and a Hazel, so no 'a' endings here! grin

I love Celeste and Celestine, but they clash with our surname. We had Astrid as the next choice on our list, also liked Seren but it's popular round here and we wanted to try and avoid the '4 others with the same name in your class thing' as I hated being one of so many Emmas at school.

Imogen is lovely too. There are tons and tons of non-'a' girls' names!

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 17:31:39

emsyj - I think he would like Emma (doesnt have an -a added to an established name). No way is Celestine / Celeste getting approval!

woollywomble Sun 03-Mar-13 17:32:09

I'm a Louisa and have always been glad of the extra -a, if that helps your cause!

PrincessOfThemyscira Sun 03-Mar-13 17:40:37

What about Laura? It's like Hilda in that the "a" needs to be there to make the name, IYSWIM.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sun 03-Mar-13 17:41:33

Presumably he wasn't phobic about -a when he met and began dating you.

If you did go with a tudor theme how about Catherine or Katharine or Margaret?

Tons of very nice names that don't end in -a so I'm sure you'll find something, Vivienne that you mentioned is not twee or precious?

SayMama Sun 03-Mar-13 17:46:29

Faye?

KatieMiddleton Sun 03-Mar-13 17:50:43

Leah is an excellent name if you need something with an 'h' on the end.

No to Hilda. Henry and Hilda sounds wrong. Hilda sounds wrong on it's own unless your surname's Ogden grin

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 17:54:10

I haven't had my 20 week scan so it is possible that DC2 will be a boy. However, my names discussion with DH has stressed me out (I like to plan ahead) so thanks for all your comments everyone!

I really like Lara but it sounds a bit funny with our surname.

NoelHeadbands Sun 03-Mar-13 17:59:51

Esther

MortifiedAdams Sun 03-Mar-13 18:00:41

Beatrice
Francis
Dorothy

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sun 03-Mar-13 18:01:45

Lois
Josephine
Marianne

Megsdaughter Sun 03-Mar-13 18:05:06

Romilly
Caroline
Claire
Elspeth

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 18:23:44

I love Beatrice / Beatrix but these have been firmly vetoed.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 18:24:34

I also love Rebecca but don't like Becky. Not sure if that's been suggested.

MortifiedAdams Sun 03-Mar-13 18:43:26

What has your DH suggested?

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 18:44:35

Alice and Jane.

MortifiedAdams Sun 03-Mar-13 18:47:26

I love Alice. It is dds MN. Her first name is Meg. What about Megan or Margaret or Maggie.

butterfingerz Sun 03-Mar-13 18:57:05

Alice and Jane are so yawn, he must have no imagination... sorry.

Mine both have foreign names so I've lost touch with English trends iyswim.

Elizabeth
Holly
May
Betty
Florence
Rose

MirandaWest Sun 03-Mar-13 19:03:54

My name ends in an -e as does DDs. My sisters name ends in an -h

In DDs class the girls names end in -n, -y, -l, -e and only one -a.

DD is Alice by the way so I think it is lovely smile

Go with Claudia Alice. You been have a name choice included then. Announce the name the moment the baby is born, he really cann't argue with you at that time. grin.

I have an Eloise wink.

CruCru Sun 03-Mar-13 20:16:12

I like your style fortified.

CruCru Tue 05-Mar-13 14:32:21

Having said that, I do like Marianne.

Minty82 Tue 05-Mar-13 17:20:07

I think there is a difference between names which end in -a just because they do (Laura, Emma, Rowena,Sarah(h)), and names where a less frilly version exists without the a (Louise/a, Helen/a, Sophie/a). It sounds like he has a problem with the latter rather than the former, and I can kind of see his point - except, as someone else pointed out, in the case of Julie/a!

My parents had exactly the same argument, with almost exactly the same names, 30 years ago. She wanted Imogen, he wanted Jane, and the only name they almost agreed on was Helen/a, but she thought Helen was boring and he thought Helena was poncy. Which is no help at all, as I'm not going to out myself by telling you what we ended up being called, but it amused me!

forgetmenots Tue 05-Mar-13 18:37:29

Might he come round? I was always determined DD would not have a name ending in a (please don't flame me, I just found it too girly) and I too prefer almost all the variations of names without the a (including Helen over Helena!) BUT... My short list of two for a DD now both end in A!!!

He may change his mind if it's the right one, he might jut be trying to tell you he isn't keen on frilly names! smile

Frikadellen Tue 05-Mar-13 18:46:33

What about virtue names ?

Faith
Hope
Grace
Verity
Harmony

or nature names?

Eden
Brooke
Coral
Olive
Poppy
Hazel
Jade
Daisy
Rose
Fern
Fleur
Robyn
Saffron

CruCru Tue 05-Mar-13 21:53:59

I think the problem is that I basically just want him to capitulate. Which he may not. I do have time and it could still be a boy.

In the meantime what do you think of Miriam? I like it but not as much as Claudia.

MidnightMasquerader Wed 06-Mar-13 01:05:26

Claudia is so lovely.

<not helping>

hatebeak Wed 06-Mar-13 10:18:33

Love Miriam.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 06-Mar-13 10:28:37

Miriam, yes that's impossible to tie down to a particular time, it's uncommon, unfussy. if DH objected to Claudia on the grounds it was "Italian" he may well object to Miriam for being "Jewish" (nothing wrong with etiher name of course!).

When are you due your 20 week scan, will you want to know your baby's gender?

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 06-Mar-13 10:29:10

Sorry for typos.

CruCru Wed 06-Mar-13 10:54:37

Yes, we might find out, if only to eliminate some name choices.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 06-Mar-13 12:13:45

Do you have a strong feeling it will be a girl? hope you come back and tell us smile

I was just re-reading the suggestions here and saw you thought he might like Emma.

On another Baby Name thread I saw Penelope suggested, I'm guessing your DH might think that's too fussy.

CruCru Wed 06-Mar-13 13:38:50

Hi

Yes, I have a feeling it is a girl.

He might like Emma but Penelope is probably too fancy for him [sigh].

I suppose Persephone is also out? Humph.

MortifiedAdams Wed 06-Mar-13 14:24:50

What about Emme or Hattie?

MortifiedAdams Wed 06-Mar-13 14:27:03

Esme

CruCru Wed 06-Mar-13 20:39:20

Are Hattie and Emme short for Harriet and Emmeline?

CruCru Sat 16-Mar-13 14:54:01

Result! I just asked him if he likes Elena and he mumbled that it's okay. He was doing something so he may not have been paying attention though.

CruCru Mon 27-May-13 16:01:16

Update: had a scan and they are 70% sure it's a girl. So am back looking at girls names.

Mollydoggerson Mon 27-May-13 16:02:33

Clair

baskingseals Mon 27-May-13 19:07:22

What about Elsa?

Lovely name without being too frilly.

HansieMom Mon 27-May-13 19:27:23

I love the name Vivienne. So beautiful. I love it so much I named one of our cats that. Call her Vivi sometimes, as it is fitting as she is lucky to be alive. Impregnated very young and then dumped with four kittens. Now she is chubby and sticks close to home.

Beatrix is lovely too. I have a grandson named Henry. His siblings are Sam and Kate, twins. I had a hard time just calling her Kate as a baby. I wanted something added on, like Katelynn.

CruCru Tue 28-May-13 13:57:27

Sounds like we have similar tastes HansieMom.

outtolunchagain Tue 28-May-13 14:00:29

Hermione
Eleanor
Meredith
Katherine
Grace
Helene

MrsFrederickWentworth Tue 28-May-13 14:13:50

Beatrix
Penelope
Phoebe
Imogen
Jean
Janet/ Jeannette
Catherine/katie
Anne
Emily
Lily
Rosemary
Lavender
Hope
Jasmine
Jessamine
Clemency
Patience
Deborah ( if he likes Sarah)
Sally
Margaret/ Marguerite/ Molly
Mary/ Miriam
Polly
Prudence
Rose

vitaminC Tue 28-May-13 19:36:22

If he likes Sarah, how about Leah?

miffybun73 Tue 28-May-13 20:32:36

I'm the opposite.

Like Louisa, Amelia, Sophia or Julia a lot.

Don't like Louise, Amelie, Sophie or Julie at all.

Then again, my daughter is Emily, not Emilia so not much logic there smile

mummyTP2 Thu 30-May-13 14:29:48

Why not try a little mixture of the names he likes but with an a, louisa, Alicia or jana?

CruCru Thu 30-May-13 16:40:35

Hmmm, well I had suggested Louisa and that's how I found out that he doesn't like names with an a added. In a while I'll post my list of girls names.

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