(41 Posts)
pinkandyellowbutterfly Mon 03-Dec-12 12:14:18

I would love to use Barbara as a middle name after my mum. I think I've chosen Lucy as a first name. What do people think of Lucy Barbara?

YouCanBe Mon 03-Dec-12 12:16:20

Lucy Barbara is just lovely. I really like it. smile

belindarose Mon 03-Dec-12 12:17:01

I think it's fine as a middle name. Does your mum like it? Mine is Barbara too and hates it, so would have been mortified if we'd used it for DD.

givemeaclue Mon 03-Dec-12 12:17:22

No to Barbara

Yes to Lucy

Not keen I'm afraid. I know someone with a middle name after a family member, Dorothy in her case, and if it's not a nice name in itself, whoever you're named after, it's just not a nice middle name to have.


YouCanBe Mon 03-Dec-12 12:20:15

I think Barbara is a nice name! It isn't very now so, ok, I wouldn't have it as a first name, but it isn't inherently awful.

pinkandyellowbutterfly Mon 03-Dec-12 12:20:57

Aww thanks, YouCanDo!

badtime Mon 03-Dec-12 12:31:15

If it's not a first name, Barbara is fine. It's not a horrible name, but can be hard to live with as a child if people wind you up about 'Barbie' (not that I'd know, obviously...)

Seriously, though, people have always told me that it is cute to have such an unusual-for-someone-my-age name. It is a good name if someone is going to be spending much time abroad, because it is used in so many languages.

If you don't want to use the name itself but want to refer to it, there are a lot of different variants. I like the eastern European ones like Basia and Varya.

pinkandyellowbutterfly Mon 03-Dec-12 12:38:37

thanks badtime is your name Barbara? ;-)

badtime Mon 03-Dec-12 12:40:39

Might be...

Pasiphae Mon 03-Dec-12 14:15:36

I think it sits very well in the middle spot with Lucy. Good call.

WonkyWilly Mon 03-Dec-12 17:50:33

I think it's lovely and middles names should be meaningful......I know you probably wouldn't.......but......I think Babs is soooooooo cute as a nn!

tammytoby Mon 03-Dec-12 19:00:45

Barbara is actually a lovely feminine name. A lot of us associate it with our middle aged women due to us knowing so many of that age. But our children won't have those associations.

Barbara Lucy or Lucy Barbara are both lovely!

millymae Mon 03-Dec-12 19:01:22

You might think me odd for saying this but I like the name Barbara a lot and could be tempted it to use it should another dd come my way. There'd definitely be no Barbie's though, but I have no problem with Babs, like Wonky Willie I think it's a very cute nn.

MoelFammau Tue 04-Dec-12 20:55:37

I LOVE Barbara. I don't really understand comments along the lines of 'It's not very current'... I love kids with names that sit just off balance with the rest of their generation. I wanted DD to have Patricia but the abuse was just ridiculous.

judefawley Tue 04-Dec-12 21:01:27

I am sorry to say, I hate Barbara - it's just awful.

I'd put it with Maureen, Mavis and Pauline. To me they are ugly names that women in their 70s have.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Tue 04-Dec-12 21:08:58

If you must.

I doubt your dd will thank you though, sorry.

hackneyzoo Tue 04-Dec-12 21:10:11

It's my middle name, I hate it. Don't do this to your daughter! ( having said that, I think I went through a brief period, in about 1987, where I asked my parents to refer to me as Babs, I was about 8 at the time though grin)

MoelFammau Tue 04-Dec-12 21:32:10

You're a different generation though. A generation ago, calling your kid Ethel, Norah or Maud was considered awful, yet it's pretty normal now. Barbara could easily be one hell of a cool name in 20 years.

pinkandyellowbutterfly Tue 04-Dec-12 21:45:41

Thanks for your comments guys, I love the name because it has lots of personal meaning to me and if I give it to my child, she's bound to love being named after my mum as shes such a special person and thats the most important thing :-)

canuck43 Tue 04-Dec-12 21:50:34

My little granddaughter is Barbara Virginia, it suits her, we love it.

squoosh Tue 04-Dec-12 21:55:00

I think Lucy Barbara sounds lovely, a bit Chalet School.

And as sure as eggs are eggs Barbara will be an uber trendy name 20 years from now. Go for it!

mrstowers Tue 04-Dec-12 22:57:37

I don't actually like the name Barbara but I think the meaning behind you choosing the name is absolutely lovely and is reason enough for you to use it.

LadyWidmerpool Tue 04-Dec-12 23:03:34

My middle name is my gran's and it's a very plain name but I like being named after someone, so I say go for it. FWIW I like Barbara a lot more than some of the current it names.

PickledInAPearTree Tue 04-Dec-12 23:09:42

Fine middle name.. I think it's really nice to have one with a meaning rather than a common place one.

CocktailQueen Tue 04-Dec-12 23:10:50

It's my middle name - named after my gran, and for that I love it. Do it smile

pinkandyellowbutterfly Wed 05-Dec-12 20:56:18

Thanks for the positive feedback guysm its really kind of you :-)

Cwtchbach Thu 06-Dec-12 09:31:15

Can I just say that I hated my middle name growing up, it was very old ladyish and obscure, however I now love it and wish it were my first name (which I hate as it's a stupid 80s name). It has suddenly had a surge in popularity due to a character on Downtown Abbey. Similarly my friend hated her middle name being Ethel growing up but suddenly she is very trendy too smile

Which was a very round about way of saying that I would 100% use the name Barbara, some people may have misgivings now but it won't last.

AuntieShirley Thu 06-Dec-12 11:28:50

I love Barbara, and prefer Barbara Lucy to Lucy Barbara, but both are nice.
I also love Patricia Moel so many cute nn's. I put it to dh once, but he was having none of it!

Hedwig3 Thu 06-Dec-12 12:04:49

Another vote for Barbara Lucy! smile

Great name, I do like Lucy too though.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 06-Dec-12 12:10:31

No chance! Not Barbara for a first name shock

mathanxiety Thu 06-Dec-12 20:13:08

There is the Irish version Bairbre which is a little fancier perhaps?

I like it as a middle name with Lucy. Has a nice ring to it and it is lovely to honour your mum this way imo.

Lavenderhoney Thu 06-Dec-12 21:28:33

I love barbarasmile in fact I was thinking today if I ever have another baby dd, it's the name I would choosesmile and Lucy Barbara sounds nice too.

I know a couple of babs or barb, and they are lovely- generations apart too.

Dorothy is one of our family name and I like that as well, but not so much dot or dotty...

notanotter Thu 06-Dec-12 21:49:57

oh i LOVE it!!!!

pinkandyellowbutterfly Thu 06-Dec-12 22:50:09

Thanks for your kind words, its a bit daunting to sharea the name you're stressing deliberating over, its nice to hear good feedback :-)

Pancakeflipper Thu 06-Dec-12 22:54:26

I know a 6yr old Barbara. I was a bit " oh" when I first heard what her name was ( she was 4 weeks old when we first met).

She is lovely quirky kid and going to be a real individual. She is the only Barbara in her school and has the strength of personality to deal with the looks from adults when they hear her name. I am on Team Barbara.

pinkandyellowbutterfly Thu 06-Dec-12 22:57:07

lol pancakeflipper. Go 'team Barbara'!! I'm so glad the team is growing i was so nervous i'd be the only one!!

upstart68 Thu 06-Dec-12 23:09:44

The only Barbara I know is lovely but she has been called Barbie by some people when she's nothing like Barbie.

It does conjure up a sort of Deirdre Barlow image for me - but then I think your perception of a name changes as you get to know the person.

It is initially a bit surprising when you meet a baby Mavis or similar but once you've got used to it it's lovely and individual.

I think it's quite nice, now I've got used to it.

pinkandyellowbutterfly Fri 07-Dec-12 18:28:32

Ooh, I hadn't thought of Deidre Barlow - is her reaky name Barbara? or is she just a Barbara-ish person lol

upstart68 Fri 07-Dec-12 20:24:30

Just to me a Barbara-ish person. But probably not to anyone else.

I myself chose an incredibly boring name for my dc. Only because my dh wanted some ridiculous ones and it was the only compromise we could find.

So I do think different is good. All that matters is if you like it.

pinkandyellowbutterfly Sun 09-Dec-12 20:33:05

thanks, i'm still not a hundred per cent but then my child's not born yet, then again, it could be a boy!!

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