We really love the name Baxter

(67 Posts)
Mawgatron Sun 17-Feb-13 10:22:02

But have stupidly told people who keep trying to convince us otherwise.
We said we loved it before we were even trying for a baby (watched the Ian drury film and when we heard he had named his son that we both thought it was a brilliant and unusual name), and now we are 5 months pregnant we are starting to doubt ourselves. Everyone keeps saying 'its a dogs name' or 'that's a soup'.
But we still love it! Should we stick to our guns or cave to pressure?
He would be Baxter Sturge if that helps your judgement in any way?

Sorry... dog's name. And Baxter Sturge sounds like a public infrastructure consultancy firm...

AmandaPayne Sun 17-Feb-13 10:27:24

If you love it, go for it. It does make me think of a soup and I'm not a fan of 'surname as first name' stuff anyway.

I think the thing is, not everyone will like a name you like. Just like not everyone will like the same music, or the same food. But in our society it can feel like you need to have everyone like it. And if they don't, it can feel like a judgement on you/your child as a person. It's not, it's just different tastes. I don't like it as a name, you do. You'd probably hate the names of my children. I like to eat hot curry, maybe you can think of nothing more disgusting. Such is the beauty and diversity of life.

And when you know a Baxter, that's just them. You don't stop and think about someone's name on a daily basis. Maybe for a moment when you first meet them. Or if it is something totally daft like MoonUnit. But other than that, it just becomes them.

I think you are far more likely to regret not using a name you love than you are going with it. And you can always give a very straightforward traditional name in the middle as back up.

lesserspottedshitehawk Sun 17-Feb-13 10:27:35

grin I'm sorry. I really am. But grin

ImpatientOne Sun 17-Feb-13 10:30:18

It's soup confused

And I think people would forever be saying 'Dexter?'

DomesticCEO Sun 17-Feb-13 10:30:27

Soup grin

And I don't buy this "if you love it go for it" stuff either - it's not you that's saddled with an awful name!

YippeeTeenager Sun 17-Feb-13 10:30:43

We know a lovely Baxter. It is unusual and the first time you hear it you think, that's a new one! But then they just become a lovely Baxter and you couldn't imagine them as anything else. Go for it if you like it smile

HDee Sun 17-Feb-13 10:32:55

I know a Baxter. He and his brothers all have unusual names. Not my choice, but they are an amazing family.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sun 17-Feb-13 10:33:55

I think Baxter is a brilliant name!

zookeeper Sun 17-Feb-13 10:34:56

it's awful. Great for a dog though.

AmandaPayne Sun 17-Feb-13 10:49:34

DomesticCEO - But that's my point.You think it is awful. The OP and plenty of other people won't. And as others have pointed out, you get used to people having the name they have.

If everyone went with MN approved names, the world would be bloody dull. People have said horrid things (and lovely ones) about DD2's name. I love it, I don't care. I don't think it will hold her back in life, and I don't think Baxter is going to damage someone's life chances. It's not like being called Rainbow CareBear or something.

Mawgatron Sun 17-Feb-13 11:09:15

I think I am biased because I have a weird name, never met anyone else with it. I used to hate it when I was a kid, but now I love it.
Think Baxter is a bit of a marmite name, but I wish we hadn't told anyone because then he would have popped out, been called Baxter and everyone would have to pretend to like it anyway.
I really don't want to end up regretting not giving him the name we love, but we both have a little niggling doubt now...

AlmondFrangipani Sun 17-Feb-13 12:02:28

Hi,

It is my Mum's dog's name! Not that I dont like it but like others my initial association is with dogs!

I feel your pain though as we like unusual names too and you will always divide opinion!

saycheeeeeese Sun 17-Feb-13 12:05:24

Reminds me of Anchorman grin

sw11mumofone Sun 17-Feb-13 12:09:06

You still have four months to think about it. I went round in circles a few months ago trying to figure out names for DC due soon. In the end I decided to write a list of options and then forget about it for a while.
Why don't you come up with some alternatives and then give yourself a month or two off from thinking about it. Coming back in a couple of months with fresh perspective might help. Try not to think about other people's opinions. If you read lots of the threads on here you're in the minority because both you and your DH love the same name! That's a bonus!!

PhyllisDoris Sun 17-Feb-13 12:17:42

Baxter Sturge is truly awful, sorry hmm

Is Sturge the surname? If it is, there's not much you can do about that, but there are so many lovely first names available, why lumber the lad with a made up name/surname Which he's forever going to have to spell and explain?

If Sturge is going to be the middle name, then why don't you replace either that or Baxter with a more normal name, to allow DS the choice when he's older?

PuffPants Sun 17-Feb-13 12:25:53

You have to be joking? Poor child. Don't do it OP, he won't thank you for naming him after a brand of noodles.

curiousgeorgie Sun 17-Feb-13 12:47:56

I really like it... Surnames as first names sometimes sound odd at first but once they're attached to a child people just accept them.

It's very cute actually!

I know a lovely, soppy lab named Baxter. How will you feel when it's shortened to Bax?

Mawgatron Sun 17-Feb-13 13:16:31

Sturge is our surname I'm afraid. Isn't there only one way to spell Baxter?

CityDweller Sun 17-Feb-13 13:31:38

I rather like it! It's unusual, has a cool factor to it without being too 'hipster' or 'try hard' and he'd definitely not be one of five in his year at school. I don't really think of the soup (or a dog), but I don't buy tinned soup (or have a dog)!

We too have a relatively divisive name at top of our boys' list. I mentioned it in passing months and months ago when we were first thinking of names, and it didn't seem to go down hugely well with friends and family. But, we love it and we love what it shortens to and my policy (since I've been about 6 months pregnant) is not to share any of our name ideas with anyone. As you're experiencing, people feel free to bash a name before baby is born, but if you just go ahead and name the baby then people tend to be more accepting...

Branleuse Sun 17-Feb-13 13:33:30

i love it

i know someone who called their baby this very recently and i remember thinking how cool it was

spiderlight Sun 17-Feb-13 13:37:46

I rather like it!

ENormaSnob Sun 17-Feb-13 13:38:01

Not my cup of tea and I don't think it sounds great with your surname tbh.

But, it's not my baby and the world would be very boring if we all liked the same smile

I don't buy this "if you love it go for it" stuff either - it's not you that's saddled with an awful name!

I agree with this. Having grown up with an awful name myself.

Baxter isn't awful but it doesn't go with your surname at all. I think it's the "ster" sound at the end of Baxter and the start of Sturge.

TheSecondComing Sun 17-Feb-13 13:40:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TwllBach Sun 17-Feb-13 13:44:30

I think this "it's a dog name" can be a bit silly. It;s not like you're planning on calling him Fido or Rover. I know lots of dogs called Meg and Charlie, and I also know lots of people called Meg and Charlie. I don't laugh at them becuase they have dogs names!

MinnieBar Sun 17-Feb-13 13:48:38

Soup.

SOUP.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOUUUUUUUUUUP.

HTH.

I like it. But agree it sounds odd with your surname but I wouldn't let that put you off.

Branleuse Sun 17-Feb-13 13:57:40

ignore people
it sounds fine with the surname and its uber cool

Bunbaker Sun 17-Feb-13 14:01:49

Soup
Chutney
A firm of solicitors
Or a surname

Sorry, but I don't like it

lesserspottedshitehawk Sun 17-Feb-13 14:39:34

Twllbach I agree with that.
I once told my mum (when I was much younger) that I liked Sophie.

Her answer - that's a budgies name.
hmm

Narked Sun 17-Feb-13 14:45:55

Exactly what Fanny said.

'Sorry... dog's name. And Baxter Sturge sounds like a public infrastructure consultancy firm...'

Ariel21 Sun 17-Feb-13 14:49:54

Fuck everyone else. It's not their choice. It's yours. Unless you specifically asked for friends/families opinions. In which case they are entitled to tell you. Still, don't cave - if you love it, then go for it.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sun 17-Feb-13 15:16:20

You could spend ages coming up with a safe, classic to middle of the road name for a baby boy, then a year after he is born, ASDA bring out a clothing range using the same name as your child. He will spend his primary school years being told that every jumper, shoe and shirt has got his name in it. But he will still turn out alright, and fairly well adjusted.

Baxter is original and cool.

My dog has got the same name as someone in my class, and they are both lovely, clever and cheeky. My BIL has got a dog called Dave. I would draw the line at Rover, or Butch (particularly for a girl) but I don't think anyone at my school would bat an eyelid. But then we have kids with apostrophes stuck in their names at 'artistic' points.

onlymeee Sun 17-Feb-13 18:58:26

Regardless of anything else, it does NOT go well with Sturge. Ster-stur is a no-no. Find something else.

ZolaBuddleia Sun 17-Feb-13 19:37:09

I don't have a problem with Baxter, but don't like the 'ster ster' thing either, sorry.

PandaWatch Sun 17-Feb-13 19:50:14

"Bark twice if you're in Milwaukee!"

grin

But no.

MidnightMasquerader Mon 18-Feb-13 00:12:16

I know of two little pre-school brothers called Cooper and Baxter - not my taste personally, but I think they go well together, and little Baxter in particular carries his name off with aplomb. A teeny litle dude with long blonde surfer hair.

I kind of agree re the -ster/Stur sounds running together, but then again, you can sort of imagine a newsreader, a famous Olympian, or fearless explorer-type with a memorable name like that. smile

The name is just fine - go for it, if you really like it. And stop telling people your preferences before the baby has arrived!! <raps OP's knuckles>

toobreathless Mon 18-Feb-13 03:36:22

I REALLY don't like it & I am generally pretty relaxed when it comes to other people's name choices, I like or don't dislike most things.

Mawgatron Mon 18-Feb-13 07:06:38

I know, I know midnight! First baby, don't know the ropes yet! Def won't be telling people next time.

Some other possibilities: Rudy,, Edwin, Walter (although same ter/stur issue there), Jacob, Bruno, Sidney, Kitson, Barnaby.

Jacob, Bruno and barnaby are nice. I'm ignoring Baxter, sorry. It really doesn't go with your surname

RobinSparkles Mon 18-Feb-13 07:50:22

I don't think Bruno goes with Sturge. It sounds a bit like "brew not stirred" to me.

I like Jacob from your list.

I love Rudy. How about Rex Sturge?

INeedALieIn Mon 18-Feb-13 08:02:11

I love it.

I also love Barlow

FoxyRevenger Mon 18-Feb-13 08:06:11

But Baxter is the best of that list by far!

I actually really like it. We have an Innes which has the same surname-y vibe, and I can tell people don't LOVE it the way they do his sister's name (more conventional) but I honestly don't care one bit. You don't once they're born, it just becomes who they are.

Go for it!

Rudy, Edwin Bruno & Jacob go with your surname

I loath Barnaby with a vengeance, but that's personal taste as is my dislike of Walter. Sidney and Kitson don't sound right with your surname to me.

Loz1980 Mon 18-Feb-13 09:50:20

I think Baxter is a gorgeous name! Not convinced it goes with your surname but then I had same problem with DS2's name. In the end I went with it because I love it but we used a longer version of name on his birth certificate which does sound better. Pity there's not a longer version of Baxter. But you could hyphenate it.

ZolaBuddleia Mon 18-Feb-13 10:04:59

Now you're talking! Barnaby goes well, both in full and as Barney, and I LOVE Rudy.

Walter goes much better as it's not 'ster', although I'm not mad keen on it.

Solomon?
Judah?
Leo?
Ben?
Eben?

LeeCoakley Mon 18-Feb-13 10:06:50

st-st a complete no-no. You have others on your list that are so much better! I can't say it properly without stumbling (!) so imagine if your child had a slight lisp? shock

AltogetherAndrews Mon 18-Feb-13 10:27:31

The name is fine, but doesn't go with your surname. Of the others you mention, Edwin is nice, but Edwin Sturge sounds like a book by Dickens. I would go with Walter, it is the best fit with the surname.

ZolaBuddleia Mon 18-Feb-13 10:36:32

Bertrand?

(Trying to think of old man names that go with Sturge!)

ProphetOfDoom Mon 18-Feb-13 10:40:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GoatsHaveStrangeEyes Mon 18-Feb-13 10:53:27

What about Daxter? I know of one of those. Not as dog like.

PandaWatch Mon 18-Feb-13 12:12:39

Surely Daxter is a made up name?

GoatsHaveStrangeEyes Mon 18-Feb-13 12:16:37

I think its dutch. Certainly the one I know has family in Holland.

AmberLav Mon 18-Feb-13 13:47:44

Baxter is my maiden name, and I think it would make a lovely first name, and would be a good way to keep the name in the family (only have sisters) but DH has vetoed it, and I can see the point with us, as it would mess up young Baxter's bank security question!

It's reasonably well used as a first name in America... Oh and I didn't get called soup much as a child!

onlymeee Mon 18-Feb-13 15:05:09

You shouldn't use your real mmn as a security answer. It's very easy for anyone to find that out, so you should use a different name (making sure you will remember it!).

MidnightMasquerader Mon 18-Feb-13 17:44:44

My brother's name is Mum's maiden surname. He's managed to successfully circumnavigate banks' security questions by simply using ... another security question. wink

onlymeee Mon 18-Feb-13 17:57:55

The point is that the bank doesn't know your mmn, and you don't have to use the true one. It's an outdated password system which was fine in pre-internet days, as very few people would have known your mmn. Nowadays this info is readily available online. Unlike, for instance, the name of your first pet, or your first car.

BelleEtLaBaby Tue 19-Feb-13 12:09:38

I'm going to go against the grain here and say I love Baxter! I'd chuck a neat little middle name in, like James or something. If he hates it he can use that in future and it would break up the ster-stur thing (which isn't that awful). I can just imagine a Baxter as a teen or an adult, definitely.

Soup related nicknames? Really? If that's the worst you can come up with, he'll be fine smile

Although Barnaby is also lovely smile

Rhubarbgarden Tue 19-Feb-13 14:03:11

Rudy Sturge has a ring to it.

Baxter Sturge - no no no.

ComposHat Tue 19-Feb-13 15:01:13

Baxster Sturge.

Say it to yourself a few times

SterSturge bit sounds absurd.

Walter Sturge sounds much better.

onlymeee Tue 19-Feb-13 15:04:17

Rudy Sturge.

Rudest Urge.

No.

TobyLerone Tue 19-Feb-13 15:09:49

Baxter is the dog in Anchorman who gets punted over a bridge by Jack Black.

Awful name, IMO.

ZolaBuddleia Tue 19-Feb-13 19:44:59

Good point, onlymeee!

I get 'bastard urge' when I say Baxter Sturge. OP, could you marry someone with an easier surname? grin

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Tue 19-Feb-13 21:29:28

Not got a problem with it myself, if you love it keep it, people always have an opinion whatever you choose.

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