DH likes traditional names and I like unusual...

(39 Posts)
theykillhorses Wed 02-Jan-13 23:55:32

For a girl he likes Elizabeth or Hannah

I like Demri or Keomi

<sigh>

Our choices can never be reconciled. We have argued endlessly about it. However I have taken to saying he can pick for a boy and I choose the girl name, knowing with all my instinct it is a girl... grin

Oh dear. I think you need to find a compromise tbh.

And sorry but his names are much nicer. Do you like Naomi?

theykillhorses Thu 03-Jan-13 00:01:28

We have very different tastes but somehow got on well enough to marry!

Yes, compromise is the answer. I don't like Naomi much, which is a shame.

My big problem is the names I like best have deep meanings (to me) behind them compared to his way of picking which is just to choose two nice names.

Yes - dp and I also had v different tastes in names but managed to compromise. Naomi was one of our compromises! DD1. smile

theykillhorses Thu 03-Jan-13 00:11:42

I think the name Naomi is pretty, it just was the name of DH's ex grin

amck5700 Thu 03-Jan-13 00:13:25

There are lots of lovely names that have lovely meanings too.

Carys - my beloved one
David - Beloved
Cara - Beloved
Luke - Light giving

theykillhorses Thu 03-Jan-13 00:16:29

Yes those are lovely meanings.

Thank you. Cara is very pretty. will try it on H

EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy Thu 03-Jan-13 00:17:44

Elizabeth and Hannah are lovely. Your names... sorry, no.

Wetthemogwai Thu 03-Jan-13 00:20:38

I have an Orla (meaning princess) which is traditional and usual (as long ad you're not in Ireland in which case it's rather popular!

How about...

Effie
Ophilia
Felicity

Arlo
Finley
Noah

(Looked back on that list and see how random a mix it is!)

I tend to watch cbeebies birthday cards and the end credits of a tele program for ideas, you get a good mix on there!

theykillhorses Thu 03-Jan-13 00:25:03

That is a good tip!

OutragedFromLeeds Thu 03-Jan-13 01:40:09

I'd let your DH pick go with a more traditional first name and the have a really awful meaningful name as a middle name.

OrangeLily Thu 03-Jan-13 02:00:40

Are your names names? I have no idea how they should be pronounced.

His choices are lovely, particularly like Elizabeth.

nooka Thu 03-Jan-13 02:20:55

I see on Googling that both of your name choices have been used before, but they do sound very made up to me. Your dh's choices are certainly very different. That doesn't however mean that it's not possible for the two of you to find names with meanings that you like and sounds that he likes. I think it is really important that both parents choose names.

If you are really at an impasse then one option is to chose a baby name book, and then each separately draw up a list of names you like, swap them and pick again. This should give you a shortlist of names to pick from that you both like without too much arguing.

DessieLou Thu 03-Jan-13 04:19:43

We had this problem, it's so frustrating. In the end we wrote a list of about 15 names. some he liked, some I liked and some we both thought were ok but had reservations about. When she was here we looked through the list and there was only one name that suited her which was one of the 'just ok' names. Now we both adore her name! Random suggestion.... Cora Elizabeth? I love this but doesn't go with our surname. I also heard of a girl called Camry the other day which I rather like. Good luck!

HollyMadison Thu 03-Jan-13 05:53:36

I have a very unusual name (never met another). It's horrible to have a very unusual name. People don't remember it and can't pronounce it. It can really cause a lack of self confidence for the child. Surely you can find something that is not too popular but not highly unusual??!!

EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy Thu 03-Jan-13 08:08:58

How about:

some variation on Lucy/Lucia?
Miranda?
Imogen?
Marina?
Verity?

All quite unusual (these days) and striking, but clearly recognisable as names with a tradition of being so.

laughinglikeadrain Thu 03-Jan-13 08:10:53

I know a lovely girl called imogen and all her friends call her midge. best of both worlds!

NonnoMum Thu 03-Jan-13 08:14:46

Had a simliar thing with my DH. We both had very different naming ideas. However, I'd really recommend that you find a 'compromise' name, one that you both like but perhaps isn't actually your first choice for either of you...

ShipwreckedAndComatose Thu 03-Jan-13 08:24:26

Don't bet on your instinct about having a girl being right.

Wasn't there a thread a while back where someone promised her dh their next DC's could be called the name he loved because she was certain that it would not be a girl or that DH would forget hmm

She was in a panic because her chickens had come home to roost!

(I think the name was Beatrice, which I thought was lovely!)

SleighbellsRingInYourLife Thu 03-Jan-13 08:32:02

No, it was Blanche!

And by the end everyone (including me) had decided Blanche was a fab name grin

Inclusionist Thu 03-Jan-13 08:38:12

Xanthe

Blythe

Persephone (nn Percy)

Stephanie (nn Stevie)

theykillhorses Thu 03-Jan-13 08:49:51

All names were made up to start with, they didn't arrive in some official baby name book sanctioned by some higher power! However the two names I like are not made up by me, but even if they were that wouldn't make them inferior, just more imaginative.

this beautiful woman is why I love the one name, also my degree was about the PRB so hence the personal meaning

ShipwreckedAndComatose Thu 03-Jan-13 08:50:50

Yay! Blanche!! Which is a lovely name!

Was that you? And if so, what did you call your dd in the end?

<say Blanche, say Blanche, say Blanche> grin

ShipwreckedAndComatose Thu 03-Jan-13 08:52:15

Keomi is lovely btw. Especially with the pre-raf ref.

Inclusionist Thu 03-Jan-13 09:02:02

I really like Keomi too BTW, but you are a bit stuffed if your DH hates it.

theykillhorses Thu 03-Jan-13 09:07:45

I have had an idea, I might see if DH and I can get to this before the 13th and just let him soak it up then explain why the name means so much to me etc. Keomi Elizabeth could be a lovely compromise.

theykillhorses I looked at your link, what about Morgan or Vivian, from some of the paintings (Medea may be going a bit too far) you would still know the connection and the names are a little more recognised, although not common.

amck5700 Thu 03-Jan-13 12:40:04

sausage - I though Vivienne too when i looked at the link - isn't Vivian a boys name?

amck yes, I think it is, had another look at the link and the painting is called Vivi*e*n so somewhere between the two.

amck5700 Thu 03-Jan-13 12:59:33

lol - great minds think alike though smile

I have met a male Vivian - he was known as Viv though and I don't think he liked it much, didn't help that he was a quiet, delicate looking guy.

lockets Thu 03-Jan-13 13:02:12

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amck5700 Thu 03-Jan-13 13:06:22

maybe it's time for a Vivian revival - shame I won't be having any more babies grin

AlwaysHoldingOnToStarbug Thu 03-Jan-13 13:18:46

Be careful about your instincts! My friend was
Convinced all the way through her first pregnancy that baby was a girl. She had girls names picked out, didn't even think of boys names, refused to believe it could be a boy. You can guess what happens next!

I'm so glad I never had a girl as I hate the name dh insisted he would name his daughter! Luckily his DD was born before he'd heard he horrible name.

lockets Thu 03-Jan-13 13:22:47

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GrumpySod Thu 03-Jan-13 14:50:26

read the post properly lockets, Always is glad she didn't have a naming problem.

OP: I wondered about letting him choose a traditional name for birth certificate that you could make a snazzy NN out of, like Dani for Danielle, or Eddie for Edith, Cazza for Catherine, etc. And let the child choose in long run what she prefers.

lockets Thu 03-Jan-13 18:23:07

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Harrysmummysarah1 Thu 03-Jan-13 19:53:35

I'm a lover of traditional names to . I love names like William, Alexander, Daniel, Catherine, Martha etc.
My husband wanted a Sammie, Dannie and a Lucy. All of which sound to page 3, chavy etc (no offence to anyone with those names) personal taste.
In the end we did find names we both liked.
Martha
Darcey
Harry

How about for you
Verity
Kathleen
Eloise
Lois
Thea
Gabriella
Demi
Vivienne?
Would you agree on anyone of those
Btw i love Hannah

SantasENormaSnob Thu 03-Jan-13 22:01:12

Sorry op but your names are awful imo.

Think you will both have to compromise.

alm12 Thu 03-Jan-13 23:54:32

Keomi is nice, suggest that with Elizabeth as middle name?

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