Help!! Rowen or Freya?

(56 Posts)
scubastevie Sun 03-Feb-13 16:32:10

I'm an awful mind changer. I change my mind about everything!! We had decided on Rowen for our baby girl but a friend recently mentioned it in a sort of I-don't-like-that-name sort of way. This is precisely why we didn't want to tell anyone as I don't want anyone poo-pooing it. So we also like Freya but it is so popular (no.25). So, do you like Rowen? Do you like Freya? Am I being silly about popularity (how many Freya's do you know?) any alternative suggestions please?? Thank you!!

Well - there's a RowanMumsnet, but no FreyaMumsnet, if that helps.

I like them both, but if you like Rowan, stick with it and ignore the nay-sayers.

Lollybrolly Sun 03-Feb-13 16:36:59

I prefer Freya tbh. I know 2 both aged around 14years old.

Rowen is OK I know one aged about 45.

Helspopje Sun 03-Feb-13 16:39:51


bootsycollins Sun 03-Feb-13 16:43:15

Prefer the Rowan spelling, really cool name. Neither love or hate Freya. Don't let the cats bum face put you off a name you love, different strokes for different folks and all that smile

HouseOfBears Sun 03-Feb-13 16:43:25

I like them both, though think I prefer Freya tbh. I have never heard Rowen as a girls name, only heard it as a boy (Rowan), but I do think it us a nice name! I know 3 Freyas (one is 30, one is 9, one is a baby) and no Rowens.

If you prefer Rowen, just go for it!

SneezySnatcher Sun 03-Feb-13 16:44:00

I like Rowan best, as long as it's spelled 'Rowan', not 'Rowen'.

derektheladyhamster Sun 03-Feb-13 16:44:41

I prefer Rowen (I know a lovely one about 10 years old)

MidnightMasquerader Sun 03-Feb-13 16:50:28

No contest: Rowan/Rowen.

Freya is done now. So 'of it's era'. It will date.

Rowan is a timeless, elegant classic.

SecretNutellaFix Sun 03-Feb-13 17:03:00

Rowan or Rowena.

Freya is still popular, but on the wane. Know of 4. Only one an adult.

BuntyPenfold Sun 03-Feb-13 17:30:46

Rowan is lovely; I have one.
We know 5 Rowans, all female, aged 10-35, so quite an age range. 3 of them are Rowan Elizabeth.
We have a Rowan tree the same age as DD which is nice too.

balia Sun 03-Feb-13 17:35:40

Another vote for Rowan - there were 3 Freyas at my baby massage class, (that was 5 years ago).

badtime Sun 03-Feb-13 17:53:28

Rowan or Rowena rather than Rowen. Freya is okay, but not as nice.

MortifiedAdams Sun 03-Feb-13 17:56:25

I prefer Freya. I really don't factor in 'popularity' when choosing a name.

Allalonenow Sun 03-Feb-13 18:01:52

I like Freya best, a lovely name.

sw11mumofone Sun 03-Feb-13 18:14:35

I think Freya is prettier and I've never met one. I always think that Rowan is a man's name - I instantly think of Rowan Atkinson...

meditrina Sun 03-Feb-13 18:23:07

Rowan is unisex: are you OK with that? I think it's a lovely name.

Rowen looks as if it's a letter short of Rowena.

Freya is lovely as well: I haven't come across a little one for a while, though I know several who are 10ish.

toobreathless Sun 03-Feb-13 18:28:47

I LOVE Rowan.

Really don't like Freya I'm afraid think its overused and faddy.

JumpingJackSprat Sun 03-Feb-13 18:33:33

freya is a pretty name i know two, one aged three and the other 14. i dont like rowan i.prefer rowena but then its not my baby!

LarkinSky Sun 03-Feb-13 20:41:34

Is RowEn spelt wrong? I always heard it as RowAn (know a couple, both genders). Gorgeous name, somehow strong but ethereal at the same time.

Freya always makes me think of those lovely black and white cows (I have an odd word association thing - fresian perhaps?) I think it's still a nice name too though.

Witchesbrewandbiscuits Sun 03-Feb-13 20:44:44

i just had to comment as i recently met a rowen. rowan is boys spelling. anyway initially i thought urgh thats a boys name but it has grown on me so much and is so pretty. i think this is the norm reaction with something thats not popular. go with rowen! smile

abbyfromoz Sun 03-Feb-13 20:56:32

Rowan does sound quite masculine. Much prefer Freya.

TenthMuse Sun 03-Feb-13 21:33:01

Much, much prefer Rowan - it's one of my favourite girl's names, which is strange as I'm not usually a fan of unisex names. Love how it's strong and not too frilly but still sounds pretty, plus there's the link with the rowan tree. Freya is nice too but overdone and somewhat faddy; I've taught loads over the past few years.

Pleasenomorepeppa Sun 03-Feb-13 21:34:15

Love Rowan smile.

shallweshop Sun 03-Feb-13 21:35:29

I like Rowan.

definately Rowan

ReluctantMother Sun 03-Feb-13 21:42:33

I've always thought of Rowan as a boy's name.

scubastevie Mon 04-Feb-13 07:22:21

Thank you all so much for replying. (Keep them coming if you've read this far!) l

scubastevie Mon 04-Feb-13 07:26:33

Opps posted too soon. It looks like Rowen is most popular. The Rowan/Rowen spelling thing is Really Annoying. I am not sure what to do - some say Rowan is the boys spelling and en is the girls spelling but I don't want to look like we have just changed it to be different! It's just the way we thought the girls version is meant to be spelt! It seems as though she will have to spell it less with Rowan...but DH wants Rowen. Hmmm!!
Interestingly noone has said they hate both or offered any alternatives.

ThePoorMansBeckySharp Mon 04-Feb-13 07:33:50

Rowan by default as Freya is very faddy. Will be like Tiffany or similar. V dated.

goinglone Mon 04-Feb-13 12:32:11

Freya is much nicer. Rowan is a boys' name. Rowan for a girl seems very downmarket to me; a bit like Morgan.

badtime Mon 04-Feb-13 12:42:49

I think Rowan as a girls name is more traditional in Scotland.

TenthMuse Mon 04-Feb-13 12:56:52

I'd disagree that Rowan's downmarket for a girl - all the female Rowans I've come across have been thoroughly middle-class, albeit often with somewhat artsy or 'alternative' parents (e.g. one had parents who followed Wicca). And historically I think it's been pretty much unisex (one of the few names that genuinely are), although possibly more so in Scotland than England.

GrumpyOldHorsewoman Mon 04-Feb-13 13:09:02

Please - anything but Freya (my most hated girl's name). I think of a really annoying woman on holiday once, whose DD (aged about 3) was crawling under everyone's tables and being badly behaved while her mother just whined "Freeeeyaaaaa" while doing nothing to distract her.
Now my cousin has named her baby Freya, much to my disappointment.

goinglone Mon 04-Feb-13 14:03:32

I'm afraid the female Rowans that I know of (both big and small), most definitely do not come from 'artsy' 'alternative' families; quite the opposite!

BuntyPenfold Mon 04-Feb-13 14:19:24

Where do they come from gounglone?

scubastevie Tue 05-Feb-13 07:34:26

Lol not bothered if you know of other Rowans from non artsy families smile I thought Morgan was a girls name? Not keen though. It has def traditionally been unisex, and i like the link with the Rowan tree which is pretty. I never really wanted a unisex name but love Rowan; it's unusual enough but not very common whilst still pretty and can suit young and old. I think it could grow on people if they're not keen at first.
If you like Rowan, what's your vote on spelling?

monica77798 Tue 05-Feb-13 11:02:37

I like Freya more than Rowen. I thought Rowen (Rowan?) was a boy's name. It will always just remind me of Rowan Atkinson.

shoobidoo Tue 05-Feb-13 11:09:06

Rowen or Rowena definately!

AyeOopMoose Tue 05-Feb-13 15:23:29

Please don't listen to what anyone says and go for what you really like!

In your case Rowan see personally I prefer Freya as it's more feminine but then I'm not naming your baby!

TenthMuse Tue 05-Feb-13 16:04:02

I think one problem with slightly more unusual names is that there will tend to be one or two well-known carriers of the name (in this case, Rowan Atkinson and Rowan Williams) who most people will automatically associate it with. So you'll therefore get comments like 'Rowan is a boy's name because of Rowan Atkinson'. That's why so many people favour more familiar, established names - if you say 'Kate', or 'Emily', for instance, people have many more associations to choose from, and won't form opinions of it based on a single person. I have the same problem when I say I like the name Elsa - people immediately say "You can't use that for a child because of that lion in 'Born Free'!"

Those were our top two names for dd1. We went for Rowan as I was put off by how common Freya is these days.

Lostonthemoors Wed 06-Feb-13 08:16:41

I love Rowan smile and would spell it this way. I know one female Rowan (40) and two male Rowans (toddlers).

Funnily enough, all the parents are slightly boho/arty/musical.

LarkinSky Wed 06-Feb-13 08:58:59

I know two preschool Rowans (girls) and one adult Rowan (male). All spelt with an 'a' - Rowan. It was on our baby names lists for both genders.

To me Rowen with an e looks misspelt. I really don't like Rowena, however.

Its quite interesting to put 'Rowan' in Facebook's search engine as you'll see an even mix of male and female Rowans come up. I like doing this to see what people with a certain name, around the world, look like.
Not many results for the Rowen spelling though - they all seem to be Rowenas.

burcham12 Thu 07-Feb-13 12:24:25

Rowan looks feminine. Rowen looks masculine. Please go with Rowan!

jaggythistle Thu 07-Feb-13 12:29:01

Rowan with an a. I knew a nice Freya, but she'd be my age - mid 30s. I know one baby girl Rowan.

FranglaisMaman Thu 07-Feb-13 14:56:16

I vote for Freya just because it sounds more feminine to me than Rowan/Rowen and I like the girly albeit popular names (so shoot me).

However, don't let your friend's reaction put you off the name that YOU love. And if you love Rowan/Rowen then you should call her that and sod the nay-sayers smile. If that's always been your first choice, go with it.

GW297 Thu 07-Feb-13 19:57:05

I love Freya!

tabulahrasa Sun 10-Feb-13 00:42:25

I've always known Rowan as a girl's name (other than Rowan Atkinson) and the row rhymes with cow not toe. <is Scottish>

I like it.

aufaniae Sun 10-Feb-13 00:51:58


pinkgirlythoughts Sun 10-Feb-13 20:41:47

SIL is named Rowen (this spelling). MIL and FIL believe her to be the only person in the world with this spelling, and were really genuinely surprised when she said she'd recently met someone with a daughter named Rowhen (and no, that's not a typo either!). They kept saying "don't you mean Rowena? Or RowAn?"

FWIW, I like both Rowen and Freya smile

Freja is top of our list so I would probably say that I prefer Freya best. smile

Love Rowan though, it's a great name and also quite close to the top of our list. grin

lifesobeautiful Sun 10-Feb-13 20:51:01

I knew a stunning girl called Rowen - who ended up a model - so I've always liked it! Go for it.

I know RowAn both as a boys and girls name.

I wondered if OP and maybe others had the -en ending in mind because of welsh names that have -wyn endings for the male version and -wen for the female (e.g. Gwyn/Gwen)

So in that case no-one would have a -an ending, all the boys would be Rowyn, and the girls Rowen!

Both are lovely. For me Freya's only downside is it's popularity, and Rowan's is the ow/oe pronunciation (I prefer ow).

echidnakid Tue 12-Feb-13 01:56:24

I had Rowan on my boys name list and like it a lot. It would definitely work on a girl though I think you'll get people saying "isn't that a boys name?" a fair bit which may or may not bother you. I think the poster above is right re people thinking the en ending is feminine because of the Welsh naming wyn/wen thing but that doesn't apply here so I'd go with the traditional Rowan.

I really like Freya and disagree that it will date as its "of an era" I think of it as more of a classic, timeless name. I don't know any but I don't live in the UK. That said, none of my UK friends are called Freya or have children called Freya either.

As a former "must be outside the top 100!" name Nazi, I have recently decided that is a ridiculous position and that loving the name tops all else. So as a born-again I now say just choose what you love and to hell with popularity and/or friends' opinions.

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