Make Me Feel Better that I Can't Have "Jack"...

(48 Posts)
FranglaisMaman Tue 22-Jan-13 20:19:11

Yes, I know, it is hideously popular, but I can't help it. It was the only boys name I've liked for ages. THEN, husband's sister fell pregnant again while we were still trying and guess what name she used for her son - Jack envy. Now every time I hear his name I feel a pang of regret that my baby won't be Jack. It's so cute and yet strong too. I'd feel bad using the name now even though MIL & FIL said go ahead (& SIL copied it from her friend anyway) so need something similar instead.

It really is hideously popular/overused/crap/rubbish/boring anyway isn't it? (unashamedly lies to self...)

Now we're left with either Harry, Charlie or Joshua (DH likes Joshua/Josh but we've met a few of our own age group so it feels a bit odd to me).

FM xx

peanutMD Tue 22-Jan-13 20:29:24

For what its worth I've never taken to the name Jack for some reason.

However I do work in a nursery and Joshua/Josh, Harry and Charlie seem to be the most popular names in our area along with Archie and Oscar.

All very nice (much nicer than Jack wink)

Could you use Jack as a middle name?

Zappo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:31:34

Would you consider Jake if you want something similar sounding. Always think that sounds cool- or Jacob (nn Jake).

Anonymumous Tue 22-Jan-13 20:33:37

Harry, Charlie and Joshua are also hideously popular / overused / crap / rubbish and boring. (OK, just hideously popular then!)

I do sympathise actually, because I adored the name Jack back in the 80s before it got popular again. Then it exploded in popularity, and it just lost all that cool-boy appeal for me. I ended up with an Isaac, thinking we could nickname him Zac (we never have done though). Luke? Jock? Mack?

FranglaisMaman Tue 22-Jan-13 20:34:20

Middle name is going to be 'James' after his papa! My silver lining is that MIL gave hubby such a lovely timeless name which goes with lots of names smile

Lafaminute Tue 22-Jan-13 20:35:08

SOOOOOO common, think Jacks (toilet)
Jake is a nicer version or even James or Jacob,

addictedtolatte Tue 22-Jan-13 20:36:38

Sorry can't help you I've got a jack and hes cute as a button smile How about Jackson or Johnathon?

FranglaisMaman Tue 22-Jan-13 20:44:05

Jake (with Jacob on BC) was on the list but I kept thinking it sounds too surfy/American rather than classically British? It probably is the closest to Jack though isn't it?

I shouldn't gloat but...was glad to hear that SIL herself went off the name after she chose it - she was out one day not long after birth and was shocked when the high street reverberated with 'Jack' & consequently she wanted to change it then [smirks to self, serves her right for gazumping me teehee!].

I.know a Jack whos brother is Sam which I love.

It really annoys me that people try and dissuade someone based on how popular a name is - it is popular for a reason, and percentage wise isnt even prolific - the.number one boys name last year was given to less than 1% of all boys born in 2012. So you would need to know 100 other boys born in exactly tge same year to statistically meet another one with the same name.

NowPlayingZone Tue 22-Jan-13 20:50:43

Definitely too popular- it's number one! How about Joseph or Jeremy/jerome?

scaevola Tue 22-Jan-13 20:52:55

If you want to go off it a bit, you could always consciously call to mind what it means to jack off. Or is that a hit mean towards DNeph?

Coconutty Tue 22-Jan-13 20:57:54

I really hate the name Jack, it's like you can't be bothered to choose a name so just say that will do. Just Jack.

Coconutty Tue 22-Jan-13 20:58:15

Has that helped?!

FranglaisMaman Tue 22-Jan-13 20:59:08

Yes, hubby has reminded me of the unfortunate: Jack off, Jack shit, Jack the ripper, Jack of all trades master of none. In the end he's just said oh just bloody have Jack if there really is NOTHING else you like! Spoilt brat, moi? Noooooo!

SO overused, you may as well call a boy "Boy" for all the impact it has.

Shame, because I do/did think it's a nice name, but it's been ruined by overuse.

MikeLitoris Tue 22-Jan-13 21:02:32

I have a 12yo jack. Its a fab name. I have only ever met one other jack.

Not popular here at all.

<unhelpful sorry>

Anonymumous Tue 22-Jan-13 21:09:07

Oh go vwith Joseph as PP said - it's gorgeous and I have never, ever met one in my entire life. Which is weird, because I seem to remember rejecting it because it was too popular... [facepalms]

bigbluebump Tue 22-Jan-13 22:02:41

There are SO many Jacks round here that it has become a little bit like being called 'Boy'. In our Scout group there are even two Jacks who share the same surname!!

Harry, Charlie and Joshua aren't excactly underused either....!

bigbluebump Tue 22-Jan-13 22:04:00

"Now we're left with either Harry, Charlie or Joshua (DH likes Joshua/Josh but we've met a few of our own age group so it feels a bit odd to me)."

Why? What about the thousands of other lovely boys names that exist? Have a look at the ONS lists of ALL boys names used last year - loads of great names beyond the top 250 or so!

Januarymadness Tue 22-Jan-13 22:06:29

Joshua James (JJ) is lovely.

amck5700 Tue 22-Jan-13 22:06:57

What about John James known as JJ still very cute and John is the proper name for Jack so when you fall out with your family, you can still call him Jack?

amck5700 Tue 22-Jan-13 22:07:35

spooky January!!

MaryPoppinsBag Tue 22-Jan-13 22:09:35

George is a nice alternative. It's a strong name like Jack.

Beaditsback Tue 22-Jan-13 22:10:42

We have a Jack and don't know any others his age or close in age. All boys here are Finley, Oliver, Harry or Noah. It's not no. 1 nowplaying

You could choose a name that has Jack as a nn?? Or Zachary?

I think the fact sil has used it would put me off though once families start extending you can't help but get repeats. There are a GAZILLION Matthews in my family now everyone is married, had children etc

ceeveebee Tue 22-Jan-13 22:13:28

I'd go for a name completely different to Jack, not beginning with J, otherwise you'll always think of the name as the next-best choice (and GPs will get all confused when they get older..). Charlie is nice. What about George? Sam? Ben? Dan? Max?

Uppermid Tue 22-Jan-13 22:17:19

Zac? Short for Zachary

Umicar Tue 22-Jan-13 22:18:08

Frank?

ceeveebee Tue 22-Jan-13 22:23:46

Love Frank. Its my grandad's name. DH overruled and we ended up with Stanley (as a middle name).

ceeveebee Tue 22-Jan-13 22:24:09

Fred?

ToomuchWaternotWine Tue 22-Jan-13 22:33:08

As is always said, good idea to wait and see baby and see what fits! I had a list of names in my head including Danny / Daniel, Liam, Callum, a few others I can't remember now, I had rejected Jack as "too popular"

Anyway when Ds was born he definitely didn't look like any of the names I had wanted, and gradually Jack just kept coming into my mind when I looked at him. DH agreed. Now he's 6 and couldn't be anything else. There is one other jack in his whole year at school. And we've only met one other jack locally too. Although we are Scottish, so are up to our eyeballs in Callums, Lewis, Rory's etc!!

VBisme Tue 22-Jan-13 22:38:47

Jack is a nn for John, so you could use John.
What about Jacob or Joshua, or Johnathan?

sashh Wed 23-Jan-13 06:55:21

Put James, John or Jacques on the birth certificate and call him Jack.

Matildaduck Wed 23-Jan-13 07:04:01

Henry is lovely.

I had this when a good friend called their son Owen, it was (at the time) the only boy's name I liked.

But I did go on to find other names I liked. And went on to have two girls anyway.

CheerfulYank Wed 23-Jan-13 07:35:22

I love Jack and it's not very popular here. We have a Sam now, may have a Jack someday.

We also like Alec a lot. smile

Smudging Wed 23-Jan-13 07:36:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BouncyPenguin Wed 23-Jan-13 08:00:10

I think if you really want it then have Jack. My father in law has the same name as his cousin. In days gone by that was extremely common. My nephew is Jack and I thought it too common at the time but love it for him now. If you decide against it then go for something completely different. Look through lots of names and find another one you love. How about Alex James, George James, Thomas James, John James, Henry James, Lewis James, Benjamin James (Ben is cute and strong)

Gwennan Wed 23-Jan-13 11:37:21

If you love Jack, you might like:

Alexander (Alex)
Alistair (Ali)
Andrew (Andy)
Angus, August, Fergus (Gus)
Barnaby, Barney
Benjamin, Benedict (Ben)
Declan
Dexter
Callum, Calvin (Cal)
Edmund, Edward, Edwin (Ed, Ted, Ned)
Eli
Elliot
Felix
Isaac (Ike)
Jacob (Jake)
Jonah, Jonas, Joseph, Josiah, etc. - all leading to the nickname Joe
Macsen, Mackenzie, Cormac etc. - all leading to the nickname Mac/Mack
Max
Peter (Pete)
Samuel (Sam)
Sebastian (Seb)
Thomas (Tom)
Timothy (Tim)
Tobias (Toby)
Zachariah (Zac)
Zachary (Zac)

NowPlayingZone Wed 23-Jan-13 12:17:53

Apologies Beaditsback. Was number one December: http://www.bounty.com/baby-names/top-boys’-names-–-december-2012, but number two overall in 2012: http://www.bounty.com/baby-names/top-100-baby-names-2012.
Think that Jack is a lovely name and know a few adorable ones. Was just trying to support op in her request- no offence to anyone with a Jack.

JustAHolyFool Wed 23-Jan-13 12:19:21

It's not an actual name, is it? It's a nickname of John.

I mean as far as names as actual names.

Beaditsback Wed 23-Jan-13 13:12:35

Not offended at all. It's a fan name and popular for that reason. grin
We like Toby if this bump is a boy.
Really hope you go with what you love. The boys aren't likely to be in the same social circles are they??

Beaditsback Wed 23-Jan-13 13:13:01

Fab even grin

Mosman Wed 23-Jan-13 13:18:24

I would go with John, very under used.

I know 5 Jacks under the age of 10 5

Mosman Wed 23-Jan-13 13:19:58

Hands off Frank, that is my imaginary DC's name.

FranglaisMaman Wed 23-Jan-13 15:39:44

Well, without going into it, we never see DH's sister anyway as we all lead very separate busy lives and tbh I couldn't stomach being around her even before she beat me to the punch on the name, haha! So no, our children won't be in the same social circles, will hardly ever set eyes on each other I should imagine, we live in completely different regions. Just don't like the idea of my baby being known as "Jack 2" within DH's family and any snide remarks. There are no Jacks in my own family though so I thought I was safe! Boo.

Hubby likes:
Sebastian James (but FIL thinks it's common as in chavvy). I think it's too long for a child learning to write & for people to write on bday cards etc.

We both like:
Harry James (our fave at the mo)
Charlie James (but hate Charles)
Jacob James (Jake)
Joseph James ('Joe' - nice but not sure if it sounds a bit zzzzzzzzzz)

Quite like Henry James but DH hates it and my Dad was always embarrassed to have it as a middle name and thinks boy will be teased for it in teens...

thegreylady Wed 23-Jan-13 18:34:28

John is perfect
I have a dgs who is Edward James and one who is Finn James [guess what my df's name was smile ]

My school friend's mum always loved the name Martha but despite having girls they never used the name so she got a dog and called her Martha. Perhaps you can use Jack another way.

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