Did your surname influence your choice of name?

(35 Posts)
bankofengland Mon 26-Nov-12 22:12:17

we have just started looking at names and noticed that some go with our surname better than others. Some are difficult to say and some just sound just plain silly. It has automatically cut down the pool of names from which we can choose.

I think our choice will end up one which we like and works rather than one we love. Has anyone else had this? Did you have to make a practical choice rather going with the name of your dreams. Did you regret your choice?

pegster Mon 26-Nov-12 22:16:28

I couldn't use my favourite name (Elliott) because it is too similar to our surname (also 3 syllables beginning with E and ending in t). Was never an option so it was joked about but never made it to a short-list. DS is very much his chosen name now, I'm certainly not haunted by a baby Elliott that will never be grin

KatyAnn28 Mon 26-Nov-12 22:17:43

Yes, some names just sound silly with our surname. We tried to get around it by thinking about the name as a whole (including middle name) but the reality is that middle names are rarely used on a day to day basis.

My all time favourite girl name is an absolute no no because of my married name (the effect of the two together would be similar to Thomas Thomson!)

Katy x

ProPerformer Mon 26-Nov-12 22:18:32

Oh yes!! We have a last name that would sound just plain WRONG with some first names!!

KatyAnn28 Mon 26-Nov-12 22:18:45

Pegster, Elliot is our number one boys name for our first born son...we clearly have good taste wink

bankofengland Mon 26-Nov-12 22:33:03

Pegster and KatyAnn are you happy with your chosen names despite this? How did you make your final choice if you couldn't use your favs??

IAmSoFuckingRock Mon 26-Nov-12 22:37:21

yes. i wanted Ben for ds2 but EXp very rightly pointed out that along with my surname it sounded like a rude name. think phil mcCracken but for Ben.

KatyAnn28 Mon 26-Nov-12 22:39:35

bankofengland we haven't settled on another girl name yet so I can't answer that yet! We're really struggling to compromise on another sad

Hassled Mon 26-Nov-12 22:41:12

I think you have to think about surnames - need to watch the too many/too few syllables thing, need to think about whether you're happy with alliteration etc.

NotInMyDay Mon 26-Nov-12 22:42:19

Yes but more from an initials POV. Surname starts with Y so all K names were out. Also it's really easy to make a word with a Y surname so no Graeme Alistair Y or Catherine Rose Y.

No regrets about the names we have chosen.

SomersetONeil Mon 26-Nov-12 22:45:24

We have a DS and a DD and both names are family names, so our surname didn't determine the names per se.

However DD's name has three accepted pronunciations - the most common of which sounded wrong/repetitive with our surname, so we went with another pronounciation.

Our surname also ends with a Y which basically rules out names ending with a y/ie/ee sound. DS's nickname ends with a Y which is fine; but an actual 'ee' sounding first name and surname was just a bit too twee for me.

sausagesandwich34 Mon 26-Nov-12 22:45:49

surname starts with an M so any M first name were out

DD1 would have been Megan if we had gone with my surname, but she would have been 1 of 4 in her class if we had so quite glad really

DD2 came along and we realised it also excluded Emma which I was sad about because I've always like that name

bananaramma Mon 26-Nov-12 22:45:54

Yes, we have a short one syllable surname. We therefore chose 2 syllable first names that aren't normally shortened.

Snowflakepie Mon 26-Nov-12 22:58:04

Oh yes, anything starting with an H or with a strong oooo sound doesn't work here. Has caused issues with a possible boys name as the only one I really did like was Matthew, but it sounds ridiculous. Fingers crossed DC2 is a girl!

Rhubarbgarden Mon 26-Nov-12 23:06:46

Yes. A long complicated foreign surname meant that we had to choose short easily recognisable first names that would not require spelling or any questions about pronunciation - the poor blighters are going to spend their lives spelling out their surname as it is.

TeaDr1nker Mon 26-Nov-12 23:14:10

We could not have had any name beginning with D, or initials would have been a derogatory word. No I don't regret the name we chose, a bit sad as I love the name Devorah but we had to consider what if any word her initials would make.

Having said that she has a really long name, two middle names (as do I) and a double barrelled surname. I don't think it matters, we gave her her names because they mean something.

RarelyUnreasonable Tue 27-Nov-12 09:24:42

Not sure. A lot of names we liked were discounted for being too tricky to say or v alliterative. But the name we decided on for a girl was the worst culprit of all! Luckily dc2 is a boy.

meditrina Tue 27-Nov-12 09:30:14

Yes, we decided the DCs would have DH's mildly awkward surname and so there were a fair few we liked that we ruled out as clunky or risible. But that didn't bother me, as there are so many lovely names.

CheungFun Tue 27-Nov-12 09:35:19

We have a short one syllable surname, so definitely needed at least a two syllable first name otherwise it just sounded too snappy!

sleeplessinderbyshire Tue 27-Nov-12 09:35:40

Friend wanted to call her DD Isla but as her surname is Mann realised that wasn't wise. My surname is Jones which ruled out India for DD2 which made me very sad

TenthMuse Tue 27-Nov-12 09:44:59

Yes, ours is a very common one-syllable name. With an overly popular name it would sound incredibly dull, but with a very unusual name it risks sounding like a comic book hero/Bond girl (think 'Christmas Jones'!). Longer names also tend to flow better, but most of my favourites are on the short side!

Jojoba1986 Tue 27-Nov-12 09:57:30

Our surname sounds the same as the last syllable in lots of words so we spent most of the pregnancy joking about all the funny things we could call DS. Unfortunately, this included all of my favourite names that DH didn't hate. In the end DH had to choose the name because he just didn't look like any on our shortlist to me. He's now 13 months & I still look at him sometimes & wonder if it's really his name! I guess it's because I knew several people with the same name when I was young & it doesn't seem right that this little individual should have the same name as anyone else! hmm PFB syndrome strikes again!

IWipeArses Tue 27-Nov-12 10:16:31

I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with alliteration in names, there's a couple in DS class who have alliterative names and sound funky. It depends on the names.

Our surname begins with a vowel, which ruled out names ending in -a for DD, which was a shame as I really wanted to use Sarah.

hatsybatsy Tue 27-Nov-12 10:19:18

oh yes. we were all set to call dd Annabel and then realised that as we have a surname ending in "ell" this would sound pretty daft.....

we remain delighted with the name we chose though. Cannot imagine her being an Annabel now.

Our surname sounds stupid with alliteration especially as DH and I both had minor speech impediments which if our children had would have made it sound ridiculous. Other than that it wasn't too problematic for us.

weeblueberry Tue 27-Nov-12 11:07:33

Absolutely. Theo was one of my favourite boys names but bambino's last name begins with an O. sad

I love the name Molly but it would never have worked with my ex-husband's name.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 27-Nov-12 11:39:49

Anything beginning with B is out,they all sound stupid with a short surname beginning with B. Actually,anything with a B in it does.

forgetmenots Tue 27-Nov-12 12:28:12

I like alliterative names blush

MolotovCocktail Tue 27-Nov-12 12:59:48

I love the name Penelope, but couldn't use it for DD1 because our surname has 2 syllables and begins with P. It just sounds silly together (along the lines of 'p-p-p pick up a penguin', if anyone remembers that TV ad?)

Same for DD2: I adore the name Pearl, but it sounds daft with our surname. My youngest girl really suits Pearl; luckily, we chose a vintage/retro name for her so that suits her, too!

My married name presents fewer problems than my Danish maiden name, though!

Longdistance Tue 27-Nov-12 13:04:45

I love the name Grace. But our surname begins with a Gr.
And Grrr to my dh!

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 27-Nov-12 13:27:52

forgetmenots I like some of them too. Some do sound good together eg

Catherine Carter
Lawrence Lewis

None of the B names sound good with my DP's B surname. Except Benjamin,but that always gets shortened to Ben so wouldn't work either.

deleted203 Tue 27-Nov-12 13:31:21

Yep. My surname used to be 'White' and ex H was really keen on 'Lily' for our first daughter. All I could think of was that it sounded like a sanitary towel! (Or a Dulux paint chart). Definitely couldn't have chosen that.

exoticfruits Tue 27-Nov-12 13:40:10

I would have thought everyone had it, to some extent. You have to watch initials too.

Have a surname starting with A which rules out lots of pretty girls names that end in A e.g. love Natalia.
The surname also ends in EY so lots of other names are ruled out because they are too 'sing song'/rhymey e.g. love Poppy but just sounds wrong.

Wierdly though lots of boys names seem to suit - I think because they have more consonants and not as 'soft' sounding. Which makes me think for a girl its going to need to be some kind of strong sounding name with lots of consonants!

(At least I have 6 months to think about this though! DP found my lists on my phone and thought I was crazy that I'm already thinking about it!!!!)

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