hyphenated first name?

(63 Posts)
ditsydoll Wed 27-Feb-13 08:41:54

DH and I have decided on Ella Rose (surname) ,however I actually prefer the name when it's hyphenated so her first name would be Ella-Rose.

Has anyone hyphenated their children's first name?

noblegiraffe Wed 27-Feb-13 08:49:35

A couple of girls I teach have hyphenated first names (secondary). Both get called by just the first name. Two first names is just too much of a faff.

ditsydoll Wed 27-Feb-13 08:57:04

I don't really mind if she shortens it as she gets older as if we chose not to hyphenate it would just be Ella anyway but I do love it with the hyphen.

mmmmsleep Wed 27-Feb-13 08:57:18

Don't do it!!!!!
She will forever be called by either first or the second name. It will confuse all who meet her and make bank/card etc applications a nightmare as have to be redone when people miss off hyphen. And she will just get pissed off with having drs/nurses etc call her by the first name not her actual name.

I speak from experiencesad

sooperdooper Wed 27-Feb-13 09:42:15

I have a hyphenated name and it doesn't bother me in the slightest that some people call me my full name and some use just the first part, it's never caused confusion or irritation at all

Snazzynewyear Wed 27-Feb-13 09:46:29

You can still actually call her 'Ella Rose' when you speak to her if you want. The hyphen will be an annoyance.

almostanotherday Wed 27-Feb-13 09:59:08

Yes I have

rockinhippy Wed 27-Feb-13 10:19:31

What about EllaRose ??

My own DDs name is written in a similar way & its more easily accepted as her first name, rather than first & middle, she still goes by the first half of it most of the time though, but that's her choice, but she loves that her full name is unusual & is very proud using it when first meeting people, make sure its written on performance lists etc etc

Good luck

MolotovCocktail Wed 27-Feb-13 10:25:53

Ella-Rose is stunning. What a truly beautiful name, OP.

Hyphenated names really divide opinion on MN; they're really Marmite. If you are planning to call her 'Ella Rose' it makes sense to have the hyphen. It doesn't matter if it's sometimes dropped to 'Ella', that's just a shortened version of her full name anyway, IYSWIM.

In my opinion, EllaRose doesn't look right. It should be Ella Rose, or Ella-Rose.

I know a family with an Amelia Rose. They had toyed with naming her Amelia-Rose, but didn't because they thought it was "pretentious". Amelia Rose is 8yo now and the parents INSIST that 'Amelia Rose' is written on everything. They've told me that they regret not hyphenating her name.

orangepudding Wed 27-Feb-13 10:29:38

I really can't stand hyphenated names.

Not heard of sticking two named together like EllaRose, that's even worse.

Ella Rose is just perfect!

noisytoys Wed 27-Feb-13 10:30:53

Hyphenated first names are more common now. Half of DDs reception class is firstname-May

rockinhippy Wed 27-Feb-13 10:31:38

In your opinion orange which matter because... hmm

I have a hyphenated first name, it's never bothered me or caused any irritation smile
I'm always referred to by the first part unless I'm in trouble though, then the whole thing gets used wink

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Feb-13 10:35:28

mmmmsleep I agree with you - also from bitter experience!!! Everyone will just remember it's "something-hyphenated". I get called all sorts of potentially hyphenatable combinations of nothing like my name. My fave is Sarah-Jane - yes it's hyphenated, but I have neither a Sarah nor a Jane in my name!!!

orangepudding Wed 27-Feb-13 10:35:40

My opinion doesn't matter at all rockin. People give me a hmm look when I tell them one of my children's names as its so out of odds with the others but we love it so don't worry about others opinions!

drownangels Wed 27-Feb-13 10:38:08

In your opinion *orange which matter because...*

Because this is a forum where everybody offers opinions maybe?

HenD19 Wed 27-Feb-13 10:40:42

I like Ella Rose and you could call her both as suggested. I would think carefully about the hyphen. Our DD is Ellie-Mae. I still love her name but it does cause loads of problems. Admittedly the Mae spelling doesn't help. If you go for the hyphen get used to telling everyone about it and be prepared for it to take her ages to be able to write her name. Some people call her Ellie when they first meet her but they soon realise she's Ellie-Mae especially as she often tells them. She'll probably be an Ellie when she's older as I teach at a girls secondary school and nearly all of them abbreviate their names.

badtime Wed 27-Feb-13 10:41:23

I don't think there is any benefit to be gained by putting 'Ella-Rose' on the birth certificate. You can still call her 'Ella Rose', and even use the hyphen day-to-day, if you must.

People will probably mostly call her Ella either way.

I admit, I don't like hyphenated names in general. I think they are pointless, unless the point is just to give a child a name that is simultaneously popular and unusual. (106 "Ella-Rose"s in 2011, btw).

MolotovCocktail Wed 27-Feb-13 10:45:21

I think to say hyphens are "pointless" is a bit harsh, or that the only point of them is to make a name "popular and unusual". That's a quite a utilitarian way of looking at naming. What if one just likes the look and sound of the names combined?

MiaowTheCat Wed 27-Feb-13 10:46:56

I picked May as the middle name for DD1 with actual reasoning behind it... every bugger hyphenates it and it annoys me when it shouldn't be, and I assume the reverse applies with people not hyphenating ones that should be hyphenated as well.

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Feb-13 10:48:34

It embarrsed the hell out of me when I was presented with my cycling proficiency test cert at the local town hall when I was at school. I had spelled my name for the copper who did the tests. In the TOWN HALL in front of a shed load of people he read out my name .." Sarah HYPHEN <huge theatrical eye roll> Jane.

Brought the place down, but I was mortified and I bloody hope my parents were too.

MolotovCocktail Wed 27-Feb-13 10:53:31

willyou I think your tale is more of an indictment upon the copper who read "hyphen" as part of Sarah-Jane! grin

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Feb-13 10:57:12

Yeah - It was uncalled for. It was in the 70s. Different age - I like to think it wouldn't happen now. I wonder how that particular, probably long dead, copper would cope with all the Polish names we have in our school now!! grin

Ella Rose is lovely by the way OP!

drownangels Wed 27-Feb-13 11:55:07

probably long dead, copper You what?!

My dad was a copper in the 60's and is alive and well and having a lot of fun!

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Feb-13 12:24:26

Well he was an old copper in the seventies. Much older than my Dad was, and my Dad's dead!

VinegarDrinker Wed 27-Feb-13 12:30:05

I have a hyphenated (virtually unique) first name. Bit of a PITA sometimes but everyone calls me both, I don't recognise the first half as "my" name at all.

Amusingly according to MN hyphenated names are either dead common or dead posh.

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Feb-13 12:31:25

I'm dead posh!!grin

It will confuse all who meet her and make bank/card etc applications a nightmare as have to be redone when people miss off hyphen. And she will just get pissed off with having drs/nurses etc call her by the first name not her actual name.

I speak from experience

I disagree.

And I also speak from experience smile

BeeBopDingALing Wed 27-Feb-13 15:52:19

I wouldn't bother hyphenating. The girls at school I knew with hyphenated names only ever used (and still do) the first part of their names.

Ella is a ok first name and Rose is an ok middle name but together as one name sounds a bit twee and childlike iyswim.

GW297 Wed 27-Feb-13 18:53:35

Ella-Rose is lovely!

sooperdooper Wed 27-Feb-13 19:59:03

It amuses me greatly how much people get worked up about hyponated names on MN, I've never in 34 years in RL have anyone make such a big to-do about my name!

Nor have I ever had anyone say they think it's pretentious, or pointless, or weird or anything really, it's just my name and I've never met another person with the same one grin

If you like it, do it, I think Ella-Rose is pretty

Ginebra Wed 27-Feb-13 20:03:28

Only for certain combinations, like Marie-claire, Anne-Charlotte, Mary-Anne. i don't like religious names for the sake of it but they are the only names that can side step the hillbilly vibe, or the can't decide vibe

Ginebra Wed 27-Feb-13 20:04:52

If it works in France then I will give it approval wink

nectarini1983 Wed 27-Feb-13 20:59:52

Not a fan or hyphenated first names. Just seems unnecessary really.

More than one name is unnecessary. Necessary is rarely a consideration in these things I find. wink

ErikNorseman Thu 28-Feb-13 12:47:03

Hate hyphenated names in general, Ella is pretty but overused, Rose is pretty but overused. Ella-rose makes me cringe, EllaRose even more so. I'm sure you don't care what I think but believe me I'm not the only person who cringes at hyphenated names.

ErikNorseman Thu 28-Feb-13 12:49:02

sounds a bit twee and childlike iyswim.

Yes! This is why I hate them. They sound like nicknames. Like calling a baby Millie moo or daisy boo or something, but making it their actual name

It seems like you are naming a baby, forgetting that she will grow up into an adult woman and hopefully want to be taken seriously.

Willow36 Thu 28-Feb-13 14:29:01

I like hyphenated names. My best friends daughter is Ava-Grace & I love it. Ella-Rose is lovely, go for it!

Masterchuff Thu 28-Feb-13 14:30:53

My DD has a hyphenated first name. Never caused a problem yet. Beautiful name OP

BananaHammocks Thu 28-Feb-13 22:27:26

Sorry but I'm another one who thinks it looks twee and hillbilly and childish to hyphenate names! Also agree that Ella and Rose are both pretty names but soooooo overused that it unfortunately makes them a bit boring. I think of the names that were super popular when I was born and I think of them as boring whereas I guess people of our parents generation thought they were pretty and different.

mmmmsleep Thu 28-Feb-13 22:41:00

OP sorry if i seemed a bit harsh. Ella-Rose is lovely and many hyphenated names are. On the continent my hyphenated name is very common and wouldn't have been an issue. i just found it a bit of a drag having it in uk esp growing up as it is vv rare here hence sharing my views. If you love it go for it. Good luck with the birth.

It's a really pretty name. No idea why, but for some reason using the hyphen makes it look more 'complete' IYSWIM? Doesn't really matter for the spoken version(s), but, to me, is much more elegant on paper as Ella-Rose, rather than Ella Rose.

wonkylegs Thu 28-Feb-13 22:45:36

My cousin has a hyphenated name both parts of which are unusual. She's always known by the full name and it's generally accepted. It's a very unusual combination but she does live in California with friends with much weirder names.

GW297 Thu 28-Feb-13 22:47:11

Moonlightandroses - I agree. Aesthetically it looks much better with a hyphen.

getmeoutofthismadhouse Thu 28-Feb-13 22:52:38

I wanted Lily-Ella for my DD and my exP vetoed it saying the double names are cute when they are little but as solicitors or doctors or high level jobs would it still be a nice name for a 30+ woman ... same with Georgia-Lily which she ended up with but shes Georgia middle name Lily on her birth certificate for that reason.

UnrequitedSkink Thu 28-Feb-13 23:10:57

It's just a bit naff innit?

amck5700 Thu 28-Feb-13 23:38:55

Lovely name, don't have strong feelings about hyphens either way, except when it comes to emails. In a work environment people who have hyphens, apostrophes etc are a pain in the butt when you are trying to email them grin

I have one colleague who has a non hyphenated but could be hyphenated name - with both names having 2 spelling options and she tops that off with an apostrophed surname - I hate her!! Not really cos she is lovely It's not her fault, but every time the IT people set up an email address they use a different style - sometimes they leave a gap between the two first names, sometimes they don't , sometimes they chuck a hyphen in - and then comes the surname, is it a gap, no gap or an actual apostrophe....or even an underscore?!?! I guess you get the picture!

mrstowers Thu 28-Feb-13 23:48:33

Hyphenated names have become really overly popular where I live. I have heard parents actually quite distressed because they can't think of a second name to go with the first when hypenated. Er, it doesn't have to be hypenated. We've had first name-May, first name-Rose, first name-Grace, first name-Rae, first name-Belle. Really really overly popular.

VinegarDrinker Fri 01-Mar-13 08:18:01

Lol at hyphenated names not being suitable for a doctor. Hasn't stopped me!

ErikNorseman Fri 01-Mar-13 08:33:53

IMO there is a difference between Sarah-Jane or similar 70s-80s era hyphenated names and the current trend which is infinitely more twee. Anything at all with the 'ae' sound just makes it sound excessively cute and like a little girl's nickname. Rose or belle are just gilding the lily, too pretty, especially when teamed with another 'pretty' (ie flower or similar) name (lily-rose, Lula-belle, Lola-rose, tallulah-belle, etc). Then you have the bodging of two names together that don't even flow, like Courtney-Madison or similar. They are all just so naff.

MolotovCocktail Fri 01-Mar-13 09:27:56

It's clearly a question of taste and what individuals prefer. I love the suggestions of Lily-Rose, Lily-Ella, Tallulah-Belle, Lola-Rose.

I strongly disagree with the "hillbilly" statement made upthread: IMO, this connotation depends upon the names used rather than the fact of a hyphenated name (to me, Demi-Lee is not a particualarly nice name, but Lula-Belle is).

I think hyphens mark an evolution in naming trends - some will want to be part of it, others not. Such is life!

baskingseals Fri 01-Mar-13 20:41:48

i agree with molotov. it depends on the name.

i know a Gypsy-Kate, which i think is a lovely name. i think Ella-Rose is pretty, but quite popular, but i don't think that really matters if you love the name.

ErikNorseman Fri 01-Mar-13 22:27:17

Gypsy-Kate hmm
Yes it clearly is a matter of taste. And that's not taste. Not good taste, anyway.

tigerdriverII Fri 01-Mar-13 22:34:07

I used to work with someone called Annemarie. Not Anne-Marie or even Anne Marie. Have to admit it did my head in! Personally I really dislike the Molly Mae type names (Mae - what is that all about?). But that is just me smile

baskingseals Fri 01-Mar-13 22:39:01

i don't know if it matters whether names are perceived to be in good or bad taste.

i think there is something romantic in calling your daughter Lilac-Belle - i may not chose to do it myself, but i am glad that other people do.

gwenniebee Fri 01-Mar-13 22:44:47

I taught two Ella-Roses and both of them were known as Ella-Rose by everyone. I never heard anyone calling either girl just Ella.

Cathycat Fri 01-Mar-13 22:55:44

My son's class have about 12 hyphenated girls. I can't remember whos who. I just know they have a hyphen.

sweetkitty Fri 01-Mar-13 23:15:50

I have a hyphenated name and I hate it for all the reasons someone stated further down, some computer systems don't recognise hyphens at all, the second part of my name could be my surname which complicates things too.

MolotovCocktail Sat 02-Mar-13 07:21:27

I'm very curious as to what Erik considers 'good taste' names to be ...

ErikNorseman Sat 02-Mar-13 07:35:45

A name that suits an adult as much as a a child
A name with meaning
A name that doesn't cause people to think wtf (witness gypsy-Kate)
A name that is not excessively sweet/sickly such as tallulah-belle and the ilk
No yooneeq spellings

That's a basic guide to avoiding terrible names. There are more guidelines but I won't go on. And please don't think I'm alone in my name disdain - it's a very common view.

MolotovCocktail Sat 02-Mar-13 07:46:59

Ah, but you see, just because it's a common view, doesn't mean it's right.

And it is merely a viewpoint. You've highlighted a really narrow way of naming, one I'm so glad that not everyone follows.

MolotovCocktail Sat 02-Mar-13 07:49:28

And, that disdainful view can't be that common anyway - there have been as many positive responses to Ella-Rose as there have been negative.

BikeRunSki Sat 02-Mar-13 07:56:47

Ella Rose or Ella-Rose, but you can't put a capital letter in the middle of a name (apart from MN screen names of course... wink).

I only know one person with a hyphenated first name. She is vair, posh. Has always been known by everyone as an abbreviation of the second name. Along the lines of Anne-Elizabeth, known as Lizzie.

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