Help me fall in love again with Amelie

(89 Posts)
RaeOfLight Tue 28-Aug-12 19:29:03

We called our daughter Amelie and at the time I loved it. It was also the only name my husband liked so I really didn't give it enough thought.

Now 2 and a half years later I loathe it :-( Mostly because of the things I have read on here (why oh why didn't I discover this place beforehand?!!)

So PLEASE can you post some things to help me like it again? (please only post nice things tho - am sure this is total misuse of this board but I can't change her name now so need to find the love for it again!!)

Thank you!!

dimplebum Tue 28-Aug-12 19:34:01

I love it, it was on our baby name list but we had 2 DSs!

Sastra Tue 28-Aug-12 19:35:04

My advice would be to watch the film again!

chocoluvva Tue 28-Aug-12 19:38:25

Well, I've not read what other posters have written about your daughter's name but I think it's absolutely beautiful.
I like the sound of it - warm and soft.
Also, it will be easy for her to pronounce.
I don't think it has any religious connotations.
It doesn't rhyme with anything silly or rude (except maybe 'jammily' !)

Geordieminx Tue 28-Aug-12 19:40:10

What's wrong with it?confused

I think it's lovely

BikeRunSki Tue 28-Aug-12 19:41:08

I know a very sweet, kind, pretty French Amelie, so I have very good vibes about it.

quietlysuggests Tue 28-Aug-12 19:45:33

you know how if you say any word over and over it sounds stupid and not like an actual word?
tortoise, tortoise, tortoise etc etc
maybe thats happened to you?
if she is 2 1/2 then do you spend all day saying Amelie NO, Amelie put that down, Amelie come here etc etc

Why not take a break from it?
Call her darling, baby, deary, whatever pet name you use locally and dont use her name for a week and then start again.
Then maybe your ear will have retuned and you will hear it as the beautiful name it is!

newby2 Tue 28-Aug-12 19:59:05

A sophisticated name and one of my FAVE films. I think it's pretty.

tigersteatime Tue 28-Aug-12 19:59:37

Agree about watchind the film again-the character is so quirky. My dd is an Amelie, I think it is such a pretty name so feminine. It looks lovely when written down, easy to spell for when your dd learns to write. It is still quite unusual in some areas of the UK. I haven't read any of the posts on here that have put you off, but there are plenty of things written on Mumsnet that I totally disagree with.

tigersteatime Tue 28-Aug-12 20:00:10

watching

RaeOfLight Tue 28-Aug-12 21:09:42

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply - it really is helping.

Chocoluvva - I am LOVING the word Jammily :-) I may use it as a nn!

Quietly - I think you may be on to something there. I say her name roughly 1500 times a day and each time I hate it even more.

Tigers, do you have a nn for your Amelie?

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay Tue 28-Aug-12 21:15:14

I have heard vile things said about both my daughter's names. You cannot please everyone. Discount that.

Amelie is lovely. The only thing against it in my view is the increasing popularity, but then that is a really rubbish reason to dislike a name. It's a pretty name, but not too twee. I can see it on a little girl and an adult equally.

You could nickname her Melly at home to cut down the 1500 repetitions?

PedallingSquares Tue 28-Aug-12 21:23:32

I think it's a lovely name.
What is it that you have read that puts you off?

SilkieChicken Tue 28-Aug-12 21:28:26

VV lovely! Also really like Melly as a nn.

wildspinning Tue 28-Aug-12 21:33:53

For the sake of your mental health and your relationship with your daughter's (beautiful) name, step away from the Baby Names topic on Mumsnet! I went through a phase of reading about my son's name on here with a sinking heart (it's also a popular but lovely name) before realising that the opinions of anonymous people on a computer screen mattered not one jot. I decided not to read the Baby Names section for many months and over time the feelings of love I have for my son's name have come back. Today is the first time I have come on here in months and I can now do it without that sick feeling in my stomach!

I am sure the OP knows where I am coming from, even if other posters think I am a little OTT smile

OP - your daughter has a beautiful, feminine, lovely name. There are absolutely tonnes of Nicolas, Sarahs, Katies, Julies, Pamelas, Evies, Lorraines, Sallys etc out there but the names they have makes no difference to their personalities or characters. In the same way, your Amelie shares her beautiful name with many other little girls, but that does not make her any less special, gorgeous or precious.

Enjoy your beautiful little girl and step away from this board for a while to give yourself time to treasure her name once again!!

RaeOfLight Tue 28-Aug-12 21:38:18

I have read that it's "chavvy", too try hard, absurd to use it unless you're French, ridiculously popular (but it's about 50 on the list on ONS) to name but a few.

Also, very occasionally people pronounce it "Amma-lee" which for some reason gets massively on my nerves.

Love Melly but one of my best friends is Melanie so would that be a bit odd?

SilkieChicken Tue 28-Aug-12 21:45:28

My DD is Tabitha - either loved or completely slaughtered on here.

It's not chavvy and no it wouldn't be odd. (correct people!)

RaeOfLight Tue 28-Aug-12 21:49:02

Wildspinning- yes I totally get you. It makes me sad to read what some people think yet I have no idea why!! I'm glad it is possible to learn to love a name again and glad you succeeded.

I think I keep coming back on here to see what else I could have called her and I see so many lovely names and I feel worse!! So I do a search on her name just to find one or two positive things that people say and rarely find any!! Hence starting this thread.

Oh it really is a beautiful name, very pretty!

RaeOfLight Tue 28-Aug-12 21:59:15

Thanks again for more responses. And I really like Tabitha!! (another name to add to the "should have picked that instead" list!)

savoycabbage Tue 28-Aug-12 22:04:33

I have a friend called Amelie. She is lovely and beautiful and effortlessly stylish. I have always seen her name as a part of that.

My dh railroaded me into dd2's name. I don't love it but she has plenty of nicknames.

elah11 Tue 28-Aug-12 22:05:31

I think its a beautiful name but how are you meant to pronounce it? I always thought it was Amma-lee, like Emily but with an A? Is that not right?

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay Tue 28-Aug-12 22:07:35

Oh Rae. I have seen people say my daughter's name is clunky, ugly and old-fashioned. You have to ignore it. Would you trust every MNers view on fashion, or food, or anything else. You have to remember that names are taste just like everything else.

Also remember that people are commenting in a vaccuum on here. They are effectively commenting on a word. They are not commenting on your daughter. Think about how often you actually think about someone's name when you meet them - fairly rarely, and usually in passing. Now think about how often you think about someone's name when you know and love them - never, unless you particularly love the name. They are judging the name like they would to a link to skinny cords, not her or you.

Also, to make yourself feel better, take a look at some of the names MN thread seem to like. Reading through many of those and realising I don't like them reminds me that I don't trust everyone on here's judgement automatically grin.

Chubfuddler Tue 28-Aug-12 22:10:17

Who cares what we think? My dd is called another mn hated name - Sophia. Do I give a fuck? Nope. She was nearly Isabella which is apparently completely beyond the pale. So what.

Amelie is lovely and even if I didn't think it was lovely, you did. Have more courage of your convictions.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Tue 28-Aug-12 22:13:04

Oh it's a lovely name, every bloody name gets called chavvy in here!

I think it's really nice, you can also use Millie?

My friend wanted Amelie nn Millie but someone got in first. (with Millie)

And first what it's worth I don't know any if them or seen any in baby groups etc.

HaggisMcNeeps Tue 28-Aug-12 22:13:17

It's a beautiful, graceful adult name ( how many babies get saddled with cutesy little girly names?)
I love it and I bet you can't imagine your dd being anything else.
FWIW I went through name regret with both my DC for quite a while around the age of 2 and as a PP said its probably because you are saying her name a million times a day.

Chubfuddler Tue 28-Aug-12 22:13:20

And to compound my crime her middle name is grace. Woe is me.

PooPooOnMars Tue 28-Aug-12 22:14:12

Its a lovely name!

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Tue 28-Aug-12 22:15:15

Love sophia love grace. Some names are popular for a reason.

Mumsnet likes mc names that are not in the top 100.

That's all!

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay Tue 28-Aug-12 22:16:06

One of mine has Rose Chubfuddler - I may be strung up.

Chubfuddler Tue 28-Aug-12 22:17:26

It gets worse. Ds is called George.

AmandinePoulain Tue 28-Aug-12 22:18:03

I've got an Amelie, and I can't imagine dd with any other name. I've never seen anything negative on here (but then I've never done a search as she was 1 when I joined and therefore already named!) and in rl I get told it's a pretty name all the time. I think it's feminine, and popular enough to be 'known' but not too popular if that makes sense? We pronounce it 'Amm-eh-lee', dh is French and says it slightly differently if he's speaking French to when he says it in English, more like 'Amm-ay-lee'. I shorten it to Melie sometimes.

And yes, I also feel like all I say is 'Amelie, no!', but I think that'd happen with any name 5 weeks into the holidays! grin

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay Tue 28-Aug-12 22:18:27

Good God woman, have you no shame? grin

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay Tue 28-Aug-12 22:18:55

Sorry, that was to Chubfuddler, not Amandine!

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Tue 28-Aug-12 22:20:02

I like rose and George! All lovely names. Lovely classic timeless names IMO.

AmandinePoulain Tue 28-Aug-12 22:20:25

Well dd2's middle name is Grace so obviously I don't! grin (Her first name isn't in the top 100 though wink)

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Tue 28-Aug-12 22:21:25

I can't even think of names outside top 100!

Minstrelsaremarvellous Tue 28-Aug-12 22:30:39

It's a beautiful elegant name and one that will stand her in good stead in years to come. You named her well! Remember that moment you first met her and she was "Amelie"...... That precious moment?
I've got a Tabitha too and I don't give a flying fuck what others think. She's my gorgeous, darling baby and I think her name suits her.
Wear your childrens' names with pride!

Newtothisstuff Tue 28-Aug-12 22:38:31

I think it's a lovely name... Very pretty !! DD1 has a cutesy name and it suits her (even tho she's a monster) but I'm having the same problem with DD1 who is 15 weeks, we gave her a normal name but my Dh messed with the spelling (even tho I told him mn would flame him haha) I absolute hate it, it doesn't suit her it's far too harsh and I wish to god he hadnt done it, not to mention the fact she will hate us for it when she gets older hahaha I think Millie would be lovely for your DD's nick name then she's got 2 lovely names to choose from when she can make her own mind up grin

fioled Tue 28-Aug-12 23:21:24

I've just added Amelie to our future baby names list after reading this thread.

I think it is really pretty.

KenDoddsDadsDog Wed 29-Aug-12 06:56:08

I liked my own name til I read MN babynames. Apparently I'm an uber chav and not simply someone with a Norwegian spelling of their name <flounce>
Amelie is a gorgeous name.

emmyloo2 Wed 29-Aug-12 07:14:13

Chubfuddler - I have a George and it's fabulous! I haven't read anything negative about George on these boards though...but probably wouldn't care if I did!

RaeOfLight Wed 29-Aug-12 09:13:25

Thank you all once again - it honestly is making me feel much better... I know I shouldn't care but sadly I am one of those people that do. It was met with "oh" when I told my family and that started the doubts.

YoullLaugh - you are absolutely right. I NEVER think about anyone else's name they just are "name". Very good point.

Sophia, Rose, Isabella & Grace are all beautiful names - and again prefer them to Amelie now. Why do people not like them??

And what's wrong with George??!!

Minstrels - "Remember that moment you first met her and she was "Amelie"...... That precious moment?" Yes I do - thank you... I need to get the magic back!

I do really like Millie to but my above mentioned friend Melanie has a Millie (born later than Amelie) and I know of about 5 in the playgroup we go to... see - I'm still trying to pick something "different"... what the hell's the matter with me???!!

LouMacca Wed 29-Aug-12 09:29:31

Oh I think Amelie is absolutely lovely - very classy and certainly not chavvy!!

Badgerina Wed 29-Aug-12 09:32:30

I love the name Amelie! It's gorgeous. You could use the nickname Mimi? It's very French sounding too smile

JodieHarsh Wed 29-Aug-12 09:36:27

My niece is called Amelie, and she is one of the sweetest, most loving, funny, warm, adorable, blue-eyed little darlings you ever did see. I wasn't sure about the name at first (because I am a triffic snob and thought naming a child after a film was a bit orf grin) but I love the name now.

How can you hate your own child's name? confused Don't you just associate it with your lovely daughter?

Anyway. It's lovely and you're being a daftie. So there.

oreocrumbs Wed 29-Aug-12 09:45:39

I love Amelie, and if there is a DD2 she will be Amelie.

I also love Sophia, Grace et al. Mind you I do have a Freya Rose so I can line up to be shot down with the others grin.

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay Wed 29-Aug-12 10:18:09

Rae - Have a search of the name threads if you don't know what is 'wrong' with Rose and Grace. You will see that they attract pretty intense venom from some quarters as middle names. Apparently they are far too common and show no imagination and are meh and bland. They are the Louise and Jane of their generation as middle names (which they are - every second girl has them, but for good reason. They are gorgeous and go with lots of names).

George, Isabella and Sophia are all knocked for being too common, will date badly, showing no imagination, blah blah.

See how bonkers that all sounds? The negatives on Amelie are just as bonkers, you just can't see it. grin.

When I told DM Dd1's name, she said. "What?.... Oh?'. She had had a dream that I called her Emily Jane and was most confused it hadn't come true confused. She loves it now though. Don't place too much weight on first reactions.

tigersteatime Wed 29-Aug-12 11:12:13

Rae have just tried to look on Mumsnet history for threads hating the name Amelie, most threads hate most other names too. The only one that I kind of agree with is that saying Amelie in a strong Scottish accent doesn't sound nice. I am not Scottish so not affected by that. We don't use any nicknames for Amelie, maybe Amm occasionally. We pronounce her name Amm-eh-lie. I know the French pronounce it differently, we didn't put an accent on her name. I think Mellie would work as a nickname for your dd. Hope it grows on you again.

MrsJohnDeere Wed 29-Aug-12 11:14:07

Despite its apparent popularity, I only know one Amelie and she is one of the loveliest, sweetest children I've met.

Fab film too.

Thingymajigs Wed 29-Aug-12 11:42:48

I love it. smile Added to my baby names list.

I think I might add it to my baby name list too

Abra1d Wed 29-Aug-12 12:01:23

It's a very pretty name. I love it.

mummabug Wed 29-Aug-12 12:03:39

My 3 yo DD is Amelie. I think its gorgeous and can't imagine another name for her. For the first six months I wasn't sure (we had such trouble finding a girls name we liked at all) but now I love it!

WHATEVER NAME YOU CHOOSE some stranger on a baby name forum will hate it for one reason or another. Who cares? If they knew your daughter they would soon change their opinion. How many people on here say "i know a little girl called ...... and she's so sweet...i love that name now".

I live on the coast in the south west, I've never met any other children with her name, let alone 'chavs'. It's beautiful.

Viviennemary Wed 29-Aug-12 12:07:52

Has she got a middle name you could use for a while. But there is nothing wrong with the name Amelie. Sometimes I think I wish I called DD a more unusual name rather than a boring everyday one. But she says she is happy with the boring name! What about Amy for short.

RaeOfLight Wed 29-Aug-12 12:36:03

Wow this is all very encouraging - thank you for replying.

LOVE the nn Mimi - how can I make it stick??!!!! And I love being called a daftie. :-) It's not very insulting and it made me smile... And you're probably right!

Tigers we pronounce it the same as you. No accent either. Upthread when I said some people say "Amma-Lee" I kind of meant that people say it as 2 names. A bit like saying Emma-Lee instead of Emily... Just to explain myself a better to Elah

And yes - she does have a middle name but as mentioned above thats one of the "too common, no imagination" types ;-)

JodieHarsh Wed 29-Aug-12 12:43:49

smile I love being called a daftie too. It makes me feel like the person saying is Mrs Doubtfire and is shaking his/her head with a wry but kindly smile!

Incidentally my middle name is Grace, and if I am ever lucky enough to have a little girl it will be her middle name too. And I have my faults, but no-one has ever accused me of being common, or lacking in imagination, so they can actually suck my dick.

PedallingSquares Wed 29-Aug-12 12:49:13

I think this need to find a name that is different is all a bit strange really.

I find unusual names all sort of jumble together in my head in a muddle labelled 'unusual names' and I can't remember them at all which I don't think what the parents had in mind.

But maybe that's just me.

Amelie on the other hand is gorgeous.

PedallingSquares Wed 29-Aug-12 12:52:24

I'd just start calling her Mimi if you love it. Will your DH use it too?

RaeOfLight Wed 29-Aug-12 12:57:33

:-D Jodie !! I did actually "LOL" at that!!

RaeOfLight Wed 29-Aug-12 13:02:06

He might Pedalling ... Although he loves her name - this is all his fault after all!

winkle2 Thu 30-Aug-12 11:01:27

I totally agree with wildspinning.

FWIW I think it's a beautiful name and is number one on my list, with the nickname Mimi smile

winkle2 Thu 30-Aug-12 11:02:51

Also FWIW (again!) I hate the names most MNers love, like Beatrice, etc - so old fashioned!

LOVE AMELIE!

NoComet Thu 30-Aug-12 11:14:58

It's a beautiful name, it is as others have said, 2.5 that's the problem.

At that age DD1 climbed, fiddled with every non toy item in the entire world and ran off constantly. Her name got completely worn out and it doesn't have an obvious NN.

Yika Thu 30-Aug-12 11:30:27

Mimi is lovely as a nn, also like Amy as suggested by Viviennemary. You could call her Amelie-Mimi till she gets used the nickname, then just use one or the other as the mood strikes you!

RaeOfLight Thu 30-Aug-12 16:25:24

Thats a good idea Yika to get her used to it...

Thanks again for the positive comments - I am definitely liking it more over the last few days.

It's s beautiful name!!!! Love it love it love it smile

squoosh Thu 30-Aug-12 16:47:52

I find it really odd that nearly three years after you named your daughter you could go learn to 'loathe' her name. And all down to anonymous internet opinions. To be honest I'd find your reaction odd even if the negative opinions were from people you knew in real life. Surely the name becomes irrelevant once her personality starts to develop and from then on she just is her name?

Without wanting to be rude, get a grip!

CharlieCoCo Thu 30-Aug-12 18:25:10

what about Mila for a nn? i would have an Amelie and would either nn her Millie or Mila (Meela not miller). i know its a little far fetched but my name starts with a corn and nn starts with a con so its not toally out there.
Possibly Amy, but thats just changing her name really lol.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 30-Aug-12 20:58:44

Lovely name! How about Milly for a nickname.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Thu 30-Aug-12 20:59:11

squoosh I think it's a human reaction.

RaeOfLight Fri 31-Aug-12 18:40:57

Really like Mila too. It's definitely partly down to overuse. Had a trying day today & it only started to bother me again at about 3pm. Thank you for all the lovely comments and reassurances.

mumsywoo78 Fri 28-Dec-12 18:12:42

im having the exact same feelings about my sons name hes only 3mnths old but i cant even bring myself to use his name &just call him the baby. i think it was negative comments which set me off too or maybe PND. i really want to love his name again (its noah by the way) i suffer really bad anxiety over it. how do u feel about your daughters names these few mnths on? have u fell in love with amelie again? its a lovely name by the way

TheCatInTheHairnet Fri 28-Dec-12 18:23:20

Amelie is a lovely name!

Hey, things could be worse. My daughter has a name that was very uncommon 10 years ago and is now in the top 15. And to top it off, with her middle name, there is now a porn star with the same name!! FFS!! confused

But I still really love her name. It suits her.

strumpetpumpkin Fri 28-Dec-12 18:30:31

its a beautiful name

GW297 Fri 28-Dec-12 18:36:34

I love the name Amelie!

Huppopapa Fri 28-Dec-12 18:55:49

Well you can't blame people in England for pronouncing a name après le façon anglais: I dare say you'd look askance if a friend said in all seriousness that she was going for a weekend to Paree! You have got to get past that, and when you do you will hear it is a good name. It's not so girly as to be wet and as with all pretty names for girls, it holds the potential for her as an adult to be underestimated and then to be kick-ass tough when required! Go Amelie!!

I may not apply, but if you had a reason for choosing it in the first place (beyond it sounding nice) oresumably that still holds good?

pinkandyellowbutterfly Sat 29-Dec-12 02:36:18

Naming a child is a huge responsibility and its its not just their name, its a name you've given them and as human beings we can sometimes be really hard on ourselves for the decisions we make. Amelie is a lovely, sensible, strong name which could take her wherever she wants to go in her life. Have more confidence in yourself and trust yourself more! Congratulations on your beautiful healthy toddler :-)

echidnakid Sat 29-Dec-12 11:45:40

I think Amelie is a very sweet name and agree re learning not to give a stuff what random Internet types - or indeed real life family & friends - think. They can name their own kids!

In my experience there are always people on forums just itching to vent their spleen. You could post you were worried a name was too popular and I guarantee someone would go way over the top saying they know eleventy billion kids called that or you could ask what someone thinks of the name Ananta and get slated for being a pretentious knobber or a chav - until they find out you have Indian heritage and then it's okay! You can't win.

Opinions are great but they are just opinions, not facts.

Graceparkhill Sat 29-Dec-12 11:49:00

It's a beautiful name and I think you chose well.

justhayley Sun 30-Dec-12 23:36:01

I LOVE it. I picture an Amelie to be beautiful, feminine, traveled, intelligent, open, & spiritual. It's one of my fav girls names, don't hate it it's lovely

toobreathless Mon 31-Dec-12 11:07:30

It's not to my taste & I wouldn't use it, but then I wouldn't use a name in the top 100 just for that reason alone.

BUT it it popular for a reason:

It is beautiful, feminine, sounds lovely to say, Perfect on a teeny baby or a grown women.

Popular names are popular because most people like them!

There is a lot of snobbery on MNs, and snobbery against baby names is utterly ridiculous. Ignore!

elsabel Mon 31-Dec-12 22:50:06

This name is beautiful, stunning! I love it and if have a girl will seriously consider naming her it...im toying between this and Emily. Amelie is pretty for all ages and sounds very sophisticated aswell. Like toobreathless said it is popular, but any popular name will get negative comments aswell as positive ones. Please enjoy it, I just hope I have the choice to use it before someone I know does as its so god damn beautiful!

zenoushka Tue 08-Jan-13 22:22:57

Oh I so love the name Amelie! Elegant and soooo pretty!

3smellysocks Wed 09-Jan-13 00:10:21

stunning!

atthewelles Wed 09-Jan-13 12:35:53

OP you could post any name on here and some posters won't like it; 'it's twee', 'it's dated' 'it's too popular'

while other posters will describe it as 'really pretty' 'lovely old fashioned name' 'I know a toddler with that name and she's gorgeous'.

Names are totally subjective and you are never ever going to find a name that everyone likes.

RaeOfLight Wed 29-May-13 11:11:39

Ooh - just came back to this and have seen there are extra comments. Thank you all so much. I have actually warmed to it again now, and even though every now and then I hear a name and think "ooh, I wish I'd called her that", I do wonder if other parents do this on a regular basis?!!

PistachioTruffle Thu 30-May-13 21:38:25

It's a beautiful name, and it's on my list for dc1. I think it's feminine and stylish, works for both a child and an adult and has lots of potential nicknames.

I'm glad you've warmed to it again op smile

GW297 Thu 30-May-13 22:15:00

That is good news op. Amelie is still one of my very favourite girls' names.

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