Completely negative real life reaction to baby name....

(109 Posts)
curiousgeorgie Thu 24-Jan-13 19:58:40

I've posted about this name before on here and usually get a good to mixed reaction.

I desperately wanted a girl just so I could use it, and found out we were indeed having a girl and couldn't believe my luck that I get to use my favourite baby name.

But telling both sets of parents the gender and saying the name, my mum said.. "no, really? That's awful" and I just let it go.

But today DH's parents and a few friends and our siblings have all been really negative about it with DH's brother even saying "Please don't call your baby that."

I truly love it so much, is it really so bad??

Its Seraphina.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Thu 24-Jan-13 20:03:22

What's wrong with that?
I think it's pretty.
It will be shortened but I guess you can pick what that will be

teachpeach Thu 24-Jan-13 20:03:23

I love it ! This is why I kept my DS1 and DS2 names a secret until they were born - but that's not helpful to you !

silverfrog Thu 24-Jan-13 20:03:34

I think it is a lovely name, but not very useable imo. Depends on the circles you move in though, I suppose grin

It's a bit flowery for my personal taste, but not dreadful.

VBisme Thu 24-Jan-13 20:04:02

I really like it.

Why are people so rude? (I think it's just your families who'll react like that, I remember being fairly scathing about my sisters choice of Otto - I love it now)

silverfrog Thu 24-Jan-13 20:05:21

Oh, and my dd2's name got a fairly universal negative reaction.

And ds' ne wasn't that popular either, come to think of it (most think it is 'ok', but he is only known by a shortening anyway, which is universally loved)

Has the baby been born? Tbh I would never tell people the 'chosen one' until the baby was born. It's not a name I like tbh, but it's none of my business, nor anybody else's.

EmaZR Thu 24-Jan-13 20:05:58

Ah what a shame they reacted like that. I think its a very pretty name. Hindsight is a great thing I know; but I think that's why some people don't say what the name is until the baby is born - nobody is going to look at the named baby and say anything bad about the name. You could just tell people you haven't made your mind up and then call her seraphina - I'm sure they'll keep their opinions to themselves once she arrives. Also, if they don't like the name they'll probably shorten it to sera - which you might find annoying... Good luck.

lazydog Thu 24-Jan-13 20:06:35

I wouldn't choose it myself but I certainly don't actively dislike it. I think you should ignore your bloody rude family members and call your daughter whatever you like.

silverfrog Thu 24-Jan-13 20:07:11

Agree with not telli g the name until the baby is born. Not that that stopped my family telli g me what they thought!

scarlettsmummy2 Thu 24-Jan-13 20:09:06

It's a lovely name, but I don't think we are posh enough to carry it off!

scarlettsmummy2 Thu 24-Jan-13 20:10:36

I should also say- we had lots of negative reactions to dd2 name- Florence Ottilie but everyone accepts it now.

MrsPresley Thu 24-Jan-13 20:11:03

It really doesnt matter what other people think.

I dont like it, the previous posters do. I've seen people on here saying they dont like my DC's names, so what, I liked them when I chose them, I like them now years later.

I have 6 grandchildren and only really like 4 of the names chosen for them but it wasnt my choice it was up to their mums and dads.

Go with what you like and stuff everyone else!

Crikeyblimey Thu 24-Jan-13 20:11:19

I used to work with a truly lovely, serene and talented woman called Seraphina. Stick to your guns. If you like it then sod 'em.

pretty name imo.
Stick to your guns. other people will get used to it and suck it up.
congratulations :-)

Never tell anyone your chosen name until the baby is born. It's much harder to complain about if it's already someone's name.

Tell them that since they all hate it, you're going with drusilla instead. Then call her seraphina when she's born and don't worry about what people think.

Clarabumps Thu 24-Jan-13 20:16:36

Stick to your guns..They'll come to love it. I was convinced I was having a Matilda( my favourite name) and EVERYONE hated it. I cared not a jot.. turns out she looked more like a Martha and this was hated marginally less. My dad especially hated it. Now he likes it.. as he's had no choice. Your baby..your choice!
Congratulations!!!!

In any case, children take ownership of their names as they grow. It stops being something you chose/gave them an just becomes theirs. Your family will get used to the name and come to love it as they love her.

shesariver Thu 24-Jan-13 20:18:33

I dont like it, but please dont listen to anyone else if you love it. I do like Sera though!

meltedcreditcard Thu 24-Jan-13 20:23:18

It's a lovely name - she can always call herself Sera if she wants to. My mother had some odd comments about my DCs names but they are what we picked and they have grown into them. (Wish my mother had called me Seraphina!)

zipzap Thu 24-Jan-13 20:31:32

it's a great name and if you've always loved it, use it for your child. They have had their own go at choosing names for their dc and now it is your turn - use it and enjoy it and don't let anyone else spoil it for you.

Just out of interest - your name, your dh's name, your siblings names, names that have been chosen by your friends - how many of them do you like and how many of them do you think hmmmm?

In fact, regardless of what you think of the names they have chosen, what would happen if you were to turn around and say 'well seeing what you've chosen as names, you can hardly have a go at me!!!'? . If they get all uppity and defensive about their name choice(s) then you can point out that it really doesn't matter whether or not you like the names that they chose as it was their turn to chose the names. And you have merely said to them what they said to you - if they can't take it, they shouldn't have said anything to you. It might show them exactly how hurtful their comments have been!

Aw I think its lovely!

When I was pg my work colleagues would always laugh/mock my choice of name if I had a ds - the usual "you can't call a baby that" etc.....

I had a ds and apart from one rude random lady in a park I have had nothing but compliments.

I think when you are pg people will be very forthright in their opinions and unless its a name they would personally choose, they will not like it no matter what. Once baby is here they tend to shut up and be less rude about your choices because its happened/real iyswim?

Oh and my ds is called Arthur - not particularly radical!

Sashapineapple Thu 24-Jan-13 20:49:25

It's a lovely name. My friends 3 year old is called Serafina, it never gets shortened. Ignore the grandparents, they had their chance to name their own kids.

Lastyearsmodel Thu 24-Jan-13 20:51:15

One of my favourite shortenings - Sephy or Seffy. Just sounds lovely. And so unusual.

ShipwreckedAndComatose Thu 24-Jan-13 20:56:18

I know a seraphina

She calls herself fin

It's a lovely name smile

ninipops Thu 24-Jan-13 20:56:51

I love it but couldn't use it for either of my DD's as it would have made their initials SS. As others have said 'sod them' your daughter your choice.

slambang Thu 24-Jan-13 20:58:41

We didn't call ds2 the name we loved because of the same reaction. Instead we went for safe, boring second choice. He's 14 now and I still regret him not being the name he should have been. Grandparents should never get a say.

BillyBollyDandy Thu 24-Jan-13 20:58:54

Lovely name. Ignore anyone that tells you otherwise.

I have a Claudia. Midwife looked at 2hr old Claudia and when told her name, tilted head to one said and asked "did you name her after someone?" in a sympathetic voice. I replied in the negative and she physically turned her nose up.

DNiece was more direct, "it's ugly but it'll grow on me". "Just like you" I replied grin

redrubyshoes Thu 24-Jan-13 21:00:14

When I was born my father told his boss my name and he replied "That's a bit posh for you isn't it" my father told him to bugger off.

I have a very classic and very beautiful name and I have never been 'judged' by it or had to spell it or explain it. I love it.

Seraphina is a very feminine and timeless name. Go for it.

chocolateicecream Thu 24-Jan-13 22:22:26

Their problem not yours OP, the name will grow on them. It is a lovely name and you will really regret it if you don't use it.

I like it but prefer it spelled Serafina. smile

ZooAnimals Thu 24-Jan-13 22:38:38

It's probably not a name I would choose, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Sometimes you should listen to what other people say about the name e.g. the poster who wanted to call her baby 'Slithery', but as long as it's an actual name then go with what you like.

ozymandiusking Thu 24-Jan-13 22:42:50

It's a lovely name. Your baby, use which ever name you like.

emsyj Thu 24-Jan-13 22:43:18

Serafina and Claudia are both on my name ideas list for DC2 (due next week...)

A close friend of mine called me a couple of weeks before DD (Ruth) was born - we hadn't told anyone our name shortlist - and said, 'I had a dream last night that you called your baby Ruth - you won't call her that, will you, I really really don't like it'. We still called her Ruth - and it's her. That's her name. As another poster said above, children take ownership of their name and even people who have previously disliked the name will grow to like it (or at least get used to it) as they grow to love your child.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Thu 24-Jan-13 22:45:53

Seraphina is an absolutely beautiful name!

MikeFlowersPops Thu 24-Jan-13 22:53:55

It's a beautiful name, I would absolutely use it.

choklit Thu 24-Jan-13 23:02:38

It is upseting at this stage when people openly dislike your name choices but once the baby is here it really won't matter. My FIL on hearing our son's name told DH 'I don't like it and neither does your mother" MIL proceeded to give me a list of names she liked, as did FIL.

Roll on 6 years, his name is his name and I still love it. People do tend to stop the comments soon after the baby is here.

If you like it, give her the name. I got influenced by in-laws and husband over a particular name, which became DS's middle name. Now, I don't like his middle name any more. I still love both my DC's first names, because DH and I jointly chose them without anyone else influencing. So, stick to your guns. Because otherwise she will always be Seraphina in your head anyway!

oh and apparently the post about the name of Slitherin, the OP was making it up.

SnotandBothered Thu 24-Jan-13 23:08:54

I know two girls called Seraphina (9 & 3). Neither of them get called any shortened versions.

I think it's a pretty name. Go for it

Sparklyboots Thu 24-Jan-13 23:11:38

Love that name, has been vetoed by DP... I'm pg for the second time and have refused to discuss names with anyone in RL because it went so, so badly last time - I had such an awful row with DF that I became hysterical and threw up in the restaurant toilets at one point and DS wasn't named until he was 3mo... Anyway, stop talking names with anyone, when you hand your baby to them and announce the name they have no option and are obliged to say, oh, wonderful, even if you announce it as shit-head. Which I did threaten MiL with last time (I'm serious - the name thing was completely fucking awful. Completely).

Thewhingingdefective Thu 24-Jan-13 23:19:01

I think it's lovely. Just use it and don't stress about what others think.

I had criticism and groans for three out of four of my kids' names but they (the ones that turned up their noses) soon got over it.

AlfieandAnnieRose Thu 24-Jan-13 23:19:16

Ben affleck and Jennifer garner named their youngest daughter Seraphina which is where I first heard it. I think it is a beautiful name and you obviously love the name a lot. I think you really will regret it if you don't use it!

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Thu 24-Jan-13 23:24:37

Sorry but I'm with the family on this one!

However, they were very rude to say anything other than 'How lovely' It is YOUR baby, not theirs.

I dislike my nieces and nephews names, but the older twos names are just 'them' now and you no longer think about whether you like or dislike the name - the younger one isn't one yet, I'm still working on that one grin however, my sister and her DH have absolutely no idea I don't like the names (and I know that as she's said things about others not liking them but being pleased I do - I just smile smile as one should!!).

echidnakid Thu 24-Jan-13 23:24:50

Stuff the haters and use it! It's a nice name and you both love it. They all got to name their own kids, don't let them have a say in the naming of yours.

AliAmble Thu 24-Jan-13 23:38:06

If you can imagine calling your daughter that name as a baby, a toddler, a little girl, a teenager, a young woman, a grandmother.... you get my point.... then it is the right name for you to give her! That's how I looked at it anyway, when I was thinking of girls names. I also tried to imagine her with my chosen name at school, and at work, and thought of whether I'd have been happy in those circumstances with the chosen name. If you're happy that it's the right name for your daughter then the rest will fall into place!

NannyPlumIsMyMum Thu 24-Jan-13 23:50:44

Seraphina is a beautiful name I'm so jealous.

I was in the same boat as you - I always wanted a daughter , and always wanted her to be called a certain unusual name.

My DH and family laughed out loud while I was pg , thought it was ridiculous ,and everyone said that we couldn't possibly call her that.

Well now they all adore her name. It completely suits her and so many people comment on how beautiful her name is.

So just go for it !

DontEvenThinkAboutIt Fri 25-Jan-13 00:03:08

It is a beautiful name. smile.

I can't believe how rude people can be.

When, inthe distant future, my DC's tell me their DC's names I promise I am going to tell them that it is a fantastic name even if I hate it!

Viviennemary Fri 25-Jan-13 00:15:59

I just personally don't like it very much I'm afraid. But if you like it then you should go ahead. It's certainly not one of these dire names which nobody should call their child. In fact on second thoughts it might just grow on me.

BackforGood Fri 25-Jan-13 00:21:33

I don't like it at all, but IMO your mistake was to mention it to people before the baby is born. Once you introduce a baby to their family with "This is {insert name}", then people aren't so blunt - it's fait accompli. IMO, by mentioning the name during pregnancy, it comes across - even if you don't say the words - as if you are saying "We are thinking of calling her {insert name}" and people feel there's time to persuade you not to.

However - your baby, your choice of course.

deleted203 Fri 25-Jan-13 00:22:51

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks if you love the name. Bugger them. I am assuming you havent had baby yet? Because this was your mistake....if you tell people beforehand they feel free to be rude. If you HAVE baby and announce proudly, 'we're calling him Montmorency' people swallow and say politely, 'Gosh...how unusual'.

SirBoobAlot Fri 25-Jan-13 00:26:25

I only know of one Seraphina (through an old friend), she gets shortened to Phe.

Think it's really pretty.

FWIW my dad hated my DS's name when I was pregnant, very vocally. All that changed the second he arrived smile

Lollybrolly Fri 25-Jan-13 00:48:28

I think its pretty.

Ignore and go with what you like.

Tell them you have changed your mind to Ermintrude - then they will appreciate your real choice when she is born and you announce you are changing back to Seraphina.

DessieLou Fri 25-Jan-13 03:44:44

Oh ignore the rude buggers! I think serephins is a beautiful name and you will definately regret it if you don't use it. We stupidly told a couple of people our name choice if dd had been a boy and got negative reactions. It's annoying but we've had it picked out for about 5 years so nothing would persuade us not to use it if we do have a future son. Interestingly though I've seen it mentioned on here loads lately so it must be rising in popularity. With my luck there'll be a million Reubens by the time I get to use it! :-)

Greensleeves Fri 25-Jan-13 04:17:37

I love it and would use Fifi as nn

your family have no manners. Ignore them.

anonymosity Fri 25-Jan-13 05:15:36

I also think its lovely. I do think its a bad idea to run names past people though, you need to keep it to yourselves and make your own choices. Everyone else (in RL) can lump it.

Alligatorpie Fri 25-Jan-13 05:43:45

I love it. I know 2 seraphina's - one is Sera, the other has never been shortened. But I love Fin as a nn.

curiousgeorgie Fri 25-Jan-13 08:42:48

Thanks everyone... I shouldn't have said it to anyone. We weren't even going to tell anyone she was a girl but we were excited and DH thought our family would be too! hmm

I will use it. I completely love it and as a lot of people have said, I'll regret it if I don't.

KatieMacc Fri 25-Jan-13 08:45:33

We had the same thing; our daughter is called 'Imola' and yes, I know it's the name of a famous F1 circuit but it's also where we (my husband and I) took our very first road trip and where, 4 years later he proposed. And although some family members and friends raised eyebrows, stuff 'em! - It's not their call and I think Seraphina is a gorgeous name!
Enjoy! x

MidnightMasquerader Fri 25-Jan-13 08:51:25

What the hell are you doing telling people your chosen name before your baby is born??! grin

Look, the grandparents had their turn. It's simply not fair of them to try to influence your choice. It's not their place.

Seraphina is a nice name - it's your name and so if you love it, go for it.

JourneyThroughLife Fri 25-Jan-13 08:54:53

It's a beautiful name, go ahead and use it. We used a very unusual name for our own daughter and never regretted it. Besides, once she's born and introduced to everyone, it'll be fine, everyone will just accept that's her name.... Not that it should be any of their business anyway!

2blessed Fri 25-Jan-13 08:57:35

Lovely name OP, go for it!

bamboobutton Fri 25-Jan-13 09:01:25

Seraphine was my top name for dd. I loved it but when dd was born she didn't look like a seraphine so spent days trying to decide which name she looked like (went for esme)

tell everyone you have taken all their"advice" and have gone for Bertha instead. Then when you go for seraphina they will sigh with relief.

Or you can tell them all to shove their advice up the arse they are talking out of.

HillBillySillyBilly Fri 25-Jan-13 09:32:16

It's a beautiful name as almost everyone here has said. Go for it if you love it, and remember you will never ever ever find a name that is universally loved by everyone and if you did it would probably be uber popular and not unusual and precious like Seraphina.

ComradeJing Fri 25-Jan-13 09:41:04

<outs self>

I'm getting a little Seraphina to sleep right now. The name suits her PERFECTLY even though she's a rough and tough little bruiser and my absolutely precious PFB

For nn she started as phi but, quite strangely, ended up as a nana as she started to point to herself and say, 'nana nana.'

I don't know any others and have only had very positive responses.

FriggFRIGGisPoorlySick Fri 25-Jan-13 12:55:19

I love the name Seraphina,it's completely gorgeous .

Fwiw,my mother baulked at our name choice for DS,And my sister baulked at my name choice for DD.
I don't particually care for their opinion though,As I don't much like the names they picked for their DC...
And now the DC are here,and have grown into their names,no one ever mentions it.

TheFallenNinja Fri 25-Jan-13 13:06:25

I think it's a grand name. I had the same with dd (Avery) there was much nose crinkling and humphing from friends and family, fortunately I'm known for cheerily telling people to wind their necks in and doing what I choose. :-)

There's always a desire in families to name newborns after some dead relic but I prefer my kids to blaze their own trail.

everlong Fri 25-Jan-13 13:28:26

It's one of my favourite names. So beautiful.

You lucky thing getting to use it!

Zavi Fri 25-Jan-13 13:47:52

Sounds like a cross between terrapin and dolphin!

I quite like the name actually. Of course it will be shortened to ser'e by her friends though.

Zavi Fri 25-Jan-13 13:52:45

Also, when you're out and about and you call out to your daughter "Seraphina!" heads will turn to look at YOU.

Fine if you like that kind of attention and it makes you think that people are thinking to themselves "what a lovely name". If you are in anyway paranoid though...

I would be just too embarrassed to call my daughter that name for that reason alone (i.e. needing to call out to her in public).

Kt8791 Fri 25-Jan-13 13:55:03

I love this name. Was on my list but DH doesn't like it. I think it is very pretty, although the girl I knew called this got called Sarah.

Yfronts Fri 25-Jan-13 14:00:00

It's stunning!!! I adore that name. Don't change it. They probably would have preferred you to call her something more usual like Ellie or Ruby. Just ignore and follow your heart, I bet you wouldn't like the names they have chosen for their children.

Yfronts Fri 25-Jan-13 14:01:16

ps - only announce a name when the baby has arrived as otherwise people think you are asking their opinion.

On slytherin, the OP of that thread might have been joking but my idiot DH seriously suggested Slevin for DS2. And Ace.

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 14:22:41

it's a nice name, not for me, but definitely not awful , actually reminds me of Sapphire.

there's was a French painter called Seraphine Louis, just tell people you adore her style - and also the maternity wear.......grin

rude family doesn't get to hold baby - and if they ask what you want for baby tell them you want anything with that name printed/beaded /glitter written on! try to find that keyfob Granny!grin

go for it and congrats on baby girl! (I waited 11 years to use my favourite name, first girl after 5 boys....)

curiousgeorgie Fri 25-Jan-13 15:04:01

We were going to shorten it to Sephy to avoid 'Sarah' hopefully.

We have a Matilda already and call her Tilly - but everyone liked that! wink

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 15:18:42

Sephy sounds like Sophie (think phones!) and also looks like it's short for Stephanie.

and Sera - Sara is likely to happen

I have to say I'm not English, but moved here (DH's English) and always have to spell my name and explain spelling etc, very annoying, but there's not much I can do.

so my view is to make it easy on her, maybe give it as a middle name?

Lostonthemoors Fri 25-Jan-13 15:19:48

I love it - wouldn't be brave enough to use it, but love it. Fi Fi for short is v cute!

NowPlayingZone Fri 25-Jan-13 15:37:51

Love it & Fifi for nn.

IMO parents have already had their turn at the name game so should butt out. My MIL was insistent we used the name Oliver despite us saying no several times. In the end DH (who never questions his mother) politely suggested that she used it for her next one as this was our child, our choice.

HecateWhoopass Fri 25-Jan-13 15:41:40

I think it's pretty.

When I was a kid, I thought that if I ever had a daughter, I'd call her....

Shangri-la.

Oh yes.

<cringe>

You know. If you were evil. You could always say you know what, we've changed our minds. We're going to call her Shangri-la.

Keep up the pretence until the birth.

Then announce you were kidding.

They will be so massively relieved that they will forget completely that they ever disliked Seraphina

stleger Fri 25-Jan-13 15:52:11

I heard a man on a radio quiz this week whose wife was Feena (dunno how she spells it), short for Seraphina, and I knew a Vina, short for Josephine.
My PILs hated dd1's name, but we had stuck it in the births of a national paper before they were able to visit and rant.

sweetkitty Fri 25-Jan-13 16:11:07

This is why you should never tell anyone your chosen name ( apart from MN of course).

As part of DD2s homework this week we were talking about her name why we chose it etc (she's 7 now). Its a fairly unusual name and she gets a few coiners.

We didn't announce her name until she was born my mother said "where did you get THAT from?" me "the bible" "well I've never heard of it, I'll have to write it down I'll never remember it" :S MIL said "well at least she's healthy :S she did say a few years ago that she wasn't keen on it at first but DD2 has grown into it and she couldn't be called anything else. My Das couldn't pronounce it for the first 3 years (it's not that difficult).

Names are very personal, I've met babies and thought "mmm" about their name not my choice but I would never be rude about it.

I also known a Grandad who refuses to use his grandsons name merely calls him the boy sad

Name your baby what you want and tell everyone else to piss offgrin

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 16:14:21

sweetkitty - I love Bible names, please tell what it is? (sorry OP!)

Smudging Fri 25-Jan-13 16:15:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

sweetkitty Fri 25-Jan-13 16:19:09

Her name is Talia (tah-Lee-ah)

StephaniePowers Fri 25-Jan-13 16:24:05

We had negative reactions to one of our names as well - tough, he was called what he was called and everyone loves it now.

Seraphina is a gorgeous name, as someone said even if people don't love it, it's not one of those comedy names or spelled insanely or just daft. I like it a lot. (Not that that matters!).
Ditto Talia. I know a Thalia and I think it's gorgeous (as is she).

MikeOxardInTheSnow Fri 25-Jan-13 16:32:48

If you don't like Sarah for short then I wouldn't use a 4 syllable name beginning with a Sarah sound! Saying that though, call baby what you want. Tell everyone you're not sure what you're calling her, so as to avoid a discussion you don't need to have, and then call her what you want when she is born. I think Seraphina and Sarah are really lovely names anyway.

pumpkinsweetieMasPudding Fri 25-Jan-13 16:33:12

Stick with what you want, stuff everyone else!

IrnBruTheNoo Fri 25-Jan-13 16:48:51

Would recommend waiting until the baby's born, then announcing the name. That way you won't have to endure all the comments, negative or otherwise.

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 16:49:11

sweetkitty as you probably know Talia means "Heaven's dew" - that is beautiful!

sweetkitty Fri 25-Jan-13 17:24:19

amazingmumof6 - yes I knew that grin lovely meaning unlike DD3s that means house of sorrow or house of song depending on which website you visit.

mystiquesonya Fri 25-Jan-13 17:59:58

I think it's lovely. If we all liked the same names we'd all be called the same thing. What a boring world! We're individuals and if you and partner like the name, it doesn't matter what your family think. As others have said, the name and the baby will become 'one' anyway and they'll love both.

thegreylady Fri 25-Jan-13 20:59:12

I think it is very pretty indeed.
My dn gets very negative reactions to her ds name [Ezekiel nn Zeke] but she just ignores them.

This is quite timely because I was getting really ratty at the attitudes on the Matthew/Finlay thread.

I don't know why people feel the need to be so rude about someone's name! I'm really sorry that your family have been so thoughtlessly unkind - DH and I had a bit of that with DC4 - but honestly I'd be responding, "Oh! Did you mean to be so hurtful/rude when you said that?"

If you and DH like it, that's all that matters! x

Mockingcurl Fri 25-Jan-13 21:52:16

It's a beautiful name. Stick to your guns or you will regret it all your life.
My mil made a big fuss about not liking my youngest sons name. We ignored her and she just came across as rude and ignorant.

Jo124 Sat 26-Jan-13 01:13:30

I'm always amazed how forthright people are in their opinions about all sorts of things - passers by in the street 'that's going to be a huge baby!' - thanks! and total strangers in the park 'your dog's really fat' - she's got a heart condition you ignoramus so mind your own business! We have decided on our baby's name and she's not born yet, and generally I don't mind telling people - but I made the mistake of telling my GCSE class what it was going to be (after weeks of them yelling at me 'call it Becky!' (from Becky) 'call it Kelly!' (from Kelly)...etc). Their reaction? 'Gross! that's a fat girl's name!!!' - well really what did I expect? smile The name was my lovely great Aunt's and I love it smile I say pick something that means something to you and that sounds nice with the other names and let everyone else think what they like!! (Having said that another teacher I was talking to once claimed to have had a boy in her class called Tequila Sunrise Brown...I may draw the line there.)

Graceparkhill Sat 26-Jan-13 01:22:28

I think it is a lovely lyrical name. Ignore all other opinions and go with your choice. In my experience once the baby is born you won't be short of unwanted opinions from all and sundry so do something decisive while you still can.

lollypopsicle Sat 26-Jan-13 12:16:00

It maddens me that people seem to think it's ok to rubbish a name you have chosen before the baby is born. I stopped telling anyone our real contenders for this very reason! Once they are born, everyone just accepts the name (at least to your face, anyway grin)

Screw anyone else! Call your baby the name you love and everyone else can and will get over it.

TomArchersSausage Sat 26-Jan-13 12:30:09

It's lovely. Honestly I think so. Feminine, uncommon but certainly not in a not in an 'out there' way.

I can't believe people who are part of your family turing up and being so blimmin mean to you. Really your issue is with them. They all sound horrendoussad Although its true it's best not to mention names until the baby is here.

A name becomes 'owned' by the baby as they grow to fill it and means that person to others when they think of it, rather than just a name standing alone which it probably is atm.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 27-Jan-13 20:11:22

I think it's lovely.

Also think Sephy and Fee are more likely nicknames than Sarah.

HoneyandRum Mon 28-Jan-13 09:31:25

I love Seraphina and wanted to use it but my husband got his car towed outside an Italian restaurant called Seraphina's and wouldn't use it!!! People don't like names for daft reasons so don't let others change your mind, once the baby's older it will be fine. She will probably be called Phina for short.

We have a Raphaela and I think the British relies thought that was OTT but now we live in Germany and she had another Raphaela in her year at primary school spelt the same way! We also lived in the states and you heard it there too. Her nicknames are Rara and Raffa (German nickname).

takethatlady Mon 28-Jan-13 10:18:47

Whether or not your family would choose the name or not, it's a perfectly lovely, well-established name.

Plus, there are loads of lovely nicknames for it, as people have said: Sera, Sara, Saphy/Saffie, Fina, Fee, Fifi, Fin, etc. So she'll have plenty of choice about what she's called as she grows up.

Don't worry about family: once they see the name on your gorgeous girl they'll love it. I think names can sound weird in the abstract, but it's rare you meet a person and baulk at their name - it just suits them, in the end. Especially as your lovely little baby is going to be SO gorgeous. She'll be so beautiful she'll remind them how beautiful her name is, and I bet they'll love it in no time.

ccsays Mon 28-Jan-13 10:19:16

I think it's beautiful. Makes me think of Serafina Pekkala from the His Dark Materials trilogy.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Mon 28-Jan-13 11:11:43

I read a book with this name in it when I was at primary school and it stuck with me for years. Never known anyone in rl with it, it's beautiful. Possible diminutives too. Honestly when your family reacted they were being honest to the point of rudeness, if you said it was your favourite what do they hope to gain by rubbishing it? They can get used to it before she arrives can't they.

DevonLodger Mon 28-Jan-13 16:24:47

We have a Serafina. We are catholic and wanted a pretty but unusual saint's name. Everyone comments on what a beautiful name it is. We call her Sefi as a nick name which I think is sweet. Stick to what you want. They probably have never heard of it before but will grow to love it I'm sure.

AbsintheMinded Mon 28-Jan-13 16:30:11

I love this name too. Don't mind anyone else. They aren't the parents so don't get a say.

I gave my children pretty standard names and there are still relatives and friends who spell them wrong and my own mother hasn't bothered trying to pronounce one of their names correctly.
I'm glad I gave them the named I love

lamprey42 Tue 29-Jan-13 00:21:15

My mum had a similar reaction to my boy twin's name. I think something like 'You can't call him that it's awful'. My sister also told me both twin's names were horrid so I retorted that when she had her own kids she could call them what she liked. I think that unless it is a name with particularly nasty associations for someone it is none of their business. My mum is fine about it now - if you like Seraphina go with it and they'll get used to it.

mathanxiety Tue 29-Jan-13 04:06:26

My mum wanted me to call all of my DDs Stacey or Roberta. She laughed in disbelief when I reminded her of this.
Parents are weird.

Don't mind what your rellies say and next time remember the cardinal rule -- only introduce the name when the baby is in your arms.

rrreow Tue 29-Jan-13 17:35:33

Gosh how rude of people to be saying that to you. I think it's a lovely name. Unusual, but not so much so that it'd be weird.

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