what do you think about using same initials for siblings?

(33 Posts)

Can't decide if I like this idea or not! The girl name we like best for dc3 has the same initials as DD. Wondering whether to pick to a boy's name with the same initials as DS.

Keep thinking it would be so convenient for labelling uniform!

But possibly also awkward with mail etc.

My dd has initials EET and ds is EKT (including middle names) i.e. their first names start with the same letter. Mind you, me and dh have the same letter at the start of our names too.

simplesusan Thu 21-Feb-13 14:03:44

I think it is fine.

Disclaimer: None of of have the same initials so I have no idea if it can cause problems with post etc.

NomNomDePlumPudding Thu 21-Feb-13 14:05:46

you will continually be calling them by the wrong name. (mind you, dds have different initials and i still mix up their names, so...)

I mix my cat and ky DS up all the time blush they have a similar type of name, but not the same initial!

DH and DS already share an initial too.

Hmm. Still dithering!

nickelbabe Thu 21-Feb-13 14:47:20

there's nothing wrong with it, but I personally wouldn't do it.
I like to know that the post that arrives can't be mixed up if the middle initial isn't used.

Startail Thu 21-Feb-13 15:31:25

my sister and I have the same first initial. The only post DCs ever get is birthday cards, so unless they are twins, that's not a problem.

I think DS and I might have opened each others post once or twicein 16 years of living together and even then it was only you have 55p in your savings account or a Christmas card.

Modern DCs are hardly going to send each other love letters, the FB, text or ring.

Anything medical or for scholl always says to the parent of anyway.

kilmuir Thu 21-Feb-13 15:32:33


Startail Thu 21-Feb-13 15:33:04

scholl blush blushblushblushblush

HeadFairy Thu 21-Feb-13 15:34:25

Hmm not sure. Depends how many children. Two or three is ok ish any more than that and you risk looking like one of those bonkers families with hundreds of children and a slight tendency to believe consipiracy theories.

usualsuspect Thu 21-Feb-13 15:35:39

I've got the same initials as my brother, cant say it has ever caused a problem.

Startail Thu 21-Feb-13 15:35:49

Definitely not chavvy, unless they all begin with K or C then I can think of some debatable sets.

weegiemum Thu 21-Feb-13 15:35:49

We're fairy mixed - dh is HJT, I'm SMT, dd1 is KMT, Ds is APRT and dd2 is RJT. we don't share any names, any family names they have are from grandparents or great grandparents.

When I was a teen, my step mum (I lived with dad and DSM) had the same first initial as my sister. Never was an issue.

5madthings Thu 21-Feb-13 15:36:09

My dp has the same initial as his sister and his mum and non if them have a middle name, think A Brown. So for post etc he found it massively annoying.

MrsReiver Thu 21-Feb-13 15:36:45

I have the same initials as two of my brothers and one of my sisters and two of my other brothers have the same initials. It's never caused any confusion, apart from just now when I was trying to work it out.

eachtigertires Thu 21-Feb-13 15:36:49

I know someone whose whole family has the same first initial, I don't think they find it a problem.

sooperdooper Thu 21-Feb-13 15:36:53

I have the same initials as my brother, it's no big deal and it's never caused any issues whatsoever - tbh I doubt my mum & dad even considered it anything to wonder about, I think you're over thinking it!

MrsReiver Thu 21-Feb-13 15:37:12

Definitely not chavvy, unless they all begin with K or C then I can think of some debatable sets.


chickabilla Thu 21-Feb-13 15:39:24

My 2 DS share the same first initial, different middle initials. The only other name that was a contender would have given DS2 the exact same initials as DH. This baby will have a different first initial as it was not intentional last time! No problems so far and great for naming uniform but they are only 6 and 2.


Changing it a bit to not to out myself, but

Me: NE Smith
DH: RE smith
DD: MA Smith
DS: RC Smith

(so mostly different so far)

Then baby 3 could be
Girl: MA Smith
Boy: RC smith

I'm 99% that this will be the last baby, so there'd only be 2 people in the house with exactly the same initials.

Gwennan Thu 21-Feb-13 16:01:08

I think it's fine for two siblings to share the same first initials but it starts getting a bit weird if there's 3 or 4 of them. It's better if the sounds are different - like an Emily and an Elliot or a Charlotte and a Christopher. I think I'd give the children different middle names though and certainly wouldn't go out of my way to match them.

DreamingOfTheMaldives Thu 21-Feb-13 16:10:28

Me, my brother and sister are all the same initials - first name and surname (not middle names.) It wasn't done deliberately but never caused any problems apart from very occasionally getting post mixed up.

amck5700 Thu 21-Feb-13 16:12:24

I have two boys both with the same initial - a C! and both sound like a K!

Can't say it causes any issues - I'll be kicking them out at 16 so mail shouldn't be an issue.

....and seriously how much actual mail does anyone get these day? Never mind how much they will get when it actually matters.

OH and I share first initials too - all of it was unintentional but if OH hadn't insisted on a gaelic spelling for No2 son they would have different initials

amck5700 Thu 21-Feb-13 16:13:32

...and neither names are Chavvy imo.

MadameJosephine Thu 21-Feb-13 16:19:10

My grandparents, my parents, me, my exH, my brother and my 2 dc all have the same first initial. It's never caused any problems. Does that make me a Chav? I swear I've never left the house in my pyjamas, not even once!

nickelbabe Thu 21-Feb-13 16:41:15

ah, see, i wouldn't do both initials the same even if the first was the same.

That would just cause postal chaos!
Can you change the spellings of the middle names to make them different initials?

Snowflakepie Thu 21-Feb-13 16:53:15

I wouldn't use the same initials for a DS as my DH, as there is a distinct possibility with costs of housing etc that adult children will still live with you. And all post of importance got sent to home while at uni. So 2 Mr D Smiths could well get confused. But Miss or Mrs will distinguish the others. I would try to make sure middle initials were at least different, most official stuff uses them all. Equally it hardly matters, we get so little post other than junk now! So if the name is something you love, it wouldn't put me off really.

We really love the girl name we've picked so reluctant to change it. There aren't any alternate spellings, I don't think.

Darn baby names.

Could add an extra middle name though, so DD is MAS and DD2 would be MAES?

Dillydollydaydream Thu 21-Feb-13 18:08:55

I know someone who has 3 dc, all begin with X and have the same amount of letters! I was a bit hmm when I found out.

WoTmania Thu 21-Feb-13 18:17:47

My grand parents, parents, brother (and soon to be SIL) and cousin all have the same initial (I don't mean just indivisual the couples - all 7 of them have the single same letter starting their names). Not been a massive problem so far although as they all, except the STBSIL, use the same Drs surgery and pharmacy has occasionally led to some mix ups. Doesn't help that my grandad, dad and brother all have the same name, as does someone not known to us who lives up the road (poor pharmacist grin)

redandwhitesprinkles Thu 21-Feb-13 18:22:39

Mine have the same first initial but not middle.

My husband has all 3 initials the same ad his dad. They didn't think about it until the post got mixed up but no major issues.

My DSis and I had the same first initial and my two DBros and DDad shared a first initial too. Never bothered any of us at all.

My DH and DS's first names both begin with a K and again no problems so far. (we are obviously tasteless chavs from chavvy stock)

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