Francesca? Worried about nicknames. What about the rest of my list??

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sw11mumofone Sat 26-Jan-13 21:48:46

Hi
Due in 5 weeks and have boys name sorted. But cannot find the perfect girls name that i love! I really like Francesca but hate Fran and Chessie (which DH said he would shorten to!) Dont mind Frankie so much but do you really get any say in nicknames?
Or what do you think about the rest of my shortlist?

Delilah
Georgina
Sadie
Darcy
Siena
Saskia

Or any other suggestions for me? I like strong non frilly names. Would love opinions - am totally stuck in a rut!

Thanks!

bigbluebump Sat 26-Jan-13 21:50:52

Why would you need to shorten Francesca? I know one who goes by her full name. Lovely name that rolls off the tongue easily!

NotSpartacus Sat 26-Jan-13 21:52:35

Franny is sweet and I think people follow your lead re nicknames. Having said that, I planned to shorten my DD's Amelia to Mia. (i loathe Milly) but she insisted on being called her full name, so that was that.
Of your list I like Saskia.

Other non frilly names: Erin, Sarah, Martha, Anna, Myla. Do you like any of those?

sw11mumofone Sat 26-Jan-13 22:00:14

I definitely wouldnt want to shorten Francesca as I love it. Worried other people would and that I would hate it Also dont like Franny - worried about the "fanny" connotations. Is that silly??
I do quite like Myla actually although our surname is one syllable so would probably sway towards a 3 syllable name.
Thanks for the feedback!

HouseOfBears Sat 26-Jan-13 22:08:15

I love Francesca, but agree the only nn I like is Frankie, not sure if that would put me off or not! Not in love with any of the others on your list personally, though I like Darcy best. How about:

Elanor
Abigail
Katrina

TwoCatsAndABabyBump Sat 26-Jan-13 22:10:17

I know a Francesca which is shortened to Frankie, franks, and frank. I love those nicknames!

Floralnomad Sat 26-Jan-13 22:11:41

Like Saskia , but seem to have heard it a lot recently , how about Cressida .

PoppyWearer Sat 26-Jan-13 22:11:53

I know a Francesca who is always called Fran by everyone and her DMum is horrified...

lottiegarbanzo Sat 26-Jan-13 22:20:12

Francesca is lovely and the only way I'd think of shortening it is to 'Cesca or maybe Fran. (Why Chessie? Sounds like Jessie and Nessie and makes me think of cheesy!).

Of your others I like Saskia best.

Otherwise, Anouk, Iseult, Petra, Juliet.

Only like Darcy from your list. I think Francesca IS likely to be shortened tbh, to all sorts of things including Fran and Chez.

sw11mumofone Sat 26-Jan-13 22:33:28

Omg - Chez is even worse! Thats put me off even more!
Out of interest when do you even introduce a nickname? Is it something you do from birth? We were going to shorten DD1's name but she is now 2.5 and it has never happened.

JumpingJackSprat Sat 26-Jan-13 22:42:15

francesca is beautiful. i know a couple and they all go by Frankie. ive considered this for any future dds and i like chess/chessie as a nickname but also frankie. there are plenty of nickname options as she grows up im sure she would find one/ones shes comfortable with.

Oh no - sorry. blush

With dd1 we had decided before she was born that we'd shorten her name and pretty much everybody still does so - she's nearly 18 now. Only teachers use her full name and tbh that's only happened since she started a new school for 6th form.

With dd2, she decided on her own nn pretty much as soon as she could talk (and of course chose the one I didn't like!). Now I'm probably the only person who doesn't call her by her nn (if I can help it!).

NowPlayingZone Sat 26-Jan-13 23:13:02

Love Francesca! Think if you use nn from birth it's less likely to get shortened to something else. Love saskia too.

Other ideas: sasha, Josephine, juliette, Clara, estelle, anouska, Zara, Harriet, susannah, corinne, Sabrina, Selena.

NowPlayingZone Sat 26-Jan-13 23:21:52

Forgot claudia & Cecily/e

louisianablue2000 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:35:28

DN is Francesca, shortened to Franchie. I think it's such a lovely name with horrible short forms. But I don't think you have much say over short forms, my Mum isn't keen on nicknames but i'm the only one of my siblings who is called by my full name, DB1's name is always shortened by the family (even Mum), he has a different nickname that his school friends use but when he went to Uni he told people his full name and everyone who has known him as an adult use that. DB2 on the other hand is called by his full name only by the family, everyone else calls him the most common short form. DSis has a family nickname based on her favourite childhood book and has a short form of her real name used by her friends.

My kids have been given names that in theory an't be shortened. DD1 is quite often called a rhyme of her name, DD2 seems free of nicknames so far but she (at the age of three) has taken it into her head to give DS a nickname that no adult would use. We're not discouraging or encouraging that at the moment. It's sweet that she has her own name for him but we like the full version.

Longdistance Sat 26-Jan-13 23:41:18

I liked Francsesca until someone started taking the piss out of it angry

My dd is Eleanor instead. I learnt my lesson then, to never tell anyone what baby names I liked.

BoysWillGrow Sat 26-Jan-13 23:50:05

I was friends with a Francesca at school and we called her franny rash blush and grin she didn't mind though. We all had our nicknames.

mathanxiety Sun 27-Jan-13 03:09:03

I loved Frances and considered it for DD3 but the potential nns put me off. I think Francesca would probably have the same drawback.

The only non-frilly names on your list that I can see are Saskia and Sadie. The rest are a bit on the frilly side imo. Or names I don't like (Darcy and Siena).

How about:
Rachel
Charis
Arden
Beatrix
Miriam
Lyra
Willow
Ruth
Pearl
Greta
Frida
Bridget
Eve
Leonie
Astrid
Ingrid
Blythe
Tess
Vivienne
Hazel
Honor
Alice
Carmen
Cleo
Keziah
Gwen

IAmLouisWalsh Sun 27-Jan-13 09:40:36

I know a Frances who goes by her full name. I love it. Unusual and classy.

delilah88 Sun 27-Jan-13 09:41:53

I love Francesca -- go with it. Go with your first instinct. It's a beautiful name.

Branleuse Sun 27-Jan-13 09:42:41

my nana was francesca but evenryone called her Frances. I have a neice that is francesca, shortened to Frankie. You have the say in nicknames, as youre the one who starts using the nickname

sw11mumofone Sun 27-Jan-13 10:32:12

Remus - dont be sorry. I want to make sure ive thought of all possibilities. That is definitely a bad one!!!

I love some of the other suggestions as well - Claudia, Carmen, Miriam (was vetoed by DH).

Delilah88 - funnily enough my first instinct was always Delilah but seem to be having a last minute wobble with it!!

Thing is, Francesca is such a beautiful name that i wouldnt really want to shorten it. But as Branleuse says - if i dont get in there and shorten it first I will be leaving the way wide open for others to do it for me!!!

Am I overthinking this??!!!

Wishfulmakeupping Sun 27-Jan-13 10:41:57

Love Francesca beautiful unusual name- I would have thought it only gets shortened to Frankie myself
Like all your other names apart from Darcy (nice name but getting very popular)

SnowLeopard27 Sun 27-Jan-13 11:10:49

If you are thinking of Delilah, I know one who often gets called Delly. Just so you know! I prefer it to Francesca tbh, it also love Saskia.
Good luck!
The Snow Leopard ❄

Allalonenow Sun 27-Jan-13 11:19:53

Saskia is my favourite from your list, with Francesca a very close second. Delilah is my least favourite.

thisthreadwilloutme Sun 27-Jan-13 11:20:40

I knows Francesca shortened to cesca. Lovely.

I know a toddler Frankie, I think it's very cute.

delilah88 Sun 27-Jan-13 11:22:54

I know a few Francescas -- beautiful, creative women. If they get celled Chessie it's only very cute in light of how glamorous and Francesca-ey they usually seem!

Don't know any Delilahs at all, but I liked it too for DD. DH however thought it ridiculous, and after being persuaded I can see that it might seem a bit drag queen / prostitutey.

Francesca is awesome.

sw11mumofone Sun 27-Jan-13 13:16:49

Yes Wishful that was my concern about Darcy too. Has put me off..

Snow Leopard - thats interesting. I wouldnt have thought of Delly, and dont like it at all actually. My worry was Del actually! Nearly called DC1 Delilah and changed my mind once she was handed to me!

Think it will be way easier if we just have a boy!!!!

sw11mumofone Sun 27-Jan-13 13:20:52

Haha Delilah88 - well the drag queen/prostitute angle is another twist!!
Its looking like Francesca is coming out in top!
Thanks all for your input - much appreciated x

YeahBuddy Sun 27-Jan-13 13:24:51

I've known two Francesca's whose nn's were Flick.

Fwiw I think it's a lovely name (the full version) grin

BeanstalkandBump Sun 27-Jan-13 13:25:01

Francesca is lovely as is Cesca..... Never known of the shortening Chez. I think one is more the sort of nn you'd come up with yourself as a teen maybe. Not an obvious nn IMO.
Not so keen on others on your list tbh, except Darcy.

FlipFlopFloss Sun 27-Jan-13 13:30:31

I have known 2 Francesca's. Known as Chess and Cheska.

I love Sadie on your list. Its simple but classy I think and rather unusual. Dont know any Sadies at all, adults or children, not have I ever met one in RL.

Delilah - I worked with a lady who had a daughter Delilah (she must now be in her twentys). Before this I always used to think of Tom Jones but now when I hear the name my first reaction is my friends DD. Its pretty and unusual.

ivykaty44 Sun 27-Jan-13 13:33:15

I like Erin as a name that would be hard to shorten, it is bold and elegant

ivykaty44 Sun 27-Jan-13 13:34:09

Oh an dI know two Cheskas and one chessie

FlouncingMintyy Sun 27-Jan-13 13:37:02

Francesca is a seriously beautiful name, I absolutely love it. In my experience people's names don't get shortened if they don't allow it.

roseinwinter Sun 27-Jan-13 13:59:56

Francesca is a beautiful name!

Ok, I'm biased as it's my name but I do love it. I am always Cesca (pronounced Chess-ka) to friends and family, which I really like, but also get Frankie/Frank/Cesc/Cescy/Ces - which I like too. Never Fran. My mum disliked Fran and called me Cesca from when I was a baby so I think you can definitely dictate what it gets shortened to.

I only know one other Francesca, who is also a Cesca.

sw11mumofone Sun 27-Jan-13 14:10:08

I love how many people think Francesca is a beautiful name. It has really confirmed it for me. I have just read all these messages to DH and he likes Francesca too but Sadie is probably his favourite.

So our final shortlist is (probably!!!!):

Francesca Sophia
or
Sadie Alexandra

Have 4 weeks to think about it and sure i'll get the final choice as DH is happy with either!

FirstTimeForEverything Sun 27-Jan-13 14:13:25

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Yama Sun 27-Jan-13 14:22:25

I was just coming on to suggest Alexandra but I see you mat use it as a middle name.

I love your final shortlist.

Yama Sun 27-Jan-13 14:22:51

may use it

sw11mumofone Sun 27-Jan-13 14:27:39

Thanks Yama. I love Alexandra but too close to D1's name!!

Sunnysummer Sun 27-Jan-13 14:31:34

Francesca is beautiful, though the three I know all get nicknamed. One is called Chess and one Chesca, though - which I think are really pretty nicknames, much nicer than Fran or Chessie smile.
Otherwise, Siena and Saskia from your list are also gorgeous and with only 2 syllables are maybe more likely to be kept as full names.

TheSecondComing Sun 27-Jan-13 14:35:49

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everlong Mon 28-Jan-13 13:38:15

I adore Francesca ( know a gorgeous one who gets Fran which I think is awful ) and if she were mine I'd not shorten it.

Our Gabriel is never Gabe.

sw11mumofone Mon 28-Jan-13 14:31:49

Yes its "Fran" that im concerned about. really dislike it. So i either dont shorten it and thats how it stays or shorten it myself and hope that one sticks....

BinkyWinky Mon 28-Jan-13 14:47:07

My next door neighbour has a Francesca and calls her Chicha for short (that's what it sounds like, I'm not sure if it has a proper spelling). I think it's lovely.

FreakoidOrganisoid Mon 28-Jan-13 14:54:43

I know five Francescas, two just called Francesca, one Fran, one Cesca and one Chessy.

Moominsarehippos Mon 28-Jan-13 14:56:03

I now a couple of Italian Francesca's who go but the nick names of Franchi and Franki.

sw11mumofone Mon 28-Jan-13 15:16:50

I like those last two! Although all these comments are making me think its more common than i thought!!!

Francesca is lovely. I know 2... one gets shortened to Fran, the other Frankie. Beyond a certain point, you won't get a say in nicknames. If you choose to shorten the name yourself, then the child will be known by that name... until her pals/she decide on a different version. Or in some cases, something totally unrelated to their name!

I like all the rest of your shortlist, but I think most could be shortened. I only know one Deliah, she was often known as Dee. Georgina - either Georgie or Gee. Whilst I don't personally know people with the other names but can imagine "Darce" or "Sask" being used.

lockets Mon 28-Jan-13 17:18:15

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ladymia Mon 28-Jan-13 18:07:45

I know a Francesca and her nickname is Frankie.

You also don't have to shorten the name. I have a friend that has two boys Christopher and Andrew, if anyone calls either of them Andy or Chris my friend quickly corrects them and says it's "Christopher" or "Andrew", the boys do this themselves too

ladymia, sorry - don't agree.. my DB and I both have names which can be shortened, and whilst our Mum always corrected people who shortened them growing up, by 6th form we went by our shorter names. Not our choice or our parents, just the consensus of others around us. I'd say if you really dislike a shortened version of a name, choose a different name. That said, ALL names can be shortened (I know several Karens who are known as 'K') . or lengthened... (Susans who are know as Suzysomething).

FirstTimeForEverything Mon 28-Jan-13 19:31:03

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HeadFairy Mon 28-Jan-13 19:33:27

dd is Francesca and she doesn't get called Fran by anyone, Frankie or Chesca, but never Fran. The other day she told me in no uncertain terms (think 3 year old with her hands on her hips) "my name's Fwan*ches*ca" grin

googietheegg Mon 28-Jan-13 19:36:04

My sister has a friend called Francesca who gets nn Franka, which I think is v cool.

Wishihadabs Mon 28-Jan-13 19:39:28

Francesca is lovely. I also think Georgina is great she could be George or georgie. smile

sw11mumofone Mon 28-Jan-13 20:49:03

Headfairy - thats very cute! Fran is really the only nn i detest so I may just go with Francesca and hope that if its shortened it is one of the other options!

wishihadabs - I love Georgina too but the shortened versions of that dont go with our surname - so another potential issue!!!

ladymia Mon 28-Jan-13 20:54:21

I am saying it is actually possible to say to people, "No my name is not Nicky it's Nicola" for instance. I have a few friends that have names are normally shortened but are no eg. Alexander, Victoria.

MoottonBun Mon 28-Jan-13 21:50:13

I know a Francesca who doesn't like it shortened - and everyone sticks with that. The only exceptions are "Ciccia" by her dad (an Italian diminutive, pronounced "Chicha" like someone else said), which is very sweet and the occasional "Fra" but never Fran, which I agree make a gorgeous name horrible.

HeadFairy Mon 28-Jan-13 22:27:32

sw I think she was going for indignant but it was indeed very cute grin

emmyloo2 Tue 29-Jan-13 07:55:02

I love Francesca and like the nickanmes Frankie and Franny however I don't think it would have to get shortened if you stuck to Francesca. I like Georgina from your other list. The others aren't as classic as Francesca and Georgina.

ProfYaffle Tue 29-Jan-13 07:58:11

I used to know a Francesca, people shortened it to Fran all the time. She got very hacked off with it. Her sister called her Chesca which I quite liked.

zipzap Tue 29-Jan-13 08:04:22

I was at school with a very cool Francesca - she shortened it to Cheskie which I liked too (or cheski when you go through that age of making your name cooler grin)

Definitely a favourite girls name - but I had boys so never got to use it (the irony being that I had loads of girls names, no boys names and ended up with 2 ds!)

HeadFairy Tue 29-Jan-13 09:43:43

I've just remembered ds used to call my dd Frenchy for a whlle, a kind of hybrid of Frankie and chesky, came out as Frenchy. She's still called that sometimes...

Jeezimacasalinga Tue 29-Jan-13 10:38:27

Have an Italian Aunt Francesca who is known as Franca, also heard Italians use Ciccia (Cheecha) and Franci (Franchi) - I think it is a beautiful name and if my dh wasn't called Francesco we would definitely have used it!

Stixswhichtwizzle Wed 30-Jan-13 23:48:33

I know a Francesca and she's called Frankie sometimes but only by her parents.

amazingmumof6 Fri 01-Feb-13 12:45:42

Saskia is best on yourlist

love Anna, Miriam, Sophia

sw11mumofone Fri 01-Feb-13 21:10:49

Amazingmum - we have similar taste. Anna is my sister's name, I love Miriam but DH vetoed and if we go with Francesca then Sophia will be the middle name!!!

Psammead Sat 02-Feb-13 15:26:22

I have a Francesca. I love it. We call her Chess when we nn it. She's only tiny still so maybe a different nn will appear over time.

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