Is this name just asking for trouble or perfectly okay?

(120 Posts)
KnittedC Thu 07-Feb-13 19:48:17

I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant with my first (don't know if we're having a boy or a girl) but I'm not sure whether one of the names we are thinking of is too out there or not. The day we found out we were pregnant I suggested this name for a boy and DP was adamant there was no way; but since then it has sort of stuck and now he is even more keen on it than I am! The name we are thinking of is Grover.

Because we've discussed it back and forth for so many months I'm not sure if I have clarity anymore over whether it's horrible or not, but we both really love it and it just feels right. It also goes well with the surname. What does everyone think - would it be unreasonable to call our son Grover?

Of course, it's possible that after all this we have a girl and this is moot smile

noblegiraffe Thu 07-Feb-13 19:49:14

Like the muppet???

FellatioNels0n Thu 07-Feb-13 19:49:58

Wasn't it a character from Sesame Street? I don't mind surnames used as first names, but I'm not wild about it. I could tolerate it though.

LineRunner Thu 07-Feb-13 19:50:06

As in Grover Washington?

Do you live in New Orleans and move in jazz circles? Otherwise, I wouldn't tbh.

Actually I like it. Sure it's a Sesame Street character, but I think it's still quite a cool name.

aftermay Thu 07-Feb-13 19:50:59

Not keen but only because it sounds like grovel.

deleted203 Thu 07-Feb-13 19:51:19

I have to say that if your DS grows up and goes to the secondary school I teach in his life will be hell...

BabyRoger Thu 07-Feb-13 19:51:21

Oh sorry, but you are asking for trouble in my opinion. Grover is a purple muppet!

IMHO it's not a nice name for a child.

AngelaCatalano Thu 07-Feb-13 19:51:24

Have you ever seen Sesame Street? That's all I can think of, sorry. He's nice enough and all, but he's, well, a blue puppet.

Still, if it feels right... Or maybe as a middle name?

JaneLane Thu 07-Feb-13 19:55:13

It's quite nice but does remind me of the puppet.

However I don't know if his generation will also make that association.

Wildwaterfalls Thu 07-Feb-13 19:56:22

Sesame Street associations here as well. I really wouldn't do it!

seeker Thu 07-Feb-13 19:58:13

You can't possibly. Sorry.

KnittedC Thu 07-Feb-13 19:59:28

We know about the associations with the Sesame Street character, Grover Cleveland, and Grover Washington; but none of these have been enough to put us off the name! I don't want to give my child a cruel name but we're both massively drawn to it and I really don't think it's too dreadful. I suppose we just have to wait and meet him and see if it still feels right then.

UserNameAngst Thu 07-Feb-13 20:00:02

Grover Cleveland was a us president wasn't he? I quite like it... But it is quite out there.

Littlefish Thu 07-Feb-13 20:00:03

Don't do it.

twentythirteen Thu 07-Feb-13 20:02:07

I like the name, but I also think of sesame street, and also the potential play on words "groper".

ladymia Thu 07-Feb-13 20:02:24

I quite like it but then again I have never seen the muppets or sesame street so don't made the above associations

Bunbaker Thu 07-Feb-13 20:03:05

"The day we found out we were pregnant"

The day I found out I was pregnant. Apologies, I just had to get that out of my system - men don't get pregnant smile

Not keen on the name choice, sorry.

TicTacSir Thu 07-Feb-13 20:03:15

I like it! but then I did want to call ds1 Elmo

I don't think it's cruel at all. Our kids won't have seen Sesame Street and having an old jazz type name is fairly cool really. There are plenty of loopy oscars everywhere, and you aren't all imaging they live in bins.

This is why you never tell anyone your chosen name until you're introducing the baby.

meditrina Thu 07-Feb-13 20:05:31

It's a name I associate strongly with USA, and I'm not sure it sounds right in UK.

My strongest association is to the satyr in the Percy Jackson books.

BoyMeetsWorld Thu 07-Feb-13 20:06:49

I prefer Elmore

nemno Thu 07-Feb-13 20:06:53

I don't like it. It seems like ugly words start with 'gro' , too close to growl, grovel, grot, gross, groper etc.

MrsMaryCooper Thu 07-Feb-13 20:12:59

At best he will be called groover at school at worst groper - or possibly grocer.

Don't go there.

Call him Dave.

Snazzynewyear Thu 07-Feb-13 20:13:00

Not keen, sorry.

DonderandBlitzen Thu 07-Feb-13 20:14:23

Groper is nice though.

NotInGuatemalaNowDrRopata Thu 07-Feb-13 20:16:05

Please don't do it. I can see what's happened, the name's grown on you and you've forgotten why it's such a big "NO!"

You'll meet people and they'll say "And what's this little fellow's name?" and you'll say "Grover" and they'll say, "Pardon?" and you'll repeat yourself and they will either be silent or quickly think of something nice to say. Then they'll go home and say "Can you BELIEVE anyone would do that to their child? That poor, poor kid." Children will go home from school talking about Grover. Their parents won't believe there really is a child called Grover in the class.

When Grover finishes university and tries to get accepted onto a grad programme somewhere, his application will be ignored for his dream job because the recruiter will think its a practice one that someone submitted before doing their real application. If by some miracle he gets an interview, the company will be discussing candidates and one of the old school senior people will say "Grover? Seriously? I'm not having someone called Grover working for me. I am not introducing him to clients."

I'm sorry to be so mean, but you have to see why it's not fair. Can you give him a different name and call him Grover as your pet name for him?

selsigfach Thu 07-Feb-13 20:19:56

Makes me think of growler!
It's horrible, sorry.

pictish Thu 07-Feb-13 20:20:56

I think it's fine.

Honestly, grover is absolutely no worse than the kind of names that everyone gets all enthusiastic over on here! I doubt 24 year old grover is going to have a harder time having job applications taken seriously than Rufus, Artemis and Ptolomy who all applied too.

scottishmummy Thu 07-Feb-13 20:25:04

ghastly try to hard media types name.smacks of try too hard to be trendy

Peevish Thu 07-Feb-13 20:26:19

I quite like it. I was probably in my teens, though, before I realised it's an actual American name, and not invented for the Sesame Street character. I would think it was appealingly quirky.

Are you Americans, incidentally?

GirlOutNumbered Thu 07-Feb-13 20:26:34

I laughed when I first heard it as its a Muppet, but actually the more you say it, I don't think it sounds too bad.
I think its quite cool

Viviennemary Thu 07-Feb-13 20:26:44

It's really absolutely awful. One of the worst I've heard on here. Please don't. The teasing at school will be horrendous.

OutragedFromLeeds Thu 07-Feb-13 20:27:33

I've been through this OP, considered both Grover and Elmo and I do still quite like both of them, but they're not useable, they're muppets. Thankfully the crazy fog lifted in time and neither have been used.

DON'T DO IT!

GirlOutNumbered Thu 07-Feb-13 20:27:37

No. I changed my mind.
It's a muppets name.

PickledInAPearTree Thu 07-Feb-13 20:28:07

It's a shocker !

amillionyears Thu 07-Feb-13 20:28:15

If he is cool he will be fine.
If he is not....maybe not so

stradbally Thu 07-Feb-13 20:28:23

IMO you answered your own question when you said "I don't think it's too dreadful". Surely when any name in the world is open to you, you'd want to choose something special and beautiful. There must be other names you're both drawn to which aren't ugly - and I think deep down you know Grover just is, otherwise you wouldn't feel the need to ask others if it's ok.

KnittedC Thu 07-Feb-13 20:28:56

Peevish no, not Americans, we live in the UK.

I think it's quite cool. Never watched SS, though. I thought 'Washington'

CaseyShraeger Thu 07-Feb-13 20:32:32

I do think "muppet" but if I suppress that reaction then I like it well enough. I don't think I could get past the muppetiness of it for my child, but if you can then it wouldn't be terrible.

What about Abby Cadabby for a girl ?

DontEvenThinkAboutIt Thu 07-Feb-13 20:33:20

Umm, that is quite an interesting name.

I just asked my DD what she thought and she said:

"you mean like in Seaseme Street"

Floweryhat Thu 07-Feb-13 20:36:03

Elmo would be (infiitessimally) better. Grover makes me think of Rover, groover or Michael gove. To me it just isn't a real name.

loler Thu 07-Feb-13 20:36:03

Cool nickname

DontmindifIdo Thu 07-Feb-13 20:37:45

NotInGuatemalaNowDrRopata sums it up well. You are not naming a tiny baby, you are naming a man who will have to go through life with this name.

What do you picture "Grover" looking like? Rugged, tough, outdoorsy, 'men want to be him, woman want to be with him' type? Well, a man like that can carry off most names.

Now picture your dear first born not being a stand out student - not one that fails, but someone who gets Bs and Cs, someone who doesn't get picked first for every team (not last, just not first) and someone who isn't ever going to be on a 'stella' career path - but middle managment and being really happy with that. Can you picture hearing that the bloke you need to talk to in the planning department at the Council is called "Grover"? I can imagine a lead singer in a super cool band being called Grover (although I'd assume it was a nickname that had some long history behind it), I can't imagine an accountant called Grover, or if there was one, I don't think I'd trust him to do my tax returns.

Sorry, it does'nt feel like a good choice. You're banking on having produced a genius of one form or another for them to be able to carry it off, what if you've produced a lovely but perfectly ordinary man? it's a hell of a thing to carry off.

Have just asked dh, he thinks it is quite cool! He would not disregard applications for apprenticeships (one of the aspects of his job) merely because the boy in question is called Grover.

I quite like it too!

Shellington Thu 07-Feb-13 20:39:42

Awww, don't though smile

Gregory, Oliver, Victor even - all as a given name - with you fondly referring to him as "Grover" would be OK.

TreadOnTheCracks Thu 07-Feb-13 20:40:27

It's a name for a dog I'm afraid.

DontmindifIdo Thu 07-Feb-13 20:42:42

BTW - whenever I read a thread on here when someone's suggesting an unusual name on here, I want to suggest they read this Guardian article from the parent who went for something a bit more 'out there', and the child not liking it.

Remember, it's not you that has to live with this name...

QueenOfCats Thu 07-Feb-13 20:44:40

Of all the names in the whole world, Grover was the best you could come up with?

It's awful! Please don't!

How about Fox? I had a patient the other day called Fox and all my colleagues commented on how awesome it was! wink

clabsyqueen Thu 07-Feb-13 20:54:57

I never comment on the baby name threads but couldn't read this one without saying...DON'T DO IT!!! Grover is a TERRIBLE name. This is not a marmite name - 95% of people on here have said NO. I suspect you'll focus on the few who say its cool as you've had so long to get used to it that you'll look for confirmation that you're right but honestly - to fresh ears it sounds awful. I'm in a similar boat - got my other half whispering HUMPHREY at our baby bump every day and its starting to sound nice. Help.....

CaptainNancy Thu 07-Feb-13 21:09:27

Well I like it! Kermit is a real name too you know grin

I'll always have a soft spot for Grover as he's my DS' favourite muppet, that doesn't mean the name shouldn't be used, it has lovely connotations as Grover the muppet is a very kind and sweet monster.

NonnoMum Thu 07-Feb-13 21:11:10

How about Stephen?

LineRunner Thu 07-Feb-13 21:15:53

Don't mind, Wow - Merrily and Bronte. Interesting.

ZZZenAgain Thu 07-Feb-13 21:18:44

I think it is a no

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Thu 07-Feb-13 21:19:34

You might not mind 'the muppet thing' but your child might! It's not fair on the poor mite - you may as well call him Kermit.

MrsMushroom Thu 07-Feb-13 21:21:16

People might say "Rover??"

Hulababy Thu 07-Feb-13 21:21:27

I don't like it particularly, sorry.
It sounds like a surname to me.

shesariver Thu 07-Feb-13 21:23:14

Im with the sane people who say its awful and add it to the list of god awful names you see here. I really do think a lot of people forget they are naming a real live child who will grow up and not a puppy or something.

Floggingmolly Thu 07-Feb-13 21:25:49

Our kids won't have seen Sesame Street. My 5 year old knows perfectly well who Grover is. (The blue muppet, that is, not anybody's baby).

StrawberryMojito Thu 07-Feb-13 21:26:15

It's horrible, sorry.

rachel234 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:30:36

Do kids still watch Sesame Street? I think us older generation associate Grover with the cute furry muppet, but that's because our brains only know that Grover. We need to meet some real life Grovers to change that perception. But kids won't have those muppet assocations, will they?

KnittedC Thu 07-Feb-13 21:32:54

Thanks for all your thoughts everyone smile

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Thu 07-Feb-13 21:34:54

Sounds more like a surname.

MidnightMasquerader Thu 07-Feb-13 21:36:19

I think if you have to question it to the point of asking random strangers: 'is this name just asking for trouble?', your gut instinct is telling you 'no'.

The Sesame Street association is strong for me, but I accept that for most children nowadays it will be non-existent. However, there's just something I can't quite put my finger on, that's wrong - or not quite right (to be charitable) - about it. And I suspect you feel this too, hence this thread...

If you go with it because you 'both really love it' and you override the other concerns you have, well ... I'm afraid to say that I think that is actually quite self-indulgent... blush Both of you loving it isn't enough, is it? It's not your single most defining, identifying characteristic that you'll carry with you through life.

Put it another way ... as much as we can't imagine our DSs as grown men in the throes of passion with a lover ... can you seriously envisage some woman having to call out 'Oh, Grover....!' and not lose the moment in hilarity as a result...? :-/ :-/ :-/ grin

I think as a nickname it has great potential.

Smudging Thu 07-Feb-13 21:41:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

birdsofshore Thu 07-Feb-13 21:41:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DontmindifIdo Thu 07-Feb-13 21:47:15

Midnight - you've made a very, very valid point. OP - don't do anything that reduce the chances of you being a grandmother one day!!!

AlanMoore Thu 07-Feb-13 21:50:43

Why do you like it?

If it's the Sesame Street thing (I totally understand, we are Muppet/Sesame crazy here) Oscar or, if you live somewhere quite boho, Elmo, are easier to live with. Or what about one of the humans? I always liked Gordon best out of the men.

I quite like Grover myself, but I am MAD ABOUT SESAME ST so perhaps should not be trusted as an arbiter of taste in this matter. To my working class northern ears it's nowhere near as daft as some of the names that are popular on Mumsnet...

If it's just that you like the sound of it, why not call baby something like Alexander or James and give Grover as a middle name. Then you can use it but he doesn't have to, and if he loves it he can be J. Grover Surname or whatever, which sounds rather nice.

If you were totally convinced then you wouldn't be posting, so that's why I think a compromise would be good.

I'm desperate to know what you've chosen for a girl now smile

SanityClause Thu 07-Feb-13 21:53:45

Quite cool, really.

He's unlikely to be Big Gover or Grover H, which is a plus.

Go for it!

Sulawesi Thu 07-Feb-13 21:57:01

It's bloody awful as is 'we are pregnant' bleugh soz and all that.

Shellington Thu 07-Feb-13 22:00:14

As an aside, I can only say it in a gruff-shaggy-dog type voice confused grin I sound like Doodles from The Tweenies.

Sulawesi Thu 07-Feb-13 22:02:24

As for that article, Merrily!! I mean wtf? Why do some people feel that they have to be so different hmm, as someone else said it's not a puppy that you are naming but someone who has to go through their lives with whatever name you land them with.

Go for fairly safe with a whackier middle name if you must.

OutragedFromLeeds Thu 07-Feb-13 22:03:13

Sesame Street is still on and Grover is still in it I believe.

My DC's watch it.

Greg James had Elmo and Grover as guests on his radio show during the Olympics.

I don't think the association of Grover and a blue monster is gone yet.

mmmmmchocolate Thu 07-Feb-13 22:05:22

I never comment on baby names threads but I really think its cool!!

but you can't call a baby it. Sorry

makes note incase I ever have a boy smile

RFLmum Thu 07-Feb-13 22:06:18

When I was pregnant with my eldest we called the bump raspberry (because at some point I read that she was as small as a Raspberry). By the time she was born I had totally bonded with 'raspberry' and gave it momentary consideration. Thankfully I didn't go with this because she is now 6 and I would have seriously regretted it! Just saying that sometimes its easy to get caught up in a name when you're actually caught up in the little person. Ditch the name for a while and see how you feel when they're born I'd say.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Thu 07-Feb-13 22:14:41

Cute puppy name, like something you'd call a chihuahua to be ironic!

Grown man name.... Not so much. It will wear off, write it in his memory book and laugh about it when you he's 21.
MIL had Troy in mind for DH, it made me laugh so many years later.

seeker Thu 07-Feb-13 22:19:01

It's the sort of name a stereotype of a gay man would call his labradoodles

MerlotAndMe Thu 07-Feb-13 22:22:52

I think it sounds like a whipped dog. I know sur names are usually quite strong, although I wouldn't pick a sur name. But there's something about Grover that sounds so heel boy, stop whimpering! It is actually quite a cute name for a dog. Names like Fraser, spencer... I wouldn't pick them but they work as names for humans. Grover is a bit comical for some reason.

Greensleeves Thu 07-Feb-13 22:25:06

Really really no.

Greensleeves Thu 07-Feb-13 22:27:40

Have you considered Duke?

Or Jellyroll

<collapses>

tethersend Thu 07-Feb-13 22:34:40

How about Big Bird?

Greensleeves Thu 07-Feb-13 22:35:31

Fats?

Growlithe Thu 07-Feb-13 22:36:30

I hardly ever comment on Baby Name threads, but please don't.

QOD Thu 07-Feb-13 22:36:42

I know someone with Buddy and Buster.

I prefer Grover.

pourmeanotherglass Thu 07-Feb-13 22:37:48

Makes me think of the satyr from the Percy Jackson books, but he was quite cool. I don't hate it, but it isn't a name I'd choose.

Sulawesi Thu 07-Feb-13 23:32:57

Tell me Buddy and Buster are dogs??

<whimpers>

IamGrover Thu 07-Feb-13 23:48:37

It's my mother's maiden name

Outs self

Awaits sister saying the same

Anyway, I briefly toyed with it as a name, keep it in the family and all that

I also toyed with:

Rastus [outs self more]
Idris
Lyle
Ludovic
Cosmo
Lysander
Darklis

You get the picture

Then reality came to the fore and our son is called John (or similar)

specialmagiclady Thu 07-Feb-13 23:54:44

I named my first child something unusual - but I submitted it to two important tests. First of all, I went to the park and shouted it as loud as I could. Turns out he is dead naughty and I'm always yelling it across public spaces. Sometimes I feel a twinge of embarrassment. Why didn't I just call him Oliver? but then every other Oliver in the park would come running....

I wanted to give my 2nd born an equally unusual name but it failed the park test, in conjunction with Ds1 name.

The other test was the "airport" test. I was in the airport, but train station etc would be fine. I looked at every man or boy there and wondered if he could look like he had this name. I decided that it would work if he was a burly rugger bugger or a floppy-haired aesthete or a paunchy middle manager or whatever.

So can you imagine hollering "Grover! Put down the dog poo!" at the top of your lungs without total shame, and what if Grover turns out to be just a normal guy like Don'tMindifido said?

Startail Fri 08-Feb-13 00:25:34

Percy Jackson was my first thought too!
And since satyrs are half goat, I don't think DS would thank you.

Pity because I actually know boys with far sillier names.

Startail Fri 08-Feb-13 00:26:08

Kobee for starters

LentilAsAnything Fri 08-Feb-13 00:33:26

So many prejudiced people here.

I like the name Grover. Good luck with the birth, and please update us! smile

KobayashiMaru Fri 08-Feb-13 00:36:27

Oh good god no. Really, really, no.

MidnightMasquerader Fri 08-Feb-13 02:42:53

Prejudiced? grin

Opinionated, yes.

ScumbagCollegeDropout Fri 08-Feb-13 02:48:09

Grover the Groper.

Narked Fri 08-Feb-13 02:57:44
AngelaCatalano Fri 08-Feb-13 07:40:39

I am really keen on it as a middle name actually...

How about
Nathaniel Grover
Benjamin Grover
Tobias Grover
Franklin Grover
Jeremiah Grover

Etc. A long, vaguely American name worlds great imo. What d'ya think OP?

AngelaCatalano Fri 08-Feb-13 07:41:27

works great

MidnightMasquerader Fri 08-Feb-13 07:43:07

As a middle name it's fab - and agree with a 3+ syllable first name.

PickledInAPearTree Fri 08-Feb-13 08:22:19

Yeah you pile of sesame streetists.

AngelaCatalano Fri 08-Feb-13 08:28:55

Ha ha Pickled love it

MidnightMasquerader Fri 08-Feb-13 09:28:49

grin Is it because I is street?

QOD Fri 08-Feb-13 09:52:17

Buddy and Buster are twins ...

Rooneyisalwaysmoaning Fri 08-Feb-13 10:03:28

Lol...what a name smile

It depends how he turns out really.

lottiegarbanzo Fri 08-Feb-13 10:41:38

Dog's name. Grrr...rover!

CaptainNancy Fri 08-Feb-13 21:15:12

IAmGrover Rastus after the Rupert the Bear character?
(Ludo and Cosmo were on my list too)

jkklpu Sat 09-Feb-13 15:22:06

sounds like a dog, sorry

mirry2 Sat 09-Feb-13 15:25:04

If you really must....give it as his middle name so that he can choose later on whether or not he wants to be call Grover

pilates Sat 09-Feb-13 16:12:26

It's really not nice

Frosteddelight Fri 28-Mar-14 18:22:01

I really like Grover…

RalphRecklessCardew Sat 29-Mar-14 04:34:30

I really like it, but, well the old Mumsnet advice of 'give them a solid middle name to fall back on' is wise here.

Grover James? Grover Dominic? Grover Sebastian? Grover Samuel?

jellyandcake Sat 29-Mar-14 06:53:49

I'm a secondary school teacher and have come across tons of far more unusual and frankly stupid names. I've never known a kid teased for their name either. The dynamics of bullying are more subtle than that - you're just as likely to have Buster taunting James as vice versa - and although an unusual name might make you raise an eyebrow the first time you hear it, it very quickly becomes just who that person is and you stop noticing it.

I think something very grandiose or linked to a particular character trait can backfire (eg a very timid Zeus or a thoroughly miserable Joy) but I don't think Grover is really going to get much sniggering. I started out thinking I didn't like it but I have really come round to it in the course of this thread!

meditrina Sat 29-Mar-14 06:56:26

The baby is thread was about will probably have just celebrated his first birthday.

jellyandcake Sat 29-Mar-14 06:58:01

Whoops!

MistressDeeCee Sat 29-Mar-14 07:03:06

If you & DP like the choice then why not just go for it, OP. I don't think Grover is an odd name. I like it. In terms of 'out there', there are names far, far more 'out there' than that. Its extremely unlikely children of his generation will even think of relating it to Sesame Street. Its way before their time. If adults take the p they're just being silly, but I don't truly think they will.

My generation would think of Grover Washington Jr tho, & thats cool grin

JustDanni Sat 29-Mar-14 08:04:28

I cant really talk because all of our names are FAR from final and we are just stuck.
But I'm not keen, only because I would imagine a dog with the name.
Not the name I would imagine a child to have.
However it could be a game changer and everyone may want it in a few years.
Stick with it if you are happy to xx

HolidayCriminal Sat 29-Mar-14 08:11:50

Dog's name here, too.

saintmerryweather Sat 29-Mar-14 10:25:25

Never noticed it was a zombie thread. Still I really like the name Merrily

fuzzle Sat 29-Mar-14 22:13:09

entirely ridiculous please call the child something else.

Have Grover as a middle name if you must, then if the child loves it later he can always be known by it.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now