Am I setting my daughter up for a lifetime of teasing?!

(94 Posts)
unsurealways Wed 03-Oct-12 11:19:54

Hello. Long time lurker, first time poster.
My first child is due imminently. I have a list of names that i'm taking to the hospital with me, and I love them all equally. I'm hoping that once she arrives she just 'IS' one of the names as that would make my life so much easier lol.

I'm a bit worried that my taste is a bit ... out there. I love all my names, and think they all suit what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be. But I wouldn't want her to be bullied for being to weird or poncy sounding.

So here's the list. I'm after honest opinions on whether these names sound weird, poncy etc. Which is nicest/most accessible and which you prefer.

Indigo Iris Bloom - Indie.
Lilith Emmanuella - Lily, but only Lilith at home.
Raphaela Marina - Raffie.
Sabine Allegra June - I love both sa-BEAN and sa-been-eh pronounciations, and am still unsure which I love the most.
Salome Willow - May.
Calliope Saoirse - Callie. (kal-eye-oh-pee / seer-sha)
Persephone Joy - Effie.

Mama1980 Wed 03-Oct-12 11:21:25

I literally love them all grin looking for names myself so thanks <<very unhelpful post sorry>>

nickeldaisical Wed 03-Oct-12 11:23:59

you don't have to come up with nicknames - you can use whatever version of a name you like.

If you're going to accept/ assume that nicknames will be her going name, then you might as well give her that name.

I personally would have a maximum of 2 given names, so Indigo Iris, Sabine Allegra. mainly because paperwork usually assumes max 2 given names.

I like all of the names on your list (and prefer "full" names rather than nn wink)

I love Effie as a nn for Persephone. The Persephone I knew was nn Percy!
I wouldn't use Sabine, because of the rape of the Sabine women, and I would steer away from Saoirse unless you are Irish.
Sylvie Allegra June would work (though am also a bit hmm about month names when the child isn't born in that month).

nickel I have a lot of names and have never come across limits on forms / paperwork.

Machadaynu Wed 03-Oct-12 11:29:04

I take it you live in the south, OP?

They all sound "weird, poncy" to these northern ears, gradually more so the further down the list I get.

Sorry - you did ask for honest. They're nice names, but up here they would sound a bit 'try hard' TBH.

KateSpade Wed 03-Oct-12 11:29:45

I really like Persephone but hate the others,

One of my daughters middle names is India, that I like, but indigo sounds silly to me. However, I have a silly name & I've never met a person who has said anything offensive, so go for what you love, I suppose?

FlouryWhiteBaps Wed 03-Oct-12 11:30:19

I'm afraid Effie puts me in mind of 'effing' - possibly not the effect you're after. Lily is very common now if that bothers you. Love SeventhEverything's suggestion of Sylvie.

Hmm, not a very helpful post really.

Gwennan Wed 03-Oct-12 11:36:49

Most of your choices are a little too unusual for me but I do like Raphaela and Salome. People will link Salome to the daughter of Herodias, which isn't a great association (!), but there's also the disciple Salome in the New Testament to whom you can refer any naysayers.

For similar, religious reasons, I would not use Lilith.

I thought Calliope was pronounced as ca-lee-oh-pee; perhaps others do too so be prepared for mispronunciations. Callie is a very wearable nickname. I might assume Greek parents with a name such as this. Persephone is also very nice but will probably be pronounced purse-phone by the uninitiated! I think that would get on my nerves.

In addition to the association mentioned above, Sabine reminds me of Sabine Dardenne - very sad - but also Sabine Lisicki. I think it's a nice choice. I may be tempted to anglicise it to Sabina if that is how you wish to pronounce it. I have a feeling it sounds better in non-English languages.

I think Indigo is a hard name to pull off.

In short, I'd probably go with Raphaela - gorgeous!

Tamoo Wed 03-Oct-12 11:38:07

They are mostly lovely smile althought I have reservations about Calliope (brings the word 'callipers' to mind). Indigo seems quite gender neutral and IMO not really a nice sounding word, in itself.

Agree with the poster above: in my experience nicknames evolve. My DS for example has several nicknames which are more to do with him as a character and an individual rather than being derivatives of his actual name. They just came up spontaneously.

DolomitesDonkey Wed 03-Oct-12 11:40:45

Are they poncey? Do you live on a scheme in Easterhouse or leafy Surrey?

Give up giving nicknames, they're not yours to give outside the house.

steppemum Wed 03-Oct-12 11:43:52

There are so many names out there now, that I think teasing is rare, unless there is an obvious current tv chararcter with the name

They are lovely and unusual. But be aware that you may spend a lot of time pronouncing and spelling some of them which gets a bit tiring! (especially Calliope)

jellyandcake Wed 03-Oct-12 11:45:25

I'm northern and teach in a Yorkshire high school - I don't think the names sound poncey or silly. I see more and more unusual names coming up every year and have never known anyone bullied for their name. I would, however, be careful with names from classical myths eg Calliope, Salome, Persephone, Sabine as on the whole, they have negative connotations and come from stories involving rape, abduction, incest, murder, bestiality etc (not specifically the names you have picked but names from Greek/Roman myths generally). Salome is a biblical story but again, very grim! That said, I think the names you have chosen sound very pretty and I imagine a little girl with any of them to be lovely. Good luck with the exciting times ahead!

mumofthemonsters808 Wed 03-Oct-12 11:47:01

Agree with Macha, in the North these names are unknown.Personally I dislike all of them but each to their own.

juneau Wed 03-Oct-12 11:56:33

Indigo as a girl's name? Not sure about that. India - yes.

I think it really depends what community you belong to - as others have said. If you mix with a wealthier, slightly Bohemian crowd, go for it. Those names will not be out of place at all. If you don't then I think you'll get a few raised eyebrows. My DS1 has a very plain vanilla name, but he's always known by his nickname, which isn't plain vanilla, and I get a few raised eyebrows. I couldn't give a sh*t, but how thick-skinned are you? Is it going to bother you?

juneau Wed 03-Oct-12 11:58:19

Oh, and what jellyandcake says about the meaning/significance of names. Do your research - some classical and/or biblical names have very unpleasant associations - not ones you'd want to saddle a little girl with.

Startailoforangeandgold Wed 03-Oct-12 11:58:35

First 4, without the Bloom or June, definitely 1 middle name only.

I was going to say 4,1,3,2, but Raffie's sweet.

I don't like Salome, I can't spell the last one or pronounce the other bottom one, sorry.

Ohhelpohnoitsa Wed 03-Oct-12 12:15:49

sabine. gorgeous. got to be sabine.

I love some of those, though they are quite fancy. Persephone Joy is my favourite. Joy is quite a simple little name, so if she wants to use her middle name when she's older, that would work well, too.

I would love you to call her 'indigo' simply because then you would literally have an 'indigo child' (name some people use for children who're badly behaved, or something?).

'Calliope Saoirse' doesn't work for me as a combination (unless, I guess, you're part of a Greek/Irish couple?), because the names sound so different.

Oh, and 'Iris' and 'Marina' are gorgeous names.

Bumpstart Wed 03-Oct-12 12:24:21

I live in the north and my dd has children with 3 of the names on your list in her class.

I don't think people can make generalisations about 'the north' like that.

Raphaella and indigo are my faves out of your list.

purplehouse Wed 03-Oct-12 12:24:40

Don't give more than one middle name. It's embarrassing, one of my friends was teased loads for this.

All your choices are quite strange if I am being blunt, personally I would call her Iris and choose another middle name.

Machadaynu Wed 03-Oct-12 12:27:11

Bumpstart do you live in Cheshire (North North London?) smile

Bumpstart Wed 03-Oct-12 12:28:23

Ha ha no. grinOk, it's the middle names we have in dd class... Allegra, willow and iris.

MothershipG Wed 03-Oct-12 12:29:00

I really like Lilith but couldn't bring myself to use it for DD because of the the demony/witchy connotations - in hind sight it would have suited her.... wink

You can't be prescriptive about NNs, so make sure that you like all of them eg if you choose Persephone and end up with a Percy.

I told every one my DS would be know as the second half of his name for short but somehow it didn't really suit him and he's always been the whole thing or first half.

Firawla Wed 03-Oct-12 12:29:50

Raphaela is lovely, go for that one!! I think all are fine though not particularly way too weird - just more on the unusual side, which is okay

OrangeFireandGoldashes Wed 03-Oct-12 12:30:39

Echo the comments about religious/mythical/cultural connotations. Lilith was a hebrew demon, Salome an icon of seductiveness (and invites DD being known as "Salami"). Emmanuella v similar to Emmanuelle, infamous 70s porn story protaganist.

Indigo Iris Bloom sounds like an instruction, Indigo Iris like a description. I don't dislike Indigo but potential to be misheard as Inigo and cause initial gender confusion on introductions.

Sabine is a bit meh. I always associate it with the German driver who used to be an occasional guest on Top Gear, but I appreciate that's probably just me. And to be fair, she is pretty cool grin

Persephone is okay but she will spend part of her life saying "no, it's per-seff-e-nee not percy-phone" and will almost certainly, despite your best efforts with 'Effie', be nicknamed "Percy" or "Perce" at some point.

Really dislike Marina and June. Hard brassy names IME. Joy a little better, but not much.

Raphaela and Allegra are the prettiest IMO. Raphaela Willow? Allegra Willow? Willow Allegra?

OrangeFireandGoldashes Wed 03-Oct-12 12:32:33

Oops, missed one out.

Calliope Saoirse. Just no.

suburbandream Wed 03-Oct-12 12:34:46

I love them all except Calliope, don't know why really it just doesn't sound nice to me. Lilith made me smile, I will always associate it with Frasier and Cheers grin. I love Raphaela, I know one although it is never shortened. Also I don't see any problem with having 3 names - mine have 3, and it certainly doesn't cause any problem with "paperwork". Can't imagine why on earth anyone would be teased for it either.

IsabelleRinging Wed 03-Oct-12 12:42:21

I don't really like any of them!

I like Sylvie which was suggested earlier in the thread.

I also know a little girl called Cecile, and think it is lovely nn Cissy.

Badgerina Wed 03-Oct-12 12:50:48

I like them all apart from Lilith. Don't like the bible character.

DorisIsWaiting Wed 03-Oct-12 12:56:07

For those saying you can't be prescriptive about nicknames, really you can.

DD was named one name but from 3 days old we told family and friends that was her 'grown-up / formal name' and her nickname was x. Everyone including her teachers have called her x . It is only this year at school (yr3) her teacher has called her the full name (largerly because he struggles with names and more often than not calls her z (and me z's mum!).

FreckledLeopard Wed 03-Oct-12 12:59:00

I adore some of the names on your list:

Raphaela Marina - my favourite

Indigo Iris Bloom - sounds a bit like a florist's shop

Lilith Emmanuella - don't like Lilith owing to religious connotations and there are SO many girls names 'Lily' around that she'd be one of thousands. I like Emmanuella though.

Sabine Allegra June - OK

Salome Willow - Very nice

Calliope Saoirse - You would be forever having people assume that you're Greek, as well as having to instruct on pronunciation.

Persephone Joy - Would most likely get called 'Persy' - it's a bit too 'rah' I think.

Are you going to be living somewhere fairly affluent with a number of Waitroses nearby? If so, names will be fine and no bullying likely!

imustbepatient Wed 03-Oct-12 12:59:00

All lovely names save that I'm not keen on calliope and indigo. The rest are great.

Two middle names isn't a problem, I know so many with two (myself, DH and other family and friends included). Really don't see it as a big deal at all these days.

Fairyloo Wed 03-Oct-12 13:02:49

People are awful op

The baby names forum is so bitchy. Jealously perhaps?

These names are unusual understated and lovely. I love them all

Ignore the cunts on here and go with your heart

My dd is Calista and is always known as Callie, unless she's naughty or just does something that makes you go "oooohhhhh Calista...". She'll most likely get other nicknames but she'll always be Callie with us.

Though like others say I'm often asked if dd's dad is Greek and have to spell her name a lot, and we thought it was quite straightforward!

Love Raphaella as a name.

Pourquoimoi Wed 03-Oct-12 13:11:13

A bit harsh Fairyloo shock, surely the OP has asked for opinions?

Personally, to be honest I'm not keen on any of them, but we all have different taste. (And no, I'm not northern grin)

The main concern has to be what goes with your surname, if you have a simple surname then you can be more inventive with the fornames. If however your surname is long and/or complicated I think you need to go for a more straightforward first name.

I would also go against picking something with tricky pronunciation as you will spend your life correcting it.

Not sure how May is a nickname for Salome? Unless it is pronounced Sa-lo-may??

ivanapoo Wed 03-Oct-12 13:11:14

Bit harsh Fairyloo - the OP asked for opinions. Or don't you agree with being honest?

I like Persephone best, agree Salome = salami.

Pourquoimoi Wed 03-Oct-12 13:11:50

Oo, Calista is nice though smile

ivanapoo Wed 03-Oct-12 13:11:55

Xpost with pourquoi!

Pourquoimoi Wed 03-Oct-12 13:12:39

Great minds ivanapoo!

MrsTomHardy Wed 03-Oct-12 13:14:35

Love Indigo Iris Bloom.....

BikeRunSki Wed 03-Oct-12 13:20:06

I have two middle names. It's fine, although I do sometimes run out of space on forms, but that's all. It is so fine, that both my DC have two middle names.

OP, your names are all a little elaborate to me, but that is simply my taste. I like Indigo Iris bloom best.

I agree that ncknames evolve with the person and may not be related to their first name, or any of their other names, at all. I know a "Lou" which cames from Loony Tunes, as he is such a giddy child, And a Stan, because someone thought he lookes like Oliver Hardy, but got Laurel and Hardy mixed up, and I've always been Fuzzy to school friends because of my Afro-esque hair.....

maillotjaune Wed 03-Oct-12 13:20:53

Like Raphaela - I wanted DS3 to be Raphael but DH didn't like it.

Not so sure about the rest, especially Lilith (don't you remember Frasier?). And even to my southern ears I fear the combination of more than one longish name in that list might sound a bit poncey but then I am a pleb and perhaps not the kind of person you'd mix with anywaywink

DontmindifIdo Wed 03-Oct-12 13:21:57

I really like Lilith, but different middle name.

MadBusLady Wed 03-Oct-12 13:23:07

They are maybe a bit poncier than average - it's whether you can make your mind up to not be self-conscious about that. Because then the child won't be either. I love Lilith and Raphaela from your first names, Emmanuella, Allegra and Willow from the middle names.

The only ones I'd avoid are Indigo (just sounds silly to me, not sure why), Sabine (sounds a bit medical somehow - is it saline I'm thinking of?) and Salome (bad association - but then other people have a bad association with Lilith). I'm also not keen on using Irish names unless you are Irish, though obviously there is a bit of a blurry line there.

pourquoimoi I thought that was how it was pronounced? Agree though, Sally is far more obvious than May as a nickname to me.

Viviennemary Wed 03-Oct-12 13:26:41

They're all nice names I think apart from Calliope. Haven't even heard that one. Whether or not I'd actually use these. If I lived in Primrose Hill and was an actress or media type I might. If not I wouldn't.

FunnysInLaJardin Wed 03-Oct-12 13:26:52

I like all of them. I am poncey. I also know an Effie who lives up north although not a nn for Persephone

ShabbyChit Wed 03-Oct-12 13:28:03

Just to throw my opinions in:

Indigo Iris Bloom - Indigo is ok, a bit too out there for me though! (Iris is lovely though)
Lilith Emmanuella - Love Lillith!
Raphaela Marina - Not sure
Sabine Allegra June - Love both of your pronounciations, and all 3 of these names go nicely together!
Salome Willow - May. sorry dont like but willow is nice
Calliope Saoirse - Callie sorry dont like
Persephone Joy - Effie.sorry dont like

the last 3, to me - look hard to pronounce and spell. I would personally struggle with those!

EugenesAxe Wed 03-Oct-12 13:31:07

I think all of them are OK TBH and not huge teasing material. I have a few thoughts about some:

Indigo - not sure about a child being a colour - I think India would be nicer.
Salome - lovely name, but she asked for John the Baptist's head on a plate, so that would put me off.
Lilith - Adam's first wife and according to Mrs Beaver one of the Jinn; White Witch overlap. Having said that Lily is ten a penny and it would be nice to have a change. It may just become topical when all the children started reading Narnia.

MadBusLady Wed 03-Oct-12 13:33:58

My favourite poncey names of the moment are Amaryllis and Athenais (with an umlaut on the i, can't work out the shortcut.)

So you're not that poncey. grin

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 03-Oct-12 13:36:23

The Indigo of Lillith ones... The others are a little odd. Not 'bad' odd though...

annasophia Wed 03-Oct-12 13:49:07

Love them all - my favourites are Raphaela and Persephone.

I'm least keen on Lily (too popular) / Lillith (not very feminine imo).

Why on earth would such names be teased? They're lovely, elegant names!

DessieLou Wed 03-Oct-12 14:03:26

Not so keen on Calliope as it sounds a bit ugly to me. Also don't really like Salome but love all the others. Good luck in making your choice. Kids tend not to have negative perceptions when it comes to names (adults are the judgmental ones, and who cares what they think!) so I wouldn't worry too much about bullying. smile

LemonBreeland Wed 03-Oct-12 14:08:07

I like them all apart from Salome and Lilith. Only like Sabean, not sabina.

RosannaBanana Wed 03-Oct-12 14:19:12

I like them. Maybe it would be helpful to look into their meanings/stories and see if one or two particularly appeals (if you haven't done that already).

FWIW Salome is a very negative character in the Bible - hence the name remaining largely unused. Persephone means 'destruction'. Lilith is a demon. Raphael is an angel of healing so Raphaela has a nice meaning/association. Etc! You might not care about meanings etc but if you do...

Also I agree that she will probably look more like some names than others. Good luck and congrats!

LuellaLovesLavender Wed 03-Oct-12 14:41:12

Oh my gosh you have fabulous's so hard to choose! I don't think she would have any teasing problems if anything her classmates would be jealous! The only one I really dislike would be Raphaela! And would suggest changing Indigo to India! If I was to make my own combination out of your list I would go for Persephone Iris......just beautiful!

Stateofplay Wed 03-Oct-12 14:59:50

I like Sabine best. Calliope sounds a bit like a medical instrument, I think. I also like Allegra and Saoirse as possible first names.

To be honest, I don't really pay much attention to middle names - in my book they're for continuing family traditions and honouring family members/friends. But that's just me!

unsurealways Wed 03-Oct-12 17:53:49

Thanks for all the replies, it's really been very helpful.

For whoever has mentioned it, I am aware of the dark backstories of some of these names, just so you know. I just don't really care. If a name is beautiful I like it, regardless of whoever has worn it first.

I'm not down south. I live in a working town in between Manchester and Liverpool. I'm not posh or rich or middle class either. I was raised on an estate - this has been mentioned in previous posts, So I just thought i'd fill you all in on the details and see if it made a difference in your opinions of the names. I no longer live on the estate, but I do still live in the same town and have family and friends still on the estates.

The nicknames aren't me trying to prescribe nicknames either. They'd be my preferred nicknames, for family use, but I realise I influence what anybody else uses.

Anyway, as I said, thank you very much for all the input. I appreciate the help and you've definitely given me food for thought. Maybe now that you know my circumstances you'll understand why I asked about the names sounding weird. I don't live in a bohemian place, or have bohemian friends. But I am pretty 'hippy' myself.

unsurealways Wed 03-Oct-12 18:18:44

*don't influence, that should read sorry.

kerala Wed 03-Oct-12 18:41:01

Last 2 tip into abit too out there for me like the others except Lily. There are LOADS of Lilys its become quite run of the mill so if this bothers you would avoid any name that will end up with Lily as a nickname. Also second the 2 middle names - we did this with DD1 and have regretted it have quietly dropped one of the middle names as it didnt fit on forms and frankly middle names are pretty pointless anyway there is no upside to having two.

vamosbebe Wed 03-Oct-12 21:15:12

Does anyone actually get teased for their name? I've never come across that in my short 37 years - and my older sister has a humdinger!!

Size, height, hair colour, glasses, accent, "your daddy's not in the 'right' military service(ie he's not a marine!), lack of coordination, shyness...... lots of these I've had or been witness to with teasing, but nothing to do with names!

TaperJeanGirl Wed 03-Oct-12 21:49:35

I think we have similar tastes, I have used 2 names from your list for dd3, and another of your names was very nearly my dd2s name, I live in poncetastic shoreditch, nobody has ever openly teased any of my kids for their names that I know of, and tbh I know kids with far more unusual names, from your list I LOVE Raphaela Marina, Raffie is so sweet smile

LoveYouForeverMyBaby Wed 03-Oct-12 21:54:29

Indigo is the only name I like. Sorry. Find the rest a bit too try hard and terribly terribly.

TheBuskersDog Wed 03-Oct-12 22:18:05

Indigo sounds like a boy's name to me, probably because it sounds like Inigo. Sorry I can't understand why if you want to call your daughter May you wouldn't register her as May, rather than Salome.
I think Iris and Willow are pretty names, but as another poster said some of the names do sound a bit 'try hard'.

cory Wed 03-Oct-12 22:20:20

the expression 'an Indigo child' is used by certain types of parents of a child that is considered so special and "spiritually mature" that it cannot be bound by the rules that apply to other children (=what the rest of us define as a spoilt brat). So I would never use that as a name, for fear of the other parents thinking that's what I'm trying to say.

Hulababy Wed 03-Oct-12 22:20:23

My favourite is Personphone with nn effie. Lovely

Hulababy Wed 03-Oct-12 22:26:33

I'm up north in Yorkshire too and hey don't sound too out there to me.

Lots of people will know Persephone I reckon. Was a character on Holby City with he name in too long ago too, although nn was penny. Much prefer Effie though

PoppyAmex Wed 03-Oct-12 22:28:25

These names are unusual understated and lovely. I love them all. Ignore the cunts on here and go with your heart

Understated, really? grin

OP, I think some of the names are nice individually - the combinations are just a little bit "try hard". Having said that, she'll probably only use the first name anyway.

lotsofcheese Wed 03-Oct-12 22:31:45

Mmmmm... Sorry to say that I find most of the names a little contrived

TempusFuckit Wed 03-Oct-12 22:31:49

I like Persephone, but having had a cat called that, I can tell you her name will most commonly be mistaken for Stephanie. Not that that really matters.

Heebiejeebie Wed 03-Oct-12 22:43:38

I don't get chosing the 'a first name, b second name' combination unless you're into numerology or similar. It's an in-your-head daydreamy thing, a bit like practising your new signature for when you get married to the cool boy in the lower VI. The words will rarely be said together. Why not pick the name that you like best, which will be used a billion times and then a middle name that means something or goes, which will be on her passport and precious little else.

lljkk Wed 03-Oct-12 22:49:28

They aren't my taste but they are fine & won't particularly attract teasing.

I thought you were going to suggest something like "Melon" or "Toiletta"!

LizLemon007 Wed 03-Oct-12 23:18:57

Sabine Allegra June is the only one that grabs me. Some of the others, eeeooow. I dislike Saoirse tbh. And mixed in with your list it's so out of place.

nickeldaisical Thu 04-Oct-12 10:58:09

i disagree, Heebie
i like to say my name with the middle name too

shoppingtrolley Thu 04-Oct-12 11:01:26

Yes, you are. Just give her one long name, a sensible middle name and your surname. Raphaele is lovely -- I met a woman called this and she wore it well.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Thu 04-Oct-12 11:03:16

i know you're aware of the background, but really? the rape of the sabine women? salome? a child given by her mother to be fucked in exchange for continued power? yuck. if you passed either of those two along would think you were a bit weird tbh, not your child.

TittyWhistles Thu 04-Oct-12 11:04:05

Love Salome. Love Lilith.

I'm not helping but my favourite poncey names for girls are Callista (with emphasis on 'Cal') and Phaedre.

shoppingtrolley Thu 04-Oct-12 11:08:16

But Lilith Emanuella is a disaster! After she's coped with the cultural baggage of biblical Lilith she has to cope with all the suggestions of French softcore porn!

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Thu 04-Oct-12 11:09:15

(not to mention Dr Frasier Crane's ex... wink)

JustFabulous Thu 04-Oct-12 11:10:02

"what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be."

I think you need to wipe that from your mind as children are their own personalities and you might be in for a shock.

Having spent all my single life having to spell my first name, and now my married life spelling my surname, I would say please think about giving your child a name that the majority of the world can pronounce and spell.

nickeldaisical Thu 04-Oct-12 12:05:50

Indigo is a colour in the rainbow.

there is nothing negative about it!

It's like Violet

nickeldaisical Thu 04-Oct-12 12:07:37

of the list I like best :

Allegra Willow
Calliope Saoirse
Persephone Joy

Persephone i think is the best, though.

telsa Thu 04-Oct-12 13:40:28

Love Sabine - both pronunciations. Salome is neat too, as is Perspehone. What about Antigone, in that vein.

sparkle12mar08 Thu 04-Oct-12 14:20:49

Honestly? I think they're all bloody awful with the sole exception of Sabine. They are wierd, they are poncy sounding, and yes, they are ripe for teasing especially given the details of your location in later posts. But it's not us that have to decide, it's you, and if there's one thing I've learnt over the years, it's to trust my own judgement smile And despite the response here, few people are so breathtakingly rude as to say to your face in real life, any of what we've said here, especially if you just announce her name after she's born. You might get a few "That's... interesting"s but if you love it, that won't matter.

mintymellons Thu 04-Oct-12 14:24:02

Love Persephone (nn Percy) and Indigo. Like all others except Lilith. Go for it. I love unusual names!

HappyJoyful Thu 04-Oct-12 14:28:04

Saorise... meaning freedom, also Sinn Fein monthly publication which put friend of mine off.

OwlBabies Thu 04-Oct-12 14:38:51

Just on the abbreviation/nickname thing: I don't understand why some people are saying that you can't choose what your child's name is shortened to. My DD1 (now 9) is almost always called by the shortened version of her first name - we chose what we wanted to shorten it to, and how we wanted to spell it, and that's what we introduced her to everyone as when she was born. No-one's ever tried to call her anything else (even though there are other possibilities). So I think you'd be absolutely fine to say her name is Persephone (say), "but we call her Effie". And when she gets older she can choose whether she wants to introduce herself with the full name or the abbreviation. (My DD always goes with the abbreviation.)

ditzydrawers Thu 04-Oct-12 15:32:56

I know a baby Indigo. Gorgeous. Wouldn't associate it with anything negative.

TittyWhistles Thu 04-Oct-12 15:44:11

I actually think poncey names sound better in small communities, deepest darkest northern locations.

Where I grew up in yorkshire there was an Emerald, a Cordelia, a Zinnia a Hermione and a few Annabells, plus loads more (and that was just the boys grin)

They sound a bit desperate in Home Counties and Fancy London.

About Salome - my DD1, who was named after Queen Salome Alexandra, has never had any problems of teasing or real issues with her name (though you should be aware there are multiple ways to pronounce it. The English way is typically Sah-loh-may, but as it originates from the Hebrew word Shalom so some pronounce it like Shalom without the h).

The only real issue we've had tend to come from adults wanting to short it (which she will have nothing to do with, she loves her name). I've only had one person mention the other more notorious Salome (my DM), and I simply told her about DD1's her real namesake and the fact that that character is never given any name to her in the Christian texts but by Josephus (who was paid by the Romans to discredit the former monarchy and an often disreputable source) and has been used happily by many for centuries regardless with it's lovely meaning.

LizLemon007 Thu 04-Oct-12 16:45:52

I picked up on the 'what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be like' comment as well.

My ten year old is fearless, and I am cautious. We're both sociable but she's a little bit friendly with loads of people, I have always had a few close friends. She doesn't like the things I like. She's argumentitive, always challenging me, always negotiating. I never thought she would grow up to be like this!
Also, as she is mixed race (1/4) I never thought she would have fair hair and blue eyes. You just can NOT tell what your daughter will grow up to be like. And your comment reminds me that I was going to give my dd a name that meant dark. I thought about spanish names or greek names as I thought those would suit her, and I dismissed names like Greta and Kirsten.

DidYouSmashHerShireHorses Thu 04-Oct-12 19:47:26

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