Help with naming worry please

(59 Posts)
shoopastry Thu 14-Feb-13 11:27:32

DD arrived last month and we decided to call her Beatrice, however our surname is four letters and begins with 'B' and ends with 'all' and I'm starting to have second thoughts about this combination.

We have not registered her yet so we have time to change our minds and would really like some constructive advice. How does it sound to you? Would her name result in teasing? I would really appreciate honest opinions as I'm lying awake worrying about this! What would you do?

Frikadellen Thu 14-Feb-13 11:31:23

I like it very much I think it has a lovely ring to it.. Dont worry imo.

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Thu 14-Feb-13 11:33:03

Your surname is likely to cause her some teasing no matter what her first name is - isn't it! smile

I think the alliteration & the don't help though - they sort of draw attention to it somehow in a way that something like Katie or Jane don't. I think you'd be better off with a first name that 'stops' rather than slides to an end smile

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Thu 14-Feb-13 11:33:33

Having said that, if you love it, does it really matter??

TheSecondComing Thu 14-Feb-13 11:34:28

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BabyRoger Thu 14-Feb-13 11:34:54

I think it sounds lovely. Not sure if I am missing something but I cannot think why she would be teased about her name.

MadBusLady Thu 14-Feb-13 11:45:37

Tricky. I think it does make the surname stand out a bit more, there's no getting away from it. People would remember her name (not a bad thing!) But Beatrice is absolutely lovely. Is she Bea, Beattie or Trixie? I would be a bit concerned about Bea Yoursurname, that does sound slightly comical. Beattie I think could sound rather nice.

A few other names that seem similar to me, in case any of them appeal. I think some of them do make the surname fade into the background a bit more:


Bit of a wildcard suggestion but could she take your other/maiden surname?! Or have it double-barrelled with your current name?

Gwennan Thu 14-Feb-13 11:46:09

I remember you posting about this when you were pregnant (I believe, fairly early on). You've had ages to think about this, you finally made a choice (and picked a gorgeous name!), and I think you should just stick with it. Beatrice B@11 sounds fine. Basketball isn't big here like it is in the States so I don't think she'll be teased (e.g. Bea B@11). You can always give her a middle name to fall back on.

CityMa Thu 14-Feb-13 11:49:32

If you think it will bother you forever I would change it, but Fwiw I think it's fine. If you did want to change it, does she have a middle name you could swipe it with? I was called one name for the first 6 weeks, then Mum changed her mind and called me something else- one of my proposed middle names.

CityMa Thu 14-Feb-13 11:50:00

Swop not swipe!

shoopastry Thu 14-Feb-13 16:21:46

Thanks for your thoughts - a mixed response.

Baby I'm worried it sounds comical because of the alliteration and our surname - especially when shortened to Bea. We wouldn't use Bea in conjunction with surname though e.g on forms or giving name over the phone only in as a nn day to day.

HighJinx Thu 14-Feb-13 16:37:55

Beatrice is a lovely name and sounds fine with your surname.

Bea with your surname would bother me tbh, but there must be plenty of people who share your surname with the initial B. And it's not awful like Bea Sting or something.

I would be concerned about Be-a-surname too (but that is just how I hear the names so might never happen).

badtime Thu 14-Feb-13 16:58:14

'chilling out, maxing, relaxing all cool and all, shooting some b-b@1l outside the school'
Fresh Prince of Bel Air


bassingtonffrench Thu 14-Feb-13 17:08:26

I think its fine. I quite like alliteration in names.

KelleStar Thu 14-Feb-13 17:34:04

I have a Beatrice and a B surname, she is 2 and it's never commented on. She gets called Bebe by my dad though and it's cute, she is normally called Bea. She has annabelle as her middle name.

Sashapineapple Thu 14-Feb-13 17:54:17

I wouldn't like Bea with your surname tbh and there's a good chance as she gets older that's what her friends will call her. It sounds a bit comical (sorry) and I would probably have Beatrice as the middle name instead.

Yay4may Thu 14-Feb-13 19:54:25

Also think it's tricky because Beatrice Ball sounds extremely cool but Bea Ball is....sorry...cringe-y.

BabyRoger Thu 14-Feb-13 20:59:58

Well I still think it's nice. I don't see anything comical about it. It's hardly Richard Head or some such thing! My DS is Cameron CXXX and I like the way it sounds.

Beatrice B all is a lovely name!

MoppingMummy Thu 14-Feb-13 22:48:06

I agree Beatrice B*11 is absolutely fine, but Bea B*11 isn't so good. If she ends up being known as Bea by school & friends it is likely she would be called Bea B*11 at some point. Do you mind that?

MortifiedAdams Thu 14-Feb-13 22:52:38

Love the idea of using BeBe as a nn!

Floralnomad Thu 14-Feb-13 22:55:59

If you're lying awake worrying about it when you have a tiny baby then I'd change it .

Sashapineapple Fri 15-Feb-13 11:30:29

BabyRoger, I knew a Richard Head when I was a kid, seriously wtf were the parents thinking.

SavoyCabbage Fri 15-Feb-13 11:35:52

I think it's nice and BB is a lovely nickname.

ElephantsAndMiasmas Fri 15-Feb-13 12:00:32

Your surname is going to cause embarrassment anyway - have you thought about giving her a different one? And I do think that Beatrice draws attention to it (a bit like the newsreader Fenella Fudge - the alliteration is ear-catching). FWIW I think you should change it, maybe make Beatrice the middle name - you can still call her Bea for short but the world/school/friends will know her by a different name. Sorry but I'm just not really sure calling her Bea Ba11 is fair.

ceebie Fri 15-Feb-13 12:46:28

I don't think it's relevant whether her name will be shortened to Bea or not - sometimes her initial will be used so she would still be B. Surname which is a little comical - sorry to have to say it because Beatrice is a beautiful name.

MoonHare Fri 15-Feb-13 18:54:38

Normally when people post with name wobble concerns I say stick with it but in this case...and I'm actually a fan of alliterative names..

In your shoes I wouldn't have gone with Beatrice in the first place and now, if there's another non B name that you have in mind I would change it. Sorry.

DomesticCEO Fri 15-Feb-13 18:59:27

I don't think it goes with your surname at all blush. It truly amazes me how many parents don't think of this when naming their child, and now you've got the chance to change I would.

Yes, Beatrice is a lovely name but if you don't want to give her a different surname I think you should give her a different name.

As a little girl the only boy's name I ever wanted to use was Daniel - I married a man who's surname is the same as the famous holiday presenter who was murdered. The two names sound utterly ridiculous together so I didn't use it - I still feel very sad when I meet a baby Daniel, but it wasn't to be! smile

ElephantsAndMiasmas Sat 16-Feb-13 13:35:22

Also if she's ever in a class/group /job with another Beatrice she'll be called Bea Ba11 ALL THE TIME to distinguish her. Honestly I know it's a cruel thing to say but I'm cringing for her just thinking about it. Or imagine if she were an MP and the speaker were calling on her: "BEA BA11". Eek.

Kyrptonite Sat 16-Feb-13 13:39:34

It's lovely!

seeker Sat 16-Feb-13 13:40:22

Sorry- it's a lovely name but I don't honk you should use it with your surname. My children have q vaguely comic last name and we worked hard at finding names that didn't make it worse- which meant I had to abandon my favouritest ever girl's name. I am so glad we did- the last name is enough of a burden as it is.

seeker Sat 16-Feb-13 13:41:04

Think, not honk!

Ruth22m Sat 16-Feb-13 13:42:45

Beatrice is a beautiful name, I love it.

DomesticCEO Sat 16-Feb-13 14:50:35

I don't think anyone is arguing Beatrice isn't a pretty name Ruth22m, but it sounds awful with the OP's surname sad.

BabyRoger Sat 16-Feb-13 15:57:56

I still don't get the comical bit, personally (maybe I am a bit thick!)

I just don't see Ball as comical (Balls - maybe wink ).

I agree, Bea B all doesn't sounds as nice as Beatrice B but I don't think it's comical or stupid and you could find a different nick name if it really concerned you.

Pineapple I thought Richard Head was an urban myth! I can't believe people would do that!

My DD has an alliterative B name too, I think it's wonderful- like a superhero's alter ego grin if you love it, use it.

Seeker- I have a surname with similar implications, I wonder if its the same one?!

GingerbreadGretel Sat 16-Feb-13 16:08:48

What was your maiden name? Maybe this is a sign the whole family should use that as a surname instead?

GingerbreadGretel Sat 16-Feb-13 16:10:37

Ed Balls' kids all have Cooper as a surname.

PuppyMonkey Sat 16-Feb-13 16:19:47

Oh dear I think I would change it while I had the chance. I don't agree it's a comical surname anyway - Zoe Ball for instance, you don't snigger at that do you? It's definitely the alliteration that kills it, would be the same with Belinda or Barry. Sounds daft.

seeker Sat 16-Feb-13 16:19:57

Scented- the name I couldn't use was Constance......

seeker Sat 16-Feb-13 16:20:52

"I don't agree it's a comical surname anyway - Zoe Ball for instance, you don't snigger at that do you?"

Umm blush

I remember your threads from before. I thought you had decided on Jessica?

DomesticCEO Sat 16-Feb-13 16:31:10

BabyBrother, my brothers' best friend's name at school was Richard Head!

DomesticCEO Sat 16-Feb-13 16:31:34

BabyRoger, sorry!!

Floralnomad Sat 16-Feb-13 16:58:15

I agree , without the alliterative first name it is not a comical surname . You make it comical with the choice of first name. On the subject of comical names I did my nurse training with a girl called Teresa Green , what were they thinking .

Clary Sat 16-Feb-13 17:47:20

I know a Lizzie Ball and an Alice Ball, both fine IMO and on the same lines as Beatrice (in terms of style of name etc).

I agree, B Ball sounds pretty silly, sorry it is the alliteration that's the issue. But then I am not a big fan of aliteration.

Viviennemary Sat 16-Feb-13 17:52:20

I think if you want to change it now is the time. Why not ask around family and friends. I don't mind Beatrice but certainly don't love it. Do you feel she's a Beatrice or not. I think when a baby is tiny it does seem odd when people call them by their name. It did to me in any case. Other names


BabyRoger Sat 16-Feb-13 18:22:03

Domestic another Richard Head. shock Now that is a stupid name!

Beatrice B all is not!

whatyoulookinat Sat 16-Feb-13 18:26:21

Beatrice is a lovely proper name whatever the surname. Stick with it.

Sashapineapple Sat 16-Feb-13 18:51:18

BabyRoger at least it wasn't as bad as BIL friend that insisted on naming their DS Issac because they just loved the name so much.. Their surname is Dick!! Seriously. It's just cruel to do that to a child.

DomesticCEO Sat 16-Feb-13 18:56:20

whatyoulookinat, I think the poster after you shows the exact reason why you shouldn't just stick with a name "whatever the surname"! shock

Names and surnames get used a lot together - anyone who thinks that ignoring this fact is not going to lead to a lifetime of sniggering about your child's name is deluded!

Sashapineapple Sat 16-Feb-13 19:09:04

It wasn't even like they didn't know. Their friends (quite a few, including BIL) pointed it out to them but they just didn't care confused

DomesticCEO Sat 16-Feb-13 19:18:49

Poor kid, sasha.

Sashapineapple Sat 16-Feb-13 19:22:52

Just googled and found this is a common problem with your surname. This a list someone suggested on another forum, it may be useful to you.

Emily Maeve
Cassie (Cassandra )
Amanda (Amandina )
Rosanna Diane

Personally I think it's fine but then my DS has an alliterative name he's William and our surname begins with W (and is fairly common) and I love it. We picked his name because we loved it but actually it has the advantage of making him memorable too because people remember his name.

rockinhippy Sat 16-Feb-13 19:46:18

Sorry I'm another that thinks your having sleepless nights for a good reason - it's a bad name choice with your surname I'm afraid sad she will forever be known as beeble, beatable, bibible etc etc - it would be a lovely middle name though - ie Catherine Beatrice Ball nn Katie Ball etc etc

I feel for you though as my favourite girls name was a complete no no with our surname too, thankfully it never felt right for DD anyway

Must be something with the surname Dick - we also know Dicks with DCs with that surname - Blue Dick & Bea Dick sad

Sashapineapple Sat 16-Feb-13 20:23:11

rockinhippy. shock Blue & Bea. Why, just why. Although tbh I can't understand why people choose to keep that name when deedpoll is so easy and cheap.

GingerbreadGretel Sat 16-Feb-13 20:31:20

Yes, my dad's colleague changed by deed poll from Dick to Dixon - problem solved. Refused to pass it on to his kids.

Sashapineapple Sat 16-Feb-13 21:35:13

Gingerbread, good on him. I'm sure his kids will thank him in years to come.

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